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Get Positively Beautiful: The Ultimate Guide to Looking and Feeling Gorgeous

Get Positively Beautiful: The Ultimate Guide to Looking and Feeling Gorgeous

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by Carmindy

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According to a recent study, only 2% of women describe themselves as 'beautiful.' (Dove Global Study 'The Real Truth About Beauty: A Global Report', 2004) The media instructs women how to 'look ten years younger,' 'cover up wrinkles,' or 'get fuller, plumper lips.' And even makeup products play off womens' insecurities, promising to conceal perceived flaws,


According to a recent study, only 2% of women describe themselves as 'beautiful.' (Dove Global Study 'The Real Truth About Beauty: A Global Report', 2004) The media instructs women how to 'look ten years younger,' 'cover up wrinkles,' or 'get fuller, plumper lips.' And even makeup products play off womens' insecurities, promising to conceal perceived flaws, define cheekbones, or make eyelashes fuller and longer. The underlying message? That there's something inherently wrong with the way women look and that they have to spend time, money, and energy keeping up with all the ways they should 'fix' themselves.

In GET POSITIVELY BEAUTIFUL, makeup artist Carmindy from TLC's hit program What Not to Wear shows you how to change your mindset from negative fault-finding to a positive beauty philosphy. You learn how to find and focus on your best features and how to combat negative thoughts about your appearance. Carmindy demonstrates easy makeup techniques for eyes, brows, lashes, lips, cheeks, and skin, and how to adapt looks to different weather conditions and 'beauty moods.'

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Get Positively Beautiful

The Ultimate Guide to Looking and Feeling Gorgeous
By Carmindy

Center Street

Copyright © 2010 Carmindy
All right reserved.

ISBN: 9781599951447

If everyone were cast in the same mold, there would be no such thing as beauty.


chapter one

first things first

I believe looking good starts with feeling good.

Before we consider what to put on our faces, we must confront what’s going on inside our heads! For a lot of us, it’s a blurry mess of negativity. But right now, we can choose to make a change: we can decide to sharpen our focus and start seeing the positive.

I hear the skeptics out there already. Hey, Carmindy, that’s great and everything, but could you just show me how to make my lips look bigger? Well, guess what? I can show you lots of ways to gloss up your pucker, but you’ll only be pretty if you feel that way without a darn thing on those lips. And you’ll only be beautiful when kind, loving words pass from them!

Words are incredibly powerful, and thoughts are even more so. Need proof?

How often have you stopped a friend whose eyes were clouded with worry and said, “What’s the matter? You look upset.” Or conversely, you’ve seen that same friend floating on cloud nine and said, “You look amazing. What’s going on?” Same woman, different thoughts—a totally altered appearance.

That dynamic plays out on our own faces every day. How we think affects how we look. Period.

Though we can’t always control how the world comes at us, we can decide to feel good about ourselves and to meet challenges head-on, with our best face forward. A confident face that knows its finest features and plays them up. A one-of-a-kind face that honors its special beauty and owns it from the inside out.

I’ve built my career by homing in on the natural beauty I find in each woman I consult with. But do you know what I spend the most time doing? It isn’t mascara. It’s convincing a woman to see the gorgeous potential I see in her and to believe in her own gifts.

Fans of What Not to Wear know how stubborn I can be about this. I simply won’t allow a capable, captivating woman to sit before me and tear herself down. How can I consider a makeover a success if a lady hasn’t first made over her mind? This goes especially for you, my friend!

You chose this book because you want to bring out your best. It’s such a privilege for me to play a part in your transformation. And so exciting! Let’s get going by turning off those negative old thought patterns and switching on the lovely light you know is burning inside.

Here’s how…

Drop the Flaw Focus

Sounds simple, right? But after two decades in the beauty biz, I know how difficult it is to shut out the negative messages coming at us every day.

Think for a moment about beauty “experts” who show us how to fix what they perceive is wrong with a given face. They see and point out the flaws first—expecting us to agree with the criticism—and then give instruction on how to camouflage the “issue.” We can get so caught up in obeying their authority that we start transferring other women’s “problem areas” to our own faces: suddenly we can only see dark undereye circles or thin lips. Before you know it, we feel worse than before.

We can hardly place blame on the beauty industry alone. Often the destructive cycle starts much closer to home.

No matter who you are, chances are people in your past have made negative comments about your appearance. Maybe a childhood bully yelled, “Hey, pizza face.” Or an uncle whispered, “Quite a honker of a schnoz she’s got there.” Or a controlling boyfriend hissed, “Your eyes are so tiny, no wonder you can’t drive straight.”

I’m sure you have your own painful list. Why is it that we remember the insults and forget the compliments? Beats me, but we do—especially when we’re young and forming our ideas about ourselves, and looking to others for guidance. When people close to us try to boost their self-importance by cutting us down, the wounds go deep.

Again, it’s all about the power of words. We hold on to these negative opinions as truth. A nasty remark said in passing turns into a long-lasting insecurity. Rather than fight the insults, we agree. What’s worse is that we take over the role of critic and turn up the volume.

I can’t tell you how many women I have worked with who, when I say, “Wow, what beautiful eyes you have,” argue that they are too small. Or if I say, “Check out your terrific complexion,” they’ll point out how big their pores are. I feel like calling the Centers for Disease Control to report an epidemic of facial dysmorphic disorder!

Even if you have been lucky enough to go through life unscathed by negative comments, you may have chosen to generate your own, perhaps as a member of the age-hating party. You may be one of those women who tracks every miniscule change, scrutinizing and agonizing. Every trip to the mirror ends in panicked dread.

It’s ridiculous. It’s also a serious misuse of our feminine power.

By focusing on what’s “wrong” with our looks, we’re—by definition—dwelling on the negative. When we’re harsh with ourselves, we’re agreeing with those who sought to hurt us. And we’re fueling a damaging cycle that not only dulls our appearance but also darkens our days. Now I ask you, is that how we want to be? Acting as our own worst enemies?

I hear you, feisty ladies. N.O.

So, what do we say yes to instead? Being positively beautiful by celebrating our individuality and enhancing our unique assets.

Every woman has a special bloom all her own. Now is the time to take notice—starting in our own mirrors. I realize your urge might be to fight me on this. Old habits are tough to break. But has being so tough on yourself brought you the results you want? Clearly not.

By dropping the flaw focus, you set off on a new path, one that’s freeing and wonderful.

To understand how silly it is to hold one standard of beauty and to see any variation from it as a flaw, play along with me for a moment…

Imagine hearing a floral expert on a home improvement show proclaiming, “Only roses are beautiful.” Our instincts would disagree. But, hey, we might still listen. A few minutes later, some of us might believe it and consider tearing up our magnolia trees and painting our orchids to look like roses. But why stop there? Delicate violets, striking birds of paradise? Hit the trash. Elegant calla lilies, scentsational lilacs? Off you go. Heck, we might grow to resent the rose’s beauty and stop caring about flowers altogether. How absurd, right? Well, we have spent far too much time plucking away at our petals, and it has to stop.

Let go of the past. Drop that destructive commentary stuck on repeat. It’s a tired track, and no one can dance to it!


Start by trying this simple exercise. Look into a mirror and speak aloud your usual negative thoughts, like, “Ugh. These dark circles.” Notice your whole facial expression as you say it. Now take a deep breath, concentrate on something positive in the same area, and praise it, loud and proud. “Check out my gorgeous eyes.” What happens to your face simply from switching your focus and your words?

I’d bet my bottom dollar you immediately look happier, more relaxed. Now, does it feel a little silly at first? Maybe. But it’s a whole lot sillier to be dishing yourself a big ol’ plate of negative energy that manifests itself right smack in the middle of your face. Speaking sweetly of yourself, to yourself is more than a nicety. It’s a necessity and the most potent beauty secret I know.

Ultimately, it’s up to you to let go and take that first step toward the positive. You’re in charge of your thoughts and emotions. It’s your face, your image, and your life. Do you want it to be about your flaws or about your fabulousness?


Kick Away Corrosive Comparisons

Getting your mind made up to be beauty-positive is a fantastic first step. But staying focused on your unique attributes requires constant care, especially when the media and advertisers conspire to sabotage our efforts by inviting us to play the most time-wasting game ever: Compare and Despair.

Television and magazines bombard us with images of so-called beauty ideals that look nothing like you or me. The motive? To keep us second-guessing our own worth. We see shot after shot of celebrities who are glorified when they are “perfect” and vilified when they “let themselves go.” We’re encouraged to judge these stars. And we do.

Comparison games create corrosive thought patterns, patterns that push us to talk negatively about ourselves and pit us against our fellow ladies. We all suffer the consequences.

Consider how many of us look at a photograph of a pretty woman—or, should I say, of a woman who fits with what society has dictated as pretty. First, we notice her beauty and appreciate it for its own sake. Then, about a half second later, that inner critic starts piping up: “I look nothing like her. Therefore, I’m hideous.” I can almost hear the announcer right there alongside you: “Yes indeed, ladies. Another great afternoon ruined by a fun-filled round of Compare and Despair! Dedicated to keeping you in your place by knocking your spirit!”

I want off that not-so-merry-go-round. How about you?

We are society so, it is up to us to choose how we respond to what we see. The media and marketers will only change if we change our thinking and our behavior. Thank goodness, it’s already starting to happen. For example, I applaud companies like Dove for their revolutionary Campaign for Real Beauty. Now is the perfect time to be your own beauty revolutionary, to stand up for what’s yours and to act accordingly.

Now, don’t get me wrong; admiring other women can be inspiring. As a kid, I idolized Marilyn Monroe and tried to emulate eighties supermodel Kim Alexis—both blondes with light eyes. Coincidence? Hardly. I find most women fixate on celebs who match their coloring, as if these stars are the ultimate remix of their own features. But guess what? If you were the famous one, those same people would be talking about your beauty.

After all, the actual definition of celebrity is “one who is celebrated.” Want to be a celebrity? Start celebrating yourself! Decide that comparing and despairing is tedious and toxic, whether the standard you’re applying is that of a fashion model or a woman at the gym. Recognize that there will always be someone more “this” and someone less “that.” But the one with the most confidence wins every time. Resolve not to waste another minute keeping score.

You have far better ways to use that newfound time and energy.

Revel in Your Fantastic Features

When I meet a woman for the first time, I automatically zoom in on her most compelling features and think of ways to enhance her unique beauty. It’s just how my “expert” eye works. I hope to impart that same technique to you!

To start seeing with Carmindy Vision, I need your agreement on a couple of things. One: There is no set standard of feminine beauty. And two: Every woman is born blessed with something she can claim as beautiful…

• a large and powerful nose that is elegant and strong

• darkness under the eyes that creates a mysterious, sultry glance

• a crooked mouth that offers life and character to a smile

• a round face with large cheeks that looks warm and inviting

• a narrow face with a little chin that evokes a sweet charm

Excuse me while I enthuse. Lashes, brows, foreheads, cheeks, lips, skin! Such variety! So much to adore! Take a look! Really look at yourself and the women around you. Aren’t we spectacular?

Case in point: my paternal grandmother. Grandma Hallie wasn’t classically gorgeous, but to me she was the most beautiful woman ever because she took her best assets and worked the room with ’em. She had amazing skin and great lips, so she always rocked a red lipstick and wore silver bangles to play up her headliners. Outstanding.

Later in the book, we’ll delve deeper into how to pinpoint your feature focus and enhance the best of what only you have to offer. Right now, I need your heartfelt, hardcore commitment to believing in your own beauty.

My expertise with lipsticks and shadows will fall flat without your full-on faith in you. But with it? Honey, you’ll feel empowered, look incredible, and be unstoppable!

Embrace the Beauty Ritual

Many of us get excited at the thought of transforming our approach to beauty but stop short of doing it. Why? Because we’ve been told that pampering ourselves is selfish. Again, the negative voices start in. Shouldn’t you be spending that time on the kids? Or hubby? Or the boss? Anyone but you?

The fact is, making time to enhance your natural beauty is your feminine privilege and can improve every aspect of your busy life. When you decide to put your best face forward, you start generating positive momentum and ride through the day on a wave of confidence. And when you’re clearly confident, others believe in you, too. Believe it!

Embrace the power of the beauty ritual, and see what happens when you greet each day feeling relaxed, balanced, and at your best. Whether it’s a bubble bath, a luxurious application of lotion, or a tender patting of powder on your nose, find a ritual that restores you, and do it to your heart’s content.

We have history on our side here. The act of applying creams and cosmetics to benefit skin and spotlight features is an ancient, spiritual art form women have been performing for thousands of years. Check out the murals in King Tut’s tomb. Those Egyptian ladies took their sweet time perfecting their kohl-black eyes. Why shouldn’t you take a few minutes in the morning to nurture your own beauty?

Consider your beauty ritual as the one steadfast opportunity you have to breathe deeply, rid yourself of negative thoughts, and honor your loveliness. You need never apologize for making yourself a priority, nor for taking womanly pleasure in it.

And guess what? When you let go of negativity and take a positive, playful attitude toward beauty, you’ll lighten your load and free up a lot of headspace and heart space to be more giving to others. And you’ll be an even better mom, wife, friend, or colleague because you’ll have started the day with a strong foundation of feeling good about yourself. Nothing selfish about it!

Change the Game and Win Every Time

I’ve asked you to change the way you think, to tell the naysayers to buzz off and to focus on your assets. Simply put, to change for the better. But let’s face it: change of any kind can be scary.

All fear boils down to the fear of the unknown. We hold on to negative thoughts and counterproductive habits if for no other reason than we’re used to them. They’ve hung around for years. Good old, boring status quo. To that I say heave-ho!

Be brave enough to live life beautifully. You may not have traveled this road before; you may not know where it’s going. But trust me, it leads to a fascinating new place filled with opportunities, adventures, and unimaginable satisfaction.

Some of you might hold back your best for fear of standing out in the crowd. You might confuse confidence with arrogance. To that I must ask, why are you so comfortable underplaying yourself? How is settling for less serving anyone?

When you tune in to what’s special about you, you turn on an inner light that brightens the way for everyone you encounter. When you switch your focus to the positive, you feel energized and kind, creating a presence that is peaceful and comforting to others.

Your feeling good and looking it radiates goodness out into the world. Beauty is magical. It’s powerful. And it only attracts more of the good stuff we want to come into the lives we share. Paying attention to beauty isn’t narcissistic, it’s downright humanitarian!

Albert Einstein once said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Clearly, you picked up this book to achieve something different for yourself, not only for your looks but also for your life. So how about we end the insanity?

If we’re going to be obsessed, let’s be obsessed with being positive. Let’s focus our energies on playing up our natural beauty and appreciating the unique gifts of everyone around us. Let’s expect different results; let’s expect the best!

You know, the only thing separating the dreamers from the achievers is action. Getting positively beautiful is an easy way to initiate change. Just take that first step, and keep on going.

It’s your life, sugar. Make it gorgeous!


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Meet the Author

Carmindy was raised in Southern California, where she started doing makeup fifteen years ago. Today she is the makeup artist on TLC's #1 show What Not to Wear and has appeared on The Today Show, CBS Sunday Morning, CBN, as well as in The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Elle, O, Glamour, Self, Lucky, GQ, Essence, Details, Marie Claire, and InStyle. She lives in New York City with her husband.

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Machazait More than 1 year ago
As with her first book, Carmindy celebrates the faces of all women, but the tips she offers are universal. In this book, I particularly loved the makeover section, where I saw real women who are gorgeous but don't fit society's warped standards of beauty, and I love the way Carmindy made them look their best without changing their look. I also learned a few tips that I can use on my own face. Thank you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read Carmindy's first book "The Five Minute Face" and whilst it focused on wearing the proper makeup for your age, this one is even more informative and gives you the tips and techniques for working with our individual features! I think Carmindy DID take our suggestions after her first book came out and really delivered some useful advice. This book is stellar and compliments the first one well!
Smilingsally More than 1 year ago
This comprehensive book is every woman's dream for how to properly use make-up. Chapters include tips for each separate area (eyes, skin, lips,) along with separate chapters for tools and travel. I especially like the before/after full size color photos and tips chapter called, "Everyone Loves a Makeover." A shopping guide is located at the end.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I absolutely enjoyed reading this book! It made me feel good about myself! The eye chapter was my favorite. Probably because it was so well illustrated. I wish the others (cheeks, lips, etc.) were like this chapter. Otherwise, it is easily understood. I am 44 years old and have been putting on eye shadow the same way since I was in high school. Needless to say I was bored! So, I made myself try the different techniques and WOW!, they work. Today I am a new person. Thank you Carmindy, for putting all your secrets into a book!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book made me happy just looking at. The colors, photos and text throughout are amazing. It just uplifts you to keep reading through. I loved that the message was about being beautiful as you are. The only thing I would love to see improved is how the makeup steps are explained. In one spot of the book, they show a diagram of an eye to show where each product should go. I would have loved to seen that done in other areas for the book, such as lips, cheeks, blemishes, etc. Altogether though, this book is great. I liked it much better then Bobbi Brown's Living Beauty.
martakay1962 More than 1 year ago
First let me say that this book is simply gorgeous! The photography and layout of the book is superb and very eyecatching. The thick, glossy pages make it almost sinful to browse and read through this book. I was expecting the usual makeup/beauty book, but that's not what I got. This book is as much, if not more, about becoming a beautiful you from the inside out. Carmindy wants every women to realize that she is unique and is beautiful and to use those attributes to present your best you to the world. Definitely a great book!
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CatCrazy More than 1 year ago
I have always wanted to learn how to apply make-up so that it accentuates my positive features, plays down my negative features, and does not look unnatural or overdone. I have also wanted to be able to purchase a staple of cosmetic and skin care products that does the job well but without costing a fortune. In addition, I have wanted to develop an effective daily skin care and make-up regimen that doesn't take a long time to perform. I believe that Carmindy's book has helped me to achieve all of these goals! It has become THE source of make-up ideas, techniques & products for me, and I find myself reading sections of it over and over again while taking notes. Thanks to Carmindy's extensive list of specific product recommendations, I am now able to go shopping for beauty and skin care products with knowledge and confidence and without wasting time and money. The photography in this book is breath-taking and inspiring for women of all ages and beauty types. Carmindy's message throughout the book about all women being beautiful in their own unique way has finally hit home for me, as I am no longer as self-critical when I look in the mirror. I would highly recommend this book to any woman who currently feels overwhelmed when trying to develop or improve upon a quick & easy make-up and skin care routine that works beautifully!
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The book was ok. I think that it could have had more how-to and a bigger selection of people to choose yourself from.
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