Family Values: Reset Trust, Boundaries, and Connection with Your Child

by Charles Sophy

Overview

An essential modern parenting guide for restoring trust and security to your home life from renowned psychiatrist and Dr. Phil Show regular, Dr. Charles Sophy.

Over the last twenty years, Dr. Charles Sophy has been a staple on The Dr. Phil Show, where he has guided and coached millions of people begging for assistance with parenting their children. From conflict resolution to substance dependence, Dr. Sophy is the one with the answers.

Now, in Family Values, Dr. Sophy has written a guide to rebuilding parent/child relationships to be stronger than ever. Structured around four essential strengths of relationship—trust, shared beliefs, family history, and forgiveness—this book will hit on the hot topics that Dr. Sophy gets asked most frequently for help on, including:
-Dealing with power shifts/struggles
-Defensive vs. offensive parenting styles
-Building/rebuilding your parenting foundation
-Eliminating the intergenerational cycle of parental neglect and abuse

With compassion and clarity, Dr. Sophy shows how to break free of generational wounds and learn how to create safety, stability, and permanence for your children.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781668000113
Publisher:	S&S/Simon Element
Publication date:	10/04/2022
Pages:	272
Sales rank:	173,575
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.30(d)

About the Author

Dr. Charles Sophy is a psychiatrist and the former medical director for the County of Los Angeles Department of Children and Family Services. He has been a staple on Dr. Phil for the last twenty years. He now brings his experience and expertise to his book, Family Values, continuing his work on repairing parent-child relationships, just as he did in his previous publication, Side by Side: The Revolutionary Mother-Daughter Program for Conflict-Free Communication. In addition to his work with Dr. Phil, Dr. Sophy has appeared on television programs such as Today, Good Morning America, CNN’s Larry King Live, Anderson Cooper 360, and on the FOX News Channel.

Table of Contents

Foreword vii

Introduction xi

Part I Finding the Reset Button

Chapter 1 Parenting with a New Lens 3

Chapter 2 Change Yourself, Change Your Child 19

Chapter 3 Understanding Your Baggage 35

Chapter 4 Toxic Power Dynamics 49

Chapter 5 Taking Stock of Your Parenting Style 71

Part II Family Values in Action

Chapter 6 SWEEP 91

Chapter 7 The Five Essentials of Your Family Portrait 111

Chapter 8 Communicating and Connecting 131

Chapter 9 The Most Important Role Model Your Kids Will Ever Have 145

Chapter 10 Raising Confident, Capable Kids 155

Part III New Starts and New Tests

Chapter 11 Negotiation and Motivation 169

Chapter 12 Evolving Families 185

Chapter 13 Lightning Round of Common Questions 203

Conclusion 225

Acknowledgments 233

Index 235

Editorial Reviews

09/05/2022

Psychiatrist Sophy (Side by Side: The Revolutionary Mother-Daughter Program for Conflict-Free Communication) aims to help readers create the “secure, loving, joyful, lasting family you’ve always wanted” in this mostly solid survey. A core element of his approach is his SWEEP process for “assessing how well your basic needs are being met, and making a plan to fulfill those needs.” It covers sleep, work, eating, emotional expression, and play: with those in balance, Sophy writes, families have a better shot at well-being. He includes real-life examples of family challenges and how they were addressed, from a mother whose parenting is “negatively influenced by her childhood” to a daughter who is “in charge” of a “dangerous parent/child dynamic.” As well, the book contains a number self-assessments, including one for confronting one’s past and a “Family Power Questionnaire” (“Do you find yourself getting increasingly angry when responding to your child?”). But there are so many exercises that busy parents may be left feeling overwhelmed (“I’m about to give you some hard work that’s so difficult you might find yourself wanting to cry,” Sophy warns before one set of questions). Motivated readers who stay the course, though, will find plenty of tools for building a stronger family. (Oct.)

Publishers Weekly

"Motivated readers will find plenty of tools for building a stronger family." –Publisher's Weekly

"Dr. Sophy is a doctor like no other. The compassion and committment he shows people in their darkest and scariest moments is unbelievable. He is a lifeline. His clearheaded advice cuts through the noise and provides simple effective steps to reset and uplift. He demonstrates how to meet your problems head on, without fear, and gives you tools to build a life that works for you. I'm so thankful for Charles and thrilled about this book." –Catherine Bach, actress

“Family Values isn’t just a book, it is a manual. You will probably wear out your first copy and go pick up another one.” –Dr. Phil McGraw

"Dr Charles Sophy has spent decades helping individuals and families in the public healthcare system in addition to his private practice. In his book, Family Values, he elegantly shares his very detailed hybrid approach to treating every aspect of the individual and the family unit. He provides us his lasting framework for behavioral changes for all family members providing an overall increase in family values and relationships.... A must read for all parents...." -Stacey Bendet, owner of Alice and Olivia

“Dr. Sophy is an expert in all childhood development. He has been instrumental in guiding us through any bumps in the road that have occurred with all four of our children. This is a must read!” –Mark & Rhea Wahlberg

From the Publisher

11/01/2022

Sophy (Side by Side), best known for his numerous appearances on Dr. Phil, is a physician, parent, and former medical director of the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS). He starts with the lofty claim that readers have just opened the last book they'll ever need to create the family they've always wanted. A family unit is only as strong as its weakest member, the author opines, and many parents struggle to live as role models owing to a lack of resources and emotional tools in their own formative years. Sophy attempts to teach parents how to hit the reset button by including case studies gathered during his many years working at DCFS. Each chapter concludes with questions designed to help the parent reflect, evaluate, and determine how to bring about change. Putting family values first and in action is the focus of the second half; it urges parents fulfill their own needs first to best meet those of their children. Factors affecting a variety of families, including LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC, are not sufficiently addressed in this manual. VERDICT Not recommended for its narrow scope.

Library Journal