Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound—the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy—and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters.
In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love.
Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don’t personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all.
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About the Author
Table of Contents
Author's Note xi
Chapter 1 What Is the Mother Wound? 1
Chapter 2 How Does the Mother Wound Manifest? 23
Chapter 3 Power Dynamics of the Mother Wound 42
Chapter 4 What Keeps the Mother Wound in Place, and Why Does It Endure? 69
Chapter 5 The Mother Gap 88
Chapter 6 Signs You Need to Make a Change 106
Chapter 7 The Rupture of the Mother Line and the Cost of Becoming Real 116
Chapter 8 Boundaries 136
Chapter 9 The Taboo of Questioning Mother 155
Chapter 10 Giving Up the Impossible Dream 166
Chapter 11 Accountability 178
Chapter 12 Grieving 189
Chapter 13 Discovering the Inner Mother 206
Chapter 14 Life Beyond the Mother Wound 229
Conclusion: Emergent Woman: Releasing the "Pleaser" and Making Peace with Our Power 244
Appendix: Clinical Resources on Complex Developmental Trauma, Psychotherapy, and the Neurosciences 257