When You're Together...But Feel Miles Apart
Your marriage isn't broken, but it doesn't seem to be growing, either. Where's the spark and passion you experienced as newlyweds? Butterflies in your stomach, your spouse's undivided attention, the anticipation of spending time together...how can your marriage ever get back to that place? That spark is still there, waiting to be fanned into a lasting flame! Let noted author and speaker Cindi McMenamin show you the small changes you can make to touch your husband's heart in a big way. Through gentle guidance, you'll be encouraged to
- try seven new ways to "switch it up" at home
- respond to your spouse in ways that intrigue him
- see the bigger picture when misunderstandings arise
Renew and reglue your relationship as you discover how to strengthen your marriage and reignite the passion you and your husband once shared.
|Publisher:||Harvest House Publishers|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.50(d)|
About the Author
Cindi McMenamin is an award-winning writer and national speaker. She is the author of When Women Walk Alone (more than 100,000 copies sold) and 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom. As a Bible teacher, her passion is to help women strengthen their walk with God and their relationships (www.StrengthForTheSoul.com).
Table of Contents
Where Is the Love? 5
1 Consider His Heart-Stepping Back to see the Whole Picture 15
2 Think It Through-Renewing Your Mind to Respond like a New Wife 31
3 Keep Him First-Prioritizing Him Above Everyone Else 45
4 Let It Go-Practicing Acceptance, Not Accusation 59
5 Switch It Up-Incorporating New Habits at Home 73
6 Let Him Breathe-Giving Up the Smothering, Mothering, and Hovering 85
7 Light Him Up-Praising the Man God Created Him to Be 95
8 Close the Gap-Steering Clear of the Emotional Cave 113
9 Help Him Out-Becoming His Reliable Partner 131
10 Wait It Out-Praying It Through When You'd Rather Talk It Out 143
11 Stick It Out-Choosing Love When You'd Rather Leave 157
12 Bring It Back-Returning to the Way Things Used to Be 169
Additional Resources to Help You Experience More Self-Assessment: How Far Have You Come? 189
Dying to Self in Your Marriage 193
Scriptural Encouragement for Difficult Days 195
How to Encourage Your Husband to Pray with You 205
Encouragement and Advice from Couples 211
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
RUN…do not walk, to buy this book whether you are getting married, newly married, mid-married or long-time married!!! I believe it is one of the most (Cindi has other can’t miss books on marriage) important books I’ve ever read on marriage! I’ve been married for 35 years and have a great marriage but I have reaped so many pearls from this book! I only wish it had been in my hands years ago when things weren’t so “great”. I read and re-read the introduction, “Where Is the Love”. The first chapter, “Consider His Heart – Stepping Back to See the Whole Picture” touched me deeply, I have re-read it many times, as well as other chapters. Chapter 5 “Switch It Up – Incorporating New Habits at Home”…NOT to be missed! Each chapter ending in such wonderful, effective prayer and a Focus For The Week. Laced with Cindi’s personal transparency which is so valuable. I simply find myself lost in this book when reading :-)
If you are serious about seriously improving your marriage, read Cindi McMenamin's 12 Ways to Experience More with Your Husband. This book gets to the heart (the reader's heart) of the matter right off the bat. Cindi begins by challenging us to examine ourselves first. That is the best and only place to start if we hope to experience more love and to strengthen our marital relationship. Cindi's words are bold and convincing while her delivery is filled with humility and encouragement. If you are a wife... this book is for you.
If you are reading these reviews, you have gotten this far in thinking perhaps there are answers; perhaps just one thing that might change the way things are; when in the back of your heart you do not believe it. Or you could be a go-getter, doing great and you are thinking you will plan ahead and try to avoid a future married life where you find yourself longing for more trust, more passion and more communication; all the while wishing there was a better word for communication since it is the unpinned grenade lying in the weeds of your desire for more. [Disastrously long run-on sentence, but you get it, right?] Why this book? There are many others making the same claim. You have read them, and yet, sigh. Cindi McMenamin has done what you and I do; she sat with friends who shared their hearts; added her own and with tireless love and insight; compiled the stories in such a way that you can be enriched and renewed through each journey. Take a look at the chapter titles and start with what catches your heart. Each topic stands on its own so keep it with you for those times of waiting; doctor appointments, DMV, kids sports practices, nail salon, etc. and get a dose of confidence and hope for more. Think about it for a small group study and enhance the depth of every challenge and solution presented by what each woman brings of her own insight. It is rich, deep, funny and real! Invest in yourself, invest in change! It is possible.
I was truly encouraged and touched by this book. The examples of others and how God taught them a sacrificial love toward their spouse is empowering and I love that so much scripture is tied into this book. It speaks truth and I know it is in line with the word of God. It helped me see the whole picture and take step back to really allow God into my marriage. What a blessing and I would highly recommend this book and any of her books. This book keeps it real and shows the power of God in marriages.
Need a jumpstart? Want to reignite the flames of love and communication in your marriage? Whether you’ve been married for years, a short while, or are engaged, this book is for you. In 12 Ways to Experience More With Your Husband, Cindi gives wonderful godly, insightful encouragement to *Try seven new ways to “Switch It Up” at home, *Respond to your spouse in ways that intrigue him, and to *See the bigger picture when misunderstandings arise. I found myself, while reading this book, highlighting and underlining a lot of things that spoke to me. I love that at the end of each chapter there is a “pray it through” and “your focus for the week” that you can do and apply. It is a book with great information, real life stories, and resources that you can use to enhance your relationship with your husband. I definitely recommend it.
Instantly Applicable and Life Changing! As always, the author, Cindi McMenamin, judiciously pours her heart and soul and thorough research into each book she writes. This book will not disappoint! You can flip to any page and be drawn into the examples and stories of others and quickly identify with the situation. Scripture reference is found throughout the entire book with a focus on the Song of Solomonin several chapters. No matter your age or length of marriage, this book provides a new focus in how to see your spouse, refreshing encouragement with ways to promote love in your heart for your spouse and graceful conviction in recognizing and correcting our emotional responses in our relationships. A self assessment is provided at the beginning as well as at the end of the book, as a quiz to reflect on areas that need improvement. I encourage anyone struggling with love, marital struggles and commitment to first take a big step of faith and read this book to try and apply the principles. I love the ABC basics that she shares on page 27! Accept, Be, Consider..... At the end of the book there is a section entitled “scriptural encouragement for difficult days”, which I find very helpful and handy. This is more than an opinion book or as I like to say, “a box with no tools”. It is definitely packed with insight, experiences and sturdy, time tested tools, with the most important tool being God’s Word!