Be a Better Dad Today!: 10 Tools Every Father Needs

Be a Better Dad Today!: 10 Tools Every Father Needs

by Gregory W. Slayton, Charles Colson

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Be a Better Dad Today! is a global bestseller for a reason: it's one of the best books on fatherhood you will ever read. Warmly endorsed by dozens of America's best-known and most respected fathers, the book lays out the "Ten Tools of Fatherhood" that will help every dad who uses them. The book is the product of Slayton's thirty-year study of fatherhood on five different continents, his research, and his own experience raising four children with his wife of twenty-six years. Slayton's easy-to-read, friendly style makes it a fun read, and the many great real-life stories bring it to life.

Be a Better Dad Today! is an inspirational, encouraging, and down-to-earth guidebook for every father who wants to be a better dad--for his family's sake and his own. With humor, empathy, common sense, and engaging stories, Slayton reveals proven and powerful tools and techniques that will help every dad fulfill his God-given responsibilities. Whether parenting younger or older kids, boys or girls, blended families or as a single dad (or even as a father-to-be), readers will find wise insights and practical, doable action steps for becoming the best dad they can be.

The book makes a great gift for Father's Day, Christmas, birthdays, or any day. And since the Slaytons are dedicating 100 percent of all royalties from the book to fatherhood and family charities serving the US Military and at-risk families, your purchase will a blessing to the fathers and families who serve our nation every day.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781441225696
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 05/07/2012
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 288
File size: 5 MB

About the Author

The Honorable Gregory Winston Slayton is an American professor, diplomat, author, businessman, and philanthropist. He is an adjunct professor of business administration at the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth College and continues to work as a venture capitalist. He is also Distinguished Visiting Professor of Leadership at UIBE Business School in Beijing. Slayton resides in Hanover, New Hampshire, with his wife and children.


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The Importance of Fatherhood Fatherhood is the most important job that any of us—including the President of the United States or the CEO of the world's largest company—will ever have.
It is the only role in life for which we are truly indispensible. Our futures, our family and our entire society depend on the job we do as a dad.
I would never have become half the man I am without the help, the support and the leadership of my dad. He taught me how to be a real man.
Dave H., Boston, Massachusetts Nothing I've ever done has given me more joys and rewards than being a father to my children.
Bill Cosby Somehow, much of our society has forgotten this simple fact that Bill Cosby has expressed so well in the above quote. Down through history, men have gotten great joy from being good fathers, and society has directly benefited. Fatherhood has always been one of the cornerstones of civilization. In fact, many of the most serious social issues our society wrestles with (from adult illiteracy to teenage pregnancy to increasing rates of chronic unemployment, drug abuse and mental illness) stem directly from the breakdown of fatherhood.
The statistics are abundantly clear: Children who grow up without fathers are two to three times more likely to spend time in jail, drop out of school, fail to ever hold down a long-term job, suffer from a severe mental illness, or become addicted to drugs or alcohol. And they are three to four times more likely to bear children out of wedlock themselves . . . and thus continue the cycle of social devastation that threatens our society.1
Of course, the presence or absence of a good mother is also critically important in the life of every child. While I do not want to downplay the extraordinary importance of mothers, this book is dedicated to men just like you——men who want to be strong and noble fathers for their families, and have fun doing it. I share that goal with you, and an exciting one it is! We are on a journey—you and I—and it won't be completed this side of eternity. Becoming a good father is like running a marathon; it takes time, dedication and perseverance. In addition, like all significant journeys, we will never arrive if we don't know where we are going. The fact that we share an important goal—to be strong and noble fathers—is an excellent start.
Maybe you're thinking, Well, that's a good idea, but a bit old-fashioned for the twenty-first century. Or maybe you're feeling burdened by what you perceive as your failures as a father. Or maybe you're just starting out on this whole fatherhood thing and you're not really sure how it works. All good questions and valid feelings, for we have all failed at one time or another, we have all had questions about the future, and our society today vastly underestimates the importance of fathers. So, if you are a father, or even if you're just thinking about becoming a father, you are in (or about to start) the most important job of your life.
Why Is This Job So Important?
You and I will probably have many jobs in our work careers—that is the way of the modern world. A few jobs may be great, a couple will be horrible, but all will come to an end (and some will come to an end sooner than we would like). If we are deeply honest with ourselves, none of us is truly irreplaceable in our professional jobs. That's not an insult—it's reality.
Among my other roles so far I have been a CEO, a venture capitalist, an ambassador and an Ivy League professor. (I've also been unemployed, but more on that in the chapter titled “How to Handle Life's Beanballs.”) In every role I have ever had—even in roles in which I have won prestigious awards or achieved marked success—I knew there were others out there who would probably do as good a job, or maybe even a better one, than me. But in my job as a dad to my children, like all dads for their kids, I am literally irreplaceable.
The same is absolutely true of you as well. You are literally the best-qualified person in the entire world for that job. There is no one else—no one—who has the genetic, emotional, spiritual and physical assets you bring to this job. No other man will ever love your children as much as you do (and I know you love your kids, or you wouldn't be reading this book). No other man is genetically and emotionally wired to understand your kids as well as you do. And no other man is likely to be as committed to helping your kids build a successful future as you are. For them, you are, quite literally, irreplaceable.
Not only are you the very best person in the world for this job, but it is also literally the most important job you will ever have. The statistics are clear: The lives of your children will be hugely impacted by the job you do as their dad—and not only the lives of your children, but of their children and their children's children.
What other job will you hold that will ever bring you so much happiness over such a long period of time (the rest of your life)? What other job can so materially impact the wider world? Just consider the example of Albert Einstein—he was a scientific genius, but he didn't think he would have gotten there without the early guidance and help of his father. And what other job pays such important dividends for future generations? Being a good father today will impact your descendants to the third and fourth generation . . . and possibly beyond.
That's right, your influence as a father goes beyond just your own children and grandchildren; it impacts society now and for generations to come. So, as a job that will last a lifetime, hold countless tangible and intangible rewards, and have almost an unlimited potential for benefiting you, your family and others long into the future, I hope you will agree with me that being a dad is the most important job you and I (or the President of the United States) will ever have.
But, being a good dad isn't only vital for the future of our families and our society; it is critical to our own development as men.
A Story from the White House I have been privileged to know a number of U.S. Presidents personally—some better than others. And no matter what you thought of him as a President, George W. Bush was—and is—an exceptional father. He knows a deep secret that all great dads know: Being a good father and a faithful husband is as much of a blessing for him as it is for his wife and daughters. He understands that learning how to be a good dad has helped him to be a better man in many important ways.
Once, early in his first term as President at a beautiful evening event at the White House, he took me aside, looked me right in the eyes and said, “Gregory, you and I have a lot in common: We both married way above ourselves. Don't ever forget that.” I understood that as a reminder to always love and honor my wife—something he told me more than once. That was very good advice then, and it still is today. But then he went on to say something even more profound: “Becoming a husband and then a dad is one of the best things that ever happened to me—because it forced me to be a better man than I was.” The President certainly had it right. It is in bearing the burdens of family and fatherhood that our inner man grows stronger.
A Vital Step in Your Own Development How do gold medal Olympic weight lifters become so strong? How did Jamaican sprinter Usain “Lightning” Bolt become the fastest man in the world? How does a team become Superbowl champions? Believe it or not, the same way you and I become good fathers (and, in the process, much better men).
Self-sacrifice, hard work and self-discipline are some of the key building blocks to becoming a champion athlete and a championship team. These qualities are also the building blocks of champion dads of loving families. Research has long shown that men who are committed husbands and fathers are on average more productive in their jobs, enjoy better mental health, are generally happier with their lives, and contribute more to their communities than their unmarried or childless brethren.2 In fact, married people are twice as likely to be “happy” with life, and less than half as likely to be “not too happy” compared to either single, cohabiting, separated, divorced or widowed people.3
However, there is something else profoundly important about the fatherhood journey. As long as we don't give up on ourselves, or our families, we are changed into better men through the refining fire of being a father.
Let's face it: Who wants to get up at 2:00 AM to make their pregnant wife the pickle sandwich she is craving? Who wants to take baby for the umpteenth stroll in the baby carriage so Mom can get a short (and much needed) break? Who wants to clean up after a sick child, or change the bed linens after a messy sleepover, or discipline a teen who desperately needs it? In short, no one except those who seek to be champion dads.
Likewise, who wants to get up every day at 5:00 AM to run 5 or 10 miles? Who wants to do two-a-day workouts in pre-season? Who wants to push their bodies to their physical limit so they can become stronger, faster and better at their chosen sport? Again, the answer is no one except those who wish to become champion athletes.
That's the rub: There is no shortcut to becoming a champion athlete, just as there is no shortcut to becoming a good father and a good man. The very burdens that we carry for our families over time and the weight on our shoulders that can sometimes seem almost crushing are what make us better dads and stronger men. That is one of the deepest secrets of fatherhood. Not only do our wives and children—and our society as a whole—benefit tremendously from the process of our becoming good dads, but you and I, brother, benefit as well. Again, the research backs this up. Data shows that mental health generally improves consistently and substantially after marriage and deteriorates substantially after divorce or separation. Furthermore, this research has shown that these effects occur as a result of marriage and divorce and are not due to other factors.4
Let's Take This Journey Together Unfortunately, our society has de-emphasized the importance of fathers and fatherhood during the past 50 years, and we are much the worse for it. A man's career success or his sexual prowess or the size of his car or boat or bank account are all considered, in different circles, more important than his success as a father. This is incredibly shortsighted, for the importance of all of those things will fade long before we exit this world, and they will mean nothing at all after our death. If heaven exists (as I strongly believe it does), faith, family and friendship will mean everything, while material stuff will mean nothing.
Unfortunately, in our modern age advertising is everywhere, and it tries to focus our attention each and every day on the material. But while there is nothing inherently wrong with career success or material possessions, we must keep those goals in balance with the other, much more important, goals on our life journey. That is not easy to do, especially in the twenty-first century.
Sadly, our culture provides precious little support, guidance or encouragement for fathers, even though the future of our society depends on the institution of fatherhood. That is why I wrote this book. I needed more help, more encouragement, more good ideas and great suggestions from fellow dads like you. And I suspected that there were more than a few fellow fathers who felt the same way.
So, I hope you now agree with me about the supreme importance of fatherhood for our families, our society and for ourselves. I would like us to share our fatherhood journey and encourage and strengthen one another for the road ahead. It is my hope that this book and the accompanying web tools and services that are at your disposal will be an effective tool set for you as you tackle the myriad challenges of being a good father.
Even though my wife and I have raised four wonderful kids and I have been a lifelong student of fatherhood, I have a lot more to learn from you. So log on to now and give me your personal feedback on this chapter and what you hope to get out of this book. I'm excited about joining you on this greatest of all of life's journeys.
For Further Reflection
1. Do you truly believe in your heart that being a father is the most important job you will ever have? Why or why not?
2. How would you rate yourself as a father today, on a 1 to 10 scale (with 1 as the best)? Would your wife and kids agree with that rating? Do you have the courage to ask them?
3. What would you say are your greatest opportunities for improvement as a dad? What would your wife and kids say?
Today's Quick Wins
1. Take 60 seconds to reflect on this fact: For each of your children, and for your entire family, you are quite literally completely irreplaceable,
2. Take 60 seconds to think about the extent of your power, for good or for evil, over your family's future.
3. Take 60 seconds to meditate on how you, single-handedly, can (and will) shape the future of your children and your family . . . and the influence they will have on their society and generations to come because of you.
1. Father Facts, fifth edition, National Fatherhood Initiative, 2007.
2. Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage (New York: Doubleday, 2000).
3. Ibid.
4. Alex Bierman, Elena M. Fazio and Melissa A. Milkie, “A Multifaceted Approach to the Mental Health Advantage of the Married: Assessing How Explanations Vary by Outcome Measure and Unmarried Group,” Journal of Family Issues, vol. 27, no. 4, April 2006,

What People are Saying About This

Bruce F. McKenzie

In considering Gregory a close personal friend for more than 30 years, and closely watching his fatherhood skills for the last 20 years, I can attest to his sacrificial commitment, energy and vision to be the best dad possible in the midst of many career, family and personal challenges. As the father of three sons myself, and active in leading men's ministry programs for many years, I have not read a finer or more practical guide regarding the essentials of being a great dad than this book. I wholeheartedly recommend Be a Better Dad Today to every father and father to be as a way to help you fulfill the high calling and irreplaceable role of being a dad. (Bruce F. McKenzie, Senior Vice President, The Northern Trust Company)

Jeb Bush

Having been raised by a man who exemplified what it means to be a great father, I am blessed to have learned from one of the greatest. In Be a Better Dad Today! Gregory explains how to navigate the most important job in the world. This book is a great resource for today's dads or those who plan to be a dad in the future. (Jeb Bush, Former Governor of Florida (1999-2007))

Danny Wuerffel

As a former college and NFL quarterback, I've had the privilege of playing with some great teams. But as a father, there is no team more important to me than my family. And that's why this book is so important. Be a Better Dad Today! can help every dad become an All-Pro father. The book's Ten Tools of Fatherhood are exactly what we need as dads to sharpen and expand our fatherhood skills. And Gregory gets it exactly right when he says that no matter what else we do as men, fatherhood is our most important job. I highly recommend this book to every man who wants to be a better dad, a better husband and a better man. (Danny Wuerffel, Executive Director of Desire Street Ministries)

Tim Keller

Be a Better Dad Today! is perhaps the most practical and down-to-earth manual you will find on how to be an effective father. You will not be able to read it without being both spiritually convicted and personally equipped. (Tim Keller, Redeemer Presbyterian Church, New York City)

Samuel Rodriguez

All dads need help to be the best fathers they can be. The health of our families, our culture and our civilization literally depend on it. My friend Gregory Slayton has written a great book that will help every man who reads it be the best dad he can be. Be a Better Dad Today! is a truly enjoyable, deeply practical and immensely helpful book for men everywhere. As a father, a pastor and a man who wants to be the very best I can be, I highly recommend it. (Rev. Samuel Rodriguez, President, Hispanic Evangelical Association)

G. K. Butterfield

There is no more important job in the world for men than being a good father for our kids. I love being a dad—and I always have. That's why I appreciate the honesty, the humor and the many helpful ideas that my friend Gregory Slayton has packed into Be a Better Dad Today! Being a better dad today—and every day of our lives—is one of the most important things we can do for our family, our community and our nation. (G. K. Butterfield, United States Congressman)

Jon Kalisch

For 2,000 years, Catholic teaching has emphasized the importance of the family - and of each father's leadership role in his own family. Family and fatherhood is just as important today as it has always been - in fact it may even be more important given the breakdown of so many other civilizing forces in our society. It is for these reasons that I wholeheartedly endorse "Be a Better Dad Today!!" This is a great book for every guy who wants to be a better husband, a better father and yes, a better man. It is full of insight, encouragement and wisdom - I strongly recommend it. (Father Jon Kalisch, O.P. Catholic Chaplain at Dartmouth College)

Hans Helmerich

I have known Gregory for 30 years, and he is passionate, practical and visionary. His terrific book is all three of those things and more. As a father of five, I highly recommend Be a Better Dad Today! to all dads—and dads to be—of any age. (Hans Helmerich, President and CEO, Helmerich and Payne)

Sanjay Poonen

As a senior executive with a growing family, I know firsthand the challenges of being both a good dad and a good manager in today's world. That's why I am so thankful for Be a Better Dad Today! My good friend Gregory Slayton is a great father himself and has made a 30-year study of good fathers around the world. He has used that unique background to write a great, practical, hands-on book that will be a real blessing to every father or father-to-be who reads it. I highly recommend Be a Better Dad Today! to any man who wants to improve his fathering skills—and have fun doing it. (Sanjay Poonen, President and Corporate Officer, Global Solutions, SAP)

Greg Tyler

As the team pastor for the Houston Texans, a happily married husband for 30 years and the proud father of three adult children, I understand that solid communication is essential to developing a winning team. Just as a team looks to the quarterback for leadership and guidance, our families look to dads to valiantly lead and guide them through the obstacle courses of life. Be a Better Dad Today! will help every dad become a better teammate, a better husband, a better father and a better man! Just like All-Pro athletes, All-Pro fathers are made, not born. Read this book and start training today! (Greg Tyler, Team Pastor, Houston Texans)

John McCain

I learned about life and honor from my father and grandfather, who were my heroes as Naval officers and, most importantly, fathers. Earning their respect was the most lasting ambition of my life, and even though they are no longer with us, I continue to live my life according to the terms of their approval. Their courage and faith were an inspiration to me and a key to my survival in some of my most difficult times. I am grateful for the memories of these two great men and the respect and affection they provided as the patriarchs of our family. I've personally known Gregory and his family for years, and I know he exemplifies the title of his book Be a Better Dad Today! each and every day of his life. There are certain lessons in life that can best be taught by fathers. My hope is that this book will help every single man who picks it up to be the best father, the best husband, and the best man he can be. (John McCain, United States Senator)

Les Parrott

Leslie and I founded the Center for Relationship Development on the campus of Seattle Pacific University almost 20 years ago. During those 20 years, we have seen firsthand the critical importance of the fathering skills that Gregory lays out so clearly in Be a Better Dad Today! If you want to be a better father, a better husband and a better man, this book will help you on that path. (Les Parrott, Ph.D.,; Author of Crazy Good Sex)

Roland C. Warren

When I speak with fathers—and I speak to lots of them—they often ask me, "What do I need to do to be a better dad?" Well, Gregory Slayton's book certainly helps answer this important question. Filled with personal stories and practical advice and strategies, Be a Better Dad Today! is a much needed resource that I highly recommend any dad to have in his library. (Roland C. Warren, President, National Fatherhood Initiative)

Patrick P. Gelsinger

From one who had an absent father, Gregory speaks with passionate truth and practical realities about how each one of us can be a better dad. Be a Better Dad Today! engages us as men with wisdom, joy and honest understanding of the challenges we face. Gregory reminds us that we are literally irreplaceable in our roles as husband and father—and that these are the most important jobs we will ever have. The Ten Tools of Fatherhood will be helpful to each and every man who puts them to work. (Dr. Patrick P. Gelsinger, President and COO, EMC Corporation, Author of The Juggling Act)

Joe Liberman

Gregory Slayton writes eloquently about the God-given nobility of fatherhood, an institution of grand personal, familial and societal importance, but also a journey that many men embark on without fully knowing the true path or destination. Slayton deepens our understanding of what being a father means and offers guidance on how fathers can realize their fullest potential. (Joe Liberman, United States Senator)

Jim Burns

Gregory Slayton had to learn to be a great father to his kids without his own dad's help. In this book, he gives you tools that will empower you to do the most important job you will ever have as a man. It's a very practical and hopeful book. (Jim Burns, Ph.D., President, HomeWord, Author of 10 Building Blocks for a Solid Family and Teenology: The Art of Raising Great Teens)

Luis Palau

All over the world, the family is in deep trouble. It is just as much a reality in countries like Argentina and China as it is in the United States and Great Britain. It is becoming even more challenging for today's modern Christian father to lead and protect his family. And, sadly, some have even given up. Be a Better Dad Today! shows each of us men how to be the best father, the best husband, and indeed the best man we can be—all in light of our relationship with our heavenly Father. We all need that kind of encouragement, strength and wisdom . . . today and every day of our lives. (Luis Palau, World Evangelist)

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GregoryWSlayton More than 1 year ago
I grew up without a real father - but was able to study effective (and ineffective) Fatherhood practices on five different continents AND raise four great kids with my wife of 23 years. Yes, by God's grace I know the importance of a good Father...and the challenges, joys and wonders of the Fatherhood Journey. The best news is that good Dads are made...not born. And wherever you are in the Fatherhood Journey - contemplating fatherhood, right in the middle of it or nearing the end - you can grow to be a better Father, a better Husband and a better Man. Growing into the fullness of fatherhood is an exciting journey of self-discovery, service and significance. In fact, it is the most important journey any of us dads will ever make. Like any significant journey - you're going to need a good map, the right tools and some trustworthy allies to help you get there. And that is what "Be A Better Dad Today" provides. The 'map' is the Noble Family Vision that is the focus of Chapter Three. The 'tools' are the Ten Tools of Fatherhood that we explore in Section Two (the 'Tools Section') of the book. And the allies are the "Other Good Men" that are emphasized in Tool #8. Please know that this is not some theoretical book for academics. This is a father's book for fathers. It's a roll up your sleeves and put it to work book. It's a 'let's be gut level honest' book. It's a 'getting better instead of getting bitter' book. It's a man's book for men...but I do think your wife and kids are going to love it too. Because this book is not about head knowledge - it's about truly becoming a better Father, a better Husband and a Better Dad. That's why there is a "Put it to Work" section at the end of every tools chapter. And that's why there's a Men's Group Study Guide at the back of the book - to help us as men to help each other on the Fatherhood Journey. It took me three full years to write this book - and about three million fathering mistakes. But I've loved writing it; it's been a true labor of love. And that's because the Fatherhood Journey is the most important journey any of us dads will ever undertake. In fact, we (my wife and I) feel so strongly about this that we are giving 100% of the royalty profits from the book to Christian Fatherhood Charities. So I do hope you will check out "Be A Better Dad Today." And I truly hope and pray that it will be a rich blessing to you, your family and your future. I look forward to seeing you on the Journey!! Onward and Upward... Gregory W. Slayton
SebDeLuca More than 1 year ago
I took a class in college on masculinity and read a few books on fatherhood. I can confidently say that Gregory Slayton's work is an absolutely wonderful and creative addition to a line of necessary literature. I bought the book for my father and it has sparked great conversation about some of the struggles faced in every father-son relationship. Definitely recommended!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this thinking I would give it to my brother, but as a single mom, there are a lot of transferable principles that even I can apply. I found it extremely useful in it's practical application points.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great kudos to author Gregory Slayton for writing a very accessible and sensible guide of fatherhood. His first-hand experiences, biblical references and historical knowledge aided my overall enjoyment. As a Christian, I am always looking for helpful guides to help me and others be better in our life roles - as Dads, Husbands, Children and Stewards of His resources. Slayton provides a great tool to furthering the Christian understanding of fatherhood. Any reader will quickly grasp his advice as practical, approachable and meaningful - regardless of his faith background. I am greatly encouraged to dive-in and put Gregory Slayton's suggestion into practice. This readable, simple book was just the parenting advice I needed! I am ready to be a better dad today - and will be buying copies of this book for my father and brother and the guys in my bible study!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
When I first read this book, I was surprised how useful it was. I expected it to be one of those motivational self help type, but this book was different. The author is somehow able to not only inspire, but also lay out action points that I can get my head around. It met me where I was and didn't require that my life be in order before I could start benefiting from its suggestions. Be a Better Dad is one of the few books I will keep but also use more than three months.
ihill More than 1 year ago
Mr. Slayton offers a powerful book on fatherhood - full of practical ideas and personal insights. You come away not only inspired with a vision for the high calling of fatherhood, but also equipped with a set of tools and lots of encouragement to get started and keep going. Slayton draws from a wide array of experiences; there is insight here for every father.
M6KM More than 1 year ago
I have just finished reading an advance copy of Be A Better Dad Today, written by The Honorable Gregory Slayton (former Ambassador to Bermuda). For any dads looking for hints on how to improve their fathering, as well as their marriage, this book will inspire you to truly make changes to be the best dad you can be for your unique family. This is an excellent book for a group study, since questions and reflection points are included to make your reading really hit home. This book will bring men together for inspiring conversation! Dads everywhere will appreciate a gift of Be A Better Dad for Father's Day.
Mike06 More than 1 year ago
Be a Better Dad Today has been a wonderful tool in my life--it has allowed me to fully understand that discipline, hard work, and self-sacrifice are always helpful tools as I strive to better myself as a human being and as a man for others.  Gregory Slayton's Noble Family Vision has inspired me to dial in on a framework for what I want my family to be like.  It also helps me understand my family as it is now.  I also really appreciate Slayton's holistic approach; his tools for becoming a better father are the same tools that one can use to become a whole person and a servant of God.  Young men who are searching for guidance can always refer to this book as a daily reflection to go towards the light and to be a light for others.  Every word in this book is written with God's will--its success as a national bestseller is no surprise because Slayton is consistently attuned to the Truth.  
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is definitely a brilliant book on fatherhood, but it is never only about fatherhood from my perspective. It is also about THE figure of being a good man, a great husband and a lovely dad and a faithful person. It is about all these positive attitudes and values that a man should have towards his life, family and faith, a man of believing, loving, committing and persisting along with all other great characteristics that he should possess. A man, who wants to be a good man, should go ahead and read this book. I personally love the chapter which talks about the tool of All-in Marriage which clarifies the importance of commitment to your beloved wife, kids and the whole family. My mom brought me up alone. What I’ve always been taught was to have a heart of love and hope, being grateful and appreciate what you are given. Being polite and always introspect yourself. Stay away from hatred which could have led me to a whole another different path of life and ruin it all. I’m glad that I have somewhat listened to my mom even I was being rebellious to my only parent. Even though we now live on two different continents and are separated by the Pacific Ocean, a 12 hour time zone difference, all these values instilled by her and stayed with me along the way of growing up, are now serving as my principles and compass of being a good man that I am so determined to be, a great husband, a great dad, a great son and a man of faith. Go read this book, no matter you are already a dad or about to be one soon. It is never too early and it is never too late for someone who intends to be a better man! If you do, go for it!
davehill More than 1 year ago
If you really want to be a better dad today, this is a good book to read and put into practice. It gives you sound practical ways to improve yourself as a father. The ten tools for fatherhood are principles that will work for you and your family. Slayton's down to earth and honest style will touch your heart and encourage you that you, too, can truly be a better dad. He notes that we all have failures and weaknesses, but that does not have to stop us from improving as dads. There is also a website with a "put it to work" tool for each chapter. If you agree with Slayton's statement that "fatherhood is the most important job a man will ever have", then this book is for you. Get a copy, read it and get to work.