Setting Boundaries® with Your Aging Parents: Finding Balance Between Burnout and Respect

by Allison Bottke

Overview

This important book from the author of Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children (more than 40,000 sold) will help adult children who long for a better relationship with their parents but feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of chaos, crisis, or drama.

With keen insight and a passion to empower adult children, Allison charts a trustworthy roadmap through the often unfamiliar territory of setting boundaries with parents while maintaining personal balance and avoiding burnout. Through the use of professional advice, true stories, and scriptural truth, readers learn how to apply the “6 Steps to SANITY”:

S-STOP your own negative behavior
A-ASSEMBLE a support group
N-NIP excuses in the bud
I-IMPLEMENT rules and boundaries
T-TRUST your instincts
Y-YIELD everything to God

Resources are available at the ministry website: www.settingboundaries.com

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780736938594
Publisher:	Harvest House Publishers
Publication date:	04/01/2010
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women's Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. www.settingboundariesbooks.com Awards Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013

Table of Contents

Foreword Mark Sichel 9

Introduction: What This Book Is Really About 13

Part 1 Avoiding Burnout and Building Mutual Respect 23

1 The Road to Burnout 39

2 Stop the Insanity! 51

3 It's All About Change and Choice 61

4 “I'm Only Trying to Help!” 71

5 The Motivation Behind the Madness 81

6 Pain from the Past 91

7 Toxic Elders and Destructive Choices 97

8 The Power of Love and Forgiveness 105

9 Respect 111

10 When Your Parents Become Dependent 119

11 Financial Fallout 125

Part 2 The Six Steps to SANITY 131

12 S—Stop Your Own Negative Behavior 135

13 A—Assemble a Support Group 145

14 N—Nip Excuses in the But 151

15 I—Implement Rules and Boundaries 155

16 T—Trust Your Instincts 161

17 Y—Yield Everything to God 165

Part 3 The Dawn of a New Beginning 171

18 Put It in Writing 177

19 Stress Triggers 181

20 Expectations 185

21 Consequences 189

22 Sowing and Reaping 199

23 A Closing Message from Allison 211

24 Sample Letters 213

Notes 221