As a psychotherapist, parent educator and parent coach, Alyson Schfer has worked with a great many mothers who, in the quest to be a "good mother" have ended up on the door step of despair. Alyson is a forty-something, suburbanite, working-mother of two and can speak to these issues both personally and professionally.
This book explains the psycho-social phenomena of how each person creates their own unique "good mother myth" and then examines why these myths are not only faulty, but could in fact lead to poor parenting, marital disaster and individual crisis. Her years of educating parents around these concepts afford Alyson the skill to take complex ideas and explain them to a lay audience in a compelling and easy to understand way.
Capitalizing on the need to present parents with information in an easy to digest format, the book is presented as a series of personal stories, each highlighting a common parenting myth. This format will appeal to tired parents who have little time and energy for "academia". Instead, readers learn by taking a voyeuristic peek into the private family lives of the book's characters. Readers can identify with the fictitious parents and coaching clients in the stories and see first hand how the characters life experiences shaped their unique "good mother myths" and how these myths create conflict in their lives.
The author offers up ideas for how the character can reject her current thinking and adopt a more useful outlook to improve her situation. The story arc allows readers to identify and then project how their parenting may be unknowingly going off the rails.
The goal of this book is to provide parents with some basic education and a means of self-discovery. Readers uncover their own good mother myths and are given an eye-opening glimpse into potential issues to challenge their thinking. A great sense of empowerment is restored as mothers become better able to resist the pulls of their personal and cultural myths, and instead begin parenting with greater intention and in ways that are more suitable to proper child guidance.
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About the Author
Alyson Schafer, M.A. Counseling, B.Sc., O.A.C.C.P.P. A.A.M.F.T.
Alyson Schafer is a psychotherapist and leading parenting expert. She has an active speaking career and is a mainstay for parenting interviews on radio, television and print properties, including The Montel Show, Globe and Mail, and Cosmopolitan magazine, among many others. Alyson is in her fifth season as the host of The Parenting Show, a one-hour live call-in show that is top-ranked in its time slot. She holds a Masters of Arts - Counseling from the Adler School of Chicago, an Honours Bachelor of Science from the University of Waterloo, and is a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) and the Ontario Association of Consultants, Counselors, Psychometrics and Psychotherapists (OACCPP).
Alyson's books Breaking the Good Mom Myth and Honey, I Wrecked The Kids are national best sellers.
Table of ContentsIntroduction: Today’s Good Mother.
Chapter 1. Myth: Self-Care Is Selfish.
Chapter 2. Myth: My Children Are a Reflection of Me.
Chapter 3. Myth: My Marriage Can Wait.
Chapter 4. Myth: Good Mothers Are All-Caring and All Protecting.
Chapter 5. Myth: Good Mothers Are in Control.
Chapter 6. Myth: Good Mothers Manage Sibling Conflict.
Chapter 7. Myth: Only the Best Education for My Child.
Chapter 8. Myth: Good Mothers Make Life Fun and Entertaining.