Stop Running from Love: Three Steps to Overcoming Emotional Distancing and Fear of Intimacy

by Dusty Miller

Overview

Are you afraid of or unable to create intimacy or closeness with your intimate partner? Do you find that sometimes you create emotional, communicative, or even physical distance from that special someone in your life, even when, deep down, you really don't want to? If so, you share the relationship style psychologists refer to as the distancer. Distancers are often afraid of being engulfed or controlled by their partners. They fear rejection, vulnerability, and dependence. Sadly, they also tend to have short and unhappy relationships.

If you want to stop running from love in your life, this book offers a simple, step-by-step approach you can use to move beyond your fear of intimacy and start building strong and lasting relationships. The exercises and self-evaluations in the book will help you become aware of how you operate in romantic relationships. You'll review and reassess your relationship patterns, deciding what changes you want to make in future relationships. Then you'll commit to actions that can make it happen.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781608821204
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	03/01/2008
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	232
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Dusty Miller, Ed.D., is a clinical psychologist, writer, trainer, and internationally-recognized expert in the areas of trauma, addiction, and self-sabotage-including relationship self-sabotage such as distancing. She is the director of the ATRIUM Institute in Northampton, MA. Miller offers training, consultation, and workshops for professionals and paraprofessionals who work with traumatic stress, substance abuse, relational challenges, and more. She is author of Women Who Hurt Themselves, Addictions and Trauma Recovery, and Your Surviving Spirit.

Dusty Miller, EdD, is a clinical psychologist, writer, trainer, and internationally-recognized expert in the areas of trauma, addiction, and self-sabotage-including relationship self-sabotage such as distancing. She is the director of the ATRIUM Institute in Northampton, MA. Miller offers training, consultation, and workshops for professionals and paraprofessionals who work with traumatic stress, substance abuse, relational challenges, and more. She is author of Women Who Hurt Themselves, Addictions and Trauma Recovery, and Your Surviving Spirit.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments     v
Introduction: Meet the Distancer     1
Recognizing Yourself     15
Step One: Raising Your Awareness     55
Step Two, Part One: Learning from Childhood     99
Step Two, Part Two: Learning from Past Relationships     135
Step Three, Part One: Community-Where Transformation Begins     157
Step Three, Part Two: Changing Your Relationships     189
References     215

Editorial Reviews

Dusty Miller’s gentle, wise approach to women and men who distance from love offers a unique guide to finding real connection. This breakthough approach will change the lives of men and women who struggle with the challenges of intimacy.
—Terrence Real, director of the Relational Life Institute in Newton, MA, and author of the national best-sellers I Don’t Want to Talk About It and How Can I Get Through to You?, as well as the recently published New Rules of Marriage

Stop Running from Love offers a unique approach to problems of distance in intimate relationships. Miller’s three-step model guides the reader to understand the past in order to revitalize existing relationships, and gently guides women and men to risk deeper connections in all their relationships.
—Stephanie S. Covington, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Leaving the Enchanted Forest and A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps

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