Generous Love: Discover the Joy of Living

Generous Love: Discover the Joy of Living "Others First"

by Becky Kopitzke

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A Fresh, Down-to-Earth Look on Living and Loving Well

If asked, most of us want to make a difference, to live and love generously. But we get caught in the crazy rush of household routines, work demands, cranky attitudes, difficult people, exhaustion, worry, and pride, and once again we fail to love the people around us at all--let alone well. We too easily default to focusing more on self than on others, on receiving more than giving, in ways we don't even recognize. We dream of reaching out. We just . . . forget. Or don't have the energy.

Using relatable stories, discussion questions, and careful application of God's Word, author and speaker Becky Kopitzke gives you the inspiration and practical tips and ideas you need to see the opportunities around you, to reach out, to live generously, and to love others bravely and selflessly. To bless and be blessed is to actualize the joy of Christ--and to propel love forward.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781493413454
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/03/2018
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 224
File size: 3 MB

About the Author

Becky Kopitzke is a writer, blogger, and speaker. The author of The SuperMom Myth, she offers weekly encouragement on her popular blog,, and contributes regularly to other popular mom and family sites. She and her husband, Chad, and their two young daughters live in Neenah, Wisconsin.
Becky Kopitzke is a writer, blogger, and speaker and leads Bible studies at Appleton Alliance Church. On her popular blog at, she offers weekly encouragement for fellow imperfect women, encouraging them to point weaknesses, blessings, and victories to God. She also contributes regularly to The Bible Mom, For the Family, and The MOM Initiative. Becky is the author of The SuperMom Myth: Conquering the Dirty Villains of Motherhood. She and her husband, Chad, and their two young daughters live in Neenah, Wisconsin.

Table of Contents

Introduction: It Starts with One 11

1 What Is a Blessing, Anyway? 17

2 Why Are We So Stinking Selfish? 27

3 The "Me" Weeds 35

4 The Blessing Toolbox 47

5 Four P's of Blessing-#1 Presence 61

6 Blessings Near and Far 73

7 Four P's of Blessing-#2 Possessions 85

8 Olivia's Heart 95

9 Four P's of Blessing-#3 Perspective 105

10 Loving People Who Aren't Like You 117

11 Four P's of Blessing-#4 Prayer 131

12 A Church on Every Corner 145

13 Why? Because God Says So 161

14 And Because It Benefits You, Too 175

15 When Blessing Is Hard 187

16 About That Golden Rule 201

Epilogue: A Life Well-Lived 213

Bonus Materials 217

Acknowledgments 219

Notes 221

About the Author 223

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Generous Love: Discover the Joy of Living "Others First" 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 21 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I really enjoyed reading Becky Kopitzke’s new book Generous Love. Despite a busy schedule, I found myself truly enjoying Kopitzke’s conversational and personal way of describing what God’s love feels like and looks like in her life and how she sees other people sharing God’s love. By reminding us of how God blesses us so abundantly, Kopitzke suggests that we set up a blessing toolbox to better learn how to share the blessings we receive from God. I appreciated the short chapters that allowed me to savor her thoughts and experiences in short bites. I loved her personal and forthcoming honesty as she shared hard and happy experiences about her experiences feeling generous love and sharing generous love with others. Her practical suggestions mixed with her humor and insight made the tone of her book feel encouraging and accessible. I particularly appreciated Kopitzke’s focus on sharing our presence with others and being present as we do so as a powerful way of showing generous love to people we interact with in a world where people seem too busy and preoccupied. I loved reading Kopitzke’s well written, thought-provoking book. Bethany House gave me a complimentary copy of Generous Love by Becky Kopitzke for my candid review.
SClubMama More than 1 year ago
Selflessness has never been a strong point in my character. I am often preoccupied about my schedule, my kids, my time, my appearance, etc. That's not a beautiful thing in the Kingdom of God. Not to say I don't need to take care of myself (we all do - oxygen masks first before putting it on a child), but I don't need to think of myself as highly or often as I do. So I try to better myself by reading God's Word and godly books pertaining to selflessness. "Generous Love" by Becky Kopitzke is just one of those godly books. Oddly enough, just after I started reading this book, a dear friend gifted me with another of Kopitzke's books "The SuperMom Myth," which I am excited to read because I am exhausted when I think of all of my friends and myself trying to be all and do all for our children. But that's another post for another day (when I find the time to read the book). Back to selflessness and "Generous Love." That's the whole premise of the book: discovering the joy of living "others first." The Bible teaches so much about submitting to one another out of love, the first will be last, etc and this book touches on so many of those things, so I'm just going to share a few gems that I appreciated or was convicted about. Kopitzke wrote about washing her husband's coffee mug, a simple thing. "I could've let it sit. It was his mug after all, and he didn't expect me to wash it. I don't drink coffee...I had other stuff to do. But. How long would it take me to wash that mug? Sixty seconds, tops? And I was already standing at the sink...Why shouldn't I wash the mug? Better questions - why should I? If washing that mug says I love you and I'm thinking of you and You matter to me, isn't that worth a one-minute sacrifice out of my day? Isn't it worth way more than that?" I think about stuff like that - making the bed, sweeping the kitchen floor, folding the laundry. Except that last one, none of those things takes me very long (even very pregnant). And I know that acts of service is my husband's love language, so can't I take the time to do those things for him? He'll do them if I don't, but to him my action would say "I love you, babe. Thanks for taking care of us." What can you do today that's small and seemingly meaningless that would speak volumes to someone you love? Humility is another hard character issue (related to selflessness!). Kopitzke says "...if living 'others first' is meant to display the love of Christ, then we cannot demand kudos. Our actions must be rooted in humility. Why? Because that's who Christ is. 'In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death - even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father (Philippians 2:5-11).'" That is always a heady passage for me. How can I demand a thank you or notice or attention when Christ Himself left His wonderful home in heaven to become a human (a weak human - a baby!!!) and then willingly, knowingly was obe
Teadrinker More than 1 year ago
I grew up singing a song in Sunday School that told others "They will know we are Christians by our love." But what does that kind of love look like in our Christian lives? Becky Koptizke talks about how we can love those around us in Generous Love. Generous Love is indeed a practical and easy to use book. Kopitzke shares what a blessing is and how to bless those around us with the four P's: Presence, Possessions Perspective and Prayer. For each of those four P's, Kopitzke shares a list of 50 ways to make each one a practical way to love someone around you. She also shares stories from her life and those around her that gives examples of how to love. Then at the end of each chapter she includes questions to answer as you dig deeper. Generous Love offers a lot of solid practical advice and encouragement for loving others well. I enjoyed Kopitzke's down-to-earth writing style. I think she offers a lot of solid advice and information from the Bible. She also offers her advice and information as someone who is real and doesn't do it all perfectly all the time. I also liked that she encourages readers to love in the way the person needs love through Dr. Gary Chapman's Love Language information that she shares. The one thing I wish she had mentioned was the importance of having boundaries along with the love. Otherwise, I just felt she did a great job of sharing a variety of ways to love others. I think Generous Love would be a great book to read alone or in a group of other women. I received Generous Love from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review.
ananunezzz More than 1 year ago
Generous love is a book that brings it all back to basics. You will see your life through a new lens and realize all the places where you have lacked in being generous with your love. Becky is not stingy with the amount of scripture she quotes. Verses are not few and far between, they are on every page. You are reading scripture and given a practical way to live it out chapter after chapter. Becky’s stories will keep you engaged and excited to get to the next paragraph to read more. One of the best parts may be the amount of ideas she gives her readers on how to love BIG TIME, in small ways. Significant, but simple. My kinda gal. I have so many ideas in the back of my mind that I will be able to pull out in order to bless people. Pre-saved” (as Becky calls it), just-saved, or the has-been-saved alike will be blessed by this book by being shown how to live life as a blessing to others. If I’m being completely honest, I wanted to write Generous Love off within the first few pages of reading. I found lessons I’ve already learned, phrases I’ve heard a million times. But for the sake of writing this review, I kept on reading. The deeper I got, the more I saw just how far my mind is from a right perspective. The lessons within this book are straight from the Bible itself. Back to basics. Not prettied up, but right out of the principles found in God’s own Word. As I spent the week reading this book and weighing the words in it against my own life, I began to realize just how far away I was from practicing these principles on a daily basis. My mind needed renewing big time. They are simple principles, but difficult to execute. Easy to understand, but profound (the same goes for everything Jesus taught, doesn’t it?). I seriously struggled as I realized just how far I am from thinking others first. From living to bless others. Maybe you, like me, need to get back to basics. Maybe you need a fresh reminder of simple truths that we have gotten so far away from with our big theology and dressed up phrases. If we don’t have love, we are nothing. Let us never forget that. I received a copy of this book from Bethany House Publishers for the purpose of this review.
benhli38 More than 1 year ago
Sacrificial, no holds barred love: is what it's called. It's the kind that sacrifices itself on behalf of others. It's the kind that led God to show us who He truly is. With that said, this is Becky Kopitzke's premise for her latest book, Generous Love. It's the kind of love that is unconditional. It puts others at the fore and makes the one who's giving it less of who they are. Paul said that this way, "I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me" (Galatians 2:20, Berean Study). John, Jesus Christ's beloved disciple, writes of what our Lord and Savior said, "As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love...This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends...This is My command to you: Love one another" (John 15:9-17, summarized). In other words, as fellow Christians who proclaim Christ this is the central focal point in our life: to love others, to keep others first. Jesus Christ Himself said, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets" (Matthew 22:37-40, New King James). All of that said, Becky does an incredible job with her book in explaining how we ought to live our lives "others first." The whole cross point of the matter stems from making God, Jesus Christ, the focal point. With personal stories and a lot of insight that she has regarding what the Bible says I believe Becky has done a rather remarkable job explaining what it means to live "others first." If we take the life of Jesus and split it directly in half we see a man, both man and God, putting off His divine rights for the express benefit of others. Time and time again we see Him saying things such as, "Truly, truly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, unless it is something He sees the Father doing; for whatever the Father does, these things the Son also does in like manner" (John 5:19, New American Standard). Therefore, I honestly believe that Becky has done and given her best in showing and explaining how we are to live an "others first" mindset. It takes us off of thinking of ourselves and more on what God has called us to do: to love others as He has loved us. It is my firm belief that Becky provides her best within the pages of Generous Love as well as being the loving woman she is in advancing the Kingdom message of who Christ is. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Bethany House for an honest review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book reminds us of those things that we already know - treat others kindly; love even when we are tired; allow others to bless us - but reminds us of these things with Scripture references to encourage the heart. Becky gets at the "why" of serving to bolster the weary. She doesn't encourage us to give to the point of self-deprivation or self-deprecation; rather, she points us to God's plan for "living 'others first'" by reminding us of the Christ-centered calling on our heart. She provides practical examples and down-to-earth thoughts to encourage and challenge you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I throughly enjoyed reading this book. It is full of practical ways to live "others first". My favorite part of each chapter is the 50 ways to Bless section. I will go back and refer to these often! I also love how the book is full of little personal stories, it really is applicable and relatable to everyone's life. This would be a great Bible study book since Becky has so many great discussion questions already laid out at the end of each chapter. This book has really shown me how easy and rewarding it can be to bless others. "Ultimately, our kindness, blessing, and love toward others are gifts we offer to God." (pg.208)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is awesome. It is a very inspirational read. Becky Kopitzke is an amazing writer.
MrsZuehls More than 1 year ago
So inspirational!!! Do you want to be the hands and feet of Jesus?! If your answer is yes, then please add this book to your MUST READS, and to your cart! Becky hits this one out of the park, yet again, with this heartfelt, informative, and inspirational book of living Others First! We have the power to change the world around us by just being kind and generous with the stuff that we have been blessed with! Becky helps us to see the potential that is alive in us, with her real life stories of real women seeing the world and the people in it, through the eyes of Jesus. Joy is in us...sometimes we just need to uncover the potential and spread GENEROUS LOVE!! Starting the forward movement of loving others first has to start somewhere...let it start with this will inspire you!!! Use it in your Small Group as well, as there are great questions at the end of each chapter!!
SamGehl More than 1 year ago
This is a beautifully written book full of scripture, real life moments and boat loads of inspiration! I received this book as a very timely gift. Reading the book has led me to "spring clean" my perspective and to look inward at my own emotional gifts I have received and those that I have to give. I have given copies to others as gifts and hope they will find the same inspiration to lead the life God wishes for each of us. The author, Becky, offers questions at the end of each chapter to promote reflection. I used my copy as a journal and will be referencing it often!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was timely for me to read, as I'd imagine it would be for ANY woman in this self-focused time. If you are looking for simple yet effective ways to love those around you without breaking the bank or ignoring you're primary responsibilities, this EASY and MOTIVATING read is for you too. Whether it be Becky's useful lists or her real life stories, this is one to keep close at hand for a pick me up and fast reminder of how to practically love others, in return receiving the satisfaction of focusing outwards.
momma-mia1574 More than 1 year ago
An excellent, thought provoking book. It will make you step back and look at yourself in a whole new way--am I truly kind and loving...or am I convincing myself that I am...when it is convenient or I feel like it. Generous Love will give you the tools to love generously all those who cross your path, whether that be on the way to the kitchen, at the store, or even the difficult people in your life. A must read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is an encouraging, challenging look at generously loving others. Generous Love’s biblical basis, plus practical real-world ideas on ‘how-to’ bless others, starting in our homes and expanding to our greater circle of influence, are insightful and creative! Looking for some encouragement? Looking for ways to encourage, bless and love those around you? This book is it. Becky Kopitzke writes in an easy to read, authentic style that kept me turning the pages with excitement.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was given the opportunity to read this book before it hit the shelves. Becky did it again! She was able to portray real life examples (that anyone can relate to) on how we can live and love others first. This book gives me so much hope in a world that can often times feel dark. It shows us how to love others~ as Christ loved us! This will definitely be my "go to gift" for Birthdays and Holidays.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is both encouraging and inspiring. It is full of stories of others selflessly loving those around them. Becky shares practical ways we can give of our presence, our possessions, our perspective, and our prayers. Small acts done with great love make a difference. We can change the world by loving one person at a time, right where we are, and that is exactly what this book is about. I think this is definitely a book that is worth your time!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Find yourself nodding at the personal narratives shared, then highlighting section after section in this GREAT book that gives hope of what our world could be like if we all just showed more love. Becky's lists of ideas on how to bless others - many cost nothing more than your kindness - are fantastic, practical ways to make a difference to those around us. I cannot wait to load up on copies of this book and share them with friends and family (and maybe even strangers!)... I have not felt this hopeful in a long time that we can make a change in this world - that is, until reading this book.
sunflwr6 More than 1 year ago
Wow! This book is a wonderful reminder and encouragement to live and love well. Becky Kopitzke does a great job of inspiring us to take advantage of all the opportunities around us, big and small to love generous. Reaching beyond ourselves to show love and bless others near and far, strangers, friends our husbands and children. Thank you Becky for the practical encouragement of “generous love.” You won’t regret picking this one up.
MeganKmomof2 More than 1 year ago
Generous Love is a wonderful book on how to extend love to others. The author is open, honest, and raw about her life (and examples from the lives around her- used with permission) on how to give generous love. Becky gives practical ways to bless others around you (including yourself). She uses biblical knowledge to incorporate, identify, and answer "why" we should love and bless others. She realizes and admits that yes, it can be hard, and yes, we will make mistakes, but God still forgives and continues to love and bless us. At the conclusion of each chapter, the author gives us a list of thought provoking questions that make the reader really think and grow. Becky truly exudes God's message of loving others. I can't wait to share this book with others (who's up for a book club?)!
Lana_S More than 1 year ago
At a time when I have been feeling lost, Becky comes along with such a powerful book that has the ability to set me back on the right path. Generous Love is truly an inspiring journey that will have me going back, time and time again, for reference!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The gift of this book is not in the writing, it is in the time it encourages you to take to reflect on the blessings you have received and are (or are not) giving others! The book itself is a blessing. I have been uplifted, and I am approaching each person, event, and "chore" in my life with a renewed sense of purpose. My service is my love. As a mother, this book has truly helped me reflect on my vocation and yearn to be a better mom! This book is incredibly easy to read, and each chapter has discussion questions at the end that are perfect for self-reflection/journaling. Better idea- buy a bunch and host a book study!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
"Generous Love" is an absolutely lovely read. Packed with personal stories, Biblical insights, and practical applications, Becky's message of loving others well is relevant and much needed. Becky writes in a personal, relational manner that makes you feel like you are chatting over a cup of coffee. I highly recommend this book for both personal growth and gift giving!