A Walk in my Stilettos: How to get through the struggle with grace

As human beings, we look to outside sources to validate our own thoughts and experiences. This general notion is called “social proof.” When we see that others have been through similar experiences and have been where we have, it allows us to feel better about ourselves. When we see other people overcome their fears, face adversity, and then finally taste triumph, we affirm ourselves and say, “If they can do it, then I’m sure I can too!”

Almost two decades ago, a young woman named Makini Smi...