The Teen's Guide to Social Media... and Mobile Devices: 21 Tips to Wise Posting in an Insecure World

The Teen's Guide to Social Media... and Mobile Devices: 21 Tips to Wise Posting in an Insecure World

by Jonathan McKee

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ISBN-13: 9781683223191
Publisher: Barbour Publishing, Incorporated
Publication date: 10/01/2017
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 228,303
Product dimensions: 5.10(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.70(d)
Age Range: 12 - 18 Years

About the Author

Jonathan McKee is an expert on youth culture and the author of more than twenty books, including If I Had a Parenting Do Over; 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone-Obsessed Kid; The Zombie Apocalypse Survival Guide for Teenagers; and The Guy’s Guide to God, Girls, and the Phone in Your Pocket. He has over twenty years of youth-ministry experience and speaks to parents and leaders worldwide. For more from Jonathan, go to TheSource4Parents.com or follow him on Twitter.com/InJonathansHead.



 

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CHAPTER 1

Tip #1

Love the one you're with.

Discovering the secret of "social" in a social media world

It wasn't uncommon to see our family room packed with kids. My three kids would each invite their friends, and before we knew it, we had kids bouncing off the walls. The more kids, the higher the volume. My kids were loud!

Then they became teenagers.

You'd think teenagers would be louder ... right?

I remember a particular day when we had about half a dozen teenagers over. As each of them arrived I'd hear voices raised in excitement, but then the volume would decrease. I could hear it all from where I was sitting in my office down the hall.

Finally, when all of them settled in the family room together, I noticed the house had grown quiet — deathly quiet. Literally silent. I thought, Did they all leave? I didn't even hear them go.

I walked into the front room, and there they all were sitting on our big sectional couch.

I don't even have to tell you why they were silent, do I?

There were seven people in the room and not a single one of them was talking. They were all engrossed in their phones.

I leaned over my daughter's shoulder to look at her screen. She was texting the guy on the opposite end of the couch.

I did what we dads often do. I stated the obvious.

"He's right there!" I said, pointing to my daughter's boyfriend.

She didn't like that very much.

The ironic thing is, she ended up breaking up with the guy a few weeks later because — guess what — he wasn't really good at talking. This guy would text my daughter and connect with her through social media consistently, but when the two of them got together, he was awkward and silent.

Have you ever met someone like this?

It's because social media is destroying our ability to be social.

ANTI-SOCIAL MEDIA

In a world where 89 percent of teenagers report using some type of social media, you'd think young people would be more ... social. In actuality, it's quite the opposite.

The evidence is clear. Face-to-face conversations are becoming much more difficult for young people today. People are spending far more of their waking hours staring at screens than they are communicating face-to-face ... and it's inhibiting their ability to have a conversation.

As people become more used to screens, they struggle to maintain dialogue with real-life people. You probably don't need to read a study to come to that conclusion. If you go to school or have any contact with other young people day to day, then you've probably noticed these symptoms:

• Someone pulling out a phone and looking at it in the middle of a face-to-face conversation

• Someone who is very chatty through screens but proves to be quite the opposite in person

• A failure to understand (or even recognize) what others are actually feeling and experiencing

• Screen time distracting people from important tasks

• A decrease in face-to-face social time as screen time increases

In short, as those of today's "smartphone generation" become more screen-dependent, they are becoming socially impaired.

We're seeing this trend reveal itself in several different ways.

1. Diminished Ability to Recognize Facial Expressions

The more time young people spend communicating through screens, the less they recognize real-life face-to-face "social cues." In other words, they don't even know what "worried" looks like on someone's face.

A few years ago, UCLA did an eye-opening study where they sent a group of kids to an outdoor camp for five days. This was no ordinary camp. The kids who attended were unplugged and media-free for all five days. No phones, no Internet, no music, no TV ... nothing!

The researchers observed these kids, comparing them to another group of kids who were connected and plugged in to a normal media diet. By the end of the five days, the unplugged kids were better able to understand emotions and nonverbal cues than the plugged-in kids.

Let that sink in for a moment.

After kids spent only five days talking, laughing, and interacting with each other face-to-face, they were able to communicate better. They could actually recognize and differentiate when a friend was content, stressed, excited, or scared.

This should give us hope. Who cares if the majority of young people are becoming screen-dependent. You can be a better listener — and a better friend — when you simply put your phone in your pocket while hanging out with your friends.

Many of us are resistant to putting our phones away. In fact, as digital communication becomes more mainstream, we've even come up with new tools to try to duplicate face-to-face interaction. We use emojis to try to help our friends "see" our mood. We snap pics of our facial expression as we message each other. And these help ... a little bit.

Some social researchers decided to measure exactly how effective these different kinds of communication are through a unique bonding experiment where people engaged in conversation with friends in four different ways: in person, video chat, audio chat, and instant messaging. Bonding was measured and was found to differ "significantly across the conditions."

As much as people love texting and want it to be effective, instant messaging failed to relay many of the intended facial expressions and voice inflections. Even when texters tried using ALL CAPS or emojis, it proved to be the least effective method of all four types of communication. In fact, the greatest bonding occurred during the in-person interaction, followed by video chat, audio chat, and finally instant messaging.

My oldest daughter, Alyssa, who loves texting, once told me, "I never use texting for deep conversations. If you ever get in a fight with your friend or your boyfriend, put the phone down and drive over to their house to work it out. Texting is the worst way to work things out. You can't tell if they're mad, sad, or truly over it. Always do your deep communicating face-to-face."

I think Alyssa is onto something. Digital mediums are handy (I love them), but they lose something. In fact, another negative by-product many are noticing is ...

2. Lack of Empathy

The more we stare at screens, the less likely we are to "empathize" with our friends.

Empathy is our ability to step into someone else's shoes and consider how they feel. Experts are discovering a strong connection between technology and a lack of empathy. This goes way beyond a diminished ability to recognize others' facial expressions. Not only are we missing what they're communicating, but we've stopped caring. The lack of understanding has created a lack of empathy.

Sherry Turkle, MIT professor and author of the book Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age, has observed this in her own research, noting today's kids "don't seem to be able to put themselves in the place of other children." In fact, kids who are sitting around staring at their phones consistently "seem to understand each other less."

In short, people are becoming more self-absorbed. I care about you less because I'm so caught up in my own world.

This lack of empathy is hurting relationships. Who wants to hang out with someone who is only into himself? In the same way, who wants to hang out with someone who is so engrossed in their phone all the time that they don't even recognize what you're feeling?

Sadly, the natural next step in this digression is ...

3. A Decrease in Close Friends

Social media isn't just making conversation more difficult; it's actually killing our close relationships.

Most research suggests that the more time a young person spends dialoguing with people through their screens, the fewer friends they have. This might seem counterintuitive, but think about it for a moment. The progression makes sense:

• People today are spending more time on screens than at any other time in history.

• The more time people spend communicating through screens, the less effectively they communicate face-to-face.

• People are spending less time communicating face-to-face since it's difficult.

• The decrease in face-to-face communication is leading to a lack of empathy for others — people who are self-absorbed.

• No one likes to be around someone who is self-absorbed.

• People have fewer close friends.

Just last month UCLA developmental psychologist Patricia Greenfield reported young people are seeking social support through social media, and "the result is a decline in intimate friendships." The more young people turn to e-friends, the less they turn to face-to-face friends. The result is fewer close friends.

Social media is making us less social.

IN YOUR POCKET

You have the power to reverse this trend within your circle of friends. You don't have to smash your smartphone. You don't have to give up streaming Netflix. Your phone isn't the problem. In fact, the solution is simple: just put your phone in your pocket when you're hanging out with your friends and family.

Your phone is a great tool for connecting with people outside the room ... when it doesn't sever your connection with the people inside the room!

It's a simple matter of respect. Maybe you've had the frustrating experience of sharing your heart with a friend and they keep checking their phone while you talk. You just wanna say, "Sorry, am I interrupting something more important?"

If you don't want to be treated this way, don't treat others that way.

It's called "the Golden Rule."

Actually, the Golden Rule is from the Bible. It's something Jesus said in the book of Matthew: "Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets" (Matthew 7:12).

Imagine that. Think about what it would look like if everyone walked through life considering others first. What would that be like at school? What about at home?

Picture your friend putting away their phone when you walk into the room, looking up at you, asking you about your day, and truly listening to you when you talk. Really listening, like they're interested! (Hopefully you have some friends who actually do this.)

If that sounds good to you, then Jesus is simply asking you to do the same to your friends.

What could that look like this week?

QUESTIONS TO PONDER

1. Have you ever spent time with someone who was glued to their phone, even when you were trying to hang out with them? How did you feel?

2. Have you ever done that with a friend? With a parent?

3. Why do you think the "unplugged" kids in the UCLA study mentioned above were better able to understand emotions and nonverbal cues than the plugged-in kids after just five days without any phones or media?

4. Why do you think kids who are sitting around staring at their phones consistently "seem to understand each other less"?

5. Why does someone who is self-absorbed have fewer friends?

6. What is Jesus' simple advice to us about the way to treat others?

7. What did He mean when He said this advice was the "essence" of all that was taught in the Bible up to that point? How important is that?

8. I asked it at the end of this chapter, but let me ask it again: What is a way you can "do to others what you would like them to do to you" this week?

9. Google the word "empathize." What does it mean? How can you live that out this week?

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT

The MIT professor I mentioned earlier in this chapter made an interesting observation about the effect of smartphones on people's relationships: "Studies of conversation both in the laboratory and in natural settings show that when two people are talking, the mere presence of a phone on a table between them or in the periphery of their vision changes both what they talk about and the degree of connection they feel."

Think about that for a moment. A guy and a girl are having dinner. The guy pulls out his phone and puts it on the table. The phone buzzes and the screen lights up throughout the meal. If the guy looks at it, he has just revealed his priorities: The communication coming from the phone is more important than the communication here at the table. If the guy doesn't look at it ... why is the phone even on the table?

Try something. Keep your phone in your pocket during meals with friends or family, and see if it becomes contagious. Look them in the eye during conversation. Give them your full attention. You'll find these kinds of proactive efforts to communicate with others are often reciprocated — people will do the same back to you. But if you find you're the only one who doesn't have their phone out, consider announcing this: "Let's try something. Everyone put your phone in the center of the table. First one to grab their phone has to do dishes/pay for the bill!"

Who knows? You might start a trend.

The smartphone is a great tool to connect with people outside the room, but only when it doesn't interfere with our relationships with the people inside the room.

CHAPTER 2

Tip #2

Peek at your privacy settings.

Do you know who's peeking at you?

It was only a few months after her high school graduation when she got into the car with two of her friends that night in a small town in Washington State. She rode shotgun.

Both of her friends put on their seatbelts.

For some reason, she didn't.

The crash shouldn't have been a big deal. The belts saved the other two, but she was ejected from the vehicle and killed instantly.

It happens all the time; not to every kid or even every family, but every city has a story of a car wreck and the one person who didn't make it because they weren't wearing their seatbelt. Seatbelts save over two thousand lives a year.

That's probably why car companies, starting way back in January 1, 1968, were required by law to provide seatbelts in all seating positions. It wasn't until 1983 that laws kicked in to require people to actually wear them.

People whined and complained when this law was enforced. And there is always that one guy who will claim, "Yeah, but I heard you're safer without your belt! I've heard of someone being thrown from the car and that's what saved them!" (Something you'll never see on MythBusters.)

That's just like us. If it's inconvenient, then we complain about it.

Until it saves our life.

It was New Year's Eve and my cousin asked me if I wanted to go for a ride in his new BMW. I got into the car with him, and he began showing me "what the car could do." Next thing I knew, we were going over 70 miles an hour down a rural road.

I was growing concerned as he kept looking away from the road. He was more focused on the car's features than actually driving (something we'll talk about in greater detail later in the book).

"That's the automatic temperature control, that's the seatback adjustment, and that's the subwoofer control ..."

As he was messing with the radio trying to show me the voice commands, he began drifting to the side of the road.

The next few seconds seemed to happen in slow motion.

When he felt his wheel riding on the shoulder of the road, he looked up and turned the wheel sharply, overcorrecting toward oncoming traffic. After barely missing an oncoming car, he cranked the wheel back to try to regain control.

I don't remember the next sixty seconds.

We woke up on the side of the road upside down.

We were both wearing our seatbelts.

Apparently my cousin had cranked the wheel so hard at such a high speed that he flipped the car. We rolled several times and ended up in the ditch backward. The airbags never deployed.

When we took off our seatbelts, our inverted bodies dropped to the roof of the car — now the floor. As we crawled out of the car, unscathed, my cousin merely pointed to the underside of the car and said, "And that's the bottom of the car."

Nobody likes safety features ... until they protect you!

I KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE

A forty-four-year-old Los Angeles man was arrested last year for using the location information from people's Facebook and Instagram photos to break into people's homes and steal their underwear.

Yeah. True story. There is no way I could make this stuff up.

The man used several different methods. His favorite was hanging out in public places and waiting for people to "check in" on Facebook. Once he found someone of interest, he would follow their posts and look for clues as to where they lived. He also used this method to find people on Instagram and other social media apps. He simply looked for people who posted pictures with locations, then followed the GPS information to figure out where they lived. Then he would break into their house and steal their underwear ... sometimes just feet away from where they were sleeping.

Creepy!

The only reason he was able to do this was because these people didn't make use of their privacy settings.

PRIVACY SETTINGS

Have you ever used or adjusted your privacy settings on your phone and other devices?

Remember when you first got your phone? What about when you downloaded your first app? Do you even remember looking at the privacy settings for any of your devices and/or social media accounts?

(Continues…)



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Table of Contents

A Note to Mom or Dad Screening This Book: Walk with Them,
A Note to You: Your Phone Is Not the Problem,
Tip #1: Love the one you're with Discovering the secret of "social" in a social media world,
Tip #2: Peek at your privacy settings Do you know who's peeking at you?,
Tip #3: Nothing you post is temporary Ever wish you could "unpost" something?,
Tip #4: The whole picture of those pictures A deeper look at the effects of porn,
Tip #5: Don't do this alone Seeking out a mentor,
Tip #6: Unmask The myth of anonymity,
Tip #7: Yes, still don't talk with strangers Do you really know who you're hanging out with?,
Tip #8: Take more "seflessies." Recognizing when selfies become too "selfy",
Tip #9: Like me! Uncovering your true identity,
Tip #10: Know the app before you snap Exploring the intricacies of Snapchat,
Tip #11: Reevaluate your screen time Trimming hours,
Tip #12: Frequent tech-free zones Looking for space,
Tip #13: Friend Mom or Dad Connecting with the people who matter,
Tip #14: Dissect your entertainment media Rethinking the music, TV, and videos you watch,
Tip #15: Pause Remembering to think before you post,
Tip #16: Crush criticism and cruelty Discovering the power of kind words,
Tip #17: Recognize the distraction Texting, driving ... and killing,
Tip #18: I see London, I see France Why are you showing your underpants?,
Tip #19: No secrets The implications of "Finsta",
Tip #20: Sleep matters Saying "nighty night" to distractions,
Tip #21: Look up Staying aware of your surroundings,
Notes,

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TheThoughtSpot More than 1 year ago
Thanks to NetGalley and Shiloh Run Press for the opportunity to read and review The Teen’s Guide to Social Media by Jonathan McKee. This helpful guide contains “21 Tips to Wise Posting in an Insecure World”. Each tip is given its own chapter and a clever name, which summarizes the advice. The book opens with a letter of relevant advice to parents and all caring adults that might be feeling overwhelmed with the technology overload and in need of possible rules and guidelines for raising children in a world with constant internet access. This guide reminds us: to keep up our social skills, to check privacy settings, that posting is permanent, of the detrimental effects of pornography, to seek out a mentor, to be accountable, don’t talk to strangers, to take less selfies, don’t become addicted to likes, to know the apps, to reevaluate online time, to find tech-free zones, to friend people you know, to rethink your media, to think before posting, to use kind words, don’t let your driving become distracted, no nude posts, to be truthful, sleep and stay aware. Questions to ponder and something to think about sections at the close of each chapter/tip and a resource list at the end of the book give readers more to think about and research. 5 stars for this beneficial, relevant guide to online safety! *I received a complimentary copy of this book for voluntary review consideration.
DebReads More than 1 year ago
Social media and the use of smart phones have become an essential part of our lives. For better or worse, they have become life lines for our young people. Reading this book will enable you to throw a life saver to them, helping to keep them aware and safe as they navigate through their online worlds. An excellent resource for tweens, teens, young adults and those who know, love and work with them. The author encourages kids to be well informed and protected while enpowering them to make their own wise decisions. He discusses the many dangers, pitfalls and opportunities of social media and smart phones. Using anecdotes that young people will easily relate to, the author makes the reader aware of personal accountability, choices and consequences. Let's help our young people to transform from being tech-dependent to becoming tech-enabled. This book will encourage young people to think and pause before posting. It will encourage them to seek out a good and safe mentor. It encourages them to regularly set aside some tech-free time and to examine and evaluate their entertainment diet. This book is loaded with much practical and excellent advice. I plan to share it with fellow youth leaders and our students. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
thedanielsr More than 1 year ago
This is a great book! I learned so much about social media. Loved how the author tied it to God's Word. I received a free book but the review is totally my opinion.
JenniferKPowell More than 1 year ago
This book was an excellent read - engaging and informative and helped me articulate ways to talk to my kids about social media and device use. The biggest message that stuck with me is that what we post out there is forever. My 12.5 year old daughter read the book and it led us to some important discussions and changes she has decided to make about how she uses her phone. I highly recommend this book to both parents, preteens, and teens. There were some scary and disturbing sections, which were appropriate to the book and helped my daughter see how serious indiscriminate social media and phone use can be. I received a complimentary copy of this book by Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review. My opinions are my own.
Bookluvr4vr More than 1 year ago
Okay, we all know that Social Media is alive and strong, and it is becoming a normal way of life. We all join Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook to link up to friends and share awesome stuff. What's the harm in what you share? Well... there could be depending on what you are posting. However, did you know about the wilderness that is internet culture?  You might know professional and grandma internet culture, but the reality is a true jungle. (a line I got from a friend. Thanks, Gamer x45x (xfourtyfivex) twitch.tv/x45x). The book I'm about to share with you looks at just that: The Teens Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices-21 tips to wise posting in an insecure world by Jonathan McKee. You've been there, right? You just sent that text in the heat of the moment to your best friend. You were upset. You didn't mean it harm, but apparently now the police are at your door.(Okay, maybe not all instances the police come, but you get the picture) It's all about W-O-R-D-S. WORDS!!! Yes, and they are powerful things and more powerful when no one can see or hear the inflection in your voice. According to author Jonathan McKee's research, "20% of young people post something they regret once a week. Fifty-seven percent of Americans have posted something on social media that they regretted." (Text from the book Tip 15). Those statistics are frightening. The internet is a bigger world than anyone has probably dreamed of. You got to have a mind. Don't share things that can be questionable (nudes, sexting, nsfw, etc; there are crimes about sharing that stuff and it is a fine line). Don't share information with someone you barely know, especially never give out your cell number or street address or tag your location. Those are big no-nos. Be wise. What for key questions, like what you look like. If they send you a picture, you better double check to make sure that isn't a fake one. There are many dangers. There is just so much this book covers. When I first picked up the book, I thought I knew a lot about internet culture and the growing social media storm, but like my friend told me I only knew professional internet culture. Due to this problem, social media, I'm not allowed to speak to my friend at this time; I would very much apologize for anything that happened. He is still my friend. This book has shed so much light for me. Hindsight is truly 20/20, if only some issues could be easily resolved by reading a book like this. This book made me very nervous and scared at first, it really was getting me to see the harms in social media. That is a good thing! Although, this book has a few mentions of Scripture, this book is for anyone, religious or secular, young or old. If you don't know internet culture, then you are in a heap and world of trouble. You must be smart and know what you are doing out there. Be careful! This book is something that I will keep on my shelf. It really has helped me understand the real world of the Internet. I thank the publisher for letting me have the opportunity in my time of need to read such an eye opening book. God must've known I'd need this book right now in my life. Thank you so much for complimentary book. I can't say more about this book.  I hope it helps someone that comes upon this site. My prayers are with you in your social media journey and struggles.
tmurrell2 More than 1 year ago
There is so much technology out there available for teens and yet they often don't have the knowledge or maturity to deal with the consequences that often result from unfortunate choices. The author has broken down the various social media sites and walks the reader through the pitfalls and nuances of using each site. The book is broken up into 21 chapters, or tips, with a series of questions at the end. There is also an introduction with a letter to parents. I was expecting a dry and more adult focused book. Thankfully I was wrong. This book is actually written for teens and is perfect for the target audience. The letter to the parents is wonderful and after reading the into and the rest of the book, I had no worries about passing the book onto my teenager. My son actually wanted to read the book and sped through it. I couldn't believe that it kept his attention since he prefers fiction. The author did a great job of pointing out some of the dangers and addressing them without coming across as preachy. Loved this book and will be keeping it for my daughter when she gets older. I would definitely recommend this book for any parent with teens. I received a copy of this book from Barbour. All thoughts expressed are my own.
DSaff More than 1 year ago
Social Media, one of the hottest activities of our lifetime. Posting, tweeting, sharing pictures, etc. Is there danger? What should be the focus, especially for teenagers? In this new book by Jonathan McKee, teens (and others) can get 21 tips for keeping yourself safe and being wise when dealing with social media. Twitter, Facebook, SnapChat, Instagram - all commonly used forms of social media. In the blink of an eye. people all over the world can know more about you than most of your friends. Media does more than letting you engage. It also tracks your likes, your movements, your life moments. This book begins with two letters; one to parents and one to the teen. It then goes into debunking false ideas (i.e. I can delete what I post.), rules of safety (i.e. look at privacy settings, friend requests, think before you post). It is a common sense look at the world through these wonderful and dangerous apps. I enjoyed, and learned from, this book. It's easy to read and makes many common sense points. There are "Questions to Ponder," "Tips," and "Something to Think About," that will draw a reader in. I recommend this book to teens and their parents, along with anyone else who whats to be wiser when posting. It is well worth your time.
Ndfin More than 1 year ago
"The Teen's Guide to Social Media .. and Mobile Devices" gives great advice and information for a teen living in a techie world (or a parent of a teen) in 21 quick and knowledgeable tips. Some of the topics it covers are privacy settings, do you know what 'strangers' you are 'friends' with?, will a 'trusted friend' share private pics of you?, and Think before you post. A must read for parents and teens! I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Even though this book is written for teens, it was also insightful for parents. This book is spot-on with the non-judgmental writing style while presenting facts, stories, and Bible references. It is easy to read, and the author has provided great discussion questions to go with the 21 tips covered in the book. The introduction is written to the parent or mentor of the teen. Each chapter is short but interesting to read, followed by a list of possible discussion questions to create a dialogue, and ending with ideas for the teen to think about relating to the tip. I even learned a few things about a couple of social media apps that I didn't know. I think that this book is a great place to start with having an open communication with teens and the online world. The author has written practical advice that does not come across as overly preachy which I think will help keep a resistant teen's mind open to some important information. I wished all parents of tween and teens that want to help their child successfully navigate online would get this book. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Soupersally More than 1 year ago
At last a quality book to help in this crazy world of high-tech! Even though it is geared for teens, it is a big help for adults too that get caught up in way too many phone apps! With a total of 21 very helpful tips, there is something for everyone. Tip #7 is Yes, still don't talk with strangers. Tip #8 is Take more "selflessies"! I also liked #10, Know the app before you snap! How true is that! This is a must read for parents of teens. It's a guide for emailing, texting, tweeting, Facebook posting, and surfing. I found it to be very helpful to have a guide to set rules and guidelines. Too many of us assume that everything will be okay. That seems dangerous on its own, so I recommend this excellent teen's guide. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Virginiaw More than 1 year ago
I was very glad I read this book and hope that more parents and their teens read this book. It tries to say that social media isn’t bad, it is the people using it that can make it bad. Teens need to know that it can be dangerous to use this media. I learned a few things that I didn’t know. I received a copy of this book from Barbour for a fair and honest opinion that I gave of my own free will.
PamMooney More than 1 year ago
A great social media primer for all ages. Although it is written for teens it is a must read for parents and guardians as well. The 21 tips provided certainly go across the ages as they are applicable to all who have social media accounts. The format includes "points to ponder" which are great starting points for discussions with teens. I love that the author has incorporated scripture, humor and "something to think about" while still giving the sense of urgency about the dangers that may lurking within social media interactions. Truly a real-life, honest, and informative book - certainly author will gain the respect of the teen reader by knowing what he is talking about
KLF More than 1 year ago
Realistic, applicable, and non-accusatory- this is an excellent resource for teens and their parents! We all have a weakness for our smartphones and devices, and we all enjoy the conveniences and entertainment we derive from them. Unfortunately, we all can probably say we spend too much time on them, and there are bad people out there on the internet looking to take advantage of others- it's a reality of the world we live in. Just because someone says they're something or someone great means nothing because usually we have to take everything on social media at face value. Mr. McKee takes the Word of God, applies it to strategies with social media, and presents irrefutable evidence of the need for his tips from widely known sources of today (which he provides notations for.) He presents the facts without lumping teenagers into a group of kids who don't know left from right and are incapable of adult interaction. No one wants to be treated like that and we should be encouraging independence in our teens but guiding them with Scripture and a real life example in ourselves of how we as Christians should respond and interact over social media. Among the topics explored are how nothing really vanishes online, how we should pause before posting, how we should interact face-to-face, how to use privacy settings, how to tell if someone is "catfishing" you, how sleep is important, how hiding from parents only creates issues, and so much more. Simply written and oh so practical, you would be remiss to leave this resource out of your toolbelt for your teen children. It is extremely relevant and honestly challenged me as an adult to make sure I keep my devices to be what they should be- a helpful tool with some fun aspects. Don't hope for the best with your kids when it comes to social media- meet the challenge head on with Biblical principles and realistic strategies to help your teen become the adult he needs to be and your family to thrive as a whole. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Wanda_M More than 1 year ago
With the ever-increasing demand and lightening fast technology and our society right at our fingertips, makes surfing the net so much easier, but it is also real dangerous, especially when it comes to teens and how they can move around the internet. And it is growing or becoming greater in today's society. But it is also a plus when we need to get to something in a flash. When it comes to research, the internet is a highway to knowledge. We just have to be careful how we get to where we need to be. Just like driving on a regular highway we have to be careful not to have any accidents or exit onto a wrong road. That is why there are rules to follow in both situations so we don't get hurt. Take for instance what was discussed on pages 82 and 83, which should give people something to think about. What happened was horrifying. Did this teenager think of danger? Probably not. Did this teenager take time to think things through before acting? Probably not. Real scary situation. That is why rules are so important. THE TEEN'S GUIDE TO SOCIAL MEDIA...& MOBILE DEVICES is a very good guide when it comes to navigating the social media, because the internet can be scary. And, these 21 tips just might be able to help both teens and parents. Jonathan McKee wrote an excellent guide. Amazing read! I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Although I am a Grandma, and not up on all the social media, I choose to read this book since I’m still training foster and adoptive parents. We’ve added several hours to the training to include social media and human trafficking, because it is so important today. Yes, today’s world is a scary place. I couldn’t put the book down. I learned so much and can see this book being a definite need in any family with adolescents and teens. It’s a great way to get the communications open so a parent isn’t setting intimidating rules and teens can better understand why they should be very cautious in this cyber world today. Besides, I feel I’m now better equipped as a trainer and can really discuss the subject with future parents. I enjoyed the short Bible lessons in each chapter that were often humorous illustrations to get kids to think. I felt like the discussion questions in each chapter were also very thought provoking and can see hours of good discussions around tables in the future. You read about so many terrible things happening that link back to a predator online – and, no one believes this can happen to them. But, guess what? It can. Hopefully young people may pass this information along to their friends and they’ll make wiser decisions. This is a great little book that not only am I reviewing online, but I am also posting for my friends (many of whom are foster and adoptive parents), and recommending to anyone that I come in contact with. An easy read for kids (and parents, too), with invaluable information. Great job Mr. McKee!!! I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Librarycataloger More than 1 year ago
I am many, many years past the age mentioned in the title of this new book but I am so impressed with "The Teen's Guide to Social Media... & Social Devices". Author Jonathan McKee has offered 'twenty-one tips to wise posting in an insecure world' and these tips apply to all ages. The author stresses over and over again that once a thought is put into words or a picture is posted on social media, it is always out there in cyberspace. You may think you have deleted your post but It Never Truly Goes Away! Words shared in a moment of frustration or anger may be extremely hurtful to others and are often considered to be acts of bullying. A suggestive picture can possibly gain undesired attention and place the subject in extreme danger. College admissions, scholarships, and even future job opportunities may be jeopardized because of these impetuous social media posts. This book is definitely for teens but it is also for their parents and any other adult who offers guidance to young people. I thought that it would help me as a Sunday School teacher of teenagers but I have also learned many things that will help me in my own social media activity. The author's writing style is both entertaining and informative and I admire his ability to choose Bible scripture that is appropriate for the situation he is describing. Each chapter ends with Questions to Ponder and Something to Think About and both of these can increase further discussion and understanding. I can't praise this book too much and I highly recommend it! I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Jdp15 More than 1 year ago
"The Teens guide to Social media and Mobile Devices" by Jonathan McKee is so good!!!! You do not need to be a teen to read this book. I'm 30 years old and I recommend this book to everyone!! Jonathan McKee writes 21 tips to help you with social media and posting stuff, and at the end of each chapter there's questions to ponder. "I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review."
CK119 More than 1 year ago
The Teen’s Guide to Social Media and Mobile Devices by Jonathan McKee is just as the title states, a guide for teens to learn how to safely navigate the online world and apps associated with social media. I believe the worst way to use this book is to give it to your teenager. This book is a wonderful tool to open the dialogue between parents and teens. It should be shared and not just handed to teens with the hope they will read it. There is a lot of great information within the pages and all parents as well as teens getting their first (or second or more) device needs to read and understand the pitfalls as well as the fun of social media. The “Questions to Ponder” at the end of each chapter are a great way to encourage the back and forth dialogue so often missing in teen relationships. We are bombarded with our devices daily but they do not have to rule our lives. This practical guide can help parents and teens avoid the many, sometimes deadly, pitfalls of using social media. I highly recommend this book to all parents and their teens. I give it 5 of 5 stars. The writer approaches the subject with facts as well as humor. Each tip is also backed up by Biblical references to help teens have an extra layer of support for their convictions. There is no preaching; the book allows the reader to reach their own conclusions on whether a tip is appropriate for them to follow. I think this book would be an excellent resource for a group of teens to read and discuss the questions together. You need to buy more than one copy of this one as yours will probably disappear or you will soon learn your teen’s best friend needs one too. Every teen should have this book. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
SunnieReviews More than 1 year ago
This book is an absolute MUST READ for teens, parents of teens, as well as guidance councilors for youth. The wealth of knowledge that has been shared in this book is a handy and concise reminder of the dangers that lurk in the background which can cause absolute chaos in a happy teen's life. I was surprised at the things I learned and literally read every word in this book. I was so interested in how the author also added scripture from the Bible to show that although things have changed, things have still remained the same only in a different form. They need to be so aware of the dangers lurking out there. And realize the significance of what they post online and the effect it may have on others seeing the posts. This was an absolutely excellent book. Highly recommended! I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
vics49548 More than 1 year ago
Author Jonathan McKee has put together a quick paced book to help teens navigate the insecure internet world. The one they think is so secure. Done with humor, McKee does not hesitate to be straight forward and open. Anyone, not matter what your age, can learn from this. I would say that because McKee is necessarily honest in this book, I wouldn’t recommend it for the preteen or younger. But if you have or work with teens I would highly recommend it! I received a complimentary copy of this book but was not required to leave a review.