Boys Don't Tell: Ending the Silence of Abuse
American society is in the midst of a crisis-an epidemic of violence, secrets and shame. The victims reside in every town, on every street. Finding it easier to remain in denial than to confront this reality, the public minimizes the emotional aftermath of sexual abuse of children and provides few programs to help heal those afflicted.

Recounting the author’s journey through a minefield based on his own denial, Boys Don’t Tell takes a subjective look back at a life distorted by the effects of childhood sexual abuse and offers insight on why victims find it so difficult to “just get over it and move on.” Through the eyes and emotions of the author, this book reveals his abuse as a teenager by a trusted minister and mentor, then recounts years of therapy, a formal complaint to The Church, and a lawsuit settled in mediation.

Excruciatingly honest, Boys Don’t Tell creates an openness that can facilitate healing in others giving a voice to an estimated 20 million male survivors, and offers loved ones, professionals, church and organizational leaders the opportunity to understand the impact of child sexual abuse.

As one reader put it, “You have been through so much, conquered so much, lost so much, and still have far to go. I was moved to tears. At times I felt I was eavesdropping. This is a tragic story filled with hope for justice and healing.”

 

 

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Boys Don't Tell: Ending the Silence of Abuse
American society is in the midst of a crisis-an epidemic of violence, secrets and shame. The victims reside in every town, on every street. Finding it easier to remain in denial than to confront this reality, the public minimizes the emotional aftermath of sexual abuse of children and provides few programs to help heal those afflicted.

Recounting the author’s journey through a minefield based on his own denial, Boys Don’t Tell takes a subjective look back at a life distorted by the effects of childhood sexual abuse and offers insight on why victims find it so difficult to “just get over it and move on.” Through the eyes and emotions of the author, this book reveals his abuse as a teenager by a trusted minister and mentor, then recounts years of therapy, a formal complaint to The Church, and a lawsuit settled in mediation.

Excruciatingly honest, Boys Don’t Tell creates an openness that can facilitate healing in others giving a voice to an estimated 20 million male survivors, and offers loved ones, professionals, church and organizational leaders the opportunity to understand the impact of child sexual abuse.

As one reader put it, “You have been through so much, conquered so much, lost so much, and still have far to go. I was moved to tears. At times I felt I was eavesdropping. This is a tragic story filled with hope for justice and healing.”

 

 

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Boys Don't Tell: Ending the Silence of Abuse

Boys Don't Tell: Ending the Silence of Abuse

by Randy Ellison
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Boys Don't Tell: Ending the Silence of Abuse

by Randy Ellison

Overview

American society is in the midst of a crisis-an epidemic of violence, secrets and shame. The victims reside in every town, on every street. Finding it easier to remain in denial than to confront this reality, the public minimizes the emotional aftermath of sexual abuse of children and provides few programs to help heal those afflicted.

Recounting the author’s journey through a minefield based on his own denial, Boys Don’t Tell takes a subjective look back at a life distorted by the effects of childhood sexual abuse and offers insight on why victims find it so difficult to “just get over it and move on.” Through the eyes and emotions of the author, this book reveals his abuse as a teenager by a trusted minister and mentor, then recounts years of therapy, a formal complaint to The Church, and a lawsuit settled in mediation.

Excruciatingly honest, Boys Don’t Tell creates an openness that can facilitate healing in others giving a voice to an estimated 20 million male survivors, and offers loved ones, professionals, church and organizational leaders the opportunity to understand the impact of child sexual abuse.

As one reader put it, “You have been through so much, conquered so much, lost so much, and still have far to go. I was moved to tears. At times I felt I was eavesdropping. This is a tragic story filled with hope for justice and healing.”

 

 

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781614480464
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
Publication date: 12/01/2011
Pages: 150
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Randy Ellison made a living in sales and marketing for most of his adult life. Four years ago, after 40 years of denial, he opened the memories of child sexual abuse (CSA) by his minister. He has since spoken on the issues surrounding CSA, as well as his own recovery and healing, at rallies, fundraisers, and a wide variety of churches and public gatherings. Randy also has testified before the Oregon State Legislature and authored many articles on child abuse. He now works as a victim and survivor advocate with any opportunity that presents itself.

Table of Contents

acknowledgements v

preface ix

Chapter 1 the beginning of recovery 1

Chapter 2 revelation 15

Chapter 3 learning to live with it 23

Chapter 4 reality sucks 29

Chapter 5 the official response 33

Chapter 6 coming out 37

Chapter 7 the legal system 47

Chapter 8 the struggle continues 53

Chapter 9 things that count 59

Chapter 10 something old, something new 65

Chapter 11 seeking understanding 75

Chapter 12 deposition 79

Chapter 13 in society and the world 83

Chapter 14 branching out 89

Chapter 15 getting at the core 93

Chapter 16 family of origin 99

Chapter 17 neglected loved ones 109

Chapter 18 mediation 119

epilogue 131

Resources 135

about the author 139

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