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Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible and Resilient Kids

Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible and Resilient Kids

by Vicki Hoefle, Alex Kajitani


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There's a new set of 3Rs for our kids-respect, responsibility, and resilience-to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all. Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counter-intuitive-yet much more effective-approach: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines, even if duct tape is required, so that the kids step up. Duct Tape Parenting gives parents a new perspective on what it means to be effective, engaged parents and to enable kids to develop confidence through solving their own problems. This is not a book about the parenting strategy of the day-what the author calls "Post-It Note Parenting"-but rather a relationship-based guide to span all ages and stages of development. Witty, straight-shooting Hoefle addresses frustrated parents everywhere who are ready to raise confident, capable children to go out in the world.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781937134181
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
Publication date: 09/06/2012
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 608,700
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

 Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator and the creator of the Parenting On Track™ Program. Vicki Hoefle began teaching more than 20 years ago, while running a daycare center in Seattle, WA. Parents applauded her approach with their children, and wanted to bring her tools and understanding of children home with them. After years of study and everyday practice, Vicki developed the Parenting On Track™ Program, which combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an ICF certified coach with a suite of time-tested tools. Vicki can speak first-hand to the real world implementation of these strategies with her own family of five children. For more than two decades, Vicki has shared her parenting tips and techniques with families across the country.  Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator, and educator. 

Table of Contents

Foreword xiii

Acknowledgments xvii

Introduction xix

Section I Before We Get the Duct Tape, Let's See What Needs Fixing: Note, It's Not the Kids 1

Chapter 1 Feeding the Weed: Your Focus Is the Problem 3

Chapter 2 Band-Aids on Bullet Wounds: Your Strategy Is the Problem 25

Chapter 3 Being the Maid: Doing for Your Kids Is the Problem 39

Chapter 4 Holding onto Discipline: Your Fear Is the Problem 58

Chapter 5 The Cul-de-Sac Syndrome: Your Thinking Is the Problem 72

Section II Get out the Duct Tape and Take a Leap of Faith 83

Chapter 6 Duct Tape for the Relationship: Repairing Family Fractures Is a Solution 85

Chapter 7 Duct Tape for the Mouth: Keeping Your Mind Open and Your Mouth Closed Is a Solution 107

Chapter 8 Duct Tape for Your Body: Quitting Your Job as the Maid Is a Solution 128

Chapter 9 Duct Tape for the Eyes and Ears: Ignoring the Drama and Mischief Making Is a Solution 153

Chapter 10 Prepare for Departure: Launch with Enthusiasm 173

Chapter 11 Duct Tape Works: Stories from Real Kids of Duct Tape Parents 201

Chapter 12 Duct Tape Is Good for the Family: A Family That Works Together, Sticks Together 219

Chapter 13 Simulating the Real World: Raising the Next Generation of Leaders 229

Afterword: Ode to Mom and Dad: The Kids' Perspective 239

Resources 251

Index 253

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