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Becoming Brave: How to Think Big, Dream Wildly, and Live Fear-Free
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Overview
A brave life is not stumbled upon—it’s cultivated – it’s choosing to be bold and fearless when everything in you wants to cower in defeat. Tracey Mitchell offers a fresh approach to intentionally living a meaningful, courageous life.
Learn how to tackle these difficult questions:
- Am I willing to trade my best days for fear?
- Will I let hurt feelings rob me of my dreams?
- Will I allow loss to steal my peace?
- Will I waste my life haunted by painful memories?
Each chapter contains insightful wisdom, real-life stories, and illustrations of how to transform fear and anxiety into confidence and courage and become truly brave. With questions for reflection throughout the book, Mitchell offers women an action guide to growth. This message of courage and empowerment is ideal for fans of Lysa TerKeurst and Rachel Hollis’ Girl Wash Your Face.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781400208104 |
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| Publisher: | Nelson, Thomas, Inc. |
| Publication date: | 09/04/2018 |
| Pages: | 240 |
| Product dimensions: | 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.66(d) |
Read an Excerpt
CHAPTER 1
JOIN THE RANKS
You would have enjoyed meeting my friend Beth. Everyone did. Warm, loving, easygoing, she made the world a better place. Her love for life and people was infectious. She had a gentleness about her that made life seem less complicated, more enjoyable.
Late last fall I received a text from Beth. She would be traveling through Dallas on her way to Georgia and asked if we could connect. Eager to visit, I made plans for us to have lunch at a corner bakery. It had been more than six months since I had seen my friend. I was overjoyed by the thought of spending a few hours laughing over memories and catching up on the details of our lives.
I arrived at the bakery a few minutes early and scanned the crowd to see if she had grabbed us a table. My eyes bounced around the restaurant. No sign of Beth. Then I heard a soft, familiar voice say, "I'm right here." The voice and smile belonged to Beth, but the sunken, skeletal frame bore little resemblance to the rosy-cheeked friend I knew. My expression must have mirrored my fear. When her bony frame hugged me, she whispered, "Don't worry; it's going to be okay." I felt a wave of nausea sweep over me as I steadied my emotions to receive the news.
Stage 4 non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. The words roared in my ears. My mind struggled to comprehend what the diagnosis might mean. Her recent bouts of fatigue, low-grade fever, bone pain, and weight loss were all cancer related, her oncologist had confirmed. Apart from a miracle, six to nine months was the best she could hope for, given the prognosis. Later that day, Beth took a flight to a cancer treatment facility in Atlanta. That was the last time I would see my friend.
I've often wondered, how different would we live each day if we knew our days were numbered? What would happen if we knew the exact date we were going to die? How would we react? Would we sit silently and try to hold on to each moment? Would we dig through our nightstands, searching for that bucket list of things we never got around to doing? Would we drown in a sea of self-pity? Or would we do what my friend Beth did the last few months of her life and bravely encourage others?
Beth did not view cancer as an enemy but as an opportunity: an opportunity to comfort the widow in the hospital room three doors down, whose family was unable to be with her during her final weeks of life. An opportunity to share encouraging words with a staff member going through a devastating divorce. An opportunity to celebrate her roommate's remission — a favorable prognosis — the same day she herself was given devastating news. In the midst of life's most challenging moment, Beth rose above the crushing physical and emotional waves of cancer. She didn't just look for ways to escape her pain. She searched for ways to encourage others in theirs.
God is looking for more Beths. "Sheroes" disguised in leggings and hoodies rather than tights and capes. Wonder women who care more about their sisters than about themselves. The greatest moments in life are when we have the courage to ignore our own needs and instead reach out to the hurting around us.
Cancer isn't the only situation that requires courage. You may not be fighting for your health, but you may be facing bankruptcy, a family rift, the ending of an unhealthy friendship, a miscarriage, or the unexpected loss of a loved one. You are not alone. Life is not always easy. Heartache is real and pain is often unavoidable. But your response to unexpected crisis will determine whether you sink beneath or rise above the waves of chaos. The truth is, crisis reveals who we are.
* * *
Seated in a worn leather chair at my favorite Starbucks, I pay attention to the women around me. I see what makes them tick. I look just as closely at the woman whose four-inch stilettos click crisply across the floor as I do at the sister who flip-flops her way to the counter. One carries a tan designer bag; the other, a thin vinyl backpack. One wears short, manicured nails; the other, chipped blue polish. Different worlds? Obviously. Same heartbreaking issues? Most likely.
I've spent countless hours listening to women share their private stories of grief. My heart breaks for the twenty-five-year-old who tearfully describes how what she'd hoped would be a happily-ever-after love story ended abruptly. My pulse quickens when I hear disturbing tales of unexpected betrayal, gut-wrenching heartache, and controversy. It's hard to hold back tears when I see the fallout of unfulfilled promises, smeared reputations, and innocent victims needlessly dragged through the minefield of life.
Although each woman's story is unique to her set of circumstances, there is one common thread in all our stories. In the midst of our pain, our hearts wonder, How do I find the courage to get through this?
Let's be honest. Life can get messy. No one plans on her marriage turning into a nightmare, but it happens. Detours intersect with our paths to happiness. Discrimination exists. Inequality is real. Cancer. Divorce. Unfaithfulness. Abuse. They all happen. We discover life isn't as carefree as we imagined. The world isn't as safe as we once thought. We try to make wise decisions and keep an optimistic outlook. Then along comes one of those sucker-punch moments, and our lives are irreversibly altered. Sometimes they are the result of another person's dysfunction; often they are the repercussions of our own choices and actions. But how we react when the world throws a dagger at our backs determines whether we will become victims or survivors and thrivers. Will we buckle under the pressure, or will we pick up our swords and fight for our joy, our peace, our families, our future?
Becoming Brave is for any woman who would courageously choose the latter over the nagging voice in her head urging her to slip into her flannel pajamas and hide beneath the covers of doubt and discouragement.
Maybe just hearing the word chaos or crisis makes you want to run the other way. I beg you to reconsider. We will never conquer life's most pressing problems until we are brave enough to address our issues. We will also never reach our dreams or fulfill our destinies.
Pain is no respecter of persons. We could swap stories on how we've fallen apart during life's darkest seasons. I will be the first to admit I've had my share of meltdowns. But I've learned that the enemy only gains great ground when we bury our hearts in our insecurities or take cover beneath the security blanket of denial. That's a false security. Refusal to face life's greatest challenges does not dissipate the storms; rather, it empowers them. I have seen people whose lives were in shambles dive headlong into a bed of depression, only adding to their troubles. Conversely, I have observed others, with equally pressing problems, stand their ground, raise their shields of faith, and declare victory. Their courageous resolve in desperation transformed their worst moments into their finest hours.
A victorious life is not stumbled upon; it is cultivated. It's the result of choosing to be bold, brave — fearless — when everything in you wants to cower in defeat. If you are serious about defeating the things that seek to destroy you, you must decide to be fabulously fierce and face your problems head-on. And you must tackle these difficult questions:
• Am I willing to trade my best days for a life spent wallowing in the pit of unrealized expectations?
• Will I permit the claws of injustice to strip me of my God-appointed destiny?
• Will I enthrone feelings of loss, empowering them to steal my peace?
• Will I waste my life grieving over those times when I was blindsided by hurtful situations?
• At the end of my days, will I look back with embarrassment and realize that I authorized feelings of failure to snatch the joy right out of my life and to derail me from pursuing my dreams?
You don't have to agree to any of these things, but it is your choice.
I am confident we women can dry our tears, lift our heads, double our fists, and come up swinging, fearlessly confronting every challenging situation and recovering what has been lost. In fact, I am certain we can emerge stronger and wiser when we learn to rise victoriously above our experiences, not just survive them. So in this book I'm going to challenge you to bypass the quicksand of self-defeatism. It's a consuming pit, one that is hard to escape, but I promise to steer you away from the lies of the enemy, who seeks to convince you that you're disqualified from receiving God's favor or blessings.
As an encourager of women, I make it my job to expose the seductive schemes that would pull the plug on your joy and peace — and your future. Nothing makes me want to hurl my coffee cup across the room more than seeing someone full of potential fall victim to the spirit of frustration. I refuse to let you go out this way.
I decree that you will not stay paralyzed and powerless. Grief, loss, and devastation will not consume you. Acts of betrayal, slander, and injustice stand no chance of derailing your destiny. And bitterness and burnout will be dethroned as you stand your ground and face life with confidence and assurance.
I've waded into emotional sinkholes to help people learn how to pull themselves up and out. Together we've cried, laughed, debated, and prayed for clarity. Through every counseling session, I've sought biblical understanding and God's wisdom and discernment. But before I could help anyone else, I had to spend many days and sleepless nights challenged by my own fears and pushed far beyond the safe haven of my emotional comfort zone. Forced to confront my own share of insecurities, doubts, and fears, I have grown stronger and now walk in renewed confidence. I've learned how to rise above circumstances that once threatened to wear me down. You can too.
My process toward becoming brave and resilient has been a spectacular journey, unlike anything I've ever experienced. My tears, fears, smiles, and secrets are woven throughout each chapter. I pray you will come away from this book with a new perspective and the courage to embrace life in an enthusiastic, passionate, and eager way. Together, and with God's guidance, we can rise above any situation that threatens to wear us down. We can learn to think big, dream wild, and live fear-free!
What do you say? Are you ready to stretch into a new season? Then join me as we entertain the impossible and begin our journey toward divine courage and confidence.
FORFurther Reflection
1. How different would you live each day if you knew you only had six months to live? Would you embrace the time you have left and leave a lasting legacy, or languish in regret over how you've lived your life thus far?
2. Think back over your life. How have you helped others while facing trials of your own — or have you? Are you there for others even when you're suffering your own heartache? If not, who do you know that could use some moral support? How can you provide that support?
3. Often, crisis can help us understand more about who we are. What have you learned about yourself from the crises you've encountered? Can you identify any positive character qualities that you developed during adversity?
4. In which area(s) of your life do you feel most discouraged? Relational? Financial? Career? Or something else? How are you preparing to rise above what threatens to wear down your faith?
CHAPTER 2WIRED TO BE BRAVE
Tap. Tap. Tap. Her black, strapped heels clicked across the polished floor. As she gently swayed to the music, her low-cut evening gown hugged her figure in just the right way. She was Manhattan's resident it girl. The kind of woman men try to trap and women try to tame. Some people are born stunningly beautiful. Chloe was that lethal combination of brains plus beauty. A familiar face within New York City's social circles, Chloe ranked high on the list of must-have people at your party. A resident of the wealthy Upper East Side, she filled her days searching for the latest fashion trends to arrive from London. At night she floated between dinner parties, red-carpet events, and premieres. Envious? Don't throw her under the bus just yet.
Chloe is a fictitious name. Her story is real, but her true identity is Agent 355. No, I'm not talking about a Bond girl. Agent 355 was one of Washington's most trusted spies during the Revolutionary War. Brilliantly brave, she slipped secrets from Britain's highest-ranking officers into the hands of the American commander in chief. It was the inside edge the colonies needed to topple the world's most powerful military. To this day, no one knows the identity of Agent 355, a reminder that it's often the no-names who rewrite destinies.
I can't promise that if you're brave, your memory will be inscribed in a history book. But I can promise that brave women always change the course of history. Maybe silently. Perhaps slowly. But their influence will definitely alter the trajectory of someone else's journey. You don't have to live the salacious life of Agent 355 to experience the ripple-effect reward of being brave. I know women who have changed the course of history from their tiny prayer closets, coffee nooks, country walking trails, and urban lofts. The fact is, most women don't realize they are changing history while they are changing diapers or washing out bedpans.
And they don't know they are hardwired to be history makers.
* * *
During the past year, I have been on a journey of discovery of sorts. I have endeavored to identify what sets apart truly brave women from those boisterous women who only appear brave. I think I've about nailed it down and hope to have it neatly outlined for you in this book.
Taking a hard look at what it means for a woman to become brave has unnerved me in more ways than I can share in one sitting. When I started out on this journey, I thought I had the subject matter locked down already. After all, I have been studying our gender through the microscope of Scripture for decades. I vainly imagined I had a pulse on all our strengths and vulnerabilities and knew exactly what a courageous woman was made of. I didn't. The truth is, I was forced to lean in, look deeper, and get gut-level honest. Not only did I have to dethrone the images of some of the women I once held in high esteem, I also had to tear down any lofty ideas about my own courage.
That required more nerve and transparency than I felt comfortable with.
More than ever, I'm convinced most of us have deep insecurities about how we would respond if our faith and fears were to collide. We try not to go there. Impulsively we try to wash away any negative thoughts before they have time to grow roots. We glance at our newsfeed and cringe when we see the picture of a precious four-year-old with tubes coming out of her nose. We halfheartedly type, "My prayers are with you." But for the life of us, we won't take five minutes to imagine the agony that child's mother must be going through. If we did, perhaps it would change how we pray. It might even change how we engage.
Let me own up to some of my own indifference to those who are suffering. Just last week, on my way to the airport, a homeless man stood on a busy corner, rattling coins in a dirty plastic cup. It was easy for my hands to reach for spare change but impossible for my heart to imagine, What if this were me? I tried for a moment, but the memory of growing up underprivileged myself made me shut down. I dropped the quarters in the cup and the accelerator to the floor. Does that make me shallow or mark me as insensitive? Well, it certainly wouldn't land me in the ranks of the brave.
No matter how brave we want to imagine we are, life will eventually call our bluff. An MRI machine whirls around our heads. A homeless family looks us in the eyes. We become foster parents of defiant twin teens. And for every opportunity to become brave, a dozen voices will try to cripple our confidence. Those voices don't whisper; they scream. They call to us in our weakest moments, whether through an accusing email, a close friend's betrayal, a rebellious teen, a drunk ex-spouse — the invitation to discouragement is endless.
After trying to reconcile my fears and my faith, I've come to this conclusion: if I am to have even a remote chance of bravely facing down my fears, I'll need to knock back a few stiff shots of courage. So will you.
It's time we drink up.
(Continues…)
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Table of Contents
Foreword, xv,
1. Join the Ranks, 1,
2. Wired to Be Brave, 11,
3. Changing Your Trajectory, 31,
4. The Flashing Blade, 47,
5. A Dream Thief, 61,
6. More Than a Spartan, 77,
7. The Quest, 97,
8. It's All About Timing, 115,
9. Capturing Your Courage, 133,
10. God's Silence, Our Words, 149,
11. Stormy Seasons, 165,
12. Wild Imagination, 181,
13. Brave: The New Normal, 195,
Brave Quotes, 207,
Notes, 213,
About the Author, 215,
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