The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums and Tears

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Another breakthrough title in the No-Cry series--for parents of children ages 2 through 8

The No-Cry Discipline Solution is a definite must-have for all parents and caregivers of young children. If you are looking for understandable, effective, and nurturing tools to raise good human beings, let this book be your guide.”

--from the foreword by Tim Seldin, president of the ...

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The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears: Foreword by Tim Seldin

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Another breakthrough title in the No-Cry series--for parents of children ages 2 through 8

The No-Cry Discipline Solution is a definite must-have for all parents and caregivers of young children. If you are looking for understandable, effective, and nurturing tools to raise good human beings, let this book be your guide.”

--from the foreword by Tim Seldin, president of the Montessori

Foundation and chair of the International Montessori Council

The No-Cry Discipline Solution is based on one important fact: parents know their children best. This book turns discipline into a positive, affirming experience by offering a collection of proven techniques that you can custom-tailor to your child's unique personality. This groundbreaking approach allows you to:

  • Achieve the big Cs of parental discipline: cooperation, communication, and consistency
  • Defuse or prevent tantrums and eliminate whining
  • Manage your own anger
  • Uncover and solve the real problem fueling your child's misbehavior
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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly

The author of The No-Cry Sleep Solutionreturns with this guide to helping parents remain in control of their two-to -eight-year-olds. "A child," Pantley points out, "is emotion in motion." She provides a variety of techniques to help rein in out-of-control children, based on a four-part plan that corrects the current behavior, teaches a lesson, helps the child learn control and builds the relationship between the parent and child. Her techniques are not unusual, ranging from telling stories and giving timeout warnings to distractions and simply looking away ("Every once in a while, the best thing you can do for family peace is to turn around, pretend you didn't see it, take a deep breath, and move on to something else"). Where Pantley does break away from the parenting pack is explaining how parents can control themselves. Her suggestions won't be easy for parents to follow, but they make solid sense. The final part of the guide will be the most thumbed-through section: concrete advice for specific problems such as bossiness, sleep issues and sibling disagreements. Attachment parents as well as those looking for a gentle approach will appreciate the wisdom Pantley shares. (July)

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Library Journal

Children and parents are not perfect; discipline is about teaching and learning. These are the basic premises of best-selling parent educator Pantley (The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers), a mother of four who shares her experience-based knowledge of methods of discipline. Stating that all children, parents, and situations are different, she provides readers with a practical selection of tools to correct children's misbehaviors. These are not radical solutions but the oft-repeated practices of enforcing time-outs, building routines, and using praise. Chapters about anger, less common to discipline manuals, cover why parents experience it and include a practical six-step plan for learning to control it. The book concludes with a section on solutions to common behaviors like dawdling, not sharing, and refusing to brush teeth. Sprinkled throughout with quotes from other parents, the text reassures the reader that parenting requires love and effort but not perfection. This book is a practical and easy read as well as a handy reference for parents facing the day-to-day issues of child rearing. Recommended for public libraries.
—Janet Clapp

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780071471596
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing
  • Publication date: 4/25/2007
  • Series: Pantley Series
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 257,130
  • Product dimensions: 8.70 (w) x 10.70 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author

Elizabeth Pantley

is the creator of McGraw-Hill’s

now-classic No-Cry series of

parenting books: The No-Cry Sleep

Solution, The No-Cry Sleep Solution

for Toddlers and Preschoolers, and

The No-Cry Potty Training Solution.

She is the president of Better

Beginnings, a parent education

company, and her school newsletter,

Parent Tips, is distributed nationwide.

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Table of Contents

Foreword     xv
Acknowledgments     xvii
The Foundation for No-Cry Discipline: Essential Parenting Attitudes
Discipline: A Complex Job Made Easier with the Right Outlook     3
Banish the Myths     7
Planning Ahead, Looking Ahead: Your Child as a Teenager     17
Building a Strong Foundation     24
Discipline and Emotional Control     38
The Four Parts to Discipline     42
No-Cry Discipline Parenting Skills and Tools
Everyday Challenges     49
First, Solve the Real Problem     53
Discipline and Cooperation: Choose Your Adventure     69
Reminder Page: No-Cry Discipline Parenting Skills and Tools     106
Tantrums, Fussing, and Whining: The Big Three     107
Reminder Page: Stop the Tantrums, Fussing, and Whining     125
A Peaceful Home: Staying Calm and Avoiding Anger
Searching for Peace     129
Anger: The Shame and the Secret     130
Why Do Parents Get Angry at Their Children?     133
Different Levels of Anger     151
Your Anger: Do You Accidentally Make Things Worse?     154
Having a Plan to Manage Your Anger     162
Reducing Anger-Producing Situations     185
Do You Need More Help?     186
Reminder Page: Six Steps to Staying Calm     188
Specific Solutions for Everyday Problems
Applying No-Cry Parenting Skills to Everyday Problems     191
Baby Talk     194
Backtalk     196
Bath, Not Behaving In     199
Bath, Not Wanting One     201
Bath, Won't Get Out     203
Biting, Child to Adult     205
Biting Other Children     207
Bossiness     211
Car Problems     215
Dawdling     218
Day Care or Preschool, Dropping Off and Picking Up     220
Doesn't Come When Called     222
Hitting a Parent     224
Hitting, Kicking, and Hair Pulling     227
Interrupting     231
Lying     234
Manners     237
Mealtime Behavior     240
Messiness     242
Other People's Undisciplined Children     244
Playtime Behavior     246
Restaurant Behavior     249
Roughhousing or Wild Play     252
Sharing     254
Shopping Misbehavior     258
Sibling Fights     262
Sleep Issues-Bedtime     265
Sleep Issues-Naps     268
Swearing, Bad Language, and Bathroom Jokes     271
Teasing and Name Calling     274
Toothbrushing     277
Traveling     280
Yelling, Screaming, and Shouting     283
Index     287
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  • Posted May 19, 2011

    Every Parents MUST Have Book

    I can honestly say that this is the single most important book that a mother should read, after the obvious What to Expect When You are Expecting. I am always looking for a better way of handling the behavioral challenges that I face with my daughter, not only from her Autism, but because I have had ZERO experience with children prior to having her. I didn't know what to expect with my daughter and for the better part of well... 5 years, I've felt completely inadequate and in the dark.

    The book started out with correcting my outlook on discipline, by talking about the old aged theories and myths and then provided me with a better more appropriate view and attitude on the very behavioral challenges that I face with my daughter.

    It broke down several causes for the behavior problem, bringing me down to my daughters view of things. It was such an eye opener. So many things we take for granted such as not enough sleep, boredom, enough food, or even their frustration with life, which we can so totally take for granted, can cause the tantrums and arguments.

    "Your child's misbehaviors are a direct result of the fact that she cannot control her emotions." was a powerful statement to read as Mrs Pantley also compared the very situation to adults. How many times have we as adults not be able to control our emotions? (definitely more than I'd like to admit) So why do I expect it from somebody who has been in this world for only 5 years?

    She also discusses dealing with our own anger issues by pointing out the ways you might be feeding fuel to the fire, while also providing you with a 6 step control plan. It truly is amazing how much we can get off track and cause more of our own problems without even realizing it.

    I can't recommend this book enough. I still flip through and re-read bits and pieces in it every morning just so I can help remind myself to see things from my daughters eyes, and to retrain my way of thinking and dealing with what is going on with her. Too often we get wrapped up in our own mind, our own frustrations of the world at our adult level, and we forget or simply write off the "problems" a 5 year old has to face.

    Thank you Mrs Pantley for shedding light on all of these issues and helping this mom have a better handle on discipline.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 9, 2011

    A Book with Real-Life Solutions That Really Work!

    As a stressed-out parent who has felt many times like she's reached her limit, I've read many parenting books searching for the answers. Some teach you "the way" to parent. Some have made me feel like a failure as a mom. Some offer advice and solutions that just wouldn't work in real life; at least not MY real life. This book- The No-Cry Discipline Solution- is not like the others. I started reading with a mix of high hopes and low expectations.
    Almost instantly I discovered my new parenting bible! I was able to try out a few methods immediately on my children (I have 4 from 11 months-9 years) and they worked...and more importantly- THEY WERE EASY. My 3 year old is a nightmare when it comes to hand-holding and "walking feet". After reading the book (and on the FIRST try) he is cooperating in a way I never thought would happen. In a restaurant during a negative moment I used another solution I learned from the book and had a family approach me, complimenting how I handled the situation. She said she would have yelled and was amazed at how well my way worked. I had to share my source!
    I love the comments and quotes from parents scattered throughout the book, the humor she injects from time to time and the real-life scenarios that really help and truely work. This is a book worth recommending to every parent. 5 stars all around!

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  • Posted June 25, 2010

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    Great Book for Encouraging Good Behavior without Yelling

    The No-Cry Discipline Solution is an excellent book for parents of children ages two through seven who wish to guide their children on the road of good behavior without yelling at them or spanking them. It is divided into four parts: The Foundations for No-Cry Discipline, Skills and Tools, Staying Calm and Avoiding Anger, and Specific Solutions for Everyday Problems. In the first section, there is a chart showing typical older child/teenager misbehavior, preferred behavior, and how to help your young child develop the preferred behavior. This chart has some very good advice and is easy to use as a quick reference. At the end of the second section, Ms. Pantley provides a reminder page of 24 parenting skills and tools that can be used to discipline your child. This is another great quick-reference page.

    A good portion of the book covers anger management. Ms. Pantley acknowledges that anger is normal. There isn't a parent alive who doesn't get angry at his/her children. The key is managing it. There are several good strategies listed for doing this. As with the rest of the book, there is a useful reminder page of things to do for quick reference.

    In the last section, specific problems are listed in alphabetical order. Under each problem, there is a "Think about it section" which helps a parent understand the reason for the misbehavior, a "What to do" section with suggestions to encourage good behavior, and a "What Not to Do" section. Just about every bad behavior is listed, from biting to not wanting a bath.

    As a parent, I find myself returning to this book when dealing with specific behavior issues with my children. This is not a book you read once, then put on a shelf. While I feel that the title "No-cry Discipline" is a little misleading (your kids will cry!), I would still highly recommend this book for all parents with young children

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 6, 2007

    Home Run for Elizabeth Pantley

    Elizabeth Pantley has, thankfully, added another book to her ¿No-Cry¿ series. This latest one offers discipline solutions for toddlers and children, aged 2 to 8 years. All types of potentially difficult situatons are covered such as bedtimes, tantrums, not brushing teeth, hitting, bitting, meal times, inappropriate language use and more. She covers not only what the child might be feeling but also the parent¿s feelings. A very helpful section looks at anger, what it means, possible triggers and how our own anger can affect the situation and sometimes make things worse. Pantley offers useful suggestions on keeping one¿s own emotions in check, turning the situation around with distracting methods (make a song out of what you want done, use humour) and offers appropriate consequences when or if necessary. My favorite section has to be Part 4: Specific Solutions for Everyday Problems. When my girls were small (twins and a singleton 22 months their elder), I just didn¿t have time to read psycyologically-based, drawn-out solutions for situations which generally had one child, one adult and the general message ¿follow this advice and all will be well.¿ Yeah right! Not in my house where the parents were outnumbered by little ones feeding off of each other¿s behaviour. I needed quick, helpful, supportive feedback with several possible suggestions to consider in turning things around. Flying by the seat of your pants and/or ¿learning as you go¿ doesn¿t always equal good parenting skills. Pantley clearly and concisely states a situation, for example Sibling Fights. Each begins with a story from a frustrated parent. Pantley asks us to Think About It (in this case Sibling Fights) and addresses what such fights can mean for the child. She then offers step by step ideas on What to Do and, perhaps more importantly, What Not to Do. Pantley cross-references to other areas of the book for additional suggestions. In this case, Biting Other Children Bossiness, Hitting, Kicking and Hair Pulling Playtime Behaviour. Most topics are covered in two pages, making it quick and simple to grab the book (topics are alphabetically listed), peruse the appropriate area, absorb some techniques and get back to the home situation, all in a timely fashion. That¿s my kinda guide! If you have kids aged 2-8 years, this book is a must have. I hope that Pantley will soon add a ¿No-Cry Discipline¿ focused on preteens and teens.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 3, 2013

    I use this book both personally (as a mother) and professionally

    I use this book both personally (as a mother) and professionally (as a parent coach). Elizabeth Pantley offers readers easy-to-use tools to address common behavior issues in a gentle, loving way. Pantley simplifies the complex job of parenting by offering practical techniques that effectively address behavior as well as strengthen the parent-child relationship.

    This book not only has great tips and tools, but Pantley approaches the readers as she does her discipline strategies - in a gentle, nonjudgmental way. She speaks to the reader in a way that offers supportive advice and normalizes the challenges of parenthood. I highly recommend this book!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 27, 2013

    I got this when my little guy was tiny, before discipline was ev

    I got this when my little guy was tiny, before discipline was even an issue, and I'm so glad I did. It changed the way I thought about parenting. My parents were excellent and very loving, but I was brought up in an era where if your child did something wrong, they got a verbal warning (which all too often meant nothing and carried little weight) and then a smack if the problem behavior persisted. I always thought that this was the soundest way to parent - until I had my own child. Then I just couldn't imagine smacking him, ever. You're told over and over again as a new mum to follow your instincts, and every instinct I have screams against hitting my child, or even yelling at him. When I started researching and reading about sleep issues I came across the No Cry Sleep Solution, and that was a total 'Aha!' moment. We're currently working our way through the potty training and discipline books and they're looking pretty dog eared by now! Elizabeth writes from her own experience with her kids and as a parent convinced that there had to be a better way than a reactively based parenting approach. She helps you understand WHY your child is doing what he/she is doing, and what you can do to address that effectively and even avoid these issues wherever possible. She also makes it clear that in many situations, whilst the fix may not be the 'instant' fix of a slap or a yell, it's a longterm, real solution that will better help strengthen the bond between parent and child and lay strong foundations for your child and your family. I love her down-to-earth, warm approach - it's clear that this is a book written by someone who is passionate about loving, proactive parenting and wants to share that information. And the best part is (which Elizabeth will tell you in every book), this isn't a one-size-fits-all 'course' - you just read through and pick out the solutions and approaches that will work for your family. You aren't required to follow the book step by step, or to adhere to a certain mindset in order to benefit from it, so it will work for anyone. This would make a great gift for new parents!

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  • Posted March 14, 2013

    My son is very stuck into his routine and does not like to stop

    My son is very stuck into his routine and does not like to stop doing what he is doing or do what we want until he is ready. This book helped me learn to give him fair warning and work him into something new without a tantrum or meltdown. My son is very stubborn and works on his own time. If you have a child that struggles with change, this book will help tremendously. My son now helps his brother with transitions and it is great to see them work together. I can't say enough good about this book!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 5, 2011

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    Pantley "gets" it.

    This book is thoughtful, supportive and honest. As a mother of four, Elizabeth Pantley knows that parenting strategies are not one-size-fits-all. What works for one family may not work for another; what works for one individual child may not work for his/her siblings; what works for an individual child on any given day may be completely ineffective with that same child the very next day. With this reality in mind, Pantley presents a wide variety of gentle discipline techniques to help parents find the right balance and the best methods for their unique set of circumstances and their unique children. I have found that some parenting books can make you feel insecure as you fumble to make the best choices for your family, but Elizabeth Pantley presents her ideas in a very positive, encouraging manner and gives readers a real confidence boost. She understands that the type of parents who pick up this book are parents who not only deeply love their children and want to do right by them, but are also committed to becoming the best parents they can be and are willing to put in the time and effort to continually improve. Parenting is an ever-changing process and gathering a variety of skills is one of the best ways to make the difficult times more manageable. Rather than offering readers unachievable parent/child ideals, Pantley helps readers recognize where they need to improve their parenting skills without feeling like they have to be perfect all the time; her goals are realistic and she acknowledges that recognizing our own faults and owning up to them are more important than perfection. Practicing the skills, modeling behaviors we want to see in our children and taking the time to teach them are more important than strict compliance to any one method or program; in addition, being flexible and acquiring a wide repertoire of parenting skills are our best bets for encouraging good behavior and maintaining an overall happy, peaceful household. And a key component to achieving all of this is to both expect and offer mutual respect (for both parent and child). Pantley also recommends customizing and modifying her ideas and suggestions, as needed, in order to create solutions that suit individual families and/or individual children. She encourages us to keep trying and never to give up on ourselves or our children because we all deserve it!

    Side-note: The books in the "No-cry" series are not meant to create perfect little children who never cry and/or never misbehave. All children cry and that can't be changed, no matter how great of a parent you are. All children will get tired, hungry, cranky, bored, jealous, disappointed and so on at some point; these are normal, healthy reactions to growing, learning and just living life and there is no parenting book out there that will make your child immune to the overwhelming feelings/emotions that often lead to tears. It is important to understand that the "no-cry" part of Pantley's books does not promise unrealistic results about how often or how intensely our children will (or should) cry. "No-cry" means that we, as parents, are using gentle, respectful strategies that do not INDUCE additional tears in our children by making them feel unloved, disrespected or otherwise hurt intentionally when they misbehave. Pantley challenges us to pinpoint and acknowledge the root cause of our children's misbehaviors, to validate their feelings, and then to teach them how t

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  • Posted March 6, 2011

    Highly recommend for parents of young kids!!!

    I have loved Elizabeth Pantley's books and website. When I had a newborn I read "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" with amazing results. When my oldest started showing signs of fearfulness when leaving me and her dad we read "The No-Cry Separation Anxiety" book and will continue to use the tools for helping our kids feel strong, brave and confident when apart from us. The "No-Cry Discipline Solution" came to me at just the right time. With a three year old and 1 year old I really have appreciated the information in this book. These were the most valuable chunks of the book for me:
    "First, solve the real problem"
    This section reiterated how important it is to identify what physiological problem could be causing your toddler to "act out." Tiredness, hunger, frustration, boredom, over-stimulation, fear, feeling powerless, confusion. The solutions for these most basic problems (which can cause HUGE behavioral problems, understandably) were great. It's important to remember that your kids are overwhelmed by how they are feeling, and that it is natural for them to have this feeling, and that as their parents we should help them feel more comfortable so they can function better without getting to the point of meltdown (in most cases, not all). I have become better at looking at my kids and asking myself: Why could they be at frayed point of meltdown? Are they hungry? Tired? Bored? In my household those are the top three reasons.
    "Why do parents get angry at their children?"
    EVERY PARENT SHOULD READ THIS SECTION. This section was validating and helpful. It talked about ways that we can support ourselves in managing frustration and anger that is sometimes misdirected at our household. Pantley wrote about misdirected anger, unrealistic expectations, anger as a normal response (but one that should managed). As parents, we really need to look at existing anger "as a cue that something is wrong and needs to be changed." If we learn to problem solve regarding our own anger, and frustrating aspects of our lives we model that emotionally responsible approach for our kids. That is huge in preventing tantrums and meltdowns now and when they are parents. These are huge, life-long lessons.
    I am really pleased with this book and am looking forward to using many, many tools learned from it!

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  • Posted April 20, 2009

    I Also Recommend:

    This book explains how to make discipline a positive experience for parents and children. Parents don't have to be harsh to discipline. I love the techniques that are suggested to avoid problems in the 1st place.

    Like Elizabeth Pantley's other books, this book is so easy to read and understand that I couldn't wait to try the techniques out on my children. She reminds us that we can avoid lots of bad situations by reading our child and reacting before bad behaviors arise. She makes me feel like a good mother for listening to my child's cues rather than following older generations and their ideas for discipline that are handed down from generation to generation.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 20, 2008

    I am thankful for this book

    I don¿t remember exactly how I came across this book, but I¿m glad I did. In one of my favorite parts of the book, Part 2, ¿Everyday Challenges¿ the author writes ¿And who would have thought that raising one tiny child could bring so many frustrating everyday challenges¿. The first few paragraphs rang true with me. My eyes filled up because I had a particularly challenging day that day, and I felt like finally, I found a book and an author that would help. My twin girls are now four and a half years old. I have read various parenting and child development books throughout my life as a new mom, some were more helpful than others. Reading this book, however, is like having a conversation with someone. Someone who understands and wants to help. It gave me a different outlook on raising our girls. I didn¿t want to constantly battle, and have constant discipline issues. I had fallen into a rut and felt like I wasn¿t being the mom I wanted to be. I ran out of sticky tabs - highlighting various parts of this book that I wanted to share with my husband. I highly recommend it, and am thankful for the realistic approach she offers. I have tried to not overwhelm myself with tons of books. I would pick some up here and there. This book is the kind of book that I will hold on to and reference regularly to remind myself on how to keep going, positively. I have seen changes in my girls and myself with help from suggestions in this book and I am grateful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 28, 2008

    Should be titled 'the No-Angry Parent Discipline Book'

    When she says 'no-cry' I think this time she is talking about the parents not crying, my twins would bring me to tears of anger and frustration. This book really should be called the 'No-Angry Parent book' she really helps you, the parent, understand how you could love your children so unconditionally and still get SO angry by thier behaviors!! She has helped me understand 'why' they behave the way they do and gives actual tools/skills to use to help cope with many different situations. My 3 yr old twins really respond to the 'Talking Mommy hand' when I need to get thier attention. A must read for any parent of a toddler 'or 2!'

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 25, 2008

    Are all kids alike?

    Apparently so, because Elizabeth Pantley's advices from this book worked just fine for my Portuguese 2.5 year old daughter! This was actually one of the reasons why my husband and I chose this book from amid the titles available at Barnes&Noble: the fact that the author's ideas have been successfully used with kids all over the world! ¿The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears¿ is a relatively small book, and yet it tackles most of the main problems parents face with kids, and kids face with parents. Recognizing this as an issue, the author spends a great deal of time working on the parents' side of the equation. Two of Elizabeth Pantley¿s key concepts in this book are 'I¿m writing from memory so don¿t take this as an actual quote!!!': - There is no such thing as perfect parenting: she says something like ¿if you manage to get it right 70% of the times, you¿re doing a wonderful job¿! I have thanked her in spirit again and again for this! - A rule of life is that when you finally know how to deal with your kids they¿ll grow into some new stage and you have to learn how to be a parent all over again! She invites parents to use her book as a manual, that they can turn to when the going gets tough again, for new ideas! And the fact is it works! Thank you, Elizabeth Pantley, and keep up the good work!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 5, 2008

    Wonderfully effective for both parent and child

    This fabulous book offers much more than the title suggests. As with much of her writing, Elizabeth Pantley offers soothing encouragement to parents who are stressed, confused, and afraid that if every moment isn't bliss, they're going about this parenting business all wrong. She also points out that the more parenting advice one reads, the more self-critical one becomes--how true! Her opening chapters on slowing down, worrying less, and playing more are a nice segue into the various gentle discipline techniques that she describes later on. Among my favorite sections are the chapter on parental anger and a fantastic chart that suggests what to do right now in order to bring about certain behaviors in the teenage years. After all, the goal is not just to make life easier in the moment it's to raise caring, responsible human beings. This holistic approach really sets this book apart from the many discipline guides that give bulleted lists of techniques without much insight into cause and effect. And, what a relief not to see children categorized as manipulative, strong-willed creatures with whom we must always be on guard. I've walked away from some discipline guides feeling as though my children were portrayed as the enemy! Pantley theorizes that the root cause of misbehavior boils down to this: young children cannot control their emotions. Viewing their actions in this light takes much of the tension out of everyday struggles. Lest one fear that 'no-cry discipline' means 'no discipline,' rest assured that Pantley's approach is not squishy-soft. She focuses on the tried-and-true--consistency, patience, clear communication, setting limits and sticking to them, etc.--but from a positive perspective. As the mother of four, from kindergartner to college-aged, she has vast wisdom and experience to share. Take some and see how it makes a difference!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 25, 2007

    Great Resource

    I am a counselor in private practice, as well as the mother of a toddler. This book has offered my husband and I very practical, and even fun ways of approaching discipline. Our 21 month old son enjoys picking up his toys and putting them away, and he even puts his dishes in the sink when he done without being asked. In addition, since reading the book and following the ideas, our son is much more pleasant to interact with. We as parents are much more pleasant as well! I refer to the book often at home, and I frequently recommend it to my clients who are struggling with parenting and discipline. I would highly recommend this book. It is a great resource for all parents. Kim Rapach, LCSW Counselor

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 4, 2007

    A reviewer

    Elizabeth Pantley has done it again. Her new book The No-Cry Discipline Solution is an awesome book. I have tried new things that she recommends in the book and they have actually worked. I have bought all of Elizabeth's books and they have all helped in our family. This book is so enjoyable to read, I have read it twice and everytime I read it I learn new things. Thank you Elizabeth for your wonderful advice in helping me to tackle different discipline situations with my children, and also thank you for all the other books too. This is a book to keep at hands reach. I can't wait for your next book. I would recommend this book to all parents that want to discipline their children with love and understanding. All of Elizabeth Pantley's books are very warm, supportive and encouraging. Elizabeth Pantley gives a lot of practical tips for lots of different situations that we as parents at times have to encounter. Thank you again!!!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 25, 2007

    Nobody writes it better...

    As usual the book is amazing, and Elizabeth Pantley has done it yet again. I especially enjoyed the section/s on anger and anger management. Anger seems to be one of the biggest parenting issues I see both in my practice and in general observations of parents outside of the office. The points made are so simple and practical, yet no one has been able to write them so eloquently. I have researched many sources to address these issues of disciplining without anger and the use discipline as a teaching method- not as a punishment. None of the sources I have found have been so deeply supportive of parents as this book, which is true of all of Elizabeth Pantley's writings. I loved the feature at the end of the book on situation specific problems. Each section is headlined with the phrase, 'Think about it,' which should be the new catch phrase of the decade. The 'think about it' section makes very difficult situations so simple and easy to understand- the approach is wonderful and practical for confused and frustrated parents. My thanks to Mrs. Pantley for making the world of parenting a more pleasurable and loving experience.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 12, 2007

    A Book Every Parent Should Have!

    Elizabeth Pantley is an expert on gentle, mindful parenting and The No-Cry Discipline Solution exemplifies her knowledge and ability to manifest her expertise in a practical, readable text. Pantley not only helps us to become more conscious of our children¿s needs and perspectives, but allows us to embrace their uniqueness and find a discipline technique that works for each child. But, more importantly, Pantley helps us to become more aware of ourselves as parents - our weaknesses, doubts, and fears - and thereby empowers us to grow and develop our parenting skills, moving beyond discipline into the creation of family harmony. The No-Cry Discipline Solution should be required reading for parents everywhere!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 12, 2007

    Excellent Book

    Elizabeth Pantley helps us examine our old discipline ways and teaches us mutually respectful new ideas in her trademark warm, motivating and humourous way. Once again, Elizabeth Pantley delivers! Judy Arnall, author of 'Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery.'(Professional Parenting Canada)

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    Posted February 15, 2010

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