Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal

Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal

by Julie Metz
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Julie Metz has written a memoir that will take your breath away, from the initial, unexpected death of her husband to the postmortem revelation of his many affairs. Metz's style is both intimate and literary, elevating the central drama of her life to a meditation on the nature of human need and fallibility. In exposing her own grief, rage, vulnerability and audacity, Metz allows us to connect deeply and emotionally with her story. Her need to understand what happened in her marriage leads her to confront the women in her dead husband's past, which ultimately gives her the opportunity to see herself more fully. In this powerful and empowering tale, raw grief and righteous anger finally give way to forgiveness, acceptance and new love.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
When the story starts, one gets wrapped up in the emotion of losing a spouse and what a person goes through. I actually felt sorry for Julie at that point. But, mere WEEKS after the funeral, and BEFORE Julie finds out about her husband's infidelities, she starts acting like a dog in heat with the pursuit of sex as her main focus. I was disgusted as this continued throughout the book, until the end. I would not recommend this book unless you want to hear about Julie's sexual exploits which turn out to be very boring!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
At first Perfection was an egrossing memoir, but after several chapters I found the author somewhat self-absorbed and then obsessed with the woman who had stolen her husband's affections. It was a relief to finish the book, especially since the author is now remarried and obviously very happy.
evanescenceSE More than 1 year ago
I love reading such books. It widens your perspective. can only recommend
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It is impossible to put "Perfection" down. I initially browsed through it to decide if I would take it along on a trip and there I was five hours later, still turning the pages. Julie's honesty took my breath away. She tells ALL but it is done with great authenticity, courage and compassion. Perfection is a spiritual journey to find the truth in her life, in her marriage, in her friendships. It is authentic, heart-breaking and thought provoking. When you finish the book, you will never quite see the world the same way. You will question the surface of things. And hopefully you will buy two more copies for your closest friends.
jenimac More than 1 year ago
I did not find this writer's style to be at all compelling. Her voice was weak and rambling. Her images were awkward. While I thought I'd be into finding out how her story unfolded, I found myself utterly bored and disinterested in her.
Humanbean More than 1 year ago
If I had not known this was a true story I would have thought it was a good work of fiction. The story of this marriage and betrayal is sad, touching, and has a twist. How the widow handles her husband's indescretions is unique. I thought the book was well written and interesting.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was written beautifully. It was also very heartbreaking and didn't expect all the emotions that I was feeling. I would recommend it as a book club read also.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I began this book with open-minded enthusiasm for one woman's journey but, two-thirds of the way through, I realized the author, hopefully, was (and not "is") one of those people who relishes being the victim and cannot take responsibility for themselves in the relationship. I found her recitations of her sexual partners to be tedious after the first two or three. Obviously an intelligent and gifted person with financial resources, I suddenly realized that it is not always the poor and uneducated who find themselves in this role.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This was a wonderful book! I ordered it early and awaited it's arrival. I am glad that I did. The author did a great job reliving a troubled spot in her life, writing and recalling with dignity. I could not put this book down. I found myself quickly taking sides, yet trying to think about how I would feel in each person's shoes. I will read this again.
CalvinK More than 1 year ago
I'm sure this book was very therapeutic for the writer. I did not really need to know so much about her sex life, nor did I care to. However, the story waa well written, and almost unbelievable. I enjoyed 3/4 of the book and then it became a little repetitive the last quarter of the book. I wish the author well and glad to know she is happy and in a safe and healthy relationship Loaned this out to some friends. Some liked it, some did not.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed Julie Metz's book very much. I was absorbed in her journey of understanding why her husband had cheated through her marriage and her acceptance of the great mystery of the "why" anyone does what they do. When Julie learns of her husband's perfidy, she experiences exactly what those of who have experienced something similar -- great rage, anger and confusion. Learning to forgive and accept what happened is truly a journey, and I enjoyed how Julie completed hers. I was especially intrigued by her research into the reasons for infidelity and that the answer is people make choices and that often these choices have terrible consequences to others. I recommend this book for anyone who is struggling with understanding his/her spouse's infidelity and how to gain acceptance of this. Great read.
voyager8 More than 1 year ago
Julie Metz found herself in a position that any woman who loves and trusts her husband could find herself in. She had herself neatly tucked inside a comfortable bubble which bursts none too soon when her 40ish husband simply drops dead in front of her. He leaves her a mess of emotional garbage (not to mention incriminating emails) to deal with. Handfulls of affairs and humiliating behavior and everyone knew. Everyone but the wife. A fascinating read & real juicy, too!
suzyd More than 1 year ago
The author is so open about her marriage, her loss and her subsequent discovery. I found this to be honest and admire her for the path that she took in confronting her dead husband's many liasions. My mother-in-law had a similiar experience 20 years ago but chose to keep her head in the sand. I am hoping that if I give her this book, she will recognize her own narcissistic husband and will stop blaming herself for his behavior.
BevE More than 1 year ago
Julie Metz first time novelist writes her memoir of her marriage to a man she is just getting to know after his death. Perfection opens with the last moments of Henry's life when the unthinkable becomes reality and at the age of 44 Julie becomes a widow, her daughter Liza who is just 6 loses her father and a 12 year, sometimes happy, sometimes tumultuous marriage comes to an end. Then the task of picking up the pieces begins. What was hidden for so long now comes to light and Julie finds out that Henry has been unfaithful. Every new discovery leads you deeper into their story. Perfection is a story of loss and of betrayal. But it is also a story of growth and finally hope. You never know how strong you are until you are put to the test and Julie does more than just survive, she learns how to live again.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Although I did finish the book, it wasn't one of those books that I couldn't put down.
KrisPA More than 1 year ago
This was the most appalling memoir I have ever read. I don't even know where to start because EVERYTHING about this book is awful. The writing is boring and many times quite bad, and it is always oddly without emotion. Metz will write "I felt angry" and "I felt sad" but you always get the sense she feels nothing. Even scenes which show Metz being angry and saying angry words seem fake and eerily empty of emotion. She doesn't use a lot of profanity in the memoir, so when she does throw in a particularly crude word, it seems weird and off-putting, as if she were simply following her editor's advice to make the language more colorful. Some of the most horrible sentences ever written in the English language can be found in this book, such as this particular gem on page 299 in which she is describing typical conversations with her daughter during breakfast: "We ponder daily the eternal question of why our cats' poop is so smelly and why one in particular has a knack for dumping a big one just as we are ready to begin eating." Now, if I were an English teacher I would use this sentence as teaching example and have the students point out everything that is wrong with it, aside from the fact that is absolutely inane and crude. Aside from her inability to write a decent sentence,this woman has written a book that is absolutely useless. It does nothing to really answer the question of why her husband cheated (mostly because she ignores the diagnosis of her husband as having a narcissistic personality disorder) and she learns NOTHING about herself while writing this book. However, we the readers (at least the astute ones), are amazed at how this oblivious woman reveals herself to be extremely dim-witted, self-centered, weak-willed, vindictive, cruel, and overall unpleasant and annoying as hell. It's like watching a train wreck--it's horrible to see, but you can't look away. Normally I would have stopped reading a book this awful, but Metz kept revealing herself to be so idiotic and nasty that I just couldn't believe it. Not only is she extremely unlikeable and detestable, but all her friends are too. No one in this entire book is worthy of a readers' sympathy or affection except: Metz's poor neglected daughter Liza, their cats, and the poor neglected dog whose barking (which generally means in dog speak: I am lonely! I am bored! Someone love me!)irritated Metz so much she wanted to kill him. I'm simply amazed this book was published; that someone didn't pull Metz aside and tell her that she comes off as a horrible, horrible person. Overall, there is no reason to read this book unless you enjoy a good train wreck. It's just a wretched mess that goes NO WHERE. For a truly moving and excellent memoir of a widow exploring her husbands' death, read The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion. A splendid book, so well-written. I've read it several times and it still captivates me. But save your time and sanity by NOT reading this book. Never have I been so angry and felt so much contempt for an author. This book is truly HORRIBLE.
BlackyTux More than 1 year ago
I was bonding with the characters and it kept my attention throughout the book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Easy read, but not very stimulating, seems to be the topic of the times, "Marital Infidelity". Really somewhat of an exhaustive book. Sort of who really cares how many affairs he had ?
Joanne_Torres More than 1 year ago
Julie Metz is unapologetic and spreads her raw emotions all over the pages of this book. My first night of reading I couldn't stop and until my sleepiness kicked in I got through the first 140 pages. It is want to know what happens next and next and next while cheering Julie on. It's umami!
marie_ambrosia More than 1 year ago
I really loved this book. It is all about the death of Julie's husband, who was writing a book at the time of his death about umami--meaning Perfection in a way that you savor food. Anyway, I thought the writing was so beautiful and felt intellectually stimulated, as well as entertained by Julie's ability for story-telling. I have to admit that I loved the cover, I just thought it was gorgeous. Great read--fast and easy, but worthwhile.
turboreader More than 1 year ago
Women will cheer for Julie as she overcomes the initial grief of losing her husband and again when she has to cope with the discovery of her husband's betrayal during their marriage. She tells the story with such touching detail. Some of it is almost hard to believe but that's what makes it so hard to put down. I would have preferred she not make her political comments though. Some of her readers will feel alienated if they don't lean to the left like she does.
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SuzeJones58 More than 1 year ago
My reaction... Read it! Fascinating story of how a wife comes to grow and befriend her late husband's partners in adultery. Well-written, with a fortunate ending for this beleaguered mom of one.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago