I Love You More: How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage
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I Love You More: How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage
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Overview
How to make the thorns in your marriage come up roses.
The big and little annoyances in your marriage are actually opportunities to deepen your love for each other. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe that your personal quirks and differences--where you squeeze the toothpaste tube, how you handle money--can actually help draw you together provided you handle them correctly.
Turn your marriage's prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to:
- build intimacy while respecting personal space
- tap the power of a positive marriage attitude
- replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances
- . . . and much, much more.
Plus--get an inside look at the very soul of your marriage, and how connecting with God can connect you to each other in ways you never dreamed.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9780310539308 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Zondervan |
| Publication date: | 05/26/2009 |
| Sold by: | HarperCollins Publishing |
| Format: | eBook |
| Pages: | 208 |
| File size: | 1 MB |
| Age Range: | 18 Years |
About the Author
#1 New York Times bestselling authors Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are psychologists and founders of the game-changing online assessments: SYMBIS.com, BetterLove.com, and Yada.com. Their best-selling books include Love Talk, The Good Fight, Crazy Good Sex, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Their work has been featured in the New York Times and USA Today and on CNN, Good Morning America, the Today Show, The View, and Oprah. LesAndLeslie.com
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I Love You More Copyright © 2001, 2005 by Les and Leslie Parrott Formerly titled When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages Requests for information should be addressed to: Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Parrott, Les. I love you more : how everyday problems can strengthen your marriage / Les and Leslie Parrott. p. cm. Rev. ed. of: When bad things happen to good marriages. c2001. Includes bibliographical references. ISBN-10: 0-310-25738-7 ISBN-13: 978-0-310-25738-7 1. Spouses---Religious life. 2. Marriage---Religious aspects---Christianity. I. Parrott, Leslie L., 1964-- II. Parrott, Les. When bad things happen to good marriages. III. Title. BV4596.M3P38 2005 248.8'44---dc22 2005004288 All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved. The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource to you. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on the part of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means---electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other---except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher. Published in association with Yates& Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Suite 1000, Literary Agent, Orange, CA. Interior design by Beth Shagene Printed in the United States of America 05 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 /?DCI/ 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 We want to hear from you. Please send your comments about this book to us in care of zreview@zondervan.com. Thank you. real-life problem solvers Below is a listing of some true stories you will find throughout this book. Each story focuses on a specific marital struggle and is written by a courageous couple who strengthened their marriage in spite of their struggle. We offer these contributions as a source of inspiration and examples of practical problem solving. 1. How We Overcame Unfulfilled Expectations 38 by Scott and Debbie Daniels 2. How We Won over a Bad Attitude 65 by Kevin and Kathy Lunn 3. How We Found Time and Space as a Couple with Kids 81 by Andrea and Chris Fabry 4. How We Reignited Our Sexual Fire 87 by Rick and Jennifer Newberg 5. How We Tamed the Busyness Monster 96 by Steve and Thanne Moore 6. How We Brought Back the Fun in Our Marriage 102 by Neil and Marylyn Warren 7. How We Survived Financial Debt 108 by Doug and Jana McKinley 9 8. How We Found Forgiveness after an Affair 129 by Richard and Linda Simons 9. How We've Stayed Committed 135 by Jeff and Stacy Kemp 10. How We Learned to Speak the Same Spiritual Language 149 by Chuck and Barb Snyder 11. How We Find God's Will Together 156 by Norm and Bobbe Evans 12. How We Found Hope in the Midst of Infertility 186 by Mark and Victoria Eaton 13. How We Won over Depression 192 by Dennis and Emily Lowe 14. How We Found Joy with a Disabled Child 195 by Norm and Joyce Wright 15. How We Dealt with a Rebellious Child 197 by Dave and Jan Stoop 10 i love you more workbook exercises Below is a listing of the exercises and self-tests you will find in the two workbooks we have designed to go along with this book (one for husbands and one for wives). In each chapter we will point you to a specific exercise to work on once you have read a particular section. This list can serve as a quick reference to the location of the exercises within this book. 1. Taking Inventory of Your Marriage 24 2. Exploring Your Marital Armament 28 3. Why Every Marriage Has Everyday Problems 34 4. What Did You Expect? 37 5. The Big Question 42 6. So Many Choices 48 7. Your Attitude Quotient 56 8. What Have You Been Looking For? 61 9. Coping with the Invasion of Intimacy 77 10. When Husband and Wife Become Mom and Dad 83 11. Refueling the Sexual Fire 89 12. Taking Control of Your Time-Starved Marriage 98 13. Getting to Know You . . . All Over Again 106 14. Healing Your Painful Past 111 15. Owning Up 120 16. High Hopes---Even When You're Hurting 122 11 17. Walking in Your Partner's Shoes 125 18. Assessing Your Spiritual Language 148 19. Finding the Inspiration around You 161 20. Taking Cover from a Bombshell and Its Fallout 178 21. Surviving Your Private Gethsemane 191 12 i love you more love is not enough A marriage survives and thrives when a couple learns to use problems to their advantage. All beginnings are lovely. French proverb Two days after our wedding in Chicago, Les and I were nestled into a cottage, surrounded by towering timbers along the picturesque Oregon coast. A few miles to the south of us were the famous coastal sand dunes where we planned to ride horses later that week. And up the coast was a quaint harbor village where we thought we might spend another day leisurely looking at shops and eating our dinner by candlelight in a rustic inn some friends recommended. Other than that, we had nothing on our itinerary for the next five days except enjoying the beach and each other, rain or shine. Neither of us could have dreamed up a scenario that would have been better for our honeymoon. Not that everything was perfect. For starters, we accidentally locked ourselves out of our rental car the day after we arrived. I was commenting on how the sun was trying to poke its way out of some clouds when Les realized the keys were in the ignition and all the doors were locked. 'You stay here in the cabin,' Les said, taking his first stab at being an everything's-under-control kind of husband. 'I'm going to walk to that filling station on the main road and get some help.' 'I'll go with you,' I responded. 'Are you sure? It might rain.' 'It'll be fun; let's go.' We walked and talked the two or three miles to find a pay phone, where we made arrangements for the locksmith to pick us up and take us back to our car. Sitting on a curb, we waited, saying nothing. Les was fiddling with a stick he'd picked up on our walk when I realized several minutes had passed and neither of us had said a word. It was an easy stillness, though; a kind of eloquent voicelessness where we were content, comfortable, to not talk. I think it was there and then, quietly sitting on a curb next to a phone booth under a cloudy sky, that the thought hit me like a ray of light. I had captured true love. The thing I'd been chasing ever since I was old enough to know it could be sought was now in my possession. I had married a man who loved me deeply, just as I loved him. We committed ourselves to love together, forever. Love's ethereal mysteries were now unfolding before my very eyes. Its elusive qualities were fading. True love was no longer out of reach. The very opposite, in fact, was true. While I stood by doing nothing, love was enveloping my being. I'm not talking about the dizzying effects of falling in love that happen in the early starry-eyed stages of a new relationship. Les and I had dated for nearly seven years before we found ourselves married and honeymooning on the Oregon coast. The love I'm talking about experiencing that day was cleareyed and grounded. There was no sunset on the horizon, no piped-in background music. This was reality and I was simply taking it in, relishing the silence and stillness of having no other purpose than that of being together. Husband and wife. We had_____ created a marriage. And it was good. So good was this love we had at the beginning that we could practically live on it. And we did, for a time.