Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal

by Dr. Sheri Keffer, Barbara Steffens (Foreword by), Stefanie Carnes (Foreword by)

Overview

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out.

Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780800735050
Publisher:	Baker Publishing Group
Publication date:	10/02/2018
Pages:	336
Sales rank:	119,947
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Dr. Sheri Keffer is the cohost of the nationally syndicated Christian talk show New Life Live, with an audience of more than two million people each week on 150 stations nationwide. For nearly 20 years, she's been in private practice as a marriage and family therapist in Newport Beach, California, and is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). She is a passionate keynote speaker for women who've experienced betrayal, and she holds a doctorate in marriage and family therapy and a master's degree in theology, both from Fuller Theological Seminary.

Table of Contents

Foreword Dr. Barbara Steffens 9

Foreword Dr. Stefanie Carries 11

Acknowledgments 13

Part 1 First Things First: How Betrayal Has Impacted You

1 You Are Not Alone 19

2 Heartbreaking Loss 24

3 Shell-Shocked 43

4 The Dirty Dozen 52

5 It's a Cryin' Shame 67

Part 2 Unpacking the Effects of Early Trauma

6 A House Divided 83

7 Digging into Our Roots 102

8 Dangerous Liaisons: Understanding Betrayal and Sex Addiction 118

9 How He Can Help You Heal 131

Part 3 How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Your Brain, Mind, Body, Spirit, and Sexuality

10 When a Diamond's Not a Girl's Best Friend 143

11 Your Body Guard 164

12 Quick on the Trigger 179

13 Where Is God Now? 191

14 Remember When Sex Was Safe and Skydiving Was Dangerous? 204

Part 4 Taking Steps toward Relational Safety

15 "No" Is a Complete Sentence 221

16 Gaslighting, Deception, and Blame … Oh My! 234

17 To Tell the Truth 249

Part 5 Stepping into Empowered Living

18 Making Yourself a Guilt-Free Priority 267

19 A Change of Heart 284

20 It's Never Too Late for a Rewrite 292

Resources 309

Notes 315

Selected Bibliography 327