Winner of a Books for a Better Life Award
The inspiring and hilarious instant New York Times bestseller from the beloved writer, speaker, activist, and founder of Momastery.com whose new memoir Love Warrior is an Oprah’s Book Club selection.
Glennon Doyle Melton’s hilarious and poignant reflections on our universal (yet often secret) experiences have inspired a social movement by reminding women that they’re not alone. In Carry On, Warrior, she shares her personal story in moving, refreshing, and laugh-out-loud-funny new essays and some of the best-loved material from Momastery.com. Her writing invites us to believe in ourselves, to be brave and kind, to let go of the idea of perfection, and to stop making motherhood, marriage, and friendship harder by pretending they’re not hard. In this one woman’s trying to love herself and others, readers will find a wise and witty friend who shows that we can build better lives in our hearts, homes, and communities.
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About the Author
Glennon Doyle Melton is the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Carry On, Warrior and Love Warrior, an Oprah’s Book Club selection. Glennon is also the founder of the online community, Momastery, where she shares shameless, humorous, and inspiring essays about marriage, motherhood, faith, addiction, recovery, and connection. She is the creator and president of Together Rising—a non-profit organization that has raised over three million dollars for families around the world through its Love Flash Mobs, which have revolutionized online giving. Glennon is a sought-after public speaker both domestically and internationally. She has been featured on the TODAY show, The Talk, OWN, and in The New York Times, Ladies' Home Journal, Glamour, Family Circle, Parents Magazine, Newsweek, Woman's Day, The Huffington Post, and in other television and print outlets. Glennon lives in Florida with her family.
Table of Contents
Cast of Characters xiii
Building a Life 1
Holy Holes 13
On Writing and Dancing 23
Day One 27
Chutes and Ladders 33
In Case of Emergency 39
Inhale, Exhale 51
Smelly Coughy Guy 55
Lucky Seven 67
Out to Lunch 73
Airing Our Dirty Laundry 75
On Weaving and Repentance 85
Sucker-On Vacuuming 89
Don't Carpe Diem 111
A Little Advice 117
Brave Is a Decision 121
Whatever, Honestly 125
One, Two, Three 129
A Mountain I'm Willing to Die On 137
On Fish and Heaven 145
Officer Superhero 155
On Gifts and Talents 161
Mommy Do-Little 165
The Golden Coin 173
Closer to Fine 177
On Crying and Pedaling 183
What D'Ya Know? 199
On Profanity 201
Gifts Are Bridges 207
Room for One More 219
Treasure Hunt 225
Wherever You Go 233
There You Are 241
Healing Is Listening 245
It Will Be Beautiful 253
By God, There Will Be Dancing 265
Road Warrior 269
Reading Group Guide 273
Author Q&A 283
Momastery and Monkee See - Monkee Do 299
What People are Saying About This
“Funny,honest, and brave, Glennon Melton joins the ranks of Anne Lamott, Sara Miles,and Barbara Brown Taylor by giving her readers a precious gift:permissionpermission to doubt, permission to believe, permission to struggle,permission to laugh, permission to tell the truth, and permission to do it allimperfectly. Carry On, Warrior takes its place among the best ofspiritual memoirs as the kind of book readers will want to return to again andagain. It reads like a conversation with a close friend, but impacts theheart like an encounter with the divine.”
“CarryOn, Warrior is a fierce, outrageous and laugh-out-loud book about emergingfrom addiction and living life at full-tilt.”
“Glennon embodies all that we want to be and fear we are not: she is authentic, funny, wise, loving, and resilient in the face of extraordinary challenges. But the magic of Carry On, Warrior is that by the time you finish the book, you realize you ARE all those things, and more. It is a book that actually makes you feel that you are loved and cherished. Has a book ever accomplished anything more marvelous than that?”
“Glennon Doyle Melton is church and Carry On, Warrior reads like one of those old rollicking hymns that make you want to stand up at the end and shout, “Amen!” Life is indeed “brutiful” but Glennon’s humor, warmth, and honesty are profound reminders that there is beauty in our struggle. I can’t stop thinking about this book.”
Reading Group Guide
This reading group guide for Carry On, Warrior includes an introduction, discussion questions, and ideas for enhancing your book clubThe suggested questions are intended to help your reading group find new and interesting angles and topics for your discussion. We hope that these ideas will enrich your conversation and increase your enjoyment of the book.
Ten years ago, addicted and unwed, Glennon Doyle Melton discovered she was pregnant. Shocked and terrified, she did the only thing she knew to do: she collapsed on the bathroom floor and prayed. When she stood up, she decided to become a mother. She married the father of her child, a man with whom she had only spent ten sober nights, and vowed never to have another drink, cigarette, or drug again. In the decade since, Glennon has learned what it takes to be a loving mother, wife, sister, and friend. She wakes up every morning ready to do battle. Recovery is a battle; faith is a battle; living an honest life–one full of love, one where the truth of what’s inside is mirrored by the experience on the outside–is a battle. And like any good warrior, Glennon has realized that fighting these battles comes with incredible rewards. Carry On, Warrior is Glennon’s call to living out loud–being as honest and open as she can be, no matter what obstacles she faces. Obstacles abound—as they always do, for everyone. From financial struggles, to a thwarted dream to adopt a child, to helping her sister through heartbreak, to keeping the rug vacuumed. But Glennon’s journey has shown her that life lived honestly, openly, and in connection with others is one that is rich and full.
Topics & Questions for Discussion
1. In the opening of Carry On, Warrior Glennon is baffled: a woman says to her at church, “You are so pulled together. It makes me feel so apart.” (1) Why do you think Glennon decided to begin the book with this scene? How does she eventually reveal herself as not quite “pulled together?”
2. Compare Glennon’s present-day life to her low point on Mother’s Day in 2002. What did it take for Glennon to hit bottom? How did she decide so suddenly to turn her life around? Can you imagine doing the same in her position?
3. According to Glennon, “Life is brutiful”–equal parts beautiful and brutal. (7) How can something be both beautiful and brutal at the same time? Make a list of a few things that you consider “brutiful.”
4. After describing all the unsuccessful attempts to fill the hole in her life, Glennon writes, “If there’s a silver living to the hole, here it is: the unfillable, God-sized hole is what brings people together.” (21) Do you agree with Glennon that our weaknesses and our emptiness help us relate to other people? Why or why not?
5. Taking a cue from the writer Anne Lamott, Glennon reveals, “I have three prayers I repeat most often. They are: Please, Thank you, and WTF?” (40) What are the greatest sources of “WTF?” in Glennon’s life? What are your most common prayers? What makes you wonder, “WTF?”
6. Discuss the similarities and differences between Glennon and Sister? How have these two sisters taken different paths in life? How are their personalities similar, and how are they different? How do you think they’ve stayed so close over the years?
7. Discuss Glennon’s hilarious approach to housework, like the way she convinces Tish to help her “vacuum” the carpet? Why do you think her family is so tolerant of Glennon’s trial-and-error approach to bag lunches, laundry, and other daily tasks?
8. Consider Glennon’s explanation of Chronos, “regular time,” and Kairos time, “those magical moments in which time stands still.” (112) What are some examples of Chronos? What are some of your your favorite moments of Kairos, when time is suspended? What can you do to “Carpe a couple of Kairoses a day,” as Glennon suggests? (113)
9. Revisit Glennon’s “mommy resignation,” when she officially gives up listening to her children’s pointless stories, refereeing their fights, and smiling through their spills. (165) If you had to resign from your everyday duties, what would you be happiest to quit? Do you think you would miss any of those daily annoyances if you “resigned?”
10. Glennon believes, “Confidence and humility are two sides of the same coin.” (172) How does Glennon find confidence in knowing she is a “child of God,” and how does knowing everyone is a child of God make her feel humble? What is one good way to remind yourself to feel confident and humble every day?
11. After one of her blog readers made a comment about Glennon’s abortion, Glennon realized, “I walk onto this field every day without armor or weapons, by choice, and so the risk is that every once in a while, someone will ignore the rules and shoot.” (192) What are the unspoken “rules” that the anonymous commenter ignored? What kinds of risks does Glennon take when she writes about her life online? What are the rewards that make those risks worth taking?
12. “We are each an island, but [God] gives us gifts to use as bridges into each other’s lives. When we lay down our gift, we walk right over it and straight into another heart.” (209) Think about the “gift” that your best friend, your spouse, or another loved one has offered you. How does that gift give you access to that person’s heart? What gifts do you think you offer in return?
13. Revisit the painful story of Glennon and Craig’s efforts to adopt a child. What are the main obstacles that they encounter? How do they face these obstacles together, and how do they recover from their disappointment?
14. Glennon lists the “widening circles” that protect her: her husband, children, community, and faith. (7) Try to picture the circles of protection in your life. Who are the loved ones in your widening circles?
15. Glennon and Craig consider their family “religious rolling stones”–they hesitate to commit to a denomination. How does Glennon keep Jesus in her heart, even when she doesn’t have a regular church? In what ways does her daily life resemble a sort of prayer?
Enhance Your Book Club
1. Check for updates on Glennon’s phenomenal website, http://momastery.com/blog/. When you’re ready to commit to living mindfully, as Monkees do, visit http://monkeeseemonkeedo.org/ to join the community and lend a helping hand.
2. This book club meeting will have no “hostress”: welcome to stress-free hosting! Make this meeting a potluck, and ask everyone to bring something to eat or drink. Pajamas and bring-your-own-glass are optional, but encouraged!
3. According to Glennon, “Dancing sober is just honest, passionate living.” (25) Get your book club warmed up with a session of sober dancing! Play your favorite pop song or visit the “Feed Yourself” section on Glennon’s website to download her Momastery Mix at http://momastery.com/blog/feed-yourself and get everyone moving, no matter how silly it looks or feels.
4. Anne Lamott, Maya Angelou, Geneen Roth, Joan Didion, Emily Dickenson, Elie Wiesel, Ken Follett, Kathleen Norris, Sylvia Plath—these are just a few of the writers Glennon mentions in Carry On, Warrior. To see a list of some of her other favorite books and movies, visit the “Feed Yourself” section of her website at: http://momastery.com/blog/feed-yourself.
5. When she gets fed up, Glennon puts on one of her “paper bag hats,” where she can “breathe and hide.” (177) Make paper bag hats–with smiley faces and breathing holes, of course–with your book club members. All you need are some leftover shopping bags, a marker, and a sense of humor!
6. Take a look at, Monkee See—Monkee Do, the not-for-profit charitable organization that emerged from Glennon’s website. The mission of the group is to acknowledge needs in communities and do something about them. Their work is an expression of Mother Theresa’s philosophy that we can do no great things, only small things with great love. What small steps could you take to make a difference in your own community? Read the stories of the families Monkee See—Monkee Do has helped and see how you can get involved by visiting www. http://monkeeseemonkeedo.org.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Such a fantastic read! And it may come as a surprise to some that I'm not a parent! Just. Read. This. Book. A few pages in and you’ll start to understand how Glennon Doyle Melton's storytelling creates a palpable sense of community for anyone who is navigating life's "brutiful" moments. In Carry On, Warrior, she shares her story as she has done on her blog – with honesty, humor, sincerity and grace. Like any profound, soulful, gifted writer, she sheds light on our own experiences so that we can confront our own vulnerabilities, strengths and innate beauty with tenderness, acceptance and love.
Glennon says what every woman is thinking in a funny, honest, and uplifting way. If I could rate it higher than 5 stars I would. A must read for every woman, but especially the moms out there!
I have followed Glennon Doyle Melton's blog, Momastery, for a little over a year. She is funny, and supportive of all women out there parenting, loving, and just living through everything life dishes out. A girlfriend gave me the copy she'd pre-ordered. I loved Glennon's self-deprecating humor, realism, faith (and did I say humor?!) so much that I sent copies to my mom, sister, and my best friend. It is hilarious and heartwarming. I highly recommend!
I found this book right when I needed it. I think everyone should read this book. It helps people accept themselves better n to find the love inside of themselves. It doesn't matter if u are a recovering "fill in the blank" or not, a christan or pagan I think this book speaks to everyone.
I really enjoyed thus. I follow Momastery and enjoy it too.
A joy to read. Funny, honest and full of love.
All I can say is thank you for writing this. I ama mental health therapist and found this inspiring to me and for all the ladies I work with. I also worked in foster care so this has touched me in many ways.
This book was very real, sometimes funny, sometimes sad, and always entertaining. The author is a little flaky, at times, but loving all of the time.
Honest, insightful, hilarious, brutal and beautiful all at the same time...an inspiring must-read.
I read it in 36 hours and it is the very best book I've read in years. I laughed, I cried and I changed the way I communicate in my relationships - most importantly my marriage. It validated so many emotions and realities that allowed me to relax and enjoy the ride. I bought 3 copies for friends who I knew would benefit from it. And recommended it to 6 other people including my mom. It is heartfelt reality of marriage and children and this thing called 'life' that we often trudge through. It helped me fall back in love with my husband and have been enjoying a much more engaged relationship - and he has no idea I read this book. Yet he's changed just due to the way I communicate with him. Its been life-changer for me! I just can't say enough about this book - oh, and I'm now reading if for the second time, as a refresher!
My sister gave me this book and I in turn purchased another to give to a friend. This book is a wonderful mix of thought provoking observations on how we move through life coupled with hilarious stories. I find myself thinking about parts of this book and quoting it from time to time. Its a refreshing way to look at life and to be more open with ourselves and others at the same time. Plus, I laughed out loud so often, my husband kept asking what was so funny!
I really couldn't put this book down. She speaks the truth that so many keep hidden away from the world. The book reminds me of being with all my best friends, thinking the same thoughts, and enjoying the moment it's voiced so we can all talk about it with each other.... She writes the truth; we can do hard things. ;)
I've been reading (and loving) Glennon's blog, Momastery, for over a year now. I was thrilled when she announced her book deal and have been waiting for Carry On, Warrior for what feels like forever. I'm not usually a lover of non-fiction but this book was outstanding. It made me cry several times, and as Chris Tomlin would say, "it made my heart want to sing." I love Glennon's blog, but this book was even better and really spoke to my heart. Some of the essays in the book have been previously published on her website, but much of the book is new material. And for new(ish) followers of the site, like me, it was nice to be able to read Glennon's story in order, instead of piecing it together through the blog. Glennon describes herself as a hope-spreader and truth-teller. She lives an open and honest life, and that honesty is what speaks to me. I see so much of myself in her and feel like she knows how I feel, even though she doesn't know me. She describes this as the divine inside of her speaking to and recognizing the divine in me. And I think she's exactly right. Reading this book was like hearing a bell toll: all of it rang true for me. I'm so glad I bought a hard copy of Carry On, Warrior. I want to be able to easily flip back to my favorite parts and highlight certain quotes and go back and read this book again just to savor it. I feel like Carry On, Warrior is more of a book for women, especially mothers, but I think that it would appeal to just about anyone. Highly, highly recommended!
This is a great afternoon read. Since reading this book, I find myself thinking, only God can fill my hole. It is a book of forgiveness, resilience, and faith.
Fabulous!!! Loved it! Will be reading it again!!!
I commend the author for overcoming her struggles in a positive,upbeat manner. I question the lack of any 12 step program utilized and wonder if that is correlated with 8 re-locations, just a thought from an over analytical therapist. Overall it is a fun easy read and I love the use of Namaste.
If you could hide ever deeper from life, you might uses Glennon's method of self-deprecating humor and call it 'honestly', but what you should say is, "I suck as a person." then try to change yourself. That's what Glennon does and its popular because it makes you feel like its okay to be a bad person, but it isn't. Glennon want's us to confront our inadequacies with acceptance? It is a funny joke or meme to say, "Carpe Diem? I can't seize 15 min, let alone a whole day!" But, honestly yes, you can. You are a stay at home mother with nothing else to do. People do it all the time. Get off facebook, stop being selfish with your time, and take care of your family. This book is like watching someone bang their head against the wall while saying, "Aren't I a dummy for beating my head against the wall?" Yes, yes you are. It really is no wonder why her marriage failed/nearly failed. File this book in, the (giving up on) Self Help section. Read this if you want some validation for the lack of effort you put into your marriage and family.