Rules of Love: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships, Expanded Edition

Rules of Love: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships, Expanded Edition

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by Richard Templar
     
 

Love matters. Whether it's the romantic kind or the emotional bond between you and family or friends. Indeed latest research suggests that those who love and are loved are significantly more likely to be alive in 10 years time than those without love in their lives. Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live. So, why is it

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Love matters. Whether it's the romantic kind or the emotional bond between you and family or friends. Indeed latest research suggests that those who love and are loved are significantly more likely to be alive in 10 years time than those without love in their lives. Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live. So, why is it that some people find relationships so easy? We all know the kind of person, married forever, connected with their family, and strong friendships that have stood the test of time from all stages of life. The people who make friends easily, who have someone utterly devoted to them and for whom many would do anything. What do they know and do that the rest of us could learn from? That's what you'll find in this book. If you study people who are so good at relationships you discover it's not about their personality or gender or how self sacrificing they are. Those who are great in all relationships usually do have to work at it. The secret is that they know exactly where to put their efforts. They know the Rules of Love. Now updated and expanded with 10 brand-new rules, The Rules of Love helps you benefit from the simple principles of forming and sustaining strong, enduring and ultimately, life enhancing relationships.

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
2900137149963
Publisher:
Pearson
Publication date:
11/28/2008
Edition description:
NE

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Meet the Author

Richard Templar (Devon, UK) is an astute observer of human behavior who understands what makes the difference between those who effortlessly glide towards success and those who struggle against the tide. He has distilled these observations into his Rules titles, read by more than one million people around the world. His global best-sellers include The Rules of Life, The Rules of Money, and The Rules of Work. His books also include I Don't Want Any More Cheese: I Just Want Out of the Trap.

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

Part I Rules for Finding Love 2

1 Be Yourself 4

2 Get Over It Before You Get On With It 6

3 You Won’t Be Happy With a Partner Until You Can Be Happy on Your Own 8

4 You’ll Know Them When You Meet Them 10

5 Choose Someone Who Makes You Laugh 12

6 Being Less Than a Hundred Percent Attractive Is a Great Filter 14

7 Don’t Keep Making the Same Mistakes 16

8 Certain People Are Off Limits (You Know Who They Are) 18

9 You Can’t Change People 20

10 Relationships Aren’t About Sex 22

11 Get to Know Someone Through All the Seasons Before Making Any Major Decisions 24

12 Don’t Stay With Someone Who Doesn’t Care 26

13 If You Can’t Trust Them, You Haven’t Got a Relationship 28

14 Be Honest (While You Still Have the Chance) 30

15 Don’t Play Games 32

16 Don’t Paint New Partners with Old Brushes 34

17 Check You Both Have the Same Shared Goals 36

18 You Can’t Make Someone Love You 38

19 Be Cruel to Be Kind 40

Part II Relationship Rules 42

20 Be Nice 44

21 Be Together Because You Want to, Not Because You Need to 46

22 Allow Your Partner the Space to Be Themselves 48

23 Look to Your Own Faults 50

24 Be Honorable 52

25 Put Each Other First 54

26 Recognize the Signs 56

27 Be a Hero—Or a Heroine 58

28 Accept the Differences, Embrace What You Have in Common 60

29 Don’t Belittle Your Partner 62

30 You Want to Do What? 64

31 Let Not the Sun Go Down Upon Your Wrath 66

32 Be the First to Say Sorry 68

33 Let Them Have the Last Word 70

34 Houston, We Have a Problem 72

35 Don’t Put Them on a Pedestal and Expect Them to Stay There 74

36 Know When to Listen and When to Act 76

37 Never Stop Trying to be Attractive 78

38 If You Can Say Something Nice, Do 80

39 Don’t Try to Be Their Parent 82

40 Be Part of Their Life 84

41 If Little Things Annoy You, Say So—With Humor 86

42 Go That Extra Step in Trying to Please Them 88

43 Make Sure Your Partner Is Always Pleased to See You 90

44 Don’t Dump Responsibility on Your Partner 92

45 Let Them Know If You Don’t Like Their Friends 94

46 Jealousy Is Your Stuff, Not Theirs 96

47 Your Partner Is More Important Than Your Kids 98

48 Make Time for Romance 100

49 Have a Passion for Your Life Together 102

50 Share the Workload 104

51 Trust the Other One to Do the Job 106

52 Don’t Be a Nag 108

53 Make Sure Your Love Making Is Making Love 110

54 Don’t Control Them 112

55 Listen to What They’re Not Saying 114

56 Most Everyday Arguments Are About Something Else 116

57 Respect Privacy 118

58 Treat Your Partner Better Than Your Best Friend 120

59 Don’t Be Offended If They Want Some Space 122

60 Men Like Flowers Too 124

61 Keep Your Finances Separate 126

62 Contentment Is a High Aim 128

63 Be Generous to Each Other Financially 130

64 You Make a Choice Every Day 132

65 Don’t Be a Martyr 134

66 Stop Sniping—Someone Has To 136

67 You Don’t Both Have to Have the Same Rules 138

68 Do It Their Way If It Matters More to Them 140

69 Put Yourself in Their Shoes 142

70 In-laws Are Part of the Package 144

71 Keep Talking 146

Part III Rules for Parting 148

72 Listen to Your Own Internal Voice 150

73 Recognize That It Takes Two 152

74 Keep the Moral High Ground 154

75 Don’t Keep Mulling It Over 156

76 Leave the Kids Out of It 158

Part IV Family Rules 160

77 Don’t Blame Your Parents 162

78 Don’t Let Your Parents Control Your Feelings 164

79 Your Children Come Before You 166

80 Nothing Is Worth Falling Out Over 168

81 Treat Them Right, No Matter How They Treat You 170

82 There Are No Circumstances in Which It Is Ever Acceptable to Say “I Told You So” 172

83 Don’t Pressure Your Family Just Because You Can 174

84 Never Be Too Busy for Loved Ones 176

85 Your Children Need to Fall Out with You to Leave Home 178

86 They Don’t Have to Be the Same as You 180

87 There’s Always Stuff with Siblings 182

88 Let Go of Your Role 184

Part V Friendship Rules 186

89 There Are No Rules 188

90 Your Best Friend Was Once a Stranger 190

91 Only Have People in Your Life Who, on Balance, Make It Better Not Worse 192

92 If You’re Going to Be a Friend, Be a Good Friend 194

93 Forgive 196

94 Never Give Advice* 198

95 Don’t Make Other People Uncomfortable 200

96 Find Friends Who Love the Truth 202

97 Never Lend Money Unless You’re Prepared to Write It Off 204

98 If You Don’t Like Their Partner, Tough 206

99 When One Finger Points Forward, Three Point Back 208

100 Friendships Change 210

101 Know When to Let Go 212

102 Bitterness Helps No One 214

Part VI Rules for Everyone 216

103 People Are More Important Than Things 218

104 Guilt Is a Selfish Emotion 220

105 Love Equals Time 222

106 The More You Put Out, The More You Get Back 224

107 Other People Are Where It’s At 226

Had Enough Yet…? 228

You’ll Get Older But Not Necessarily Wiser 230

Get Your Work Noticed 232

Anybody Can Be Wealthy—You Just Need to Apply Yourself 234

Get Them Emotionally Involved 236

Relax 238

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