Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution
Discover how mindfulness can help you resolve the inevitable problems that arise in your personal and professional relationships in this “groundbreaking, creative” guide to Zen-based conflict resolution (Jan Chozen Bays)

Conflict is going to be part of your life—as long as you have relationships, hold down a job, or have dry cleaning to be picked up. Bracing yourself against it won’t make it go away, but if you approach it consciously, you can navigate it in a way that not only honors everyone involved but makes it a source of deep insight as well. Seasoned mediator Diane Hamilton provides the skill set you need to engage conflict with wisdom and compassion, and even—sometimes—to be grateful for it. She teaches how to:

• Cultivate the mirror-like quality of attention as your base
• Identify the three personal conflict styles and determine which one you fall into
• Recognize the three fundamental perspectives in any conflict situation and learn to inhabit each of them
• Turn conflicts in families, at work, and in every kind of interpersonal relationship into win-win situations

Full of practical exercises that can be applied to any kind of relationship, Everything Is Workable gives readers the tools they need to cultivate dynamic, vital, and effective relationships in their personal lives and at work.
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Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution
Discover how mindfulness can help you resolve the inevitable problems that arise in your personal and professional relationships in this “groundbreaking, creative” guide to Zen-based conflict resolution (Jan Chozen Bays)

Conflict is going to be part of your life—as long as you have relationships, hold down a job, or have dry cleaning to be picked up. Bracing yourself against it won’t make it go away, but if you approach it consciously, you can navigate it in a way that not only honors everyone involved but makes it a source of deep insight as well. Seasoned mediator Diane Hamilton provides the skill set you need to engage conflict with wisdom and compassion, and even—sometimes—to be grateful for it. She teaches how to:

• Cultivate the mirror-like quality of attention as your base
• Identify the three personal conflict styles and determine which one you fall into
• Recognize the three fundamental perspectives in any conflict situation and learn to inhabit each of them
• Turn conflicts in families, at work, and in every kind of interpersonal relationship into win-win situations

Full of practical exercises that can be applied to any kind of relationship, Everything Is Workable gives readers the tools they need to cultivate dynamic, vital, and effective relationships in their personal lives and at work.
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Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution

Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution

by Diane Musho Hamilton
Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution

Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution

by Diane Musho Hamilton

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Discover how mindfulness can help you resolve the inevitable problems that arise in your personal and professional relationships in this “groundbreaking, creative” guide to Zen-based conflict resolution (Jan Chozen Bays)

Conflict is going to be part of your life—as long as you have relationships, hold down a job, or have dry cleaning to be picked up. Bracing yourself against it won’t make it go away, but if you approach it consciously, you can navigate it in a way that not only honors everyone involved but makes it a source of deep insight as well. Seasoned mediator Diane Hamilton provides the skill set you need to engage conflict with wisdom and compassion, and even—sometimes—to be grateful for it. She teaches how to:

• Cultivate the mirror-like quality of attention as your base
• Identify the three personal conflict styles and determine which one you fall into
• Recognize the three fundamental perspectives in any conflict situation and learn to inhabit each of them
• Turn conflicts in families, at work, and in every kind of interpersonal relationship into win-win situations

Full of practical exercises that can be applied to any kind of relationship, Everything Is Workable gives readers the tools they need to cultivate dynamic, vital, and effective relationships in their personal lives and at work.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781611800678
Publisher: Shambhala
Publication date: 12/03/2013
Pages: 240
Product dimensions: 5.74(w) x 8.46(h) x 0.65(d)

About the Author

DIANE MUSHO HAMILTON is a Zen teacher and priest and was the first Director of the Office of Alternative Dispute Resolution of the Utah Judiciary.  The recipient of numerous awards for her work in mediation, she is also cofounder of Two Arrows Zen, a practice organization with centers in Salt Lake City and in the red rock country of Southern Utah.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction xi

1 Conflict Is Good News 1

2 Inner Peace, Outer Peace 7

3 Intention: The True North 15

4 Attention and Awareness 24

5 Scary, yet Exciting 33

6 Three Conflict Styles 41

7 The Marvel of Multiple Perspectives 53

8 Three Perspectives, Three Truths 61

9 Speak for Yourself: The Importance of the First-Person Perspective 71

10 Listening: The Art of Second Person 84

11 Witnessing: Through the Lens of Third Person 93

12 Everything and Nothing 102

13 Negotiation 111

14 Conflict and Creativity 120

15 Reframing: The Power of Interpretation 130

16 Giving and Receiving Feedback 138

17 The Shadow in Conflict 148

18 Evolving Worldviews 160

19 The Compassionate Heart 173

20 Expanding the Heart 182

21 Great Rivalry, Great Intimacy 191

22 Endless Practice 195

Notes 201

Bibliography 207

Index 209

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