“[A] high-spirited graphical memoir . . . Gharib’s wisdom about the power and limits of racial identity is evident in the way she draws.”—NPR
NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY NPR • The New York Public Library • Kirkus Reviews
I Was Their American Dream is at once a coming-of-age story and a reminder of the thousands of immigrants who come to America in search for a better life for themselves and their children. The daughter of parents with unfulfilled dreams themselves, Malaka navigated her childhood chasing her parents' ideals, learning to code-switch between her family's Filipino and Egyptian customs, adapting to white culture to fit in, crushing on skater boys, and trying to understand the tension between holding onto cultural values and trying to be an all-American kid.
Malaka Gharib's triumphant graphic memoir brings to life her teenage antics and illuminates earnest questions about identity and culture, while providing thoughtful insight into the lives of modern immigrants and the generation of millennial children they raised. Malaka's story is a heartfelt tribute to the American immigrants who have invested their future in the promise of the American dream.
Praise for I Was Their American Dream
“In this time when immigration is such a hot topic, Malaka Gharib puts an engaging human face on the issue. . . . The push and pull first-generation kids feel is portrayed with humor and love, especially humor. . . . Gharib pokes fun at all of the cultures she lives in, able to see each of them with an outsider’s wry eye, while appreciating them with an insider’s close experience. . . . The question of ‘What are you?’ has never been answered with so much charm.”—Marissa Moss, New York Journal of Books
“Forthright and funny, Gharib fiercely claims her own American dream.”—Booklist
“Thoughtful and relatable, this touching account should be shared across generations.”– Library Journal
“This charming graphic memoir riffs on the joys and challenges of developing a unique ethnic identity.”– Publishers Weekly
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Reading Group Guide
1. What is the significance of the title? What does the American dream mean to you? What does it mean to other members of your family—parents, siblings, grandparents?
2. What is Malaka’s family like? What are their values? What kind of environment have each of Malaka’s parents tried to create for her and her siblings? From where do you think they draw their strength?
3. What do you think of the graphic memoir format? Do you think the illustrations and interactive elements (the paper dolls, mini-zine, microaggressions bingo, and Tagalog flashcards) enhance or detract from Malaka’s story? Why or why not?
4. As a first-generation Filipino-Egyptian-American living in California, Malaka often felt as if she didn’t belong. As an American visiting her Egyptian family in Cairo, she felt like an outsider, too. How do you think Malaka’s relationship to belonging affected her sense of self?
5. By the time she reaches high school, Malaka has been influenced greatly by the pop culture of the late ’90s and early 2000s. As a young woman of color, one of the things she grapples with is the glorification of whiteness. Did pop culture influence you to act or look a certain way when you were a teenager? Do you remember any positive representation of people of color in the media? How does representation affect the way teenagers think about themselves and the world?
6. In high school, Malaka and her classmates used specific labels to get to know one another. Words like whitewashed, poser, banana, twinkie, and FOB, each have their own distinct meaning. What do you think of labels—are they helpful? Offensive? Unifying? Divisive?
7. Fill out your own microaggressions bingo. If you had to create your own bingo board, what would be on it?
8. One of the most shareable items from a particular culture is food. What role does food play in Malaka’s story? How does her relationship with food reflect her relationship with her heritage? Does it change over time?
9. Describe the writer’s voice. Which aspects of Malaka’s character do you identify with or like the most, the least?
10. In the first chapter, Malaka’s mom implores, “You have to be better than us.” What does this mean to you? Has Malaka’s story reflected an answer to her mother’s plea? How? Do you think you are “better” than your parents?