The #1 New York Times best seller. More than 5 million units sold.
Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
The Love Dare, as featured in the popular new movie Fireproof (from the makers of Facing the Giants), is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take. It’s time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage. Take the dare!
Anonymous
Posted May 6, 2009
My husband (38) and I (33) had been separated for a year and a half. He moved back to Virginia while I stayed in North Carolina with our four sons'.
Around April 6th, I went to Virginia for a week for basketball camp for their spring break. It had been a couple of months since they had seen their father so I agreed to arrange for us all to spend a day or two together.
The first day, my husband and I did small talk. We just talked enough to stay clear of an argument really. But as the days went on, I noticed something different about him. He talked different, he looked different and most importantly I began to see God in him. Saturday night, we stayed up all night talking. At the end of our talk, he asked if I wanted to try it God's way.
Well, even though we have four son's and have been together for fourteen years, I was still hesitant. We had done so much to hurt each other that I doubted that our relationship could be repaired. I told him that I didn't know but that it would be along process if we tried. In other words, I didn't know if he could forgive me for what I had done to him and myself. Could I forgive him?
We went to church the next day (11th time in 14 years) and heard that the Marriage Ministry was inviting all couples to see a movie called "Fireproof". Well, at the end of the service, we agreed that I would come back to Virginia the next Saturday to attend the movie.
From Monday to Friday, I promise you that the devil worked and worked. We started arguing and fusing to the point that I told him that I wasn't coming.
Oh, but God!
That Saturday i showed up anyway. We watched the movie. I cried and he cried. I laughed and he laughed. We both than became really quiet. We both had done worst to each other than the couple in the movie! How could we allow Satan to just take our family? How did we allow drugs and alcohol to just consume our marriage? Most importantly, how could we forget about God?
That night after the movie, we went to Barnes and Noble to get "The Love Dare". Not surprising, several couples were there also.
Today, we are on Chapter 17. We haven't put it down. We have begun attending church and bible study regularly with our children!
Faith is: "Daring Your Soul to Believe"! We believe in God! We believe in our marriage and the commitment that's needed to keep us together for the next 100 years! May 29th marks ten years of marriage for us!! What the devil meant for bad, God remained faithful through out.
Thank you so much for aiding in saving our marriage!
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Posted December 22, 2008
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As most people might already know, this book is based upon the Christian movie "Fireproof", which is about a man who saves his marriage by completing a character-testing, 40-day list of "dares" suggested to him by his father. Like the movie, the book of course is Christian based as well. <BR/><BR/>I loved the movie and the book is more of the same. However I looked at both of them from the perspective of a person happily married for over 15 years. I can tell you that while I don't practice all the dares in the book, my spouse and I are good about doing many of them- and of course there's always room for improvement. From my personal experience, I feel like concentrating on the kinds of ideas presented in the book have been absolutely key to making our marriage last. <BR/><BR/>Now the book itself also consists of a 40-day list of dares. For each day, there's about a page and a half or so of advice, followed by a specific dare and some space for you to write down your personal reflections. Dares range from things such as practicing patience to writing out a renewal of your vows. The guys will probably particularly like Day 32! <BR/><BR/>As you can tell, I highly recommend going to see the movie and reading the book. In a society that places a high value on looks and money, while sporting a 50% divorce rate, its nice to see more movies and books coming out that get people more focused on the right values in life. Even if you don't do anything more than just glance through the book, you're going to be given something to think about. Other self-help books I enjoyed include "Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World".
24 out of 26 people found this review helpful.
Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.I doubt anyone has been more selfish or inconsiderate with their spouse than I have. Certain recent events in my marriage finally caused me to hit rock bottom and I realized recently that my marriage is in severe jeopardy. I had seen the movie Fireproof last year and I am a Christian (Catholic), and although I was touched by the movie, I did not act on it. I think as a person we all reach a point where we know we must change becuase if we want to be happy, we need to love and be loved, I reached that point.
It was last week that I decided to buy the book and change. I am white collar professional and a father of three wonderful and beautiful daughters who has longed to have a happy marriage, however it was not until I started reading this book that I realized I was my own worst enemy. I am only in Day 7 of the book, but I can honestly say, that my attitude and actions have taken a 180 degree turn for the better. I have already learned it is easier and less stressful to be unselfish than selfish. More importantly I have learned if you love someone than you do so through your actions and without hidden or selfish motives.
Although I know there are many challenges ahead, this book will always be part of my life, and it will inspire me and motivate me to honor, respect, and love my wife from now on. If those who knew me were aware I was writing this they would be literally stunned. The fact is that I now realize how much I love my wife yet up to now only I had only ever told her through words. Actions are far more indicative, but do so because it's how you should treat someone you love, not because you want something out of it. I like how I feel about my actions now because I know their making her happier and that's reason enough to continue. If you truly take this book seriously, than I can promise you that, you, your spouse, and your family will greatly benefit from it.
If your marriage is not what you want it to be, than take this challenge and change it. I do not want to be lonely or unhappy in my marriage, nor does anyone else, but it takes hard work and and alot of effort; this book is about that effort and how you love someone.
You must be open minded and honest with yourself, do not even inform your sposue that you are undertaking this challenge, just do it and see what happens for you, it could change your life, I know because it is changing mine.
If you love your wife, place her in front of everything else but God, including your children and yourself, and never, ever, let anything or anyone come between you.
Good luck.
- If my advice about this book helps even one marriage then it was
worth writing this review.
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Posted April 8, 2009
The person that defines love isn't the one being loved ,but the person that is choosing to love. A big plus is how the lessons build off the previous. It is a short lesson and can easily be reread. It describes why the days challenge is importantand how it is to be put into practice.
In the end it is about what you are choosing to do. Even if the person is not a Christian, it has invaluable lessons.
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Posted September 5, 2009
This book saved my relationship. When my boyfriend and I broke up, I sent him this book as a gift and I bought one for me, read it myself. Now you see, my boyfriend was my bestfriend until we crossed the thin line of platonic friendship to a more intimate one. But, we started acting out like married couples and we ended breaking each other's hearts. After reading the book, we realized that we are truly meant to be together we just need to forgive and love each other unconditionally. The book taught us how and here we are now, getting married in Spring.
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Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.This book was recommended to me by a friend. She was convinced that if I bought the book, reading and doing the dares it would help my relationship with my husband. Minor improvements have been made, but for me it has opened my eyes on how closed hearted I have been and has caused my husband to also have a closed heart. The book is truly beautiful and I hope that other will see that as well. I enjoyed doing dares, but I will say the first 20 days are the most difficult and you really do have make an effort to stay on a course, staying positive, and have patience.
4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.
Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.The Fireproof movie was incredible. It delivered an eye opening message to me personally, that I will never forget. I have watched the movie several times and each time I felt that I was Caleb. My wife and I are divorced, but recently began speaking again! The impact of the movie and it's message, inspired me to order the Love Dare Book. My prayer is that if it's God's will, I have a second chance for my family. This time, doing it God's way!
To those men that are sitting on the fence post trying to do it their way. I challenge you to take a stand for your wife. It's never too late to humble yourself. Don't let your pride hold you back like I did, because it cost me, my marriage.
Please keep me in your prayers. God Bless.
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Posted August 19, 2009
I would recommend this book to all married couples , regardless how you think that your marriage is doing. To love needs work because usually we are quick to point out the other person's issues without pointing out what we are doing to our alord and saviour.
If we stop discovering our mates faults and focus on our relationship with our lord, love would put all issues in persective. Remember that the lord gave us directions and instructions on how to love. He shows us everyday, it is up to us to practice what we are taught.
Above all things love is the greatest. God still shows us how much he loves us. Agape love.
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Posted August 15, 2009
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My initial thought of this book was "This book is only for those couples whose marriage is on the rocks". But when a small group from our church decided to do it together and I got into it, I decided otherwise. I thought my marriage was ok before starting this book, and there are a few daily challenges that my wife and I have been doing on a daily basis anyway, but there also was quite a few daily challenges or "dares" that made me do things I had not done for my wife in a very long times. Discussions that we were called to have that we had not ever had, or just assumed over the years. Dares for caring and loving in ways not previously thought. That being said, I definitely give this book 2 thumbs up, no matter where your marriage is at.
3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.
Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged."The Love Dare" by Stephen Kendrick presented through the release of the movie "Fireproof." Don't laugh! This may be a life changing book for you to invest your time and energy.
I was first exposed to this book through watching the movie "Fireproof" starring Kirk Cameron as a special function with my Sunday School class. To say I was moved, touched, excited, and enthusiastic about obtaining this book is an understatement.
If you are at all familiar with the movie, even if you are not.....yet, you will realize this book is geared toward saving and creating a very positive marriage relationship. Troubled marriages especially but everything revealed in this book applies to ALL marriages. It is for this reason I personally bought the book. My marriage is very healthy and successful lasting 37 years now.
The foundation of learning, growing, and developing a healthy marriage relationship in this book is based on a solidly Christian foundation and Bible teachings. I appreciated the references throughout this 40 day experience to specific and very applicable Bible verses. All of which, reinforce the message, path of development, and the recreation or maintaining of a very healthy marriage relationship with your partner.
If this is even a question in your life or you just wish to continue further on your personal development journey, this book is invaluable. You will learn from and enjoy this book as it is so well presented in 40 individual day teachings for immediate application. A complete 40 day course in marriage contained in only 212 pages. Pretty impressive!
Craig Mattice
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Posted April 20, 2009
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if you are looking for a change of heart this is a wonderful place to start. it's not easy if your marriage is in trouble, however if you want to save it this will definitely help. and for those that already have a good foundation, you will find areas of your heart that may harbor some selfishness and this book helps to put the focus on your mate and off of you, to love more fully and completely. i have really enjoyed the journey so far. i'm on day 32 and love the changes in myself as well as my husband and i've not said anything - it has all been God. thank you Jesus!
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Posted April 1, 2009
Read and do the exercises together.
It will bring you closer to Him and to your mate He gave to you.
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Posted October 31, 2008
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The movie Fire Proof was excellent and The Love Dare helps strengthen the relationship with a married couple. If every couple followed the principals of The Love Dare then every couple would be truly happy. Save your marriage and buy it now!
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Posted October 9, 2008
I just saw the movie last night. I am in the middle of a nasty divorce now. Ike hit Houston and now thats been delayed. He thinks its time to be done. The movie truly hit home. So much I almost walked out twice. I wish they would have come out with this years ago. All I can say is its never too late.
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Posted August 8, 2011
I think this book is great for several different relationships. I am doing it on my sister.
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Posted April 8, 2010
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If your married then this book really is for you! Whether you are in need of some help to get your marriage back on track or your happily married and want to take a great marriage to the next level of intimacy this book draws out the best in you. My husband and I are happily married but this book changed me and my husband noticed and he's become better for it too.It challenges and inspires you but it's not so intimidating that you can't handle it. This book would make a perfect gift for any couple too!
Trust me buy this book, you won't regret it!
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Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.I am single and chose to read this as a devotional. It is very applicable with a practical as well as spiritual approach to love. It gives a realistic understanding of what true love does and how it behaves from a biblical view point. Very insightful.
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Posted June 21, 2009
Once you read the book you will realize that it is for you and not the person you are reading it for.
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Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged."The Love Dare" is an AWESOME companion to the movie "Fireproof." ALL couples, whether married or not, should do this 40 day exercise...just like in the movie. If you haven't seen the movie, watch it! It's absolutely WONDERFUL!
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Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.This book got me so fired up! I love the ideas. My husband and I are still reading this together. I wish there were more books out there like this. Buy it for yourself, your loved one, or friends. Its exciting to read. We haven't got all the way through it yet but it encourages conversation as you go along. Don't hesitate. Get this one and share it! And I noticed too that a lot of the ideas in this book were similar to another book I loved, Nancy Madore's Dancing Princesses, which puts these same concepts of couples working together in story form that really gets you fired up. The books are great to read together.
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Overview
The #1 New York Times best seller. More than 5 million units sold.
Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
The Love Dare, as featured in the popular new movie Fireproof (from the makers of Facing the Giants), is a 40-day challenge for husbands and...