Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship

Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship

by Sheri Meyers

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Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship by Sheri Meyers

Whether you're the one who suspects your partner of cheating, or you're the one who's been engaging in a secret affair, Chatting or Cheating, is designed to take you step-by-step through the process of discovery, confrontation, confession, and healing.

In CHATTING OR CHEATING you'll learn how to...

• Become "affair aware," and stop denying what's really going on.

• Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs, breeding grounds, and relationship vulnerabilities.

• Gather the proper evidence and recognize the often subtle clues that your partner is cheating, so you can confront them in the right way and get to the truth as quickly as possible.

• Confess the truth without breaking your partner's heart.

• End the Affair, break the addiction, and stop the obsessing--specific, proven tips and strategies for eliminating unwanted thoughts, moving on, forgiving yourself and embarking on reconciliation with your primary partner.

• Survive the betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust, no matter how betrayed and angry you feel, or how impossible it may seem right now.

• Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, create genuine intimacy, and safely love again.


The good news is that it doesn't have to be the disaster you imagine. Emotional Sex or physical infidelity doesn't need to lead to a break-up or divorce. When handled the right way, the aftermath of cheating can actually strengthen your primary relationship and bring you closer than ever before. Chatting or Cheating, takes you by the hand and guides you through each step required to save your relationship and make it even better than before. You can turn it around and fall in love again. Dr. Sheri Meyers shows you how.

Product Details

BN ID: 2940013991248
Publisher: From the Heart Media, Inc
Publication date: 02/28/2012
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 306
Sales rank: 457,449
File size: 7 MB

About the Author

Sheri Meyers, Psy.D, a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA, is among the national media’s most frequently quoted and interviewed relationship, infidelity and life transition experts. A regular contributor on broadcast network news including ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, cable TV, and radio talk shows, Dr. Sheri’s compassionate, practical, straight talk and easy-to-apply methods have inspired and helped thousands of men and women face and overcome their most complex and daunting life, relationship, and sexual challenges. In "Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship," Dr. Sheri now shares with you her exclusive and unique insights and effective strategies that come from over 25 years of helping couples successfully recover, heal, and safely love again.

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Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 14 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I’ve now read a half dozen books, visited countless blogs, website articles, and forum threads, all surrounding the topic of infidelity. This book far surpasses anything else I’ve read. I don’t usually write reviews, but this book has helped me so much, I really felt the need to tell others who might be in the same position as me and looking for answers. Chatting or Cheating took me each step – from detection, to discovery, and now I’m happy to say is leading my husband and I down the path of recovery and healing. He’s actually sitting at my shoulder as I write this, and is telling me to add that this book was amazingly helpful for him as well. In our case, my husband had had an emotional affair over the internet. I was, to say the least, devastated. But Chatting or Cheating helped me make sense of what was going on, and, more importantly, helped me figure out what to do, and how to do it. It was hard to find a book that covered, in addition to physical affairs, emotional and cyber affairs as well. But Meyers, with amazing empathy and compassion for all parties involved, managed to explain in a friendly and accessible way how navigate through the labyrinth of pain, and back onto the course of healing. I can’t recommend this book highly enough!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm a guy and I tend not to be a self help book fan, but my wife was spending way too much time on Facebook and things were just getting weird at home. When I heard about Chatting or Cheating by Dr. Sheri Meyers from a friend, I said I need all the help I could get. From the moment I opened the book, I began to read the signs that my wife has been having Emotional Sex with a friend. The Slippery Slope of infinity that Dr. Meyers talks about found it's way into my home. Chatting or Cheating allowed me a safe way to confront my wife and now we are following the steps to rebuild love and affair proof our relationship. I highly recommend this book
Sabrinafaire More than 1 year ago
Great roadmap to help me determine, define and deal with whether my partner is chatting versus cheating. There are so many great questions listed to first ask yourself to help crystalize what exactly is going on, and if the worst, then there are also very practical steps to take to help remedy the situation. And furthermore, perhaps save the relationship or come to valid conclusions as to whether to move on alone. It was like having your own personal relationship coach, therapist or guide or close friend in the privacy of your own home... saving me much embarrassment as now I feel secure about how to tackle this most sensitive area, that is not always so black and white. This is a great book that tackles an area that is typically NOT talked about. I highly recommend having this book - if nothing else, it sparks a really good discussion to help safeguard a more secure relationhip future.
Raiderfan60 More than 1 year ago
Until now, I never believed in self-help or relationship books. If my girlfriend hadn’t bought this book, I’d have never even thought about reading it. I am really glad she did. She was worried about how much time I spend with female friends so she got the book. When she started reading me passages, I realized that I was inadvertently laying the group work for an affair. I didn’t believe it at first but as she went though the book, I saw that I was already having an emotional affair (a new word for me) and that the next step is a physical affair. I was there. One friend in particular I was really close with. I love my girlfriend and would never want to hurt her, but here I was spending more time and attention on my friend then with my girlfriend. This book set me straight. I wouldn’t have realized what I was doing until it was too late. This book saved my relationship. Maybe it can help yours too.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is literally saving my marriage. It has become my bible. And it’s the only thing that made sense when things were unbelievably confusing and painful. Sheri obviously believes, and shows how, a relationship can survive infidelity. She goes over everything from “Becoming Affair-Aware”, to prevention, or, if needed, confrontation, to facing the affair, to what you need to do to heal, and how you can even come to trust your partner again. Personally, I was obsessing day and night; her chapter on dealing with obsession REALLY helped me. I’m taking much better care of myself now. And I found that her chapter on communication has helped me in more than just in my relationship, its helped me at work, and is helping me to communicate more effectively with my friends and family. But those are really just small things in comparison to how this book has showed me what do in my darkest hour; it showed me what steps I needed to take, and showed me a light at the end of the tunnel. This book is absolutely indispensable whether or not you think your partner may be having an affair, or whether you already know it. Or even if you just want to learn how to prevent an affair from happening in your relationship, get this book!
Anonymous 11 months ago
This book covered many areas of infidelity in a relationships from the side of the betrayer & the betrayed. Sheri did a tremendous job of what takes place & how to overcome. I'd recommend this book to any couple trying to reconcile or to any one person that just want to move on & forgive. This book get 10 stars!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I found this book very informative with regard to the cheating that goes on with the new technology of cyberspace. I was cheating on due to my husband communicating with an old high school girlfriend. Too bad I didn't read this book as soon as I saw the signs but I ignored them. I learned through this book that once a marriage or relationship becomes ho hum, boring or you start to take each other for granted, your spouse takes advantage of the easy access to communicate with someone else. All the reasons people give for having an affair, from kids yelling, dishes in the sink, working too hard as the author points out in the scenarios given are an excuse turned into a reason. Too bad my husband didn't let me know what was bothering him before he decided to have an affair. If you have reason to believe of an affair, read this book and then read a book about lying. You'll need proof of the affair and you'll need to know if you've gotten the whole truth and nothing but the truth. This book will help you to know the signs of cheating and how to approach the issue and, hopefully, bring you and your loved one to a better place in your relationship.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My husband left us a year ago when we had our last kid because he has always been afraid of having kids (so embarrassing). I was in a dark world, things did not go as we have planned when we exchanging our marriage vows, he hates kids and never plays with them even on their birthdays; he always wants to have me alone for reasons best known to him. I tried teaching him ways to love kids but he constantly keeps his distance away from them which made them to think that he is not their father.  He finally left us to an unknown destination when he couldn’t bear with the pressure around him. I suffered and convinced them that their father will change to a better man and come back. This made me stand by my word because I don’t want to be a lying Mother, so I had to find ways to bring back my Boo as a changed man until I overheard a woman in a mall talking to her friend about a Spell Doctor called Dr.Osaz who help her sister get back her husband; so I quickly asked her if she can help me with the doctor’s contact if he can help me.Thanks to her and Dr. Osaz who changed my husband and brought him back to us as I promised our kids. He now loves them and plays with them. Dr. Osaz him a lovely Father and Husband. I am so happy that I finally fulfilled the promise I made to my kids. Contact Doctor Osaz if you are suffered relationship humiliation via: spirituallove @ hotmail . com
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm so glad that I bought this book.   The insight, tools and straight-forward advice in "Chatting or Cheating" really helped me walk through and work through one of the most challenging experiences of  my life, discovering that my husband was cheating on me.  Truthfully, I was ready to leave and didn't see any hope for the future.  Dr. Meyers is a big believer that you can fix the relationship and nearly half of the  book is devoted to helping you do that.   I can honestly say that our marriage would not have made it if it weren't for the help, hope and direction that came to both of us in this book.  I highly recommend this book.   
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I bought this book based on all the good reviews it has gotten, and thank God I did! I completely agree with the other reviewers.  This book is a life saver.  I only wish I had bought it earlier! By the time I got it, I had already discovered my husband had been having an emotional affair with a woman for over a year.  I can say with complete confidence that I don’t think our marriage would have survived his infidelity if not for this book.   I can’t exactly say that we’re closer than ever – yet – but I can say that our marriage now is MUCH more honest and true.  
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Shut up! All of you! Im not weak. - Alyssa