If...: Questions for the Soul

If...: Questions for the Soul

by Evelyn McFarlane, James Saywell


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If you were God for a day, what would you do? If you had to remember the moment in your life when you felt the most alone, when would it be? If you were to name one event that most challenged your relationship with your family, what would you say? If your soul was a color, which color would it be? If you learned that there actually was a Heaven and Hell, what is the first thing you'd change in your life?
        The ultimate task we face in life is the process of finding and accepting our true selves, our souls. It's often too scary, too overwhelming, or too time-consuming to begin the whole introspective process of self-discovery. So we often don't look. Instead, we do such things as work harder, spend money, eat and drink more, or maybe just clean the house. But what we forget—or maybe never knew—about soul-searching is that this process can be deeply rewarding, fun, and even entertaining.
        In their bestselling series of If . . . books, If . . . (Questions for the Game of Life), If2 . . . (More Questions for the Game of Life), and If3 . . . (Questions for the Game of Love), authors Evelyn McFarlane and James Saywell have reintroduced the power of the question. These "If . . . " questions have served as icebreakers, after-dinner games, and a platform for intensifying relationships with one's friends, lovers, and self. Now, in If . . . : Questions for the Soul, they present a phenomenal collection of questions that will help you begin your soul search. These questions will inspire and challenge you and guide you to a deeper understanding of your soul.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780679456360
Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
Publication date: 10/28/1998
Series: If , #4
Pages: 144
Sales rank: 760,492
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 6.25(h) x 0.53(d)

About the Author

Evelyn McFarlane was born in Brooklyn and grew up in San Diego. She received a degree in architecture from Cor-nell University and has worked in New York and Boston as an architect. She now lives in Florence, Italy. In addition to writing, she lectures on architecture for the Elder Hostel programs and is a full-time student at the Florence Academy of Art.

James Saywell was born in Canada and lived in Asia as a child. Besides questions, he designs buildings and furniture. He divides his time between the United States and Italy.

Their first three books were: If . . . (Questions for the Game of Life), If2 . . . (More Questions for the Game of Life), and If3 . . . (Questions for the Game of Love).

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At the center of each of us lies our essential spirit. It is what defines us, makes us individuals, and gives us our ultimate strength. It gives us hope for a greater purpose to the life we lead, and the yearning for a sense of meaning. This core in us is something everyone is born with and will die with, and it is what many believe carries forth beyond death. It is our soul.
It is unreachable in a literal sense—there is no one who can access it directly—but we inherently desire to know more about it, in order to better understand ourselves. If you could look into your soul, would you wish to? The ability to know ourselves involves great effort and courage, and is essential to the living of our lives.
While a soul cannot be asked a question directly—or answer one at any rate—this fourth collection of "If..." questions is designed to help us explore—at our own pace, and to varying depths—that most hidden and essential part of ourselves. It gently looks at the heart of our beliefs, fears, and hopes, as well as those of the people we love. Like all the If... books, the collection is intended to be used randomly, and we hope the questions will be shared and will give rise to enriching and revealing conversations and deeper knowledge of ourselves and others. We have included some lighter questions as well, not to offend, but to ease the weight of the collection as a whole, and to include one of life’s most important ingredients—smiles—with the contemplation that we intend the others to generate.
May you find parts of yourself you weren’t familiar with, and greet them with warm forgiveness.
If God were to grant you one favor, what would you ask?
If you could make one thing come true for the good of all souls on the planet, what would it be?
If you had to name a time when you could say that you were spiritually repressed, when would it be?
If you were to identify where the majority of your fears in life come from, what would you say?
If you could have changed one thing in the life of someone now deceased, what would it be?
If Heaven had to look like the inside of one of your friends’ homes, whose would you pick?
If you could make one person you know more religious, who would you pick?
If you could make one person in the world less religious, who would you select?
If you could have witnessed one religious event, which one would you choose?
If you could have asked Jesus one question, what would it be?
If there was a time when the death of someone touched your sense of mortality the most, when would it be?
If there was a time when, despite your resistance, a change in your life turned out to be for the better, when would you say it was?
If you found out you did have a guardian angel, what would you name it?
If you had to pick the single most spiritual moment of your life so far, when would it be?
If you discovered that you were to die tomorrow, what would you do for the rest of today?
If you were to say there was a time in your life when your emotional attachment to someone was detrimental, when would it be?
If tomorrow you lost the person you love most in the world, how would your life change?
If you had to name the single most important ingredient for a spiritual life, what would you say it is?
If you had to choose one way that God’s existence could be proven to the world at large, what would be the most convincing?
If you could have God’s existence personally proved to you in one way, what would it be?
If you could, for the good of mankind, reverse one scientific discovery or development, what would it be?
If one thing you presently own were to become a religious relic, what would you pick?

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If... (Questions for the Game of Life) 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 16 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It was BORING with a capital B! AND O! AND R! AND I! AND N! AND G! I couldnt stand it if you want to bond with ur mum go out for coffee or booze
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a wonderful conversation book. Spent hours with friends going through questions -- you learn alot about the people you know. It makes you think!
russelllindsey on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
Another great book to inspire debate and fun. Great for small parties.
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eveanneddy85 More than 1 year ago
Not religious and not too out there. I took a long car ride with my parents and we asked all the questions in this book. Had a lot of laughs and most of all really got to know each other. I am giving it out as easter presents.... Love that it is hardcover and not too expensive
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This books is our coffee table book that gets picked up everytime someone comes over. It provokes conversation about everything. Love it.
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KOG More than 1 year ago
This is a fun book to get people involved together and to challenge people to think about their lives and what is important or interesting to them. Whose mind would you want from history, what three musicians from history would you jam with, what medical cure would you want to discover? The questions keep us thinking and give a glimpse of our friends and family that we might not have had. This book is also good for classrooms where students have to write essays, though for younger students, the questions should be carefully selected as they can be a little provacative. I highly recommend this book, even if it's for sitting alone and pondering the many questions.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
My friend had this book at a dinner party and we couldn't stop laughing at each others answers all night.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As someone who is considering parenthood seriously, I found this book quite amazing. The questions it poses explore the whole issue of being a parent [and being the child of one] from angles and into corners I never would have thought of, and does it in an enjoyable, provocative but not discouraging way. I found it uplifting, encouraging, revealing, and very supportive, and surprised myself with a lot of my own answers. For each and every parent, soon-to-be parent, or for that matter, family-oriented person, I highly recommend it. The questions are timeless.
Guest More than 1 year ago
If you love Bolt's Tag book, you'll like this book, question after question, you'll know more about yourself and your friends!!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
In one of my classes (sophomore in highschool) my teacher will pull out her 'if..' book when we have some spare time and ask various questions (non-sexual ones of course.) It's a lot of fun and helps us get to know eachother better. Its cool for all ages.
Guest More than 1 year ago
An amazing book. Light but poignant. When I worked in a restaurant, the waiters would blurt out questions to each other in between tables or when on breaks. Really enjoyed it at our last company Christmas party! I'm giving it to Mom this year, to make her think!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This was an epic tale.