Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness

Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness

by Marsha Lucas Ph.D.


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781401942557
Publisher: Hay House Inc.
Publication date: 02/04/2013
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 826,310
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Marsha Lucas, PhD., is a licensed psychologist and neuropsychologist, and has been practicing psychotherapy and studying the brain-behavior relationship for nearly twenty years. Prior to entering private practice, she was a neuropsychologist on the faculty at the Emory University School of Medicine.She fell in love with interpersonal neurobiology in a conference room full of 750 other people—finding herself getting some odd looks when she had tears of joy rolling down her face at the mention of the anterior cingulate and the insula in the same sentence as "greater empathy." She appreciates the integration of mindfulness, neuroscience, and relationships as a perfect confluence of many of the previously unintegrated aspects of her life.Dr. Lucas maintains a clinical private practice in Washington, D.C. She lives in suburban D.C. with her husband, Duncan Krieger, their son, Gabriel, and their dog, Bodhi Tzedakah

Table of Contents

Introduction: Rewiring Your Brain for Love: The Best Do-It-Yourself Project You'll Ever Do xiii

Part I Understanding Your Current Wiring Diagram Please Read the Owner's Manual Before Attempting Repairs

Chapter 1 Early Relationship Experiences: Attached at the Hip Hippocampus 3

Chapter 2 What Goes Where: The Wiring Diagram of the Relationship Brain 19

Part II Becoming Your Own Master Electrician Essential Relationship Wiring Features and How to Power Them Up

Chapter 3 Rewiring the Alarm Button: Body Regulation 37

Meditation: Basic Mindfulness 53

Chapter 4 Circuit Breakers to Prevent Overheating: Fear Modulation 57

Meditation: Circuit Breaker 74

Chapter 5 Installing a Dimmer Switch: Emotional Resilience 75

Meditation: "Can You Feel Me Now?" 88

Chapter 6 Grounded Electrical Outlets: Response Flexibility 91

Meditation: "Catch a Wave" 102

Chapter 7 Putting a Work Light in the Attic: Insight/Self-Knowing 105

Meditation: Body Scan 122

Chapter 8 Acquiring a Voltmeter: Empathy 125

Meditation: Loving-Kindness 138

Chapter 9 We're All on the Same Power Grid: From Me to We 145

Meditation: Interconnectedness 158

Part III You've Got the Power

Chapter 10 Living with Your New Wiring 163

Meditation: Abiding Changes 175

Final Thoughts 179

Resources 181

Endnotes 189

Acknowledgments 197

About the Author 201

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Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness 4.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
RogerAndOut More than 1 year ago
I heard Dr. Lucas on a webinar for healthcare professionals around the world. (I'm not a doctor, but I'm committed to taking good care of my health.) It was one of the best talks I've ever heard from a professional. Not jargon or psych-babble, but serious science presented in a real and useful way. Dr. Lucas writes like she talks (real words, kind, funny, lively), so it's a bit like having a convo with her as you read. Very useful info, backed by real science without dumb claims. The only question is why this is "just" for relationships? It's really good for much more than that. Definitely recommended.
Ergomatic More than 1 year ago
A lot of the self-help books I've read have either very little heart, very little practical substance, or nothing at all to back them up. I really appreciate what I got from this book, since it delivers on all of those. I felt like I was having a very cool conversation with the author, with a lot of heart and humor and compassion; there was real substance and a practical, "you can do this" approach (which has already been helpful to me, even just two weeks into putting it into practice); and the science to back it up is real.
Barbaric_Yawp More than 1 year ago
This is a book I've been hoping someone would write. It takes the power of scientific research and puts it into warm, accessible language woven with real-life examples about how to make your relationships seriously better. Dr. Lucas seems like someone I'd enjoy hanging out with, since she brings together science, love, attachment, and mindfulness, all things on the top of my list.
SalsaChick62 More than 1 year ago
My husband and I both read this. He never reads self-improvement books, but since this one has solid science research behind it, he was willing to give it a go after I'd read it and he could see how I was already doing our interactions differently. We can both already see progress and changes in our relationship from this book, having both finished it a month ago. It feels like we don't get on the same ridiculous (sometimes hurtful) roller-coaster ride any more; what a relief! I wish we'd had this book twenty years ago. Giving a copy to our daughter who is about to be married. Highly recommended!
ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Darin Godby for Readers' Favorite Author Marsha Lucas writes: "Fear and anger are intimately related." She suggests that fear can't be truly dealt with until it is acknowledged. Dealing with how our brains operate concerning the left and the right sides is very interesting and allows the reader to better understand why they respond the way they do at times. She challenges us to move toward the left side of the brain in order to improve our mood and reduce our stress. Author Lucas also promotes the importance of meditation and how it helps one to become less stressful when they can learn to relax. Learning to pause throughout the day was another helpful item that was brought forth in Rewire Your Brain For Love. When we learn to pause throughout various times of the day, to just breathe and relax, then we find ourselves not allowing circumstances to dictate our surroundings. Definitely one of the most important and helpful parts of the book is when author Lucas states: "...the biggest thing that holds us back from making changes is all of us carry around self-limiting thoughts as a way of protecting ourselves from change." When we create self-limiting thoughts, it holds us in bondage and keeps us from becoming a stronger more influential individual to those around us. Also included is a well written resource section found at the end of the book. The reader is left with many additional outlets to truly develop within a particular area and become a better person. An insightful and informative read.
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Carrie-Sparkles More than 1 year ago
Didn't really get anything out of this book-too complicated!