Beginning on a first date with a couple of swingers, followed by working through social anxiety and shyness, recognizing the importance of touch in life, evolving feelings about love and expectations, having threesomes, orgies, and prostate orgasms, going through a divorce, and leveling up in life and sexuality.
For six years, Cooper S. Beckett has written for Life on the Swingset, a website born out of the feeling that he’d learned enough in his whole year of swinging to tell other people how to live their non-monogamous lives. His hubris can be seen from space. From that writing he has collected personal essays, stories, erotica, and prescriptive “how-tos” into this memoir of his life on The Swingset.
He may be biased when it comes to swinging, polyamory, and other forms of ethical non-monogamy (in fact, he most certainly is) but he doesn’t sugar-coat it. He speaks honestly and earnestly about a unique way to live life, one that allows for sexual and loving growth and experimentation, a strong sense of community, and the ability to do what we all crave, whether we know it or not: Be honest with ourselves and others about what we want sexually. And out of life.
This second edition includes an excerpt from Beckett's novel A Life Less Monogamous.
"Cooper Beckett writes about non-monogamy, sex, love, and friendship with such honesty, wit, and charm, it's hard not to like this guy. He challenges the hard line between swinging and polyamory, tackles taboos with grace, and will make you rethink what you believe about relationships.” - Tristan Taormino
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
My favorite part about this book is experiencing Coop's journey with him as he figures out what it means to be non-monogamous. From first confessing to his wife his desire for something more to step by step instructions on how to install and hide your bedroom sex swing, he holds nothing back. One of the more meaningful passages for me was his confession about how his struggle with depression is interwoven into the challenge of dating, regardless of how many people are involved. While many non-monogamous practitioners are either swinger or poly, Coop's unique perspective includes both. I loved reading his book and highly recommend it to anyone who has any curiosity regarding non-monogamy.