Mary Busha speaks to the hurting and guides them toward victory over the harmful, demeaning, or insulting words of their past. She shows readers how to
- understand the emotions and circumstances behind the words
- choose to want to forgive their offenders
- embrace the truth about who they are created to be
- recognize the effect of both negative and positive self-talk
- pray effectively to break the power of negative words
- and walk in the freedom God provides in his Word
She also encourages readers to find ways to use their own words to lift up the people God places in their paths.
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About the Author
Table of Contents
Preface: Words-They're Everywhere! 11
Part 1 Words Spoken to Us
1 Up Close and Personal 19
2 Seeing the Words for What They Really Are 29
3 Choosing to Forgive 41
4 The Truth about You 59
5 Breaking Free through the Power of Prayer 77
6 Walking in Freedom 91
Part 2 Words We Speak to Ourselves
7 Self-Talk-We All Do It 107
8 Fearfully and Wonderfully Made 125
9 Freedom from Negative Self-Talk 139
Part 3 Words We Speak to Others
10 Life-Changing Words 153
11 Seeking the Forgiveness of Others 167
12 Letting Go 181
13 Free at Last 197
Final Words 209
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Breaking the Power of Negative Words (How Positive Words Can Heal) is a useful book for anyone who has had negative words directed at them. Since we live in a fallen world, I think this would include the vast majority of us! Whether spoken by family members, friends, or complete strangers, words are powerful and can affect the way that we view ourselves, either positively or negatively. The author, Mary C. Busha, systematically outlines ways we can overcome the negative words from our past and replace them with life-giving words that are only possible through God! Part 1 is entitled “Words Spoken to Us”. It examines how we can carry words directed at us for a lifetime and how we can work through some of the issues that may develop as a result. Part 2 is called “Words We Speak to Ourselves”. Whether we realize it or not, all of us have an inner dialogue that we should also monitor. Finally, Part 3, “Words We Speak to Others” is an important reminder that we need to be careful with the words we use towards others. I would recommend Breaking the Power of Negative Words if you or someone you know is struggling in these areas.
This book has a good concept. Personally, I have always struggled with the concept of negative words. More specifically, speaking them to myself and to others has always been a weakness. I have a weak filter when it comes to subjects I am passionate about. However, I always find it important to remind myself that there are few people throughout history who have been open to hearing from continually negative people. Therefore, how I say things is just as important as what I am trying to convey. This made this book intriguing to me. This book was primarily written in three sections: Words Spoken to Us, Words We speak to Ourselves, and Words We Speak to Others. I really enjoyed the way that the author broke down the book into these sections. I struggle with all three of these sections in my own life, and I advocate reading the book in its entirety. However, but if you felt that one section pertained more to you I think it may bring readers more comfort to know they could pay special attention to that section. The book serves as a good reminder that the words we use towards ourselves and others will always make an impact whether we recognize it or not. I really like that the author used scripture to tie in the impact of words. I always enjoy when authors tie in scripture and their own anecdotes to solidify their advice/argument. However, the only complaint I have is that I felt the book could have been better if the author had chosen to dig deeper into the established content. That being said, I think it is a good, valuable resource for those who have felt the impact of negative words. Additionally, it would be valuable for those who aren't sure how they should seek forgiveness from negative words of their own.
Words seem like such small things in passing. They can be quickly spoken, thought or read, but they hold a great deal of power in many areas. Influence to hurt, damage, encourage, or heal sometimes for a lifetime. We all remember words that have wounded us in the past. I know I do. Cruel thoughtless ones, sometimes spoken on purpose that 60 years later still sting at their remembrance. Just as bad if not worse are those I have thought toward myself, oftentimes on a regular basis. I believe such have had even a greater impact on shaping my view of me as a person. I cringe to think the effect my unkind words may have had on others. With negativity being such a scourge in today’s society I found this book to be a fantastic study! Through personal illustrations and lots of scripture (a big plus to me!) the author helps the reader take an in-depth, even microscopic look at many aspects of negative words. She doesn’t just leave us hanging there, but in great detail gives us the knowledge and tools to change not only ourselves but overcoming that which is spoken by others. Ms. Busha points out that negative communication in any form is not what God intends. Scripture has a lot to say about the power of the tongue. At the end of each chapter there are study questions for deeper self-examination. These are great! This is a book you will want to read more than once to study. It is a wealth of wisdom and knowledge. I believe everyone can benefit from it and make lasting changes. I received this book from Revell Publishers in exchange for an honest review. The opinions I have stated are my own.
No matter how we all cut it our words have impact on others ad their lives. Some words wound. Other words heal. Some words give life, while other words bring nothing but death. Mary C. Busha, author of Breaking the Power of Negative Words puts it best in this phrase (although I'm rephrasing it): People who are hurt themselves more than likely will hurt other people with their words. Do they mean to do it? Maybe and maybe not. It's not up to us to offer our own justice, however. But Mary Busha does point out and it is said also within the pages of Biblical scripture, "A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks" (Luke 6:45, New King James). It comes across to me that even though the disciples dispersed themselves among the people of various nations, Luke talked with Levi - one of Christ's disciples, penning the book - The Gospel according to Matthew. I say this because it seems the concept of the mouth speaking of the abundance of the heart rolls up not just Matthew 12:34, but also Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 10:11, Psalm 14:1, Proverbs 21:2, Proverbs 24:12, Ezekiel 11:21, and Ezekiel 16:30. I find that the way she has written this book is to illuminate for the Christ-follower, intent on becoming more like Jesus the Messiah, we ought to watch the words we say to each other. In fact, Paul is quoted as saying, "Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ" (Ephesians 4:15). It comes across that to be beneficial to the community of Christ-followers as well as to those in this world we need to speak the never-ending truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ but in a way that it honors both God as well as others who witness it. Overall, I love and enjoy Busha's take on scripture, how she delivers it all within the confines of 222 pages. She gives a ray of hope and encouragement that "we can do all things through Christ who strengthens" us (Philippians 4:13). I truly enjoyed this book and would read it again in a heartbeat. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Revell to give a fair and objective review.
Mary Bushna's Breaking the Power of Negative Words is a powerful reminder to the readers that the words they say can have lasting impacts on the people around them. She uses real-life scenarios and memories along with passages from the Bible to help convey her message. At the end of each chapter, there are questions for the readers to use in self-reflection or could even be used in small group classes. Themes such as forgiveness and the power to break free are focused on in this book. This is a well-written, thought provoking book. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Revell Publishing through NetGalley and was not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed are mine.
This book explores why it's so important to choose our words wisely. Many of us have had harsh words spoken to us as children. Words that we internalized and believed. The author helps us to understand why that person may have spoken these words by understanding their background and then giving us the tools to forgive them She shares Scriptures that speak truth into our hearts about who we really are. I enjoyed the personal stories she shares as I could relate to so many of them and I'm sure other's will, too. We have all had hurtful things said to us and I liked that she made her reader not feel so alone in this. I also like how she has the questions at the end of the chapters for us to look inwardly and figure things out through her questions. There are so many practical concepts through this book of breaking free from the negative words spoken about us and also breaking free from speaking the negative things to ourselves and others. She gives us the tools to begin new habits for speaking in positive ways and in ways that honor God. I really enjoyed this book because it gave me a greater understanding of the power of the negative things we or others say. I also love that she encourages us to see ourselves through God's eyes. It's a very practical and encouraging book and I really gained a lot from it. I give it 5 stars. *This book was provided to me by Revell. I received a copy of this book to review but I was not financially compensated in any way. The opinions expressed are my own and are based on my observations while reading this book.
I love how Mary C. Busha gives us practical advice on ways we can stop the negative words from flowing into our heads - The words spoken to us, those we speak to ourselves and those we speak to others. But, even better, is that along with the practical advice,she gives us spiritual guidance to forgive - those who have spoken negatively to us...and to forgive ourselves... She encourages us to let go of the [many, many] things we have no control over and to practice gratitude for the many, many good things in our lives. After all - can't we just be kind - to others -- and to ourselves? Pick a copy today! It will help you re-focus on the positive in your life! All opinions are my own.
Words have power. Just this week, I spent a few extra minutes one morning styling my hair, and I thought about a comment my elementary school classmates made about my dark locks over 35 years ago. That particular day, I had taken extra time to curl my thick, straight hair, and I thought the curly style looked beautiful. Instead of praising my new do, though, several kids criticized it and called my hair a "mop." Ever since that day, I've hated my hair. It never occurred to me to be grateful for my thick hair until I met Joyce a few years ago. She repeatedly told me how much she loved the way my hair curled and its thickness. I chose to believe her and now love my hair. See? Negative words can deflate and discourage us while positive words can inspire and encourage us. Mary Busha understands the power of words. She uses this book to help readers recognize the power of both positive and negative words. The book outlines the practical steps we can take to form healthier habits with the words we speak. It also discusses ways we can learn to forgive others for saying negative words and change our negative word habits into positive habits. On almost every page, I was encouraged and motivated to make changes. I appreciated Mrs. Busha's conversational yet educational writing style that shares deep concepts without being dry or boring. Also, in addition to scripture, she includes examples from her life and the lives of others in each chapter. These examples helped me connect emotionally to the concepts. The thoughtful discussion questions at the end of each chapter prompted me to go deeper and reinforced my understanding of the chapter's concepts After I finished reading this book, I thought of all the people I know who would benefit from it, including people who invest in me with positive words, people I know who have been wounded from negative words, and people who wound others. Basically, it's a book that's ideal for anyone and everyone. I highly recommend it. 5 Stars!