From author, speaker, and social entrepreneur Romal Tune and his son, Jordan, comes this tour de force for fathers and sons about healing the unfinished business between them. What do sons wish they had received from their fathers? What might honest, healing conversations between fathers and sons look like?
Tune was raised mostly without a father. He and his dad connected briefly when he was a teenager, and then had no relationship for decades. After years of inner work via therapy and faith, Tune realized that neither he nor his dad possessed what they needed to live up to each other's expectations. He began to wonder if other men also longed to have vulnerable conversations with their fathersabout good memories, about pain, and about what their relationship could still become.
So he sat down with seventeen men of diverse ages, ethnicities, and socioeconomic backgrounds for "I Wish My Dad" conversations. In the pages of this book, he invites us into the room as the men unpack relationships with their fathers, learn to work through emotional pain, recount moments of tenderness and care, and describe risks they took to heal and connect with their fathers. Tune also offers us strategies and prompts for initiating our own "I Wish My Dad" conversations. And with no pretense, he and Jordan recount their own "I Wish My Dad" interview, which helped them chart the way toward a transformed relationship.
I Wish My Dad helps fathers, and their sons move through the past to find deep connection in the present. The lessons in these pages will free us to haveand becomethe kind of dad we wish for.
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About the Author
Jordan Tune is a recent graduate of Morehouse College, where he was active in NAACP, the debate team, and Student Government Association. As a political science major, he plans to attend law school and become a criminal justice attorney. He is passionate about public speaking and encouraging others to live a positive and loving life.
Table of Contents
A Father's Introduction 1
A Son's Introduction 11
Chapter 1 I Wish My Dad Didn't Silence My Voice-Ernest 15
Chapter 2 I Wish My Dad Allowed Me to Share My Feelings-Phil 27
Chapter 3 I Wish My Dad Affirmed My Value-Michael-Ray 39
Chapter 4 I Wish My Dad Loved My Mom More-Joe 51
Chapter 5 I Wish My Dad Loved Himself More-Max 61
Chapter 6 I Wish My Dad Took Care of Himself-Daniel 71
Chapter 7 I Wish My Dad Didn't Assert His Masculinity-Hodari 81
Chapter 8 I Wish My Dad Gave Me His Attention-Kevin 91
Chapter 9 I Wish My Dad Didn't Abandon Me-Vance 103
Chapter 10 I Wish My Dad Kept His Promises-Andre 113
Chapter 11 I Wish My Dad Was Loyal to Our Home-Rudy 123
Chapter 12 I Wish My Dad Put Feelings before Finances-Simon 135
Chapter 13 I Wish My Dad Took Responsibility for His Mistakes-Rob 147
Chapter 14 I Wish My Dad Was Vulnerable-Jorge 159
Chapter 15 I Wish My Dad Said "I Love You"-Isaac 171
Chapter 16 I Wish My Dad Gave as Much to Me as He Gave to the Movement-Kamasi 183
Chapter 17 I Wish My Dad Gave Me More of His Time-Andy 193
How to Have Your Own "I Wish My Dad" Conversation 207
A Father-to-Son Conversation 211
A Son-to-Father Conversation 221