Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All

Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All

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Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All by Sharon Meers, Joanna Strober, Sheryl Sandberg

Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober are professionals, wives, and mothers. They understand the challenges and rewards of two-career households. They also know that families thrive not in spite of working mothers but because of them. You can have a great career, a great marriage, and be a great mother. The key is tapping into your best resource and most powerful ally—the man you married. After interviewing hundreds of parents and employers, surveying more than a thousand working mothers, and combing through the latest government and social science research, the authors have discovered that kids, husbands, and wives all reap huge benefits when couples commit to share equally as breadwinners and caregivers. Mothers work without guilt, fathers bond with their kids, and children blossom with the attention of two involved parents. The starting point? An attitude shift that puts you on the road to 50/50—plus the positive step-by-step advice in this book. From “baby boot camp” for new dads to exactly what to say when negotiating a leave with the boss, this savvy book offers fresh ideas to today’s families offering encouragement, hope, and confidence to any woman who has ever questioned her choices regarding work and family.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781936740673
Publisher: Viva Editions
Publication date: 09/10/2013
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 340
Sales rank: 340,025
File size: 973 KB

About the Author

SHARON MEERS leads global business development and sales for X.commerce, the open commerce platform of eBay, helping merchants grow with better technology. Formerly, Meers was a managing director at Goldman Sachs, where she worked for 16 years and was co-chair of the Women's Network in the Investment Management Division. She and her husband founded the Partners for Parity at Stanford Business School and the Dual-Career Initiative at Harvard.

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Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I sure wish when I was first having kids this book was available. I had kids through law school and often had to beg my professors for time to finish assignments because I was up late with the kids, caring for them etc. Doesn’t help that my partner had a gambling addiction and would stay out at hours. Reading this now, in a new life, in a new family, is extremely helpful. Parenting is a partnership, and you both need to treat it as a 50/50 opportunity. You both get time to yourselves and alone. To stay sane, you need these. I sure didn’t have that at first and I went crazy. It’s give and take. This book really explores that and I’m grateful for their solid advice and impressive attention to both men and women.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A book that I wished my parents read. It teaches everyone an essential lesson: a father needs to be with his kids as much as a mother. It tells how to balance work with family. I was glad to see the book agreed that a working mother isn't really a bad thing. But what really got me was when it talked about how a job can affect one's home. It just reminded me of a Dad when he came back from a tough day at work. Honestly, this book should be a requirement for all parents. What are you waiting for? Get it!
LAWonder More than 1 year ago
Getting to 50'50 is written for working parents, trying to juggle home and family.  It's primary objective is to aid parents in a working an acceptable solution to the problems that evolve when both parents try to build their careers without neglecting their children in any way. The book is divided in to three parts. Part one entails the virtues of having both parents working.   Part two centers on getting rid of "myths" about both parents working. Part three suggests ways to make the 50/50 theory work in one's own situation. While many good points are made in each section, in my opinion, it is too utopian. The positive side...In rare cases this system could work. For an increasing amount of single parents,  this book can offer helpful ideas and reduce the amount of parental guilt the single parent often feels. It could be used as a guideline in finding help through a child care assistant. Another positive point is, there is still inequality in the work force. A woman is often not given equal pay for the same work a man does. In some instance a woman is still passed over for promotions, simply because she is a woman. As stated in the book, this situation has improved greatly since the movement in the 6o's and 70's but it is still there.  The final positive point, I find, is that although the problem is increasingly diminishing, men still are under the misconception that their work is outside the home and the home and children are the wife's/mother's responsibility.  This idea had some merit when men and boys worked the fields and did outside chores before dawn until after dark. They worked very hard, physical labor and required hearty meals and a little relaxation which often entailed reading the bible or other stories to the families encircled about them - either father, mother, or an older sibling. Then exhausted, thy all fell into bed for much needed slumber. Te women taught the daughters from young toddlers to do their share of the household work. That was a strong family unit. The negative side... First: There are too many situations in life causing 50/50 not to work. Perhaps a spouse develops health issues. Their strength and endurance will not match the other spouses. often one spouse is capable of more because of higher energy levels.  Secondly:Often the two marry when both are still earning degrees. Often one must quit school and work while the other pursues their degree. Hopefully, once that happens, he/she will then work extra hard to enable the other too continue their education. Sometimes a child is born, causing the mother to quit the schooling for a period of time. If the husband is working up the "corporate ladder" he cannot be expected to take over child care also, if there are not funds to hire a nanny to help. (That can also prove disastrous.) Final negative, It may be fine from a woman's point of view, but as stated in the book, most men do not have the same nurturing instincts and capabilities most women have - I say most because there are exception to the basic rule. I thoroughly believe the father should have an active role in the physical care and nurturing of each child. but primarily the woman is usually more effective in this role. It is marvelous, however, in this day and age, many parents can stay at home and still be employed. I feel this is especially true for women who feel they need the extra distraction from the daily duties of motherhood. It allows them to pursue a career from home and still "be there" for their children.  It also allows them to better control of the times they need to be other places.  Marriage is sometimes 20/80 and other times 60/40. depending on certain situations one has to carry the larger load and in other times he/she will then carry the lesser load. Anyway, hoe many men/women actually end up in the career he/she majored in at college? I think this is a good reference book.  Although the authors try to appear to be objective, it is very biased toward encouraging all women to be career oriented.  It is also way to "wordy" and t times repetitive. They have good intentions and went to a lot of research to solidify their points. I therefore, have to give them a book review rating of Three solid Stars.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I got this book for my best friend who has a 50/50 family and constantly juggles and struggles; she was able to work with her husband and work things out much better thanks to the wisdom of Meers and Strobel!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
What I find particularly remarkable about this book is that from the beginning, the authors clearly allot fathers an important role in child development. They say that having more paternal influence in a child's life can improve anything from SAT scores to lifetime self-esteem. It's incredibly interesting, especially in today's society that champions single-mother households. The chapter that breaks down taxes is quite informative as well.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Knowledgeable book and a great guide for parents looking to balance between home and work.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great for any woman in the workforce - gives great info and advice about career advancement, gender bias, and unique challenges working women face. Will be saving for when I have a family one day.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
There has been so much progress in regards to women’s rights, but do children hold us back from our desired career? To me the answer has always been yes, and as someone who is not a parent I want to know that there will be a way to balance my life. I want to be able to meet my professional goals and still have kids. Getting to 50/50 explains that it is possible and realistic to have it both. This book is freeing for someone who doesn't have kids yet because it means I don’t have to fear that everything in my professional life stop if I get pregnant.  
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Meers and Stronber gracefully articulate how parents can reach the best balance possible with work, home, school, kids, and social lives. 50/50 addresses issues with poignancy and clarity that not any other authors can bring to this field. I would highly recommend this book to any parent struggling to reach that 50/50 balance.
Scarlet_Slept More than 1 year ago
Full disclosure: I don't actually have kids. Nonetheless, this book speaks to me on many levels: with advice for my career as well as my relationships. I'm guilty of the 24/7 workplace mindset, and 50/50 is helping me realize that maybe I'd do better work if I weren't constantly exhausted. It also lays a roadmap of how to get to an equal relationship. How do you date while feminist? How do you plan for an equal division of work at home and in the office? Sharon and Joanna have the answers, and they lay out their (research-backed) arguments cleanly and concisely. I'll be sending this book to my mother and my close friends.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As a woman, I know what it's like to feel inferior in the workplace BUT, I also know what it's like to prove people wrong. In Getting to 50/50, Joanna Strober and Sharon Meers give personal experiences, advice, philosophies, and more to their readers, inspiring working women (mainly mothers and wives) to persevere.  This book strives to achieve and maintain equal opportunities in the workforce, how to manage a happy family, how to be successful AND busy simultaneously, and how to keep sane in the process. Don't give up, ladies, this is the book for you!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm not sure what I was expecting when I first picked up this book, but I was pleasantly surprised by how... GOOD it is. Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober truly collected useful, practical, reasonable advice to help working parents get the most out of their lives. Their take on these issues is refreshing, and I really feel like I can do it all and have it all with the help of this book. I definitely recommend this book to working parents.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago