Wouldn’t it be great if relationships came easy? What if we all just knew intuitively what to do to make our marriages and committed partnerships the absolute best and deepest that they could be?
But the reality is that none of us are pros, and even our best relationships can go deeper. We often use love and sex as measurements for how developed our relationships are, but in reality, the glue between us is being intentional with one another, and learning to use curiosity as a strategic relationship tool.
Couples by Intention lets you eavesdrop on a handful of intrepid couples as they engage in twelve intense weeks of group counseling. As you listen to their stories, you’ll learn how to stay interested in your partner in the good times, how to communicate in the stressful seasons, and how to keep your love alive in the normalcy of everyday life.
Come join and explore how to make your relationship last for the long haul!
|Publisher:||SDP Publishing Solutions, LLC|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.46(d)|
Table of Contents
How to Use This Book 16
About Me 18
Chapter 1: First Steps—Setting the Scene for Getting Closer 21
Learn about setting realistic expectations for getting
closer to your mate, and some simple rules that can
help you in getting started.
Chapter 2: Have a Reason—Be Intimate on Purpose 45
Why intimacy can diminish over time, and how to
keep it alive; what we mean when we use the word
“intimacy” in the first place; the power of “swagger”
Chapter 3: Beware Assumptions!—Knowing Your Definitions
and Role Models 79
What hidden assumptions are you making about
relationships and gender roles—and how are they
affecting your relationship?
Chapter 4: Monogamy, Monogamish, and Nonmonogamy 97
“Monogamy” refers to more than just sex; learn how
partners can feel betrayed by non-sexual things; learn
how to set boundaries about what’s okay and what’s
not okay between you and your partner.
Chapter 5: What’s Better Than Sex?—The Power of Curiosity 121
The essential power of curiosity in relationships; how
to listen actively with your partner (and show it!);
the “four buckets” of emotions—and how easy it is to
confuse one emotion for another.
Chapter 6: Me First, Then You!—Why Self-Care Matters 143
In order to care for others, you have to put yourself
first; creating “sacred space” with your partner;
why it’s important to draw boundaries around your
Chapter 7: Identifying Connection: See it! Do it! Learn it!
Get the Rewards! 161
More about how assumptions can harm a relationship;
what it is you want to achieve in the relationship; how
to come home from work each day.
Chapter 8: Who Are You, Anyway?—Alignment 187
Why it’s so important to have a sense of who you are
(internal alignment) and to live authentically (external
alignment); watching out for “timelines” that others
may seek to impose on your relationship without your
Chapter 9: Maintaining the Plateau—Lasting for the
Long Haul 201
Living in “plateau” moments in your relationship; it’s
normal for couples to be working on different aspects
of their relationship at varying paces all at once.
Epilogue: A Letter from a Client 213
About the Author 217
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This book teaches really powerful relationship skills. It just makes sense but is written in a new way. I think everyone should buy this book
Elliott Kronenfeld has created a meaningful way to work with couples. His book is easy to read, easy to incorporate but brings some quick results. I highly recommend this book
My wife and I participated in the Couples by Intention group and this book is a true representation of our experience. This group strengthened our marriage and the book is a great resource to keep working!
What a great book. So much helpful information and so easy to read. This is great for not only romantic relationships by any relationship, friend, co-worker, etc.
Elliott Kronenfeld is a gifted writer and a provides such valuable insight into a successful relationship. His book is easy to follow and so helpful. I highly recommend this to anyone in a relationship.
Couples by Intention is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve the quality of their relationships with others. The exercises are illuminating and incredibly useful, and Elliott's unique approach and perspective provide a new and invigorating way to develop stronger connections in one's life. I highly recommend this book!