Don't Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life

Don't Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life

by Anne Bogel

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Overview

We've all been there: stuck in a cycle of what-ifs, plagued by indecision, paralyzed by the fear of getting it wrong. Nobody wants to live a life of constant overthinking, but it doesn't feel like something we can choose to stop doing. It feels like something we're wired to do, something we just can't escape. But is it?

Anne Bogel's answer is no. Not only can you overcome negative thought patterns that are repetitive, unhealthy, and unhelpful, you can replace them with positive thought patterns that will bring more peace, joy, and love into your life. In Don't Overthink It, you'll find actionable strategies that can make an immediate and lasting difference in how you deal with questions both small—Should I buy these flowers?—and large—What am I doing with my life? More than a book about making good decisions, Don't Overthink It offers you a framework for making choices you'll be comfortable with, using an appropriate amount of energy, freeing you to focus on all the other stuff that matters in life.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780801094460
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 03/03/2020
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 7,404
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Anne Bogel is the author of Reading People and I'd Rather Be Reading and creator of the blog Modern Mrs Darcy and the podcasts What Should I Read Next? and One Great Book. Bogel's popular book lists and reading guides have established her as a tastemaker among readers, authors, and publishers. She lives in Louisville, Kentucky. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Customer Reviews

Don't Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 62 reviews.
KJC01 20 days ago
One of the blurbs for this book mentioned that Anne's voice exuded a "best-friend warmth," and I would 100% agree. Reading this book felt like listening to words of wisdom from an older sister or decades-long friend. It was both fun and comforting to hear insights from the author's own life, and all of her examples well and truly show that it is possible to extract immeasurable joy and peace from one's daily existence through a series of small steps. Like others who have left reviews here, the chapter on making decisions which are aligned with one's values really resonated with me. I'm in the middle of a few "big" life-changing choices that all have their pros and cons, so reading this book came at the perfect time for me. This book never berates, never criticizes. It didn't make an overthinking reader like myself ever feel bad. It is encouraging, supportive, and full of hope and friendly wisdom. Overthinking can be debilitating. Who hasn't experienced the kind of obsessive back-and-forth dilemma in a grocery store over whether or not to indulge in a candy bar or a bouquet of flowers? But next time I find myself in this situation, I know I'll take Anne's advice to heart. Added to all the great suggestions the author makes to defeat overthinking, reading this book just made me, in general, want to become a better person. (I know this sounds cheesy, but it's true!) Whether or not this was intended, Anne's compassion shines through in these pages (I'm thinking specifically of the instance where she and her husband went over to a friend's house in the middle of the day to congratulate him on receiving tenure with a bottle of champagne; also, making a habit of giving five bucks and a granola bar to the homeless). So, while this book is focused on tackling the problem of overthinking, I think it will also invariably nudge readers towards becoming more charitable, kinder, and better people.
Tisha 6 days ago
Randi-AModernDayFairyTale 8 days ago
If there is one thing that I am REALLY good at... it's overthinking. Regardless of how small a decision might be, I have a way to make it much bigger--- weighing every possible outcome and fretting over if I'm making the right one. Sound familiar? If so, Don't Overthink It by Anne Bogel might be just the right book for you! This book is one of those that you'll find yourself nodding along to...a lot. While I know I am very much an overthinker myself, I suspect that we are all guilty of it from time to time, even if we are unaware of what it is we are doing. Don't discount this book just because you don't see yourself as an overthinker--- you just might determine otherwise (or at the very least, you can gain some perspective on those of us who are!). The book gives plenty of examples of how we find ourselves overthinking, as well as practical techniques to deal with it. And when we stop overthinking every little thing, we are better able to just enjoy it instead. Each chapter ends with some questions to consider with space to joy down your thoughts. The space is limited, so if you tend to be a little wordy like myself you may want more... but still a great feature of this book helping you to really apply it to your life. If you struggle to make decisions in any area of your life, this is certainly one to check out. Don't overthink it, just give it a read! **I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher for consideration. All thoughts are 100% my own.
Anonymous 8 days ago
This book was a wonderful guide to stopping overthinking. I think resources on this specific topic are rare, and I hadn't realized how much I needed this book until I began reading it. Anne Bogel shares stories that are very human and really let us know that she, too, struggles with this, but she has strategies to overcome it and she is willing to share. She gives practical, simple advice that I plan on applying in my day-to-day life. I would highly recommend this to anyone who struggles with overthinking!
FormerOz 14 days ago
My favorite Anne Bogel book to date. This book was so readable and practical. I lost count of how many times while reading I kept nodding my head saying "Yes! Yes!" Even if you don't think you're an Overthinker... Read this! Most likely you will have an Aha moment. And next time I'm at Trader Joe's, I'm buying myself the damn flowers for my desk.
kanga2joey 14 days ago
Great Book. Well written. I never thought I was an over-thinker, just a worrier. While reading this book I was able to put myself into the examples and learn some new techniques for stopping the madness that is over-thinking. I did find some of the examples and chapters a bit long. At times the author seemed to too many examples to define a point she was trying to make. But overall I found the book easy to read and very thought-provoking. I would give it 4 stars. I definitely recommend the read!.
Anonymous 15 days ago
Anne Bogel unpacks what it means to be an Overthinker, but more importantly, gives strategies for addressing the personal roadblocks that block our ability to make decisions. Reading this book seems like having a chat with a dear friend over coffee. I felt like Anne was talking directly to me as she discussed perfectionism, values-guided decision making, and being good to myself so that I can be good to others.
Anonymous 16 days ago
If you’ve read books on mindfulness techniques, some of this will sound very familiar. It was slow for me to get into it because it did feel a little like “review” but after a few chapters, I started to appreciate the fresh perspective on mindfulness grounded in a more real world approach. The chapters on habits and rituals are extremely helpful and found myself quoting them to my personal training clients, reminding them that perfectionism and overthinking are at the heart of the “all or nothing” thinking that gets in their way of living a healthy happy life. I’ll admit I teared up on the last chapter. Here’s to a more generous world.
Foxlady99 16 days ago
Don't Overthink It .... This should be something I say to myself every day! Anne Bogel has taken a topic and broken it down so that everyone can learn and apply the lessons she is teaching. I find myself overthinking, especially on the little decisions. For example what to have for dinner. I struggle with this decision EVERY DAY! The easiest solution to this is to plan out my meals at the beginning of the week, that way when Tuesday rolls around I am not questioning myself...do I take out chicken, or pork chops? It's a silly problem but I overthink it, and make it bigger than it needs to be. Anne has given me many tools to stop this way of thinking, and they are already working! I have already pre-ordered two copies of this book because I have two friends who could really use the advice Anne has to offer. There wasn't a chapter in this book that didn't resonate with me. But it was the end of the book that really stayed with me. So much so, that I took a picture of it, so I would always have it with me. "With each action you and I take we vote for the kind of people we want to be and the kind of world we want to live in" Thank you Anne for such an amazing book!
Anonymous 19 days ago
Hi! Meet your fellow worrier and over thinker. Maybe your friend told you about this book, or you saw it on Anne’s website or in a bookstore and you’re intrigued because you also overthink and worry. Well let me assure you; you are in the right place. Anne has done it again. This book is full of great tips on how to stop overthinking decisions in your every day life! It’s a quick fun read that makes you feel like you’re having a long conversation with a close friend. Highly recommend! Also can’t wait to listen to the audiobook version (I loved her audiobooks from her past two books).
Anonymous 20 days ago
Another incredible book from Anne Bogel! As a chronic over thinker, I feel like Anne has lived in my brain and is speaking directly to me. It’s like a chat over tea with a good friend who knows my overthinking ways. I can’t imagine how much time and energy I have spent thinking about things both small and huge. With this book, Anne gives practical strategies that can be implemented today and some larger questions to shape my future behavior. The next steps questions at the end of the chapters helped me to dig in and really examine my thought processes, what works for me and what might not. Now when I find myself starting to overthink a small indulgence that will be me great joy, I remember to “buy the flowers,” and I’ve yet to regret it!
wearetheewings 20 days ago
I so enjoyed this book! Anne Bogel gives practical and freeing strategies for overcoming overthinking. From completing the cycle (aka finishing what you start) to letting go of perfectionism and realizing that (many times) the goal is to get a result, not the best possible experience. To be quite honest, I’d never really thought about the connection between overthinking and striving for perfection. Also, Anne writes a lot about living from our values. If we have a clear hold on our values, what we care about, on what we spend our valuable time and money, we can better make intentional and trustworthy decisions. Decisions that reflect those values, that reflect who we are and who we want to be. I highly recommend Don't Overthink It!
Anonymous 21 days ago
I didn't think I "needed" to read this book - until I read the first chapter. In Don't Overthink It, Anne Bogel provides practical tips for regaining control of our thought processes. She encourages us to pay attention to our thoughts and choices, spend time deciding what really matters to us, and then gives us a variety of actionable steps we can take to simplify our decision-making process and free our minds from spending unnecessary time and energy thinking (and over-thinking) about things that do not line up with the priorities that we've made for ourselves. And she does this in a very relatable, readable style. Highly recommend!
TanyaSJ 22 days ago
“When we harness a values-driven decision-making process, we can proactively allocate our resources for the things that matter most to us.” As a recovering perfectionist and procrastinator, Don’t Overthink feels like it was written specifically for me. This is more than just a book that helps over-thinkers stop overthinking. It encourages the reader to think about what matters most to us, what our “core values” are, and how being mindful of them can make big and small decisions a lot less stressful. Anne shares real life anecdotes about the times in her life that she has found herself overthinking, what the consequences were, and how those decisions would be easier thanks to the techniques outlined in the book.
The concepts are not new ones - finishing what we start, being mindful, focusing on abundance and gratitude - but they are presented as a reminder of how we can make decisions while being tuned into what matters most to us. I highly recommend this compulsively readable, beautifully written book.
Anonymous 22 days ago
Anne Bogel’s book, Don’t Overthink It”, is just the book I needed to read in this season of my life. As a chronic over thinker, I have been struggling to overcome my practice of second guessing everything! Full of personal reflections and practical suggestions, this a book I can read over and over again to help me in my quest for peace. Anne’s layout of the chapters are easy to follow and I appreciated the questions at the end of each chapter to help me “make a plan”. I recommend this to anybody who struggles in this area in their life. Thank you, Anne!
Anonymous 23 days ago
"Don’t Overthink It is my new mantra! I have enjoyed my daily checking with Anne Bogel’s new book by the same name. It has moved not overthinking things into my daily focus and has been so helpful! Anne’s personal stories that she uses as examples makes everything totally relate able and clear and she gives great questions to create action steps. I really liked her idea about making value related decisions as a way to streamline decision making. She says, To ensure our values align with our actual lives, we need to “fact-check” ourselves by asking, “What does my behavior indicate I value?” If you’re uncertain, recruit a friend to help you see your behavior with fresh eyes. If you don’t like what you see, it’s time to do some tweaking. The chapter in limiting oneself in some areas was an aha, too. Why make things more complicated than they need to be? I get stuck because there are always so many options... decision making can be held up for months as a is our the internet trying to make sure I’m getting it right. If you’re someone who struggles to make decisions and then tends to second guess this book is for you. Don’t Overthink It helps to gives a person freedom of time and thought. "
Jen Moyers 23 days ago
Thanks to partner NetGalley for the digital ARC of Anne Bogel’s Don't Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life. The book released on March 3. I learned so much from Anne Bogel’s new, brilliant book Don’t Overthink It. (One thing I learned is the likely reason I have procrastinated writing this review: as a perfectionist, I want my review to be perfect, and since I know I can never fully communicate just how relevant and powerful I found the book, I just keep putting off beginning my review. But, I’m writing it. That means progress past perfectionism, right?!) Anne Bogel is, herself, an epic overthinker, and she therefore weaves real-life examples of overthinking and its consequences into her book: “Before long, I’m snared in the too-familiar spin cycle of overthinking, unable to focus on anything else. I know the signs: lots of mental action, none of it constructive, all the while knowing I have better things to do. All my mental energy is consumed by the forecast—which I can’t do a thing about—instead of the things that actually need my attention” (loc 143). She shares one example in which dithering in the grocery store about whether to buy flowers—and, if so, which ones—left her (1) without flowers and (2) without another key ingredient she needed to pick up. So much of her brain power went to overthinking a small, simple decision that she didn’t have the mental space necessary to take care of what she actually needed to do. It’s these kinds of examples, which she uses both to begin each chapter and to drive home points throughout each new principle, that helped me as a reader to see both how relevant this book is and the consequences of overthinking in my own life. Looking back at my galley, I have a highlight on almost every page. There’s a lot to discover here (and there’s joy in the discovery), but I found powerful her advice about perfectionism, about routine and ritual, and about values-based decision making. Anne is great both at helping readers to identify their own overthinking habits and also at offering solutions that we can implement immediately. Her ideas are backed up by research, but the facts never encroach on the warmth that characterizes everything Anne does, whether it’s her podcast, her blog, or one of her three phenomenal nonfiction books. I learned so much from Don’t Overthink It . . . and had so many uncomfortable moments of recognition and reflection and growth. These learning experiences meant that I was experiencing the truth of Anne Bogel’s ideas and writing. I think this book is great both for those who overthink themselves OR who have an overthinker in their lives (I’m definitely going to share this book with my husband!). I highly recommend Anne Bogel’s Don’t Overthink It—don’t dither! Order your copy today!
Christi210 23 days ago
If making decisions sometimes makes your brain feel like what happens in the movie Inside Out when all of the emotions come to the forefront of brain headquarters, this book is for you! Don’t Overthink It sends the message that you CAN cut through the mind clutter to take charge of how you process information and make decisions so you can free up the mental energy necessary to live abundantly. Bogel drives home the idea that overthinking doesn’t have to be status quo. Don’t Overthink It frames the problem of overthinking and provides strategies and ideas for overcoming it while helping you adjust your perspective. This book helped me realize how often I overthink and how it holds me back from living my best life – how wasting precious mental energy keeps me just surviving vs. living in a space where I truly nurture myself and those I love. Don’t Overthink It is helping me to make easier decisions and to stop second-guessing myself; it is bringing more satisfaction in my decisions and happiness to my life. I highly recommend it!
Anonymous 24 days ago
I started this book with high expectations and it exceeded them. Anne Bogel has done the legwork in researching why we overthink and answering the question of what can we do about it. She presents this valuable information in a manner that is organized, easy to digest, and practical to apply. It is clear from reading her insights that she has walked this walk and she is able to share what she has learned along the way. This book does not take a one-size-fits-all approach, but instead gives you a variety of tips and strategies to try so you can develop your own personal toolkit for overcoming overthinking. And best of all, you finish the book feeling confident that it can be done. Overthinkers, this is the book we didn't know we needed. Fortunately, Anne Bogel did.
Dewfall 24 days ago
"I’ve got piles of my childrens’ precious artwork and school papers stuffed in the nooks and crannies of my home: in hanging folders in my office, tucked into IKEA organizers perched on bookshelves, and stacked in flat boxes under beds. I’m having trouble parting with a lot of it. And I’m putting off reassembling it into a more manageable - and meaningful - collection, like neat and tidy scrapbooks. Why? Because I’m a perfectionist. And an over-analyzer. And I figure I might not get this project right. In fact, I doubt myself. I worry my efforts won’t be valued by my kids, and this has created years of stagnation so that now I am not only a bit fearful of doing the work, but also resentful of it. And yet, I want to be free. I’m a classic overthinker. Thank God there’s a book to help me! Anne Bogel’s “Don’t Overthink It,” is a lovely combination of real-life experiences and practical wisdom for people like me who suffer from awful self-inflicted dramas produced by analysis paralysis and similar contorted thinking. Why are we stressing ourselves when a quick(er) decision can be just - if not more - effective, loving, and gracious to both ourselves and those we care about? In the end, the way we treat people is what matters day to day, and Anne Bogel shows us how to disentangle our minds so we can do that better, and actually enjoy the fullness and beauty of life. " A copy of the book was provided to me in return for my honest review.
JamieS 25 days ago
Obviously while writing this review I was overthinking it---thus my need to read the book. Anne addresses this issue, which we are all guilty of at some point. But fear not that doesn't mean we can't learn how to over come this. Her illustrations and no nonsense writing had me coming back to find out how I could apply this to my life. It brings all the overthinking issues into one place and explains them...and giving a solution! Yes, I need a solution. I think this book is for anyone, even if you don't think you overthink. Thanks to the Author, publisher and Netgalley for an e-arc as part of the launch team, in exchange for an honest review
HollyLovesBooks4Us 25 days ago
Anne Bogel is masterful in her ability to persuade. Whether it is in calling out all of us who overthink everything, sometimes to the point of decision paralysis or in her podcast trying to entice people to read something that they hadn't ever considered. This book brilliantly does this through insightful messages and ideas. Great book for anyone looking for a shot of positivity and insight. Thank you for the eARC. I've already bought the final book. #Netgalley #Don'tOverthinkIt #BakerBooks #AnneBogel
Anonymous 25 days ago
I enjoy reading "self-help" books, and I wasn't sure if this book would help me because I did not consider myself to be an "over-thinker." Turns out I am one and I just didn't know it yet! Anne Bogel writes in such a friendly and accessible way, and her stories, insights, and suggestions are so practical. I found myself immediately applying some of Anne's suggestions and I've already saved myself some mental energy. So thankful! My only critique of this book is that I wish it had been longer! :)
Anonymous 25 days ago
Don’t Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life by Anne Bogel is a book for anyone who suffers from the dreaded analysis paralysis. I needed this book. I mean, I overthought how to write this review before I even read the book. After reading it, however, I decided that I need to take Anne’s advice to heart. In the book, Anne draws from her personal experiences with overthinking as well as those of her friends and family, and her warmth and witty personality makes you feel like you are sitting down for coffee with a good friend. She is qualified because she has lived it. I don’t know about you, but that makes it so much easier to take in information that you really need to hear. She tells one story of when her husband was young and had to make a decision on whether to go shopping at Target, which he loved, or wait at home for an opportunity to play with his friends, which he also loved. She talked about how because of his overthinking, whatever he chose to do he would not be happy. Ding! Light bulb moment. I keep going back to this one sentence. It’s an endless cycle, and in this book Anne gives advice on how to break it. Ahhh...sigh of relief. Until Anne made the connection for me, I never really related overthinking to procrastination and exactly how much your internal thoughts affect the rest of your life and relationships. I read this as an Advance Review Copy (ARC) and have highlighted it up. I just sat down to print out my highlights because I can’t wait to annotate my physical copy (yes, I’m one of those people). I have heard myself saying “Don’t Overthink It” a lot lately to my friends and my family but mostly to myself. This is a book I will be coming back to again and again to remind myself to #buytheflowers. I know this book is going to resonate with a lot of people, especially women. Give it a try. I guarantee you will get something out of it.
MindyY 25 days ago
Very excited to read Anne Bogel's latest book! I got and read her first two books after a book tour event a couple years ago and loved them and found her Modern Mrs. Darcy blog and What Should I Read Next podcast. Don't Overthink It is in her voice and I felt like she was sitting with me telling stories and giving advice and ideas. I'm a thinker -- though had never considered myself an overthinker I did recognize some unproductive patterns that I can fall into and picked up several ideas about how to make decisions, simplify, improve focus and just be more intentional. I heard Anne read one chapter on her podcast a couple weeks ago and can say that it stuck in my head and I've taken to heart at least one idea (driving the prettier route). Anne knows books and readers and her own writing will never disappoint.