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Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

by Michaeleen Doucleff


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A cross between Bringing Up Bébé and The Smartest Kids in the World, NPR superstar Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff’s Hunt, Gather, Parent introduces a highly appealing idea for a world where frantic overparenting has become the norm, proposing that our ancestors may hold the answers to how to naturally master parenting where our modern theories have failed.

When Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff became a mother, she examined the studies behind modern parenting guidance and found that the evidence was frustratingly limited and the conclusions often ineffective. If all the might of contemporary Western psychology couldn’t supply the answers to her parenting questions, she began to wonder if an opposite approach was needed—one founded on traditional wisdom, like the knowledge and experience passed down over hundreds, even thousands, of years within ancient cultures. With her young daughter in tow, she traveled across the world to observe and practice parenting strategies alongside families in three of the world’s most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania.

Dr. Doucleff soon learned that these cultures don’t have the same problems with children that Western parents do. Most strikingly, parents build a relationship with young children that is vastly different from the one many Western parents develop—it’s built on cooperation instead of control; trust instead of fear; and personalized needs instead of standardized development milestones.

In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Dr. Doucleff introduces us to families in the Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe communities, where parents help little ones learn to control their emotions and reduce tantrums by the parents themselves controlling their own frustrations; foster self-sufficiency by safely giving kids the autonomy to manage risks and explore their limits; and motivate children to help with chores without using bribes or threats. Dr. Doucleff also talks to psychologists, neuroscientists, anthropologists, and sociologists and explains how the tools and tips can impact children’s mental health and development. Packed with practical takeaways, Hunt, Gather, Parent helps us rethink the ways we relate to our children, and reveals a universal parenting paradigm adapted for modern American families.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781982149673
Publisher: Avid Reader Press / Simon & Schuster
Publication date: 03/02/2021
Pages: 352
Sales rank: 9,479
Product dimensions: 6.20(w) x 9.30(h) x 1.30(d)

About the Author

Michaeleen Doucleff is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. In 2015, she was part of the team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa. Prior to joining NPR, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. She has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley, and a master’s degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis. She lives with her husband, daughter, and German shepherd, Mango, in San Francisco.

Table of Contents

Prologue 1

Section 1 Weird, Wildwest

1 The WEIRDest Parents in the World 15

2 Why Do We Parent the Way We Do? 31

Section 2 Maya Method

3 The Most Helpful Kids in the World 49

4 How to Teach Kids to Do Chores, Voluntarily 55

5 How to Raise Flexible, Cooperative Kids 76

Team 1 Introduction to TEAM Parenting: A Better Way to Be Together 97

6 Master Motivators: What's Better Than Praise? 108

Section 3 Inuit Emotional Intelligence

7 Never in Anger 129

8 How to Teach Children to Control Their Anger 142

9 How to Stop Being Angry at Your Child 148

Team 2 Encourage, Never Force 159

10 Introduction to Parenting Tools 165

I Tools for Tantrums 167

II Tools for Everyday Misbehavior 180

11 Tools for Sculpting Behavior: Stories 201

12 Tools for Sculpting Behavior: Dramas 214

Section 4 Hadzabe Health

13 How Did Our Ancient Ancestors Parent? 231

14 The Most Confident Kids in the World 241

Team 3 Ancient Antidote for Anxiety and Stress 250

15 Ancient Antidote for Depression 274

Section 5 Western Parenting 2.0

Team 4 A New Paradigm for Western Parents 293

16 Sleep 299

Epilogue 307

Practical Sections

Try It 1 Train Helpfulness 63

Try It 2 Train Cooperation 89

Try It 3 Learn to Motivate Children 116

Try It 4 Learn to Have Less Anger Toward Children 161

Try It 5 Discipline without Words 195

Try It 6 Discipline with Stories 207

Try It 7 Discipline Through Dramas 222

Try It 8 Boost Confidence and Self-Reliance 265

Try It 9 Build Emotional Support for the Family (and Give Yourself a Break) 285

Acknowledgments 311

Notes 313

Index 329

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