Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama

Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama

by Sophia Nelson
Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama

Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama

by Sophia Nelson


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It’s time for a REDEFINITION among black women in America.

In its 2011 hardcover release, Black Woman Redefined was a top-selling book and took home a 2011 Best Non-Fiction Book of the Year Award from the African American Literary Awards. Author Sophia A. Nelson won the 2012 Champions of Diversity Award, given each year by diversity business executives in Fortune 100 companies.

Black Woman Redefined was inspired in part by what Nelson calls “open season on accomplished black women”: from Don Imus’s name-calling of black female basketball players in 2007 and a 2009 Yale University study titled “Marriage Eludes High-Achieving Black Women,” to the more recent revelation that First Lady Michelle Obama is concerned about being painted as an “angry, black woman.”

In Black Woman Redefined, Nelson sets out to change this cultural perception, taking readers on a no-holds-barred journey into the hearts and minds of accomplished black women to reveal truths, tribulations, and insights like never before.

This groundbreaking book provides black women of a new generation with essential career and life-coaching advice. Based on never-before-done research on college-educated, career-driven black women, Nelson offers her fellow “sisters”—and those who know, love, and work with them—a feel-good volume for personal and professional success that empowers them without tearing others down.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781936661732
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
Publication date: 11/20/2012
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 260
Sales rank: 1,153,150
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Sophia A. Nelson is the chairman and founder of iask, Inc. (aka “I Am My Sister’s Keeper”) an international organization dedicated to the service, self, and success of professional black women. She is a popular blogger and much sought-after national columnist, speaker, and political/social commentator for media outlets such as CNN, Fox News, MSNBC, NPR, The Huffington Post, BET, and BBC. Her opinion pieces have appeared in The Washington Post, The Washington Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Chicago Sun Times, USA TODAY, Essence, and National Law Journal/LegalTimes.

Table of Contents

Prologue: The Age of Michelle Obama: An Open Letter to the First Lady of the United States with Special Words of Wisdom from the First Lady 1

Introduction: What Is Your Season: Are you Defining or Redefining Your Life? 11

Part I Dispelling the Myths and Discovering the Truth About Who we are 17

1 Who We Are and What We've Accomplished 19

2 Our Context from Slavery to the White House: Why It Still Matters 35

Part II How we Work and Love 51

3 Changing the Game: Redefining Ourselves in the Twenty-First-Century Workplace 53

4 Why Can't a Successful Black Woman Find a Man? Actually, She Can 87

5 Real Talk about Twenty-First-Century Relationship Expectations and Trends 111

Part III Moving Beyond the Pain to Purpose 129

6 Jesus Is Your Savior, Not Your Man: Candid Talk about the Church, Sexuality, and the Role They Play in Our Quest to Be Loved and Fulfilled 131

7 Sexual Abuse: The Hidden Wound That We Have to Talk About 161

8 Dwelling in the Valley of Our Past: Learning to Forgive, Release, and Heal from Our Hurts 175

Part IV Redefining Ourselves-What Really Matters

9 Empty Womb, Broken Heart: Redefining Motherhood in Today's World 199

10 It's the Climb: Facing Life's Storms and Remaining Resilient 219

11 Sisters, It's Time to Heal: Learning to Love, Uplift, & Support Each Other 243

Bonus Feature: Celebrity and Distinguished African American Essays and Sage Wisdoms 267

Author's Note 270

A Tribute to the Late Dr. Dorothy Irene Height by the Honorable Alexis M. Herman 273

Feature Essays 277

Short Essays: Wisdoms and Straight Talk You Can Stand On 296

Study Guide 319

Research Appendices: From the Researchers Methodology and Summary of Key Findings 331

About the Author 353

Endnotes 355

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

More than anything else, Nelson's work is a how-to book, a feel-good tome that offers black women prescriptions for personal and professional success that empower them without tearing down someone else."
DeWayne Wickham, USA Today columnist

"Ardent, inspirational, insightful, and redemptive."
Kam Williams

“On the page as she does on television, Sophia A. Nelson uses bold insights and no-nonsense observations to cut through the myths and misperceptions about what it means to be a black woman today. But this isn’t just a book for black women. It speaks to everyone who cares about equality and opportunity, and especially to women, of every color, who are looking for a fresh perspective on everything from careers to dating to faith. Whether you agree or disagree with her, you’ll find it hard to put this book down.”
Chris Jansing, Emmy-Award winning anchor and host of MSNBC’s Jansing & Co

“The enduring legacy of any great work is that it touches our souls and causes us to reflect inward. It calls us to open our eyes, step out of the shadows of our pain, and to live life forward. Black Woman Redefined does that for us all. This brilliant, powerful book is not just about and for black women—it invites the entire American family to see black women more fully as people. Sophia A. Nelson is one of the most gifted analysts and writers of our time. She effectively rejects the centuries-old myth that black women’s lives aren’t worth discussing. The often painful stories shared in this book are still being told because they’re still being lived. In the end, this book is a much-needed generational battle cry for recognition, release, and healing.”
Michael Eric Dyson, Professor at Georgetown University, radio host of the Michael Eric Dyson Show, and best-selling author of Why I Love Black Women

“Sophia Nelson, with her keen intellect, detailed research, and never before written insights, encourages all women, especially our strong and diverse black sisters to achieve new and unprecedented heights.”
Armstrong Williams, Washington Times columnist, author, and nationally syndicated TV and radio host

“In her first book, Sophia A. Nelson gives us all great insight and information on some of the serious issues facing today’s African American women. This book is bound to generate discussion across the social and political spectrum for years to come.”
Sean Hannity, best-selling author, radio show host, and host of FOX News’ top-rated political program Hannity

“Each generation has a voice that is lifted at just the right time to grab hold of us and shake us from our slumber. Sophia A. Nelson calls on black women to rethink the way things are and change them. She has tapped into the pain and silence of her generation of ‘sisters,’ and approaches this important subject matter in a way that is compassionate and profound. Sophia carefully dissects the continuing, yet often invisible, struggle of modern day black women when it comes to our image, the perceptions that others have of us, and that we have of ourselves.”
Terrie M. Williams, author, Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We’re Not Hurting

“Nelson uncovers the issues that are often hidden beneath the surface of black women’s pain, and demonstrates to all how to live well and emerge victorious on the other side.”
Dr. Melody T. McCloud, OB/GYN- columnist Psychology Today and author of Living Well, Despite Catchin’ Hell: The Black Woman’s Guide to Health, Sex, and Happiness

“Think ‘redefinition.’ Sophia A. Nelson’s new book Black Woman Redefined cuts through a mountain of myths, stereotypes, and negative thinking. The result is a treasure chest of new information, valuable insights, and inspiring advice for African American women—and for us, the men who love them!”
Clarence Page, Pulitzer Prize-winning syndicated columnist for the Chicago Tribune

“At a moment of profound economic and cultural change for America, Black Woman Redefined comes along at the perfect time. While Sophia A. Nelson knows her target audience, she’s also aware of the broader, diverse world. With solid research and a smooth inclusive voice, Nelson has produced a book that that holds lessons for many.”
Robert A. George, New York Post

Black Woman Redefined is a book that has been greatly anticipated because it was penned by a woman who for years has displayed refreshing analytical and political savvy first as an attorney on Capitol Hill, then as a lobbyist, and finally as a national TV commentator and columnist. This book encourages black women to do what Sophia A. Nelson has exhibited to us all for years: how to be a successful sister, wrapped with old-fashioned charm, endless grace, an unflinching determination, and a passion for serving others seldom seen in our modern times.”
Hamil Harris, Washington Post, Emmy-Award winning videographer

“The research and insight in this book lend to a much-needed discussion of just how far African American women have come and how far they have to go.”
Mika Brzezinski, co-host of MSNBC’s Morning Joe and author of Knowing Your Value

Black Woman Redefined offers an urgent message that readers need to hear now: Put yourself first. The stories Sophia A. Nelson offers, coupled with thorough research and data, will make this read a game changer. Many conversations will begin about this book over many, many years and that’s a good thing.”
Essence magazine

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