will take you to the non-profit Break the Cycle! Web site (formerly "Stepfamily inFormation"). Use your
browser's "Back" button to return to the Xlibris.com bookstore.
Premise:
From newborn infants to dying adults, we all communicate to reduce local discomforts - i.e. to "fill current needs." Doing that promotes
satisfaction. Anything you do that causes a significant
emotional-spiritual-physical-mental change in another person can be called communication.
It's impossible to "not communicate" with other people, for silence and inactivity cause reactions and presumed meanings.
The quality of your life and key relationships depends largely on the effectiveness of the way you communicate - yet you probably
don't know what you need to know about this vital life skill. To reality check that, mull these five
challenges:
1) Name a learned skill that you rely on more often than
communicating to get your key needs met. Note that thinking is
internal communication.
2) How do you distinguish between effective and ineffective communication? If
you're not sure, how can you tell if you're communicating effectively in
important
situations?"
3) On a scale of 1 (totally ineffective) to 10 (totally effective), generally how effective a communicator would you rate yourself in calm times __ and in conflicts __ recently?
4) Identify the five most important people in your current life. From 1 to 10, how effective would you rate yourself in your communication with each of them in calm __ and conflictual __ times? How effective would each of them rate you?
5) Take your time, and
see how well you do
with this
communication quiz. Then return.
Would you like to improve your communication effectiveness with others and yourself?
Seven Essential Skills
This unique guidebook describes and illustrates seven vital communication skills that any motivated
person can learn, with practice. They are:
- Awareness
- Clear thinking,
- Digging down,
Effective
assertion,- Metatalking (talking cooperatively about communication),
- Empathic listening (listening with your heart), and...
Win-win
problem-solving (conflict resolution).
Can you describe each of these skills and when to use each one? Not one of my 1,000+ clients and students could. Our culture
doesn't value effective communications enough to teach us these skills yet - perhaps because most people don't know what they don't know about these skills and their great benefits.
The skills are simple, learnable,
and effective. They help people fill their current personal and social needs. The skills are sequential, starting with awareness.
Why Read This Book?
There are many books, tapes, and programs claiming to teach effective communica-tion.
Satisfactions is unique for six reasons:
It's based on a well-researched "inner-family" theory of
personality, and (b) the series of seven skills (above) that promote effective thinking and problem-solving.
Communication effectiveness soars when your
true Self guides your other subselves. The related volume
Who's Really Running Your Life? - free your Self from
custody and guard your kids (Xlibris.com, 2010, 3rd ed.) describes how to achieve this.
This book proposes that effective communication happens when people (a) get current
primary, vs. surface needs met, (b) in a way that leaves them feeling good about themselves, their partner/s, and the process between them. I've never seen any other communication materials propose the skill of
digging down to identify primary needs as a requisite for effective communications; Another unique foundation of this book is...
The keystone concepts of
R(espect) messages,
E(motion) levels, and
"Awareness "Bubbles." I've never seen these described together in 40+ years of research and teaching. If you
can't describe the five messages we all decode from each other semi-consciously, you're probably unaware of how R-messages may degrade your most important communications.
This book is one of a kind because it contains
status checks (conceptual reviews and reality checks) and
Web-link addresses to many resource articles, skill-practices, and worksheets in this Break the Cycle! site and others; and...
It includes (a) a 95-page communication and relationship
glossa
will take you to the non-profit Break the Cycle! Web site (formerly "Stepfamily inFormation"). Use your
browser's "Back" button to return to the Xlibris.com bookstore.
Premise:
From newborn infants to dying adults, we all communicate to reduce local discomforts - i.e. to "fill current needs." Doing that promotes
satisfaction. Anything you do that causes a significant
emotional-spiritual-physical-mental change in another person can be called communication.
It's impossible to "not communicate" with other people, for silence and inactivity cause reactions and presumed meanings.
The quality of your life and key relationships depends largely on the effectiveness of the way you communicate - yet you probably
don't know what you need to know about this vital life skill. To reality check that, mull these five
challenges:
1) Name a learned skill that you rely on more often than
communicating to get your key needs met. Note that thinking is
internal communication.
2) How do you distinguish between effective and ineffective communication? If
you're not sure, how can you tell if you're communicating effectively in
important
situations?"
3) On a scale of 1 (totally ineffective) to 10 (totally effective), generally how effective a communicator would you rate yourself in calm times __ and in conflicts __ recently?
4) Identify the five most important people in your current life. From 1 to 10, how effective would you rate yourself in your communication with each of them in calm __ and conflictual __ times? How effective would each of them rate you?
5) Take your time, and
see how well you do
with this
communication quiz. Then return.
Would you like to improve your communication effectiveness with others and yourself?
Seven Essential Skills
This unique guidebook describes and illustrates seven vital communication skills that any motivated
person can learn, with practice. They are:
- Awareness
- Clear thinking,
- Digging down,
Effective
assertion,- Metatalking (talking cooperatively about communication),
- Empathic listening (listening with your heart), and...
Win-win
problem-solving (conflict resolution).
Can you describe each of these skills and when to use each one? Not one of my 1,000+ clients and students could. Our culture
doesn't value effective communications enough to teach us these skills yet - perhaps because most people don't know what they don't know about these skills and their great benefits.
The skills are simple, learnable,
and effective. They help people fill their current personal and social needs. The skills are sequential, starting with awareness.
Why Read This Book?
There are many books, tapes, and programs claiming to teach effective communica-tion.
Satisfactions is unique for six reasons:
It's based on a well-researched "inner-family" theory of
personality, and (b) the series of seven skills (above) that promote effective thinking and problem-solving.
Communication effectiveness soars when your
true Self guides your other subselves. The related volume
Who's Really Running Your Life? - free your Self from
custody and guard your kids (Xlibris.com, 2010, 3rd ed.) describes how to achieve this.
This book proposes that effective communication happens when people (a) get current
primary, vs. surface needs met, (b) in a way that leaves them feeling good about themselves, their partner/s, and the process between them. I've never seen any other communication materials propose the skill of
digging down to identify primary needs as a requisite for effective communications; Another unique foundation of this book is...
The keystone concepts of
R(espect) messages,
E(motion) levels, and
"Awareness "Bubbles." I've never seen these described together in 40+ years of research and teaching. If you
can't describe the five messages we all decode from each other semi-consciously, you're probably unaware of how R-messages may degrade your most important communications.
This book is one of a kind because it contains
status checks (conceptual reviews and reality checks) and
Web-link addresses to many resource articles, skill-practices, and worksheets in this Break the Cycle! site and others; and...
It includes (a) a 95-page communication and relationship
glossa
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Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781453506554 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Xlibris US |
| Publication date: | 05/21/2010 |
| Sold by: | Barnes & Noble |
| Format: | eBook |
| Pages: | 494 |
| File size: | 799 KB |