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Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way

Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way

by Mike Robbins
Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way

Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way

by Mike Robbins


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Best-selling author Mike Robbins had a life that many little boys dream of. Drafted by the New York Yankees directly out of high school, Mike decided instead to postpone his professional baseball career until he finished college. After a successful stint at Stanford, he began life in the minor leagues as a pitcher with the Kansas City Royals organization, where he played for three years until an injury benched him for good. This devastating disappointment changed his life in wonderful ways that he could have never imagined. He now teaches and speaks around the world about teamwork, emotional intelligence, and the value of appreciation and authenticity.

In Nothing Changes Until You Do, Mike’s third book, he looks at one of the most important and challenging aspects of life—our relationship with ourselves. Even the most successful person struggles with this delicate relationship, which has created an epidemic of self-criticism, self-doubt, and thinking that our value is directly connected to the external world—our jobs, our finances, our appearance, our accomplishments, and so on. Through 40 short essays, Mike shows readers that none of this is true, and brings to light a new way to look at life. With themes spanning from the importance of trusting yourself to the benefits of vulnerability to the strength inherent in embracing powerlessness and change, Mike will help readers get out of their own way, so they can live a good life. He shows that with a little self-compassion and a healthy dose of self-acceptance, anyone can turn away from the negatives that manifest because of a critical self-perception—things like unkindness, addictions, sabotaged relationships, unnecessary drama, and more.

Making peace with ourselves is fundamental to happiness. The suggestions, insights, and reminders of this book will allow readers to have more compassion, more acceptance, and more love for themselves—thus giving them access to more compassion, more acceptance, and more love for the people (and everything else) in their lives.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781401944643
Publisher: Hay House Inc.
Publication date: 05/12/2015
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 437,571
Product dimensions: 5.30(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Mike Robbins is the author of three books, including the brand new title Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way, which will be published by Hay House (May 6, 2014). He’s a sought-after speaker and seminar leader who speaks to groups of all kinds throughout the world. Some of his clients include Google, Gap, eBay, Wells Fargo, Twitter, Charles Schwab, and the San Francisco Giants. Since 2008 he’s been a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and his books have been translated into 14 different languages. Mike and his work have been featured on ABC News, the Oprah Radio network, and in the Washington Post. He lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with his wife, Michelle, and their daughters Samantha and Rosie. Learn more about Mike at

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

Chapter 1 Focus on What Truly Matters 1

Chapter 2 Remember that a Bad Day for the Ego Is a Good Day for the Soul 7

Chapter 3 Nothing Changes Until You Do 11

Chapter 4 Remember that You're Valuable Just Because You're You 15

Chapter 5 Be Gentle with Yourself 21

Chapter 6 Ask for Help 25

Chapter 7 Don't Get Caught in the Trap of Comparison 31

Chapter 8 Be Real, Not Right 37

Chapter 9 Love Yourself (and the Rest Will Follow) 43

Chapter 10 Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously 49

Chapter 11 Remember How Strong You Are 55

Chapter 12 Just Show Up 59

Chapter 13 Give Yourself Permission to Make Mistakes .65

Chapter 14 Ask for What You Want 69

Chapter 15 Make Peace with Your Body and Appearance 75

Chapter 16 Trust Your Gut 81

Chapter 17 Remember that It's Not the Circumstances, It's You 87

Chapter 18 Appreciate People 91

Chapter 19 Be Aware of the Imposter Syndrome 97

Chapter 20 Give Yourself Permission to Cry 101

Chapter 21 Swing Hard (Just in Case You Hit It) 105

Chapter 22 Embrace Powerlessness 109

Chapter 23 Be Willing to Talk about Difficult Things 113

Chapter 24 Practice Gratitude 119

Chapter 25 Have the Courage to Be Vulnerable 123

Chapter 26 Trust Yourself 129

Chapter 27 Remember that You Are Much More than What You Do 133

Chapter 28 Roll with Life 139

Chapter 29 Speak Your Truth (Even if Your Voice Shakes) 143

Chapter 30 Don't Sweat the Small Stuff 149

Chapter 31 Be Easily Amazed 155

Chapter 32 Allow Things to Be Easy 159

Chapter 33 Accept Yourself 163

Chapter 34 Be Real and Compassionate about Money 167

Chapter 35 Stop Should-ing on Yourself 175

Chapter 36 Take Good Care of You 179

Chapter 37 Focus on What You Can Control 183

Chapter 38 Forgive Yourself 187

Chapter 39 Let Your Light Shine 191

Chapter 40 Live like You're Going to Die (Because You Are) 197

Appendix 203

Resources 207

Acknowledgments 211

About the Author 215

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