Hooking Up or Holding Out: The Smart Girl's Guide to Driving Men Crazy and/or Finding True Love

by Jamie Callan

Overview

"Enlightening and empowering, if not your mother's dating book, Hooking Up is highly recommended."—Library Journal

Hooking up is cool, but holding out can be even better.

Many women don't feel great about hooking up before they're really ready, but they're not sure how to go about holding out and still keep the guy interested. Most books that recommend holding out prescribe tired old retro games—not picking up the phone or pretending to have a date already. This straight-talking guide is new, different and smart. You can have a great time with men, hold plenty of power and just be yourself!

Hooking Up or Holding Out shows you how to:

• Decide when the time is right and when it's just impulse sex
• Settle for nothing less than the very best sex life
• Hold off unwanted advances and play the field
• Make friends with lots of men and go on plenty of great dates
• Create a romance that's artful and full of passion
• Hook up with truly great men
• Have more fun in love than ever before

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781402233937
Publisher:	Sourcebooks
Publication date:	11/01/2006
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	224
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Jamie Callan's fiction has appeared in Best American Erotica, The Missouri Review, American Letters & Commentary and Story. She has received fellowships and grants from The New York State Council on the Arts, The Bread Loaf Writers Conference and The Connecticut Commission on the Arts. She has a B.A. in literature from Bard College, an M.F.A. in creative writing from Goddard College and an M.F.A. in screenwriting from the U.C.L.A. School of Theatre, Film and Television. Jamie teaches writing in Wesleyan University's Graduate Liberal Studies Program. She is married and lives in Massachusetts. You can visit Jamie at www.JamieCatCallan.com

Jamie Callan's fiction has appeared in Best American Erotica, The Missouri Review, American Letters & Commentary and Story. She has received fellowships and grants from The New York State Council on the Arts, The Bread Loaf Writers Conference and The Connecticut Commission on the Arts. She has a B.A. in literature from Bard College, an M.F.A. in creative writing from Goddard College and an M.F.A. in screenwriting from the U.C.L.A. School of Theatre, Film and Television. Jamie teaches writing in Wesleyan University's Graduate Liberal Studies Program. She is married and lives in Massachusetts. You can visit Jamie at www.JamieCatCallan.com

Read an Excerpt

Introduction: Fasten Your Seat Belt, Baby
Admit it. You love that dark look in a man's eyes when he's just a little bit frustrated. He wants you badly and he'll do anything to get you. You love the way he pours on the sweet talk, his tongue practically hanging out of his mouth as he buys you another drink and admires your eyes, your mouth, your cleavage. You love the way he promises you the moon. You love the little tricks he plays to get closer—accidentally on purpose rubbing his arm against your arm. You relish the moment he throws caution to the wind, and despite all the risks, he goes for broke and leans over and kisses you full on the mouth, without hesitation, without permission, completely aware that he may get a hard slap across the face. But, he does it anyway, because you've driven him crazy.
Let's face it. Men love the chase. They love beating out the competition. They're completely goal driven, and more than anything else in the world, they're driven by the goal of sex. No, they're not driven by the desire to obtain money or fame or power. They're not driven by a need to be admired and appreciated for their good deeds and altruism. No, they're driven by their need for sex. They only want money and fame and power and adoration because they think it'll help them get more sex!

Table of Contents

Foreword -
A Special Message to Men -
Introduction: Fasten Your Seat Belt, Baby

Part One: A Little Driver Education
Chapter One: Love Is Not a Freeway -
Chapter Two: What Drives Men? -
Chapter Three: Games Men Play -

Part Two: A Practical Guide to Modern Romance
Chapter Four: The Art of Flirting. -
Chapter Five: Where the Boys Are -
Chapter Six: Build a Coterie -
Chapter Seven: The Art of Resistance -
Chapter Eight: How to Succumb with Style -

Part Three: Advanced Lessons
Chapter Nine: Stick Shift Theory -
Chapter Ten: Merge, Yield, and Proceed with Caution -
Chapter Eleven: Fun with Freud -

Part Four: How to Start a Revolution
Chapter Twelve: Take Back the Sex Month -

Works Cited -
Bibliography -
Acknowledgments -
About the Author -

Editorial Reviews

"Enlightening and empowering, if not your mother's dating book, Hooking Up is highly recommended" — Library Journal

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