A harsh reality of life is that it’s not always enjoyable. Everyone has experienced rejection. Whether in the form of hash words, unreciprocated love, loss or betrayal. Most people perceive rejection as a negative occurrence, when, in reality, rejection can be one of the most powerful tools in life.
Downside Up contains step-by-step guides, resources, and inter-active pages necessary to restore lost identity and transform dreams into reality. Downside Up offers wisdom, guidance, and personal application while also outlining and establishing key biblical principles that promote emotional and mental wellness. Readers will:
- Understand the importance of developing a positive and God-designed self-portrait
- Identify their life’s purpose and maximize their potential for success
- Discover the value of godly mentors and other positive relationships
- Overcome negative thoughts, fear, and lack of self-confidence
Rejection is not about experiencing loss. It is an asset for fulfilling your dreams.
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About the Author
As one of the nation’s leading conference speakers, Tracey Mitchelltravels 40+ weeks a year sharing biblical principles and wisdom with diverse audiences throughout America. Tracey’s real life experiences have enabled her to identify with the hurting, lonely, and rejected. Whether speaking to men, women, corporate CEOs, or the homeless, Tracey’s love and passion for rewriting the lives of the brokenhearted make her messages relevant and empowering.
Table of Contents
1 Rejection: Life's Golden Opportunity 1
2 Conquering the Need to Be Perfect 17
3 If You Love Me, Don't Leave Me 35
4 Divas, Deceivers, and Drama Queens 52
5 Green-Eyed Monsters 72
6 Families and Fudge 90
7 Truth, Lies, and Fairy Tales 111
8 Beautiful Distortions 129
9 Build Confidence; Laugh at Fear 147
10 The New You 165
11 Wave Good-bye to Your Past 182
About the Author 203
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Downside Up: Transform Rejection Into Your Golden Opportunity by Tracey Mitchell is a self help book written from a Christian point of view, that targets itself directly at overcoming dysfunctional relationships. Initially when I first took a glimpse at this book and its title, I assumed the author was writing about rejection in general. I prepared myself to read a pep talk about career change, finding motivation and the typical skills assessment quiz needed for landing a perfect job. All this would have been find as I find myself currently unemployed due to job lay offs. Yet, I was pleasantly surprised to find this book to be about another very relevant issue- interpersonal relationships as well as the related topics such as self esteem, codependency, and jealousy. These problems, in the context of every possible dysfunctional human relationship conceivable is covered: mother- daughter, mother- son, siblings, boyfriend- girlfriend, and husband - wife. The cheerful cover is perfect in dealing with an emotionally difficult subject- perhaps in an attempt to make light of the shame and humiliation and pain often associated with dysfunctional familial and romantic relationships. Mitchell discusses the basic human needs for love, companionship and acceptance. Furthermore, she explains that from childhood, maladaptive coping mechanisms may have been created and reinforced. As a result, problems with relationships surface and are doomed to repeat themselves. The reader may find herself suddenly alone and rejected by a boyfriend or even husband. Rather than to languish in self pity or depression, the author challenges the reader to reach for self confidence and to try and correct the problem. Rejection is a springboard for change- either in removing a toxic individual from one's life or in changing the reader's own toxic habits and reactions. Rejection is a good thing in that it often ends a destructive relationship and allows us to start from square one. The author starts off presenting her faith in God in the spirit of full disclosure. Yet I feel all readers, religious and secular alike will benefit from this book. And in the end only God can fill that void- not other people or relationships. This book is perfect for those readers who cant break free from destructive relationships. It would also make a good gift for anyone in need of a wake up call. As a blogger for Booksneeze I received this book published by Thomas Nelson for the purpose of writing this review.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.- Eleanor Roosevelt. I absolutely loved this book. I would love to be able to provide one for pretty much every person I know. Its so empowering to realize what you can do to understand your feelings and what to do with them. "Rejection is more than a feeling, more than negative words, more than a fleeting emotion. Its a double-edged sword that shapes the future of the wise and destroys the focus of the undiscerning. " Not only did this book help me figure out how some of my past rejections have affected me but it also helped me realize how I am going to deal with rejection in the future. Tracey has written this in such a way that it is easy to understand what she is trying to say. She brings the message across in a positive light that really helps you see how to work with what has happen to you rather than dwelling on it. Downside Up By Tracey Mitchell is an excellent read.
My most personal chapter was “The Need to Be Perfect.” A damaged heart rarely feels accepted. A damaged heart ….. protect it from … pain. A damaged heart has troubles trusting others. A damaged heart has difficulty receiving love. A damaged heart demands loyalty. These few from the list defined me to a T. I have a hard time accepting gifts and throughout my life have told people I am not materialistic. I do not want gifts. I honestly would rather they take that money they would spend on me and donate it to charity anyway. I am sure some of that stems from my damaged heart. The other part is my selfless soul. I don’t need things. I do however need to work on letting others in. There are some tips within the pages I can put into action that might help me out. “Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.” Bruce Barton. What I can do is check my ‘self-talk’ and when setbacks occur try to turn my negativity into something positive. One baby step at a time. The book does have a lot of positive messages and I can certainly see it being quite helpful to the right person. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher as part of a review program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
Lately, I've been reading books with the goal of attaining some knowledge and understanding that will bring me to the place in my life where I want to be and should be. So when I saw the book "Downside up" by Tracey Mitchell I was skeptical. I mean transforming rejection into a positive? Ok. I was pleasantly surprised when I read this book and she didn't hit me over the head with the usual "trust God and all will be well", or "pray, pray, pray to make all the bad things go away" rhetoric that is so commonplace in Christian books. Instead she brought some real issues to the fore, explained them and their effect, then gave some insightful advice on how to turn a bad situation, or circumstance into a learning opportunity to advance yourself. True, this book does call on the reader to deepen their relationship with God, but it also asks questions to help the reader to examine himself and thus bring your self-image into alignment with reality. After realizing that you may need some work in a given area, Mitchell gives sound advice to overcoming or strengthening that weaker area. The book is well written, easy to read, and is a page turner. The key to this book is thus : "Rejection is unavoidable. Your response to rejection, however, will determine your potential for positive relationships; and it will ultimately decide which doors of opportunity will be open to you" (Mitchell, 2). Read this book, and you will learn something that can help you overcome the sting of rejection and use it to make yourself stronger. l Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
This exceptional book on benefitting from rejection is a game changer. The author hands you numerous tools to take the sting out of what is for almost everyone a painful experience, helping you see rejection objectively and equipping you to unhook from those who aim to destroy you through the use of the forceful impact of their negative opinion. In a well-written book, the author effectively ties her nuggets of truth in chapter after chapter to the Bible, giving appropriate illustrations and examples of overcoming rejection, and each chapter concludes with its germane points. Tracey Mitchell also has a way with words in that she can be pointed and concise without being too blunt. She gives you much to take away. One caution I would give: do not attempt to read this book in a few sittings if rejection is more than an intellectual topic to you, because you will need time and space to digest the important topics addressed. I received this book for free in exchange for my unbiased review through the Thomas Nelson BookSneeze Program.
I received a copy of DOWNSIDE UP: TRANSFORM REJECTION INTO YOUR GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY by Tracey Mitchell from Thomas Nelson via BookSneeze. This book holds a special place in my mind. As a writer, I’ve faced plenty of rejection. It started for me when, in high school, I took my totally unedited manuscript (why should I have editted it? Clearly, it was perfect) and sent it off to a major publisher. I knew it was going to be purchased, it would become a best seller, a movie would follow within a few months, and I would be greeted with fame and fortune. Okay, so the actuality involved a form rejection letter arriving a little over a year later. I was crushed. It also helped me to look at getting published in a new light. I took that rejection as a positive “work harder” pat on the back. I’d already written the book. I was dedicated to my dream then and I still am now. I edited, joined critique circles, became president of the local writing club, entered contests, submitted to online journals, and queried my butt off. Seven years later, I have twenty completed manuscripts, publications in journals and anthologies, and I have a literary agent. It all feels that much sweeter because of the thousands of rejections and my willpower to never give up. People ask me how I can put up with all that rejection. I’m never sure how to answer it – I know I have to keep trying despite the rejection – and this book gave me the answers I’ve been seeking. Rejection doesn’t just come in the form of a “not right for us, but thanks anyway” letter. It can be from a boyfriend/girlfriend, from a job opportunity, from a family member… This book is a great eye-opener for all those moments when you just sit back, stunned, unable to move forward because you don’t even know what to think, let alone do at that moment. I loved how Tracey Mitchell wove God into her paragraphs. When those rejections come, sit down with a hot cup of tea (or whatever comfort drink makes you smile no matter what) and read a chapter from DOWNSIDE UP. The pain may still linger, but you’ll have the right kind of thoughts to ponder, the kind that bring you up to the surface rather than drag you down deeper.
TURNING REJECTS TO REWARDS The book titled “Downside Up: Transform Rejection into Your Golden Opportunity”. After reviewing thisbook, I believe the author did a great job in sharing several points in transforming rejections in a positive outlook. The key to transforming those rejections in your life is through changing your mindset, this is a start in the right direction. Everyone at one point or another has experienced rejection and some recovery from rejection quickly, while others take rejection hard. However, rejection does not mean that there is something wrong with you, but there may be something wrong with the other party or something created division among the two of you. We understand that no one is perfect and that everyone is dealing some type of issues, but it is when we begins to decipher the root of the problem that it can be resolved. The author gave us several examples of how rejection takes place in our lives, but the author also gave us relevant points to steer us from falling into that rejection place. The purpose of this book from my viewpoint is not allowing the negative words or actions turn into self-rejections; defeat those rejections spirits with positive affirmations. Oftentimes we have to encourage ourselves and believe in God’s plan for our life. God is not into harming his creation, but wants us to live peacefully and in prosperity. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (NKJV). This is a gem that I highly recommend for those that are dealing with self-esteem issues, for tweens and teens, for ministries of all sorts and adults. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
This book is a self-help type book written from a Christian perspective. I initially thought this book would be pretty surface level, but I found myself truly enjoying her perspectives, insights, and understanding of interpersonal relationships. I was presently surprised at the depth of this book and how each chapter was extremely practical and insightful. Mitchell does an excellent job tackling hard and emotional issues while giving the reader practical steps to overcome the pitfalls of life. I strongly recommend this book and truly enjoyed reading it.