The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own
We are brought up to believe a certain set of rules: The early bird gets the worm. Slow and steady wins the race. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Good things happen to good people. Keep your faith, work hard, and all your dreams will come true.

But then we grow up. We learn that life isn’t really fair. There are no fairy godmothers, and not everything works out in the end, no matter how good we have been or how hard we’ve tried.

Why, then, are these myths perpetuated? Because clichés and over-simple recipes for living provide a soothing way to manage our daily lives without confronting the harsh reality that some parts of our lives are out of our control.

For several decades, Ken Druck has been willing to stand up and write about what we have hidden from ourselves for so long: we need to confront life as it is, not as we want it to be. We cannot magically wish things into reality. We cannot expect happiness or success to manifest from daily affirmations. By embracing the real rules of life, we discover life’s terms and learn to balance them with our own, preventing costly psychological debts and developing the life skills, underlying wisdom, and emotional freedom essential for fuller, richer lives.

This book will resonate with what readers know to be true about how life really is. Readers will discover themselves in vibrant teaching stories from the front lines of Dr. Druck’s pioneering work with individuals, families, communities, leaders, and cutting-edge organizations. They will push the refresh button on long-held myths and limitations, turning them into empower truths, redirecting their lives in much more effective and purposeful ways, and reinvigorating the pursuit of their dream.
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The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own
We are brought up to believe a certain set of rules: The early bird gets the worm. Slow and steady wins the race. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Good things happen to good people. Keep your faith, work hard, and all your dreams will come true.

But then we grow up. We learn that life isn’t really fair. There are no fairy godmothers, and not everything works out in the end, no matter how good we have been or how hard we’ve tried.

Why, then, are these myths perpetuated? Because clichés and over-simple recipes for living provide a soothing way to manage our daily lives without confronting the harsh reality that some parts of our lives are out of our control.

For several decades, Ken Druck has been willing to stand up and write about what we have hidden from ourselves for so long: we need to confront life as it is, not as we want it to be. We cannot magically wish things into reality. We cannot expect happiness or success to manifest from daily affirmations. By embracing the real rules of life, we discover life’s terms and learn to balance them with our own, preventing costly psychological debts and developing the life skills, underlying wisdom, and emotional freedom essential for fuller, richer lives.

This book will resonate with what readers know to be true about how life really is. Readers will discover themselves in vibrant teaching stories from the front lines of Dr. Druck’s pioneering work with individuals, families, communities, leaders, and cutting-edge organizations. They will push the refresh button on long-held myths and limitations, turning them into empower truths, redirecting their lives in much more effective and purposeful ways, and reinvigorating the pursuit of their dream.
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The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own

The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own

by Ken Druck Ph.D.
The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own

The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own

by Ken Druck Ph.D.

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Overview

We are brought up to believe a certain set of rules: The early bird gets the worm. Slow and steady wins the race. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Good things happen to good people. Keep your faith, work hard, and all your dreams will come true.

But then we grow up. We learn that life isn’t really fair. There are no fairy godmothers, and not everything works out in the end, no matter how good we have been or how hard we’ve tried.

Why, then, are these myths perpetuated? Because clichés and over-simple recipes for living provide a soothing way to manage our daily lives without confronting the harsh reality that some parts of our lives are out of our control.

For several decades, Ken Druck has been willing to stand up and write about what we have hidden from ourselves for so long: we need to confront life as it is, not as we want it to be. We cannot magically wish things into reality. We cannot expect happiness or success to manifest from daily affirmations. By embracing the real rules of life, we discover life’s terms and learn to balance them with our own, preventing costly psychological debts and developing the life skills, underlying wisdom, and emotional freedom essential for fuller, richer lives.

This book will resonate with what readers know to be true about how life really is. Readers will discover themselves in vibrant teaching stories from the front lines of Dr. Druck’s pioneering work with individuals, families, communities, leaders, and cutting-edge organizations. They will push the refresh button on long-held myths and limitations, turning them into empower truths, redirecting their lives in much more effective and purposeful ways, and reinvigorating the pursuit of their dream.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781401939731
Publisher: Hay House Inc.
Publication date: 05/15/2012
Sold by: Penguin Random House Publisher Services
Format: eBook
Pages: 240
File size: 642 KB

About the Author

Ken Druck, Ph.D., is one of the nation’s pioneers in personal transformation, having broken fresh ground in male psychology, executive coaching, organizational consulting, parent effectiveness, healing after loss, and, most recently, the art of turning adversity into opportunity. Druck Enterprises, Inc. (DEI) is a leading coaching, consulting, and team-building firm with a broad base of clients including Microsoft, Pfizer, IBM, the San Diego Union Tribune, and the YMCA.Since founding The Jenna Druck Center in 1996, "Dr. Ken" has become a lifeline for thousands of families who have suffered a loss. He is often called upon to assist in tragedies such as 9/11, Columbine, and Hurricane Katrina.Ken has appeared on national television networks including CNN and MSNBC. He’s been featured on numerous radio shows and in publications including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and The Los Angeles Times. Ken recently cofounded and serves on the nation’s first community editorial board at the San Diego Union Tribune where he is a frequent (and outspoken) editorial contributor.In recent years, Ken has been the recipient of the Visionary Leadership, Distinguished Contribution in Psychology, andFamily Advocate awards. He is a standing member of the Transformational Leadership Council (www.transformationalleadershipcouncil.com) and a regular contributor to several global leadership initiatives.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction xiii

Real Rule #1 Life is Not Fair: It's More Than Fair 1

Real Rule #2 Around Every Corner: Keeping an Open Heart 13

Real Rule #3 There Are No Deals: Life's Real Terms 23

Real Rule #4 Running from Reality Takes Energy: Truth as Courage 29

Real Rule #5 Life is Designed to Break Your Heart: Managing Love and Intimacy 35

Real Rule #6 It is What it is: Dancing with Reality 45

Real Rule #7 There Are No Quick Fixes: It Takes What it Takes to Mend 53

Real Rule #8 Listening is Love: How to Really Listen to Strengthen Relationships 63

Real Rule #9 Closure is a Myth: Healing is a Lifelong Process 77

Real Rule #10 Control is an Illusion: Knowing When It's Time to Let Go 87

Real Rule #11 Joy is a Muscle: Putting More Joy into Your Everyday Life 93

Real Rule #12 A Breakdown Can Be a Breakthrough: Authentically Navigating a Crisis 103

Real Rule #13 Real Value has No Dollar Signs: Self-Worth and the Currency of Love 115

Real Rule #14 You've Gotta Have Skin in the Game: Taking Risks, Investing Yourself 123

Real Rule #15 Taking Honest Inventory: Overcoming Our Blind Spots 129

Real Rule #16 Life Can Be Messy Business: Making Peace with Chaos 141

Real Rule #17 The Value of Being Real: Intimacy and Connectedness 147

Real Rule #18 Losing it is Finding it: Don't Shoot the Messenger (of Emotions) 155

Real Rule #19 Ain't No Fairy Godmother: The Courage to Move Forward 163

Real Rule #20 You Have Far Less and Far More Power than You Know: Balancing Control with Surrender 173

Real Rule #21 "Home Free" is a Bill of Goods: Stop Waiting for Perfect 183

Real Rule #22 Let it Be: Mastering the Art of Allowing 197

Real Rule #23 Your Life is Your Birthright: Live it as Though 203

About the Author 211

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