In this New York Times–bestselling book, Dr. Daniel Siegel shows parents how to turn one of the most challenging developmental periods in their children’s lives into one of the most rewarding.
Between the ages of 12 and 24, the brain changes in important, and oftentimes maddening, ways. It’s no wonder that many parents approach their child’s adolescence with fear and trepidation. According to renowned neuropsychiatrist Daniel Siegel's New York Times bestseller Brainstorm, if parents and teens can work together to form a deeper understanding of the brain science behind all the tumult, they will be able to turn conflict into connection and form a deeper understanding of one another.
In Brainstorm, Siegel illuminates how brain development impacts teenagers’ behavior and relationships. Drawing on important new research in the field of interpersonal neurobiology, he explores exciting ways in which understanding how the teenage brain functions can help parents make what is in fact an incredibly positive period of growth, change, and experimentation in their children’s lives less lonely and distressing on both sides of the generational divide.
Brainstorm is a current nominee for a Books for a Better Life award.
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About the Author
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.,is clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and executive director of the Mindsight Institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, he is the author of the New York Times bestseller, Brainstorm; coauthor of two classic parenting books, Parenting from the Inside Out (with Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.) and The Whole-Brain Child (with Tina Payne Bryson); and author of Mindsight and the internationally acclaimed professional texts, The Mindful Brain and The Developing Mind. Dr. Siegel keynotes conferences and presents workshops throughout the world. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and two children.
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The Benefits and Challenges of Adolescence
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Table of Contents
Part I The Essence of Adolescence 1
The Benefits and Challenges of Adolescence 6
Maintaining the Power and Purpose of the Adolescent Mind into Adulthood 9
Adolescence from the Inside Out 13
Risk and Reward 18
Pushing Away 23
The Timing of Puberty, Sexuality, and Adolescence 25
The Stress and Distress of Our Extended Adolescence 27
Adolescent Transitions and the Centrality of Our Relationships 30
Mindsight Tools #1 Seeing and Shaping the Sea Inside 39
Three Basic Kinds of Mindsight Maps 42
Seeing Inside the Sea Inside 44
Mindsight Practice A Insight and SIFTing the Mind 47
Physical Sight of the Material World Versus Mindsight of the Inner World 48
Mindsight Practice B Mindsight Illuminated 51
Mindsight Practice C Empathy 54
Mindsight Practice D Sensing the Harmony of Integration 58
When Integration Is Not Present: Chaos or Rigidity 59
Mindsight Practice E Name It to Tame It 60
Mindsight Practice F Detecting Chaos or Rigidity and Balancing the Mind 61
Mindsight Strengthens the Mind, the Brain, and Our Relationships 63
Part II Your Brain 65
Dopamine, Decisions, and the Drive for Reward 67
Family, Friends, and Fooling Around 72
The Purpose of Adolescence 74
Making Decisions 77
"Don't Do It" Doesn't Do It: The Power of Promoting the Positive 80
Integrating Your Brain 81
A Handy Model of the Brain 85
Adolescence as the Gateway to Creative Exploration 89
Creating Collaboration Across the Generations 95
Vulnerability and Opportunity 97
The Remodeling Brain and Flipping Our Lids 101
Adolescence Builds Integration in the Brain 105
The Emotional Lower Brain 106
Hardwired for Adventure and Connection 108
Mindsight Tools #2 Time-In 111
Time-In, Mindsight, and Mindful Awareness 112
Being Present for What Is Happening as It Is Happening 117
Mindsight Practice A Breath Awareness 119
Building Mindsight's Lens 126
Integrating Consciousness with the Wheel of Awareness 128
Mindsight Practice B The Wheel of Awareness 131
Reflecting on the Wheel 136
Part III Your Attachments 139
Safe Harbor and Launching Pad 144
The Ways We Attach 149
The Secure Model 150
The Avoidant Model 151
The Ambivalent Model 153
The Disorganized Model 154
Reactive Attachment 155
Earning Secure Attachment and Integrating the Brain 156
Reflecting on Your Attachments and Making Sense of Your Life 161
Questions for Reflection on Attachment 163 Our Attachment Narratives and the Two Sides of the Brain 168
Avoidance, Emotional Distance, and the Left Side of the Brain 177
Ambivalence, Emotional Confusion, and the Right Side of the Brain 184
Disorganized Attachment and a Dissociating Brain 190
Creating a Safe Harbor and Launching Pad for Adolescents 191
Mindsight Tools #3 Time-Between and Reflective Conversation 201
Making Sense of How Our Models Shape Our Present 203
Mindsight Practice A Reflecting on How Your Attachment Models Shape Your Reflective Conversations 206
Reflection, Integration, and the Origins of Empathy 207
Mindsight Practice B Reflective Conversations 210
The PART We Play in Creating Ourselves in Relationships 212
Mindsight Practice C Repairing Ruptures 213
Part IV Staying Present Through Changes and Challenges 217
Honoring the Person an Adolescent Is Becoming 219
Leaving Home 221
Puberty, Sexuality, and Identity 228
Hooking Up 233
Romance and First Love 235
First Be Present 242
Changes and Challenges to Integration 245
Acceptance, Letting Go of Expectations, and Sexual Orientation 247
Drug Use or Abuse? 261
Returning Home: Reflection, Realignment, and Repairing Ruptures 273
Mindsight Tools #4 The Mindsight Simple Seven 281
Mindsight Practice A Time-In 282
Mindsight Practice B Sleep Time 284
Mindsight Practice C Focus Time 287
Mindsight Practice D Downtime 290
Mindsight Practice E Playtime 291
Mindsight Practice F Physical Time 294
Mindsight Practice G Connecting Time 295
Conclusion: MWe and the Integration of Identity 299
What People are Saying About This
Brainstorm is a must read book for every parent if they want to avoid emotional turbulence in their own lives as their children go through adolescence. It's lifesaving for the whole family. --DEEPAK CHOPRA, MD
Brainstorm is a necessary look at why adolescents do what they do... The information that Dr. Dan Siegel shares is not only invaluable for understanding your growing child's brain, but helps build more compassion and patience. --Goldie Hawn
"Brainstorm is a must read book for every parent if they want to avoid emotional turbulence in their own lives as their children go through adolescence. It's lifesaving for the whole family."
—Deepak Chopra, MD
“Brainstorm is eye-opening and inspiring, a great gift to us all—teens, parents of teens, and anyone who wants a full and rich life on this planet. Daniel Siegel shows how the supposed downsides of the teen years all have upsides, and that the lessons for living that await teens are ones any of us, at any age, can learn from.”
—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
"Siegel emerges as a bighearted writer, fully convinced that we all possess the fundamental virtues to navigate the choppy waters of adolescence, and he is eager for us to set them loose, working with adolescents to cultivate the positive aspects—and he is hugely convincing of the intense engagement and creativity that often accompany this time period in a person’s life. Smart advice...on providing the most supportive and brain-healthy environment during the tumultuous years of adolescence."
“This book is chock-full of cutting-edge knowledge as well as a deep compassion for teenagers, the adults they will become, and the teenagers in all of us.”
“Brainstorm is a necessary look at why adolescents do what they do that can put parents in an emotional frenzy. The information that Dr. Dan Siegel shares is not only invaluable for understanding your growing child's brain, but helps build more compassion and patience. A gift for us all.”
"By the end of this book, the teenager has been transformed from a monstrous force into a thinking, feeling, and entirely approachable human being."
“I strongly recommend Brainstorm to teens and those who care for them.”
—Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia
“‘You just don’t get me’ is a common refrain from teenagers to their parents and teachers. Adolescents who read this book will discover that Daniel Siegel gets them . . . This respectfulness is why the book works so well as a manual for adolescents, as well as for their parents and mentors.”
—Lawrence Cohen, author of The Opposite of Worry
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
A must read for all. Even if you are not a parent, this book will give you some useful ways to better interact with this population.
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