A profoundly personal account of the impact of complex trauma on a man’s life.
Larry Ruhl’s father sought comfort from his only son, smothering him not only with his affection, but his sexualityblurring critical boundaries that would prove deeply debilitating. Larry’s mother, with her spiraling, ever-changing mental illness kept the family in a constant state of anxiety. By the time Larry graduated from high school, overwhelming sadness and suicidal thoughts took root, plaguing him for decades.
Breaking the Ruhls will resonate deeply with many who have experienced similar trauma, boundary violations, and abuse within the family. Ruhl mines his own experiences with sexual confusion, addiction and recovery, relationships, career struggles, and therapeutic breakthroughs, while demonstrating it is possible to heal and thrive.
- Ninety-three percent of juvenile sexual assault victims knew their perpetrators. For 80 percent of those, that perpetrator was a parent.
- Shines a spotlight on complex trauma involving sexual abuse and help others shed the shame that sexual abuse survivors unfairly carry.
Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor, a leading organization in the fight to improve the resources and support available to male survivors of all forms of sexual abuse. Today he takes meetings into addiction treatment centers as a way to shed shame and draw the parallels between addiction and sexual abuse.
|Publisher:||Central Recovery Press, LLC|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)|
About the Author
Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with the RAINN network (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served for a two-year term as a board member at Male Survivor, a leading organization in the fight to improve the resources and support available to male survivors of all forms of sexual abuse. He also spoke publicly at colleges and retreats to increase awareness of sexual abuse against men and boys. Today he takes meetings into addiction treatment centers as a way to shed shame and draw the parallels between addiction and sexual abuse. He graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), the State University of New York (SUNY) college of art, business, design, mass communication and technology, with a degree in Display & Exhibit Design, and worked as creative director at a textile firm for ten years until opening his own home furnishings/interior design business in 2004.
What People are Saying About This
“ Breaking the Ruhls is a phenomenal unfolding of one survivor’s story. Larry Ruhl’s deep commitment to honesty in this book illuminates a path for others to follow. A book written for these times of truth-telling.” Peter Buffett,
Composer and Philanthropist
“Larry Ruhl shares the details of the inexplicable horrors he faced growing up with astounding bravery, candor, and self-awareness. Predators thrive on silence. By finding the courage to tell this important story, Larry has become a crusader in an effort to bring this pandemic to an end. I’m so glad Larry wrote this bookfor the young boy who embodied a shame that never rightly belonged to him, for the strong man who survived carrying it for a good portion of his life, and for countless others who will feel heard and seen after reading these words. Readers will have a new sense of hope, know they’re not alone and that recovery is possible. Breaking the Ruhls is indeed a gift to the survivors of the world.” Eva Tenuto, Cofounder and Executive Director of TMI Project
“ Breaking the Ruhls is a candid, brutally honest, and refreshingly hopeful story of one man’s journey toward healing after childhood sexual abuse. Ruhl never shies away from the truth, vividly documenting the high-highs and low-lows of his everyday life. For many, sexual abuse is a straightjacket that is taken off only when confronted; in doing so, Ruhl proves that life can (and is) to be lived.” Steve LePore, Founder and Executive Director of 1in6
"Larry Ruhl’s new memoir is an important act of truth-telling. One in six men has experienced child sex abuse, and Ruhl’s sensitive narrative is now a resource for those men as they do the hard work toward healing." Shonna Milliken Humphrey, Author of Dirt Roads and Diner Pie: One Couple’s Road Trip to Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse
“Larry Ruhl courageously tells the story of the sexual victimization done to him at the hands of his father and emotional and covert abuse by his mother. His memoir offers compassion and hope to all male survivors working on recovery. Larry knows he must share his deepest secrets to recover, and I applaud him for daring to put these truths into the light of day to inspire all of us.” Howard Fradkin, PhD, Author of Joining Forces: Empowering Male Survivors to Thrive
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
A necessary read for survivors of abuse or for people living with abused lived ones.