There's a new set of 3Rs for our kids-respect, responsibility, and resilience-to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all. Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counter-intuitive-yet much more effective-approach: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines, even if duct tape is required, so that the kids step up. Duct Tape Parenting gives parents a new perspective on what it means to be effective, engaged parents and to enable kids to develop confidence through solving their own problems. This is not a book about the parenting strategy of the day-what the author calls "Post-It Note Parenting"-but rather a relationship-based guide to span all ages and stages of development. Witty, straight-shooting Hoefle addresses frustrated parents everywhere who are ready to raise confident, capable children to go out in the world.
|Publisher:||Taylor & Francis|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)|
About the Author
Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator, author, parent coach, and national speaker with over twenty years of experience teaching parents, educators, and caregivers how to raise respectful, responsible, and resilient children. Hoefle combines her expertise in Adlerian psychology and as an International Coaching Federation certified coach to bring parents sustainable and proactive parenting strategies that provide time-tested tools for harvesting a happy and peaceful family life. The Straight Talk on Parenting: A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up (Bibliomotion, 2015) is Hoefle’s second book; she is also the author of Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible and Resilient Children (Bibliomotion, 2012.) Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator and educator. Hoefle is a mother of six and lives in Middlebury, Vermont.
Alex Kajitani was named California Teacher of the Year and a Top-4 Finalist for 2009 National Teacher of the Year.
Table of Contents
Section I Before We Get the Duct Tape, Let's See What Needs Fixing: Note, It's Not the Kids 1
Chapter 1 Feeding the Weed: Your Focus Is the Problem 3
Chapter 2 Band-Aids on Bullet Wounds: Your Strategy Is the Problem 25
Chapter 3 Being the Maid: Doing for Your Kids Is the Problem 39
Chapter 4 Holding onto Discipline: Your Fear Is the Problem 58
Chapter 5 The Cul-de-Sac Syndrome: Your Thinking Is the Problem 72
Section II Get out the Duct Tape and Take a Leap of Faith 83
Chapter 6 Duct Tape for the Relationship: Repairing Family Fractures Is a Solution 85
Chapter 7 Duct Tape for the Mouth: Keeping Your Mind Open and Your Mouth Closed Is a Solution 107
Chapter 8 Duct Tape for Your Body: Quitting Your Job as the Maid Is a Solution 128
Chapter 9 Duct Tape for the Eyes and Ears: Ignoring the Drama and Mischief Making Is a Solution 153
Chapter 10 Prepare for Departure: Launch with Enthusiasm 173
Chapter 11 Duct Tape Works: Stories from Real Kids of Duct Tape Parents 201
Chapter 12 Duct Tape Is Good for the Family: A Family That Works Together, Sticks Together 219
Chapter 13 Simulating the Real World: Raising the Next Generation of Leaders 229
Afterword: Ode to Mom and Dad: The Kids' Perspective 239
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Very over- simplified. Luckily, It was a quick read out of curiousity; not for a desperate need for answers.
Common sense approach. The ideas are easy to implement to create change in the family dynamic. The best part is my relationship with my kids is growing stronger and they are becoming independent and self-reliant. I highly recommend you read this book.
This book is AMAZING! I couldn't put it down. I don't have a major parenting issue or behavior problem but I am trying to raise 3 respectful, responsible and resilient children! I have read it cover to cover twice and refer to Vicki's website often. It so inspired me that I started my own blog to document my experiences applying the Duct Tape!!!!
This book saved my family. I was headed down a dark road and I learned effective strategies to invest in the relationship with my kids and support them on their road to independence.