Wrecked is about the life we are afraid to live. It's about radical sacrifice and selfless servicehow we find purpose in the midst of pain. It's a look at how we discover fulfillment in the least likely of places. It's about living like we mean it. It's a guide to growing up and giving your life away, helping you live in the tension between the next adventure and the daily mundane.
This book is for usa generation intent on pursuing our life's work in a way that leaves us without regrets.
Author Jeff Goins shares his own experience of struggling as a missionary and 20-something who understands the call to live radically while dealing with the everyday responsibilities of life. Wrecked is a manifesto for a generation dissatisfied with the status quo and wanting to make a difference.
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About the Author
JEFF GOINS Originally from Chicago, IL, Jeff graduated from Illinois College with a degree in Spanish and Religion. Immediately after graduating, he spent a year traveling with a music ministry, playing concerts in churches, schools, and prisons for a year. In 2006, he moved to Nashville, where he now lives with his wife and dog. Jeff works for Adventures in Missions, a short-term missions agency. You can visit him online at www.goinswriter.com.
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WRECKEDWHEN A BROKEN WORLD SLAMS into YOUR COMFORTABLE LIFE
By JEFF GOINS
Moody PublishersCopyright © 2012 Jeff Goins
All right reserved.
Chapter OneYou Must Get WRECKED
"Something's missing, and I don't know what it is." —JOHN MAYER
Everyone in this world is searching. Each of us is searching for something to give meaning to life. To bring purpose to our work. We all know this; we're familiar with this emptiness, this longing for more.
We're looking for a story to make sense of, a role to play. Despite our best efforts, activities and adventures barely touch the tip of the iceberg. We sense we were made for a great purpose, some cause to make the world a better place. Maybe it's as simple as the realization that our lives aren't a total waste, or maybe it's something more. Whatever the case, most of us despair of ever finding it. It feels so distant, so unattainable.
We begin life with a simple understanding—that our lives are tales worth telling and we have an important part to play. Children understand this: what it means to live and love without condition, to be delighted in. Their lives are full of reckless abandon, and no one has to tell them so. They don't need to be reminded of their crucial roles; they know intuitively. Without prompting, kids know how to dream up adventures and slay dragons. To embark on epic voyages and live out idyllic scenes. "lb spend hours in the backyard with nothing but their imaginations.
Fixed in my memory is a scene from a day I spent at my grandparents' twenty years ago. I am seven years old, maybe, in the front yard of that old, yellow home, playing on a mild summer day. I am running up and down the stairs, hopping on and off the old, rusty porch swing painted white. In my right hand is a stick, substituting as an imaginary sword, and surrounding me are orcs and goblins and other villainous things. Suddenly, in the heat of battle, I hear a voice: "What are you doing?" It's the neighbor's child—a boy, about the same age as me. I tell him, and he wrinkles his brow, obviously confused. He was an only child, and his parents were practical people. As a result, he missed one of the greatest gifts childhood has to offer. For the rest of the afternoon, I teach the boy how to play, and at the end of the afternoon, he says something that doesn't quite register: "You have a great imagination." I have never considered this, which is the whole point.
As children, most of us needed no prompting to play, to engage in the grand experience of life.
But as adults, many of us do. Somewhere along the journey we lose our way. We get caught up in the pursuit of trivial things. For some, it's money; for others, sex or Fame. Some get stuck in the cruel cycle of moralism, endlessly striving to be "good enough." Whatever our fixation, we obsess over it. We give our lives to this pursuit of a promise that eludes us. And we wind up years down the road wondering what happened and why we feel so empty. This happens at age twenty, forty, or even sixty. Emptiness knows no boundaries.
We would do well to remember that this is strictly an adult problem. Children do not wait all year for two weeks of vacation. They don't spend their lives doing things they hate so they can earn the right to do what they really want. They live life to the full, children do, and somehow we have to regain that innocence.
Something is missing. Something important. Something necessary to making a difference in the world. And most of us are afraid to find out what it is. Because we know. It's the secret we're afraid to admit: this will cost us our lives.
WHAT IT MEANS TO BE WRECKED
Several years ago, 1 started helping missionaries tell their stories. It began when 1 was hired as a staff writer for an organization called Adventures in Missions to teach missionaries how to blog. I assumed this job would be much like my experience as a writing tutor. In college, I met with students every day to go over their papers—to help them learn basic grammar and how to write a thesis. I thought this experience would be similar. What I never expected was how it would change me, how it would affect everything I did, from going to the grocery store to walking down the street.
As I heard these missionaries recount their tales, I realized something: all these people were telling the same story. No matter where they were or what they were doing, the outcome was the same. Whether immersed in aboriginal cultures along the Amazon or surrounded by drug dealers in downtown Philadelphia, whether in the company of dying mothers in central Asia or MDS-infected babies in Africa, they all sang a similar song: wherever there is pain without explanation, hope amidst despair, redemption in spite of tragedy, that's where they wanted to be. Walking away from each experience, people would tell me how they felt, and they all used the same interesting word: wrecked.
Ruined. Devastated. Undone. Their lives were forever changed, and there was no returning to how life used to be. Their paradigms had shifted. Their worldview was infected with a contagion that was spreading to every facet of their life. More than one person told me, "I can't go back to who I was."
Take my friend Stephen Proctor, for example. Gifted at using media and video to communicate, Stephen moved to Nashville to pursue a career in the music business. A few years ago, he had the chance to go on an overseas mission trip. He and his business partner, Nate, had just launched their new media company, so this trip made absolutely no sense. He should have been building the business and acquiring new clients. But he felt called to leave. After praying and talking to several friends, he knew he needed to go.
Stephen spent five weeks living in Papua New Guinea. No technology, no access to the outside world—just him and the natives. The experience humbled him. "Life was so simple," he recalled. "Everything was stripped away. God's whisper grew louder to my ears."
When Stephen returned, the trip didn't leave him. It affected every facet of his life, from how he treated strangers on the street to how he conducted business. He wasn't one of those people who goes overseas and turns into a lifelong missionary, but he knew there was a purpose to this experience. He just needed to find it. "I wanted to embrace my passions even more," he said, "and direct them toward a greater purpose." Stephen and his partner, Nate, decided to call their company Grateful Inconvenience, and they live up to that moniker.
Today Stephen travels all over the world producing media and video presentations for some of the world's most popular music acts. Every year he takes off several months to go to China or Africa or the Middle East. It's become part of his life to intentionally disorient himself so that his heart stays sensitive to the needs of the world. He has found his life by "losing" it, all because of an initial uncomfortable experience. Although he's a self-reliant businessman, he still disciplines himself to take time off and serve. He doesn't allow his heart to grow cold. What once wrecked him continues to disorient him because he chooses to let it.
There is something important about a life lived like this— full of moments that tear us apart and break our hearts and help us understand our purpose. Moments that inconvenience us. Moments for which we should be eternally grateful.
When I first encountered this idea of being wrecked, I was surprised to find that missionaries were not the only ones experiencing this attitude of feeling ruined and undone. It came from a variety sources, I heard it from graduate students serving in the public school system. I heard it from friends who worked at summer camps. I even heard it from suburbanites who had experienced a brush with the poor. So I started asking more people, "What wrecks you?" And I was surprised by what I found. Entrepreneurs and homemakers and physical therapists all told me the same thing. They were devastated by the possibility of a better world. They had seen things they couldn't unsee. They were introduced to a way of life that didn't revolve around them, one that intentionally made room for others. And they loved it. They were addicted. After listening to enough stories, so was I.
It was an awakening of sorts for these friends, strangers, and me. We were all coming to grips with the fact that the promises of the American Dream were a disappointment. Like Tyler Durden in Fight Club, we were beginning to deconstruct the world-view we had inherited. We were beginning to see the lies we had believed. Was it really enough to strive and pine away for the sake of a paycheck when we had to mortgage our passion? We weren't so sure anymore.
This is what I mean by being "wrecked." To be wrecked is to be disabused of the status quo.
It means to have a transformation that goes beyond mere words—to be introduced to another way of life, to follow in the footsteps of a teacher who is calling you through the eye of a needle. Often it involves being catalyzed by an encounter with pain. The process is horrible and ugly and completely gut-wrenching— and at the same time, beautiful. It is real and hard and true. Most of all, it is necessary.
Years ago, I was on the streets of Mexico with the same group of missionaries whose stories I was helping tell. But this time I was living the story.
There were four of us in a group: Ryan, Talia, Jenny, and me. We were in Chiapas, the southernmost state in Mexico, and it had been raining for five days straight. After sitting inside for a week, we grew restless and set out to do some good. This was a mission trip, after all, and what did we have to show for it? Nothing. So we went in search of a story, with our own mixed motives, as people often do.
We rounded a corner and there she was, begging in front of a bank: the woman we had passed the other day. We had all seen her and ignored her. We had kept walking. We hadn't time for a crazy beggar lady. But this time was different. Despite the discomfort, we marched right up to her and started talking.
We introduced ourselves and asked her name. She thought for a moment and said she couldn't remember. As she spoke, the Nameless Woman covered her mouth with a blanket; she said it was because of "shame." One moment she would say something lucid, and the next she would get lost in incoherent ramblings.
She was blind in her right eye, which lazily dragged behind when she turned her head to look from one person to the next. As we talked to her, Ryan ran to get some bread and water for her. She would not eat in front of us. The woman complained of pains on her face, but she also talked about having a mustache. It was hard to understand what was real and what was imagined.
After giving her the food, we prayed for the Nameless Woman. She thanked us and said she felt peace. But we walked away feeling terrible. We had prayed, tried to feed this woman without a name, and we felt no satisfaction. This was nothing like what we expected. For all that we could tell, nothing had changed. The Nameless Woman was still hungry, still hurting, and still lonely. And still, we left her.
Talia walked away with an especially heavy burden. Moments later, she burst into tears. "I just feel so helpless," she said. We all felt that way: paralyzed by our inability to help, to heal. It was unnerving. Yet somehow, we knew it was good; maybe not right, but good nonetheless. We didn't understand that our hearts were being changed. This is how it often feels when you're doing the right thing.
We want to explain and understand messy moments like this one. At church or the mall or over dinner, we'll say to our friends that a seed was planted. They'll nod in mock recognition, offering some cliché about how you never know what good was probably done. For me, this has always been unsettling. It feels like patting myself on the back for my own apathy. It's a way to anesthetize the pain, to dull the discomfort of not doing enough. So often we want to move quickly past these moments. We want resolution; we want to justify ourselves. But these are the experiences we need. Our brokenheartedness at the injustices we witness is what gives us compassion. So when we rush past these messy and uncomfortable moments, we take away the experiences that teach us mercy.
Although I didn't realize it that day, the lack of resolution we experienced was a gift. The fact that we walked away from the Nameless Woman unable to help was an epiphany. The world is broken and remains that way, in spite of our efforts to help it. This is beautiful, in a way, because it breaks us of our self-dependency, In a world that refuses to be healed, we must face the fact that we are not the heroes of our stories, it teaches us to rely on something bigger than ourselves and teaches the source of true compassion.
THE KEY TO LIFE'S PURPOSE
Finding your identity and place in the world is not a seven-step program. It is not a tapestry, neatly woven, it is not easy or simple or tidy. In fact, it feels more like a sweater unwinding thread by thread. You are wrecked. It is not something you do. It happens to you. You cannot control it.
To be wrecked begins with an experience that pulls you out of your comfort zone and self-centeredness, whether you want it to or not. Your old narcissistic dreams begin to fade in light of something bigger, something better. The process leaves you battered and broken after the "real world" has slammed up against your ideals a couple dozen times. What's left standing is a new paradigm. It's hard, but it's good. It's incredible and indelible. It's tough, but only in the way that all things worth fighting for are tough. Being wrecked means everything you believe—everything you know about yourself, your world, and your destiny—is now in question. Because you've seen something bigger. And you can't go back. At first the process is disorienting. It calls out the greatest parts of you, the parts you might be afraid of] It tests your courage, the very fibers of your being. This may very well be why we avoid conflict. It calls into question that which we are most afraid of—ourselves. And in the end, you're not who you were before. You're different. You're changed. Your old life begins to make less and less sense in light of your new priorities. Everything that used to matter now feels arbitrary. And it seems futile to try rebuilding the old way of doing life. As confusing or as difficult as that may be, it's good.
This is how my friend Jimmy felt. A Canadian from Ontario who grew up in a good Dutch Reformed family, he's never lacked a theological explanation for anything. The church has quickly resolved any philosophical dilemma he's ever had.
But for Jimmy, that wasn't enough. He didn't want pat answers; he wanted to experience truth.
Last year, Jimmy left on a six-month stint to Latin America. He wasn't exactly sure at the time what he believed about church or God. Ali he knew was this: life had grown dull. Despite growing up in a polite, middle-class family, his life was missing something. He knew it wasn't actually in the southern hemisphere, but maybe, he hoped, he would find something in the going, in the falling apart. Maybe his heart would break enough that he'd be able to see clearly, to actually feel something.
I spoke with Jimmy the other week. 1 wanted to know why, at a time when plenty of his friends are buying houses and having babies, he refuses to settle down. His answer was simple: he travels to remember that he's not done yet. The uncertainty of moving around reminds him of the fickleness of life and what's really important.
"When I travel," he told me on a Skype call from Peru, "my problems slide into the context of the rest of the world. Things that were building up at home with work or relationships or whatever become contextual, and it helps me to understand the meaning of those struggles and maybe how to better respond to them. Traveling helps me realize what my preferences are, who my true friends and family are, and where my home is. It gives me a clearer understanding of the need to have an anchor in this uncertain, unsteady life." For Jimmy, the leaving reminds him of the importance of staying.
DYING TO LIVE
I've known a few "cutters"—people who cut themselves with a razor blade or pair of scissors. Unfortunately, this form of self-mutilating is a dangerously growing trend among young adults. However, there is an important lesson to be learned here. I always thought people cut themselves because they were suicidal, that they wanted to die. But in fact the exact opposite is true. Most cutters I know cut themselves not because they want to die, but because they want to live. ]he world of comfort has slowly crept around them, intoxicating them with a dullness of life that makes everything £eel cloudy and confusing. Cutting, in their minds, is the only way to feel alive again.
Although terribly misguided, there is truth in this understanding of pain and life. Coming back to grips with life as it was meant to be lived will hurt. It will bring discomfort. You will have to bear the burdens of others and carry those whose legs can no longer take them where they need to go. You will have to suffer, to endure, to persevere—not just for yourself, but for others. And it will be painful.
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1: "We Must Be Wrecked"
Chapter 2: "The Identity Problem"
Chapter 3: "Hope and Pain"
Chapter 4: "How I Was Wrecked"
Chapter 5: "You Must Commit"
Chapter 6: "The Fruit of Commitment"
Chapter 7: "Walking Away"
Chapter 8: "Get a Job"
Chapter 9: "Going Where You Don't Want to Go"
Chapter 10: "Wrecking Others"
What People are Saying About This
In His upside-down Kingdom, God promises we can actually find our life by giving it away to others. What is your God-given passion for serving? What is outside of you and bigger than you that demands your time, talent and treasure? I encourage you to ponder that as you read Jeff’s thoughts in Wrecked. The result will be life changing … and you may be surprised to discover that the life changed could be yours.
—Dr. Wess Stafford, President and CEO, Compassion International
The dissatisfaction we feel has a surprising remedy, and this beautiful book tells us what it is: we need to change, and we need to be broken. The lessons of Wrecked will lead you through the wilderness.
—Chris Guillebeau, Author, The $100 Startup
A stunning debut, this book—admittedly—wrecked me. In Wrecked, Jeff Goins held nothing back, using his poetic writing and passion for change-making to call me to action in my own life. He'll do the same for you.
—Claire Díaz-Ortiz, Social Innovation, Twitter, Inc.
It’s been said, "The true Gospel comforts the disturbed and disturbs the comfortable." Jeff reminds us that Jesus not only came to heal broken hearts—but also to shatter the status quo. Let his book be an invitation to say ‘yes’ to Jesus and then do something daring with your life. May it help you become a holy nonconformist to all the patterns of this world that are out of sync with the upside-down Kingdom of God. May it give you the courage to join the revolutionary work of Jesus, loving people back to life and building a new world in the shell of the old one.
—Shane Claiborne, author, activist, and lover of Jesus, www.facebook.com/ShaneClaiborne
Although Jeff Goins writes of his experience working with missionaries and ministry, this is truly a guide to growing up and committing to a worthy cause. Yes, young people will find this book immensely practical and helpful, but so will anyone of any age who wants to do work that matters. Perhaps you are like me, at the stage of life where you wonder if you are chasing air and evaluating your overall purpose and impact—this book is also for you. Get Wrecked and walk away changed.
—Carrie Wilkerson, Author, The Barefoot Executive, Host of BarefootExecutive.TV
Jeff Goins wrote my favorite kind of book. First he lived it, then he wrote it. The result is a book that everyone who has ever wondered "Is there more to life than this?" should read.
—Jon Acuff, Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author of Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job & Your Dream Job
Jeff Goins has written an inspiring, instructive, exciting, forceful call for young people. I'd love to give it to almost every twenty-something I know.
—Shauna Niequist, author of Cold Tangerines and Bittersweet, www.shaunaniequist.com.
There is a life that most of us dream of living. Chances are you won't drift into that life. But there are some clear choices you can make along the way to set yourself up to receive all that God has for you. Jeff does a masterful job of gracefully yet purposely helping us take the steps of faith so many of us need to take.
—Pete Wilson, Pastor of Cross Point Church, Author of Plan B and Empty Promises
With Wrecked, Jeff Goins goes way beyond a simple call to action. He gives you a manifesto for getting off the sidelines and living the kind of life you've only dreamed about. Be warned—Wrecked will change you! This is one of the best books I've read in a long time.
—Mark Lee, Guitarist and founding member of Third Day
Jeff Goins is a precise and passionate speaker which is also true of his writing. No unnecessary verbiage—to the point truth that will change our lives. I like that...I like that a lot.
—Patsy Clairmont, Author, Stained Glass Hearts
Jeff Goins has written a clear-eyed book about the grit and glory of growing up and choosing commitment over complacency. His perspective is refreshing and at times hard to hear, but it brims with practical wisdom for those who yearn to serve a purpose larger than themselves.
—Ian Morgan Cron, Author, Jesus, My Father, the CIA, and Me: a Memoir…of Sorts
Wrecked is a book you should be deliciously afraid to read because it's content will collide into your conscience and derail your future into a life more meaningful than the one you've lived before.
—Sarah Cunningham, Author, Idea Junkie, and Blogger who tries to bring people together around good things. www.sarahcunningham.org
Wrecked fulfills two rare deliverables: it messes with you (in a good way), and introduces you to the fantastic writing of a new author you'll certainly be hearing more from.
—Mark Oestreicher, Partner, The Youth Cartel
I've read Jeff's writing for years, and I can tell you: What he talks about, he lives. As someone who has given his life to helping the least and less-fortunate, he shares his heart-rending experiences and struggles in a voice that resonates. Read this book, but be warned: You won't finish it the same way you started it.
—Anne Jackson, Speaker and Author, Mad Church Disease and Permission to Speak Freely
I loved this book. The stories filled me with a desire to be more, risk more, and live more. Who would have guessed that being wrecked is really the beginning to living? If you want to live, get Wrecked — read it, then do it!
—Ken Davis, Author, Fully Alive, Speaker, and Communications Trainer
Wrecked reminded me of my own times of beautiful wrecking, and it wooed me once again toward a sacrificial, joyful life. The stories, the writing, the theology all beckoned me to live intentionally, work hard, and obey Jesus afresh.
—Mary DeMuth, Author, Everything: What You Gain and What You Give to Become Like Jesus
If you're someone who is groping in the dark without purpose or inspiration, Wrecked just might be the flashlight you need, enabling you to see the next step in the journey.
—Frank Viola, Author, From Eternity to Here and Jesus Manifesto, www.frankviola.org
Jeff has the rare gift of moving hearts. You'll find encouragement, be inspired to step out of your comfort zone, and live with purpose. Enjoy the journey.
—Alli Worthington, Founder of Picha Global and BlissDom
My dreams and goals have all been sideswiped by something much greater than I could muster up in my dream machine of a brain. So many times we chase and run after a dream and dodge the very things that will get us closer to the dream if we would only allow them to. Jeff has taken stories in this book and wrapped practical advice on what to do when life hits the fan. We think it's over. But it’s only just beginning...
—Carlos Whittaker, Blogger, Musician, & Creative Coach
In Wrecked, Jeff Goins emerges as a noteworthy and influential voice for this generation. As great writers do, he frames the pain that accompanies compassion with words and stories I won’t soon forget. Reader beware: change is coming and Jeff Goins holds the megaphone.
—Emily P. Freeman, Author, Grace for the Good Girl
Everything Jeff Goins writes is purposeful, fervent, and full of humanity. The stories and ideas in this book will break you, shape you, and ultimately fill you.
—Matthew Paul Turner, Author, Churched and Hear No Evil
If you're looking to be stirred towards something more, encouraged toward your true calling, and challenged to act accordingly, even when it's hard, read Wrecked and join the adventure of a lifetime!
—Cheri Keaggy, Dove Award-winning Singer/Songwriter, Speaker, Blogger
Wrecked is a creative mix of wit, transparency, and courageous thinking that will catch you off guard and lead you on an unexpected exploration into your own soul and calling. Open this book if you dare to live life to the fullest.
—Charles Lee, CEO of Ideation, & Author, Good Idea. Now What?
The compassion Christ calls us to can sometimes break us in ways that completely wreck our former way of living in our comfortable little worlds. Goins challenges readers to live life not only on purpose but with purpose—remembering that none of us gets a second chance at life. If you are ready to make a difference—a real, raw, life-altering difference in the world—then Wrecked is a must-read.
—Lorie Newman, Speaker, Orphan Advocate, and Author, A Cup of Cold Water in His Name: 60 Ways to Care for the Needy
Jeff Goins is one of the freshest writers coming on the scene today. He not only brings a raw, authentic perspective to the issues we struggle with most but also a surprising wisdom that is far beyond his years. Wrecked is a must-read because if you haven't been, you will be. And this book is for such a time as this.
—Ben Arment, Creator of STORY and Dream Year
Vulnerable and gritty, Wrecked is going to dig into your heart and change you. You will be compelled to live.
—Sarah Mae, Author, Desperate
In a world that teaches us to spend our lives building hollow monuments to our comfort and success, the message of Wrecked rings true: we must allow our monuments to be knocked down in order to make way for something that will endure. Wrecked is a guide down a beautiful, broken road, and I'm grateful for it.
—Scott McClellan, Director of Echo Hub and Echo Conference
Wrecked is one of those books that had me continually saying ‘yes’ under my breath. Jeff is a great writer whose engaging storytelling resonated deeply with me at every turn of the page. He was able to put in 150 pages the transformational journey we all wrestle with early in life. As a therapist and pastor, this is exactly the type of book I can’t wait to put in the hands of the people I counsel and minister to.
—Rhett Smith, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Author, The Anxious Christian: Can God Use Your Anxiety for Good?
This life we live isn’t meant to be comfortable and easy. We’ll all experience and encounter situations that will challenge us to look at the world differently. How we respond will determine the kind of impact we leave. Wrecked will inspire anyone who desires to do more with their life.
—Crystal Renaud, Author, Dirty Girls Come Clean
In our story-centered culture we've learned that personal growth often comes through pain, struggle, and conflict, but we're still drawn to comfort over calamity. Through his own story of being wrecked, Jeff Goins leads us into a calling of giving our lives away for the sake of God being able to use us for His glory. Wrecked is the challenging book needed for upcoming generations looking to find their place in our world.
—Tyler Braun, Author, Why Holiness Matters—We've Lost Our Way But We Can Find It Again
Through the years, I've mentored many young men, but few of them have taken direction like Jeff Goins. His maturity and commitment are exemplary; he is years ahead of his peers. The writing in this book reflects that — a heart of humility and passion and a life that lives it.
—Seth Barnes, Executive Director, Adventures in Missions
We’re all creatures of habit. We want life to go as planned. Predictable. Neat. Tidy. If that’s what you really want, put this book down and walk away. Because Jeff's powerful stories and profound insights will scrape the scales from your eyes and shift your focus outward to a suffering world. The grip on your perfect personal reality will slip, because Wrecked will inject it with awareness, compassion, and room for others. Prepare to have your heart dislocated—for the better.
—Tor Constantino, Author, A Question of Faith, Founder, www.thedailyretort.com
“I better warn you. This book is not going to leave you alone. It hasn't left me alone, even when I wished it would. Jeff writes true things, with heart and integrity, and that's what gets under my skin and into my soul and makes everything get all, well, wrecked. This is the kind of book that people remember reading because it coincides with making big choices. Bravo to Jeff for living it first and then writing it well.”
—Annie Downs, Author, Perfectly Unique, and Writer at www.AnnieBlogs.com
Wrecked is not your typical book about brokenness. Jeff's writing is deep and poignant. He has written a guide to the life most of us are too timid to live—the one in between the thrills and adventures. This book will force you to think differently; it did for me.
—Chad Jarnagin, Songwriter, Artist
Through brilliant storytelling, Jeff captures the heart and soul of those who will not be satisfied with watching others help others. They want to make their days count. In the pages of Wrecked, I found a new identity for myself. I want to be wrecked. When you read this book, you will, too.
—Ron Edmondson, Pastor, Leadership Consultant, and Blogger
What Jeff talks about in Wrecked is more than mere theory. As a twenty-something who has dedicated his life to serving a purpose bigger than himself, he shares the greatest opportunity his generation faces: the opportunity to make a difference. This is a book written from the trenches, and is real and relevant to the real world.
—Wayne Elsey, Founder of Soles4Souls, Head Coach of Wayne Elsey Enterprises
This book will cause you to take a long overdue look in the mirror. Mired in complacency? Prone to selfish behavior? Yeah, me neither—or so I thought until I read Wrecked. Jeff Goins will equip you with the practical steps needed to do something about it. If you're ready to be challenged, read it now. If you're comfortable where you are, read it anyway.
—Jeff Brown, Award-winning Broadcaster
For some of us, we try so hrd to avoid pain in our lives that we avoid making the right choices. We choose to reject God’s guidance because we value how we feel more than we value the
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I bought 'Wrecked' on a whim, via recommendation of another blogger I follow. I read the synopsis and was immediately excited for it, and ordered it right away. I could not put this book down. Jeff writes poignantly and familiarly that has you feeling like your friend is giving you instruction on how to REALLY live for Jesus. I mean, really, truly, wholly live for Him. This book not only instructs you in how to get wrecked (which can be done in your own backyard), but encourages you to stay that way so you can continue to serve, and be compassionate to those in your community, or within a ministry that really pulls on your heart strings. This book could not have come at a more perfect time for myself and my husband who are twentysomethings look for 'more' in a world that has lost touch with what 'more' really means. Jeff will inspire you, encourage you, and make you take bold steps toward being a compassionate, passionate Christian. If you're serious about taking steps to really change your life, and turn it upside down for God, you have to read this book.
Jeff Goins touches on a subject that most people have learned one way or another. We realize as humans that a lot of times we have to hit rock bottom in order for our hearts to change. Jeff challenges readers to live the life they have been called to after being wrecked. He reminds us that we have been wrecked for a purpose and uses personal stories to help us act upon our being wrecked.
Jeff has always told it as he sees it. That's why I've followed his blog for so long. He doesn't disappoint in this book. He sends a challenge to the reader - and one that I interpreted as: OPEN YOUR EYES. I connected to this book instantly and found myself highlighting text on nearly every page. I've lived a rather sheltered and safe life, and simply reading this book called me to open my eyes and look around at the world. The world is hurting - but to help it, I needed to hurt too. As Jeff writes, "Doing good sometimes feels bad." It's a great book, and one that I will share with many people and groups, including my church. We all need to get a little "wrecked" - and this book is a great first step.
I admit that Goins has already been a favorite of mine for a while. What first interested me in what he has to say was his transparency. He is open, honest and teaches us to learn with him through his mistakes, victories and character. This is a book that embodies all of those great qualities and more. If I weren't already a fan of Goins, this would have made me one. When I first started reading, I was just over halfway through before I realized I hadn't set it down since I picked it up. I plan to read it again as often as possible and found myself taking notes as I started reading through it again this morning! I'm thinking about all of the people that will benefit from reading it and found myself quoting Goins during a discussion the other day. This book is for leaders while being for those who think they have nothing to offer. For artists and for those those that have always been too afraid to express themselves. For the analytical mind that is a dreamer at heart. For the suffering and the triumphant. For this generation and all of the ones that proceeded it. No matter the background, no matter the circumstance or the season of life, Wrecked has something for everyone. Like the writings of the great C.S. Lewis, I feel like Goins is a voice that will continue to inspire, guide and give reason to celebrate. This review doesn't even give the book justice. Every loved one with an ability to read is going to be getting a copy of this book from me! Do yourself a favor and check it out!
This book put life back into perspective for me. It's too easy to be comfortable in a nation where entitlement overpowers everything else. We're too focused on our jobs, getting the next best thing, being perfect, rather than really figuring out what our purpose is. "Wrecked" calls for you to stop making excuses and start doing something. It will challenge you to stop thinking about yourself and paying attention to others around you. If your life is comfortable, there's a problem. My life is way too comfortable and thanks to Jeff Goins and his powerful words, I'm ready to step back into the uncomfortable.
Are you comfortable? If you have traveled on a plane at some point a flight attendant may ask this question. Why? Why is being comfortable so important? In his book Wrecked, Jeff Goins shares stories of how his life was altered--wrecked--by the world around him. Seeing other people suffering, hurting, needy, and desperate caused him to reflect on his own life, his worldview, and his calling. This was not an easy book to read as it challenged me to live outside myself and not become self-absorbed. I was spurred to live for more than just me and make a differnce in the lives of others. I was wrecked reading this book and I am sure others will as well. *I received a complimentary copy of this book from Moody Publishers in exchange for my honest review.
Mr. Goins has for some time now been building a career by writing about writing. Most of his many readers express gratitude for the so-called inspiration that Goins provides for them. Of course, these same readers are seeking inspiration. In life one tends to find exactly what one seeks.. In this book Mr. Goins encourages readers to leave their comfort zones. Perhaps many twenty-something young adults can afford to pick up and leave home in search of a way to live for Jesus. Perhaps not. Jeff Goins book is cute in a naive way. Nothing special here about the author's prose. Good newspaper article material. Even better grist for the Reader's Digest mill. Older folks are likely to smile as they read _Wrecked_.
This book is profound. Just a little bit of the book makes me want to buy the full version.
We often hear; this book is a must read. Well, this book is a must read. It gets to the core of every person that has ever desired to live their destiny and purpose. I highly recommend this book. I have started buying copies and giving them to friends, you will do the same when you read it.
Wrecked, by Jeffey Goins, is one of those books that pulls at the spirit in one of the most ironic ways- speaking about pain. Geared for those seeking to fulfill a deep calling in their soul for service, e(specially restless Millenials), Goins delivers an elegant classic about spritual development and personal achievement. This message is not delivered in the typical "You can do it" way, rather it is delivered in gritty realism (peppered with pop references) experienced by him and others as they stepped into a new, more powerful way of being. It speaks poignant truth without being overtly preachy, which is a refreshing break from other "religious" books. Chapter 4,which covers the author's own personal experience of being "wrecked", demonstrates Goins' ability to convey insight and grace with just a few of words. The later chapters delve into even more complex aspects of service and the helping relationship that I never even considered, though I knew they existed. I highly recommend this book for anyone going to the human services or in the nonprofit field, because it will bring you face to face with the full gamut of service, both positive and negative. Personally, I'm going to recommend it my Social Work teachers and two friends who are going into ministry The book could have been better broken up with principles ane steps, although I understand the author's reluctance to use it. Jeff Goins makes the point that there is no clear cut path to your destiny. At times it's messy, complicated sometimes lonely and other times incredibly gratifying. Overall, the book is life-altering and (erroneous) belief-shattering book that will take those who read it outside their comfort zone into the reality that we live in and away from the illusion that we chase. I was changed by the book and look forward to purchasing the print copy (I've read the Kindle edition) and reviewing it on Saturdays. Comments Be prepared to re-read the book as a lot of information is packed into this book. Doing this will ensure that you can digest the material. Read this book with paper and pencil because you will encounter quotes, have unique insights, and ideas that you will want to act upon. This book (especially the last chapters of the book) hold great advice and tips for people in all phases of life from high school to older age. The book may make some people uncomfortable, it deals with topics that are often glossed over in ".Christian" or "religious" books, including sacrifice, pain, and uncertainty when following the spiritual path. Comment | Permalink
This book is different. And “different” IS what you are looking for. Close your eyes and listen to your heart beating. Remember yourself as a kid. Think back to the first time you ever reached out to help someone. Maybe it was lending a pencil or some milk money. Maybe it was patting the back of a friend after they struck out in little league. Maybe it was giving your last stick of gum away or even joking with your kid brother to get him to flash that toothless smile after he skinned his knee. Whatever the moment was, it felt right. It was good. You were reaching outside of your self-centered child world to ease the life of another. Do it again. Read this book. Realize that you have been given a gift—a gift of extra pencils, milk money, mercy, gum, or humor and the reason you’ve been given that gift is for the benefit of others. Now, open your eyes. Open your eyes to a world filled with pain and suffering. Truly look into the eyes of the sadness you’ve been ignoring. Keep going even though it is uncomfortable. Be prepared to cry and realize that you are completely helpless to fix it. Then, lean on the Source of true compassion and let Christ strengthen you to do the next thing. (Even if that next thing is staying put.) Whether you are a businessman, a student, a barista, a grandma, a doctor, a plumber, or a stay-at-home mom, I think reading this book and letting it penetrate your heart and mind will change you. “It’s about pouring out the gifts we’ve been given for the benefit of others.” (pg 155) “In a world that refuses to be healed, we must face the fact that we are not the heroes of our stories. It teaches us to rely on something bigger than ourselves and teaches the source of true compassion.” (pg. 34)
Wrecked had me in tears by the end of chapter one. Not tears of joy or or sorrow necessarily, but tears because Mr. Goins had put into words all of the emotions and thoughts that I have recently gone through during a time of growth and change. From there the book continued to move me with tales of the author's own experiences and heart-warming stories of people around the world that have sacrificed their lives and plans for the sake of the poor and lonely. It challenged me to move beyond a desire to help others and gave me a direction to pursue in achieving my goals of making a difference in my community. If you are searching for meaning in life and have a desire to make an impact on your world for good, you MUST get this book. It will change you.
“To be wrecked begins with an experience that pulls you out of your comfort zone and self-centeredness, whether you want it to or not.” Thus is the compelling definition of what it means to be wrecked, and the premise of Goins’ book. Wrecked is a book I took in ever so slowly, savoring each word – much like I do when I’m sipping on the best-made white chocolate mocha that my neighborhood Starbucks has to offer. I had to take my time to read this book because so much of it provoked and challenged me. Wrecked explores our innate need to find worth and significance, to matter and make a difference in a world inhabited by over seven billion people. Thus, Jeff’s statement, “I want to be the kind of person who doesn’t stall, who faces a decision and boldly steps into it, aware of all the other opportunities I’m missing. I don’t want to be afraid of what I’m missing; instead, I want to embrace what I get to experience” spoke expressly to my heart and mind because it echoes the thoughts and sentiment of my heart. For me, being Wrecked is not an experience I want to run away from, it’s something I want to run to. If you’re looking for the inspiration and motivation to change your paradigm, come out of your comfort zone, and receive affirmation for your desires to impact and influence your world, then Wrecked is the book for you. Read it, and watch your life change. Read it – and be wrecked. Blessings, Michelle Matthews Calloway (ASwirlGirl)
If you're looking for a book that will open your eyes and your heart to the needs around us this is a book for you. It is filled with touching stories and deep insights that will move and soften your heart. Each time that I picked up the book I was deeply moved and/or inspired. You won't be able to read this book and walk away the same as you were before. Get ready to be wrecked in order to make real changes.
Wrecked: by author Jeff Goins. We live our pleasure seeking, stuff accumulating lives and try to keep the big secret. Pleasure seeking does not make us happy. When we can stand the secret no longer, what do we do now? We are listless, no direction, no plans. We live in fear. We’re Wrecked! Goins: “What it means to be wrecked—what it really means—is that you do the hard thing. You step into discomfort. And this is how life is…. Life is not about you.” “Welcome the anxiety that comes with doing the right choice.” Understand what I am saying here. Buy it!
This book will be a challenging read for most people because we've become so used to the pursuit of our own comfort, happiness and desires. Author Jeff Goins shares his personal stories of being "wrecked" by first hand experiences facing poverty and homelessness - here and abroad - that stirred him to fearlessly serve others and engage life. This book will stretch and enlarge your own life as well - if you let it.
Did you used to long for the American dream? Did you want to live in a beautiful house with a beautiful spouse, raise beautiful children, and work at a beautiful job with a beautiful paycheck? But now you're thinking maybe all of that isn't so...beautiful...and you're wondering if there is something more? Something more fulfilling? Something with purpose? If you have reached that stage in your life, grab a copy of Wrecked by Jeff Goins. It won't be comfortable, but he'll show you how to find the something more you've been yearning for - and never go back. Jeff is a talented writer with an easy, down-to-earth style that is fun to read. I'm so glad I read this book. Highly recommend!
I want to act on what is most important, but it first requires knowing what that is. And discovering what that is, my friend, is the process that I could easily call--being WRECKED. Jesus said it like this, "If any of you wants to be My follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your, cross and follow Me. If you try to hold on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for My sake, you will save it." Matthew 16:24-25 NLT Jeff Goins did a very good job teaching us what this means. I would recommend Wrecked: When a Broken World Slams into your Comfortable Life, to you. Jeff has written it courageously, and transparently. It will stir your heart and challenge you to pursue God to find your true calling. God has used it as a word-in-due season for me.
Jeff’s book is a must read for anyone who has wondered if they were created for something more. He addresses why we all have an innate feeling of emptiness in our lives and why if we remain inactive we will never truly be filled. He compels us, “to be wrecked with a deep, reckless faith that confounds the world and maybe even puzzles us at times. It will be worth it.”
Wrecked doesn't sound like a good thing. However, less than halfway through the book, I had different thoughts. I try to be grateful for hard times because of the lessons they offer, but Wrecked offers a contrasting perspective, one of wanting for those times. I pocketed ideas about making tough times not just about me, but about others. In other words, making our wreckage matter. My favorite sentence is "Being wrecked is about us, but compassion is about others." Jeff makes it crystal clear that never the two shall meet without a commitment on our parts. He wrote Wrecked to encourage us to do just that, commit to being wrecked and commit to making a difference in a wrecked world.
Jeff Goins' book "Wrecked: When a Broken World Slams into your Comfortable Life" is page after page of thought-provoking illustrations of a life in pursuit of purpose. A life well lived is not found in the comfort of your everyday life. It's found in the moments that blindside you. When you're willing to do the unthinkable and try something new. It requires purpose and intentionality. "Wrecked" will open your eyes to a new way of living that will blow your mind. I would caution readers that this is not a haphazard read. "Wrecked" will tug your heart strings and challenge you to live life for more than yourself. I highly recommend this book without reservation as a call to selfless living. Note: I received an advanced copy of "Wrecked" for the purpose of writing a review.
This book will challenge and inspire you to see the world differently with fresh eyes. In it, Jeff Goins, writer, tells you how his life changed when it slammed into a broken world. He also encourages you along the way to take the same journey. The end result will leave you wrecked for good.