Couples by Intention: Creating and Cultivating Relationships that Matter

Couples by Intention: Creating and Cultivating Relationships that Matter

by Elliott Kronenfeld LICSW CST


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780999283943
Publisher: SDP Publishing Solutions, LLC
Publication date: 01/07/2018
Pages: 220
Sales rank: 695,389
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.46(d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction 11

How to Use This Book 16

About Me 18

Chapter 1: First Steps—Setting the Scene for Getting Closer 21

Learn about setting realistic expectations for getting

closer to your mate, and some simple rules that can

help you in getting started.

Chapter 2: Have a Reason—Be Intimate on Purpose 45

Why intimacy can diminish over time, and how to

keep it alive; what we mean when we use the word

“intimacy” in the first place; the power of “swagger”

and choice.

Chapter 3: Beware Assumptions!—Knowing Your Definitions

and Role Models 79

What hidden assumptions are you making about

relationships and gender roles—and how are they

affecting your relationship?

Chapter 4: Monogamy, Monogamish, and Nonmonogamy 97

“Monogamy” refers to more than just sex; learn how

partners can feel betrayed by non-sexual things; learn

how to set boundaries about what’s okay and what’s

not okay between you and your partner.

Chapter 5: What’s Better Than Sex?—The Power of Curiosity 121

The essential power of curiosity in relationships; how

to listen actively with your partner (and show it!);

the “four buckets” of emotions—and how easy it is to

confuse one emotion for another.

Chapter 6: Me First, Then You!—Why Self-Care Matters 143

In order to care for others, you have to put yourself

first; creating “sacred space” with your partner;

why it’s important to draw boundaries around your


Chapter 7: Identifying Connection: See it! Do it! Learn it!

Get the Rewards! 161

More about how assumptions can harm a relationship;

what it is you want to achieve in the relationship; how

to come home from work each day.

Chapter 8: Who Are You, Anyway?—Alignment 187

Why it’s so important to have a sense of who you are

(internal alignment) and to live authentically (external

alignment); watching out for “timelines” that others

may seek to impose on your relationship without your


Chapter 9: Maintaining the Plateau—Lasting for the

Long Haul 201

Living in “plateau” moments in your relationship; it’s

normal for couples to be working on different aspects

of their relationship at varying paces all at once.

Epilogue: A Letter from a Client 213

About the Author 217

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book teaches really powerful relationship skills. It just makes sense but is written in a new way. I think everyone should buy this book
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Elliott Kronenfeld has created a meaningful way to work with couples. His book is easy to read, easy to incorporate but brings some quick results. I highly recommend this book
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My wife and I participated in the Couples by Intention group and this book is a true representation of our experience. This group strengthened our marriage and the book is a great resource to keep working!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
What a great book. So much helpful information and so easy to read. This is great for not only romantic relationships by any relationship, friend, co-worker, etc.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Elliott Kronenfeld is a gifted writer and a provides such valuable insight into a successful relationship. His book is easy to follow and so helpful. I highly recommend this to anyone in a relationship.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Couples by Intention is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve the quality of their relationships with others.  The exercises are illuminating and incredibly useful, and Elliott's unique approach and perspective provide a new and invigorating way to develop stronger connections in one's life.  I highly recommend this book!