Most books on marriage rightly address communication and conflict as key issues, then advise readers on how to fight fair since conflict is an inevitable reality and cannot be avoided. But Dr. Ron Welch asks the provocative question, Is it? Is every marriage doomed to one conflict after another? Shouldn't we expect better than that?In this practical and encouraging book, Welch offers a far more positive approach to marriage, outlining 10 specific choices couples can make to minimize or even avoid conflict and increase joy. With his expert guidance, couples will learn how to employ proven strategies to - communicate accurately and positively- choose forgiveness over unforgiveness- understand their marriage type- and make decisions more effectivelyWhether they are engaged, newly married, or have been married for decades, couples will find that this book will transform their relationship.
|Publisher:||Baker Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)|
About the Author
Dr. Ron Welch (PsyD, Central Michigan University) is the author of The Controlling Husband and serves on the faculty of Denver Seminary. With 25 years of experience in clinical psychology, Welch has developed the Transformational Marriage™ approach, which helps couples through counseling, seminars, and publications. He and his wife, Jan, live in Colorado.
Table of Contents
1 Marriage Is about Choices 13
2 I Choose to Believe 29
3 I Choose to Communicate Well Part 1: Choosing to Communicate Accurately 42
4 I Choose to Communicate Well Part 2: Choosing to Communicate Positively 58
5 I Choose to Let Go of Old Baggage 73
6 I Choose to Forgive Part 1: Choosing Forgiveness over Unforgiveness 88
7 I Choose to Forgive Part 2: Choosing to Forgive the Big Stuff 103
8 I Choose to Be Unselfish Part 1: Choosing Unselfishness over Selfishness 116
9 I Choose to Be Unselfish Part 2: Choosing the "Us" Model of Marriage 128
10 I Choose to Challenge "Unspoken Truths" 143
11 I Choose to Be Intimate 160
12 I Choose Not to Take You for Granted 173
13 I Choose to Focus on the Process 188
14 I Choose to Trust 203
15 I Choose to Love You Forever 215
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
(4 stars) - Love is a decision... and marriage is an ongoing series of decisions This book is a great tool for couples seeking to improve or strengthen their relationship - just understand that it's more for a tune up than a collision repair service. Conflict is a natural part of life, but we can decide how we're going to respond to it. These are the choices that we make that affect our relationships. To: Believe, Communicate well (accurately & positively), Let go of old baggage, Forgive (forgiveness over unforgiveness & forgive the big stuff), Be unselfish (choosing unselfishness over selfishness & choosing the "Us" model of marriage), Challenge "unspoken truths", Be intimate, Not to take you for granted, Focus on the process, Trust These are decisions that lead to forever love. Each chapter explains the nature of the choice, providing quick examples or anecdotes, and then provides exercises for a couple to work on. If I could change one thing, it would be to go ahead & include something like segregated sections in each chapter for Christians. It wouldn't be a hardship for non-believers to flip past a page & move on to the next section.
10 Choices Successful Couples Make is a book of practical advice and revelations to assure fulfilling relationships. Although I’m in a happy marriage of over thirty years, I still found the book interesting and insightful. What it boils down to is we all make choices, and those choices ultimately affect us positively or negatively. There are conflicts and pitfalls in life and love, but the choices we make—how we react to and manage them—are what determine the success or breakdown of a relationship. I enjoyed the few activities in this book, and wish there had been more. And though the book contains valuable information and 10 clear choices, I feel they could have been more concise, interactive, and better organized—perhaps each chapter representing a choice, rather than splitting some into two (lengthy) chapters. Opening Line: They were like so many couples I see in premarital therapy. I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher. Opinions expressed are completely my own.
YES!!! I am a fan of this book and it's message. The overall theme is about how love is a choice, not a feeling. That is something that is not commonly taught in our culture, even in Christian circles unfortunately, though I do think that is starting to change. I'm not married... or engaged... or even dating anyone. But I think anyone can read this book and start formulating what it looks like to lay down your desires for someone else. Dr. Welch presents clear "challenges" in each chapter of tangible choices you can make to improve your marriage. If you were an engaged couple or newly married, these would be choices you would want to implement from the beginning to help you start off and create a strong foundation for your marriage. I personally think this would be a great book for engaged couples. Each chapter has activities for the couple to do and work through. I read them, though I didn't do them (obviously :) and they seemed like they stretched and challenged without being impossible. Another huge theme that encompasses many of the choices is communication. My family has a saying (that I'm sure is not unique to us), "communication is such an important thing". Usually it gets brought out when someone has not communicated to another person as a joke or shrug off. I have seen enough of the problems that result when there is bad or no communication to know that this is an important aspect of marriage. If a couple can communicate, they can work through the activities in this book. An excellent, excellent book. Highly recommend.
This book was very inspiring with also had a great writing and full with that also full of hope and love to practicing in their relationship, single, couple, newlyweds or long time marriage. It can be very used full to all the tools in this book get start with a fresh joy again. You may believe change is possible. If you are believe in hope that will come. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Revell Reads for this review.