Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism

by Diane Metcalf

Overview

Could your mother be a narcissist?

If you had a loving, kind, affectionate mother, that's wonderful! I'm truly happy for you. Many of us didn't, and for those with me in that group, I wrote "Lemon Moms, A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism." ​

"Lemon Moms, A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism," walks you through the chaos and confusion of maternal narcissism: what it is, what it does, and how to recover from its devastating effects. With laid back narrative, personal examples, and action-oriented steps, you'll learn how to decode the crazy-making behavior, heal the damage, and move forward to live your best life possible.

This is the book you need if you think your mom could be on the narcissism spectrum. Whether she is or isn't, you don't need a diagnosis to determine that your relationship with her is unhealthy. If you like detailed writing, personal examples, and a touch of humor, you'll like this book.

This book teaches you how to:

• remove the drama from interactions with your mother
• set personal boundaries
• identify and shut down manipulative attempts
• identify gaslighting and begin healing cognitive dissonance
• identify dissociation
• identify Narcissism Awareness Grief
• learn about the narcissist cycle-of-abuse
• take control of your personal power
• use the chapter action-steps to gain insight and begin recovering
• move forward in life and much more!

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In dysfunctional families, there's an unspoken rule: don't talk, don't trust, don't feel. If you're done living by those rules and want healing and peace, this book is for you.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781735287614
Publisher:	Diane Metcalf
Publication date:	08/23/2020
Series:	Lemon Moms , #1
Pages:	308
Sales rank:	1,095,591
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.65(d)

About the Author

Diane Metcalf is an experienced advocate, speaker, and writer on the topics of domestic violence, abuse, and family dysfunction. Currently, she writes about toxic relationships and recovery tools on her blog, "The Toolbox" (http://toolbox.dianemetcalf.com/). Diane holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and has worked in numerous fields, including domestic violence and abuse. As a result of growing up in a dysfunctional home, and with the help of professional therapists and continued personal growth, she has developed strong coping skills and healing strategies. She happily shares those insights with others who want to learn and recover. Currently, Diane lives in Nevada with her husband Kim and her adorable pets, Abby and Simba.

Table of Contents

PART l: STRONG, DEEP ROOTS. 21

PREFACE: THE BEGINNING.. 23

Chapter One: WHAT IS NARCISSISM?. 31

Chapter Two: CREATING A NARCISSIST.. 45

Chapter Three: DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA.. 50

Chapter Four: TYPES OF NARCISSISM... 60

Chapter Five: THE TRAUMATIZED BRAIN.. 77

Chapter Six: LOOKING BACK: OUR PAST.. 84

Chapter Seven: NARCISSISM AWARENESS GRIEF. 96

PART ll: GOT LEMONS?. 107

Chapter Eight: THE NARCISSISTIC MOTHER.. 109

Chapter Nine: THE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE CYCLE.. 115

Chapter Ten: NARCISSISTIC LYING.. 126

Chapter Eleven: THE SILENT TREATMENT.. 131

Chapter Twelve: SHAME.. 137

Chapter Thirteen: NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY.. 146

Chapter Fourteen: TRAUMA BONDING.. 150

Chapter Fifteen: SLAMMING AND BANGING.. 160

Chapter Sixteen: GASLIGHTING: THE MOST SIGNIFICANT CAUSE OF C-PTSD.. 168

Chapter Seventeen: CODEPENDENCY.. 184

Chapter Eighteen: TALKING WITH YOUR NARCISSISTIC MOTHER.. 197

Chapter Nineteen: ADDRESSING PTSD and C-PTSD.. 209

PART III: MAKE LEMONADE.. 221

Chapter Twenty: SETTING PERSONAL BOUNDARIES. 223

Chapter Twenty-one: IDENTIFYING DANGEROUS PEOPLE.. 231

Chapter Twenty-two: YOU GOTTA FEEL IT TO HEAL IT.. 236

Chapter Twenty-three: WHAT NOW?. 246

Chapter Twenty-four: A NEW BEGINNING.. 269

Indicators of Recovery: 269

Glossary of Terms. 277

References. 283

Bibliography. 295

Acknowledgments. 299

About the Author 303