It's All About Him: Finding the Love of My Life

It's All About Him: Finding the Love of My Life

by Denise Jackson

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It's All About Him: Finding the Love of My Life by Denise Jackson

Alan and Denise Jackson's life seemed like a fairy tale: high school sweethearts marry young and leave small-town Georgia to pursue big dreams in Music City. They pay their dues, work hard, weather deep disappointments. Then their dreams come true.

In fairy tales, the Jacksons' material success?plus their "perfect" marriage, their three beautiful daughters, and their supportive families?would have signaled a happily-ever-after ending.

But real life is different from fairy tales.

At the pinnacle of their success, the Jacksons separated. For Alan, musical renown fame, and wealth still did not make up for the marital problems the Jacksons had struggled with for years. And for Denise, building her life around Alan and riding the tide of his success had somehow left her hollow, unsure of just who she really was.

You don't have to be rich and famous to go through struggles like these. Sooner or later, we all come to the point when we relize that real joy and peace isn't just around the corner of the next achievement, the next relationship, the next new thing.

That's why Alan and Denise Jackson's story isn't just a great read and a dramatic, intimate look at the golden world of celebrity. It's a story of the greatest love of all, the love that will never let you go . . . and how to find it, no matter who you are, where you live, or what you've done.

"Denise's story is an inside perspective on the results of the ups and downs of fame. Her personal struggles with life's ordinary and extraordinary consequences, her passion to have a stronger marriage, and her desire to have a closer walk with God make for a truly inspiring life." ?Carrie Underwood, 2005 American Idol Winner, ACM & CMA Female Vocalist of the Year

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781418531133
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 07/29/2007
Sold by: HarperCollins Publishing
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 101,317
File size: 3 MB

About the Author

Ellen Vaughn is an award-winning author whose works include The Strand and Gideon's Torch, co-authored with Charles Colson. Former vice president of executive communications for Prison Fellowship, Vaughn has also served as a speech writer and fund-raising consultant. She and her husband, Lee, live in Virginia with their three children.

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It's All About Him

Finding the Love of My Life
By Denise Jackson Ellen Vaughn

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2007 Denise Jackson
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-7852-2776-2

Chapter One

A Cinderella Story?

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Livin' on love, buyin' on time Without somebody nothing ain't worth a dime Like an old fashioned story book rhyme Livin' on love It sounds simple that's what you're thinkin' that love can walk through fire without blinkin' It doesn't take much when you get enough Livin' on love Alan Jackson,"Livin' on Love"

In some ways my life feels like a fairy tale. I grew up in a little brick house with a gravel driveway in Newnan, Georgia. My daddy was a mailman. As a small girl I'd help my mother can green beans from our garden. I never dreamed that one day I'd live in an immense castle, showered with jewels by a handsome prince.

But that's what happened. Today tour buses pass the perimeter of our gated estate; people hang out the windows and take pictures of our mansion. Private planes, boats, and dozens of cars stand ready to take me whereverI want to go, anywhere in the world. Three lavish vacation homes are staffed and available to enjoy at any time. Employees cook, clean, shop, and run errands for me.

I've been photographed in shimmering designer gowns on more red carpets than I can remember. I've spent time with actors, musicians, celebrities, and presidents. Reporters have interviewed me, eager to portray my private life for newspapers, magazines, radio, and television. Strangers often ask if they can have my autograph, or if they can have their pictures taken with me.

Why have I received all these benefits?

It's certainly not because of me or anything I've done. It's because I'm married to a country music superstar named Alan Jackson. Alan's award-winning, multiplatinum albums and his enormous career success over the last two decades have made him wealthy beyond his dreams; he's a celebrity whose fans adore him.

Because of our relationship, I receive these gifts as well. Out of Alan's graciousness and love for me, he has showered me with extravagant pleasures I haven't earned. I am rich-because of him.

Riches Anyone Can Have

Recently it's struck me how all this so closely parallels my relationship with Jesus Christ. I enjoy spiritual riches, not because of who I am or what I've done, but because of who God is and what He's done. I'm rich in love, joy, and peace because I'm in an intimate relationship with a gracious God who loves me just as I am.

Obviously this parallel isn't exact. As Alan would be the first to say, he's human, full of flaws, weakness, and sin. So am I. We've gone through hard times, when each of us hurt the other. We've struggled in our love and commitment. We've fallen apart, separated, and come back together again. We've experienced the raw fact that wealth and fame really don't buy joy and peace.

We've learned in hard ways what is truly important: the priority of faith and family and the ties that bind us to the God who is always faithful, even when we are not.

That's why I've felt that perhaps it's time to share some of our journey. I don't know why you've picked up this book. You may be a fan of Alan's, and you're curious about his private life. Or maybe you've never heard of Alan Jackson and couldn't care less about country music ... but you're curious about how God really works in people's lives, and how He might change yours.

Wherever you're coming from, our story is here to let you know that regardless of your situation, you can have the very richest blessings we enjoy. This is because the best assets aren't houses, planes, boats, cars, and diamonds that only the wealthy can possess. The very best gifts in this life are absolutely available to everyone.

Recently I met a woman who asked if she could take pictures of our estate. She was a Sunday school teacher, and she'd been telling the kids in her class about how Jesus said that He was preparing mansions in heaven for them. Since these kids had never laid eyes on a mansion, she wanted them to see pictures of one so they could better visualize the wonderful splendor of Jesus' promise.

I'm grateful for our beautiful home. Every time Alan and I drive into its big gates, we're floored that we actually get to live in such an incredible place. But it's made of bricks and mortar, and it will one day crumble. Christ's heavenly mansions will be more beautiful than we can imagine, and they will last forever. And they're available not just for the select few who make it big in this world, but for all who look to Jesus.

Better Than Material "Stuff"

I've learned through a lot of tears, over a lot of time, that possessions alone will never satisfy the hunger we all have inside. The only thing that can fill us up to overflowing is a real relationship with Jesus. That's not just nice religious talk. It's true. While material stuff is great fun, and I enjoy it and try to share whatever I have, I could give it all up tomorrow. But I could never give up Jesus, and more important, He will never give up on me.

Softly and tenderly, He calls each of us, His arms flung wide to hold us tight. He can give us real joy, true peace, and fulfillment forever. This isn't about religion or going to church or looking holy or trying to do all the right things. It's about being in an unbreakable bond with Jesus, living with Him in a cherished connection of love. He longs to bless us abundantly, beyond our wildest dreams.

As is pretty obvious, I'm no theologian. This book isn't a sermon on prayer, God's will, forgiveness, trials and temptations, or any of the other big topics on which it touches. I'm not trying to instruct anyone as if I'm an expert; many excellent authors have written with great insight about these subjects.

But I do know what I know. I'm like the blind man Jesus healed in the Gospel of John. When he was questioned as to exactly why this miracle had happened, he said, "I don't know!" Then he went on, "One thing I do know. Once I was blind, but now I see!"

That's a little bit like my story in this book. One thing I do know: Even though I had all the material things we chase after in this world, I once was miserable, full of uncertainty and fear. But now I have real joy and peace!

This transformation is why I have felt so strongly about writing this book. A life lived in the sweet riches of God's amazing grace is far better than any so-called fairy tale you could ever imagine. I know this firsthand. So can you.

It's all about Him.


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Table of Contents

Foreword   Alan Jackson     xiii
A Cinderella Story?     1
Little Bitty Beginnings     7
Where He Came From     17
Shock     23
Surprises     29
High Hopes     35
Daunting Disappointments     43
Dreams Come True     55
Life Throws Curves     61
Spotlights and Shadows     73
Delights and Distractions     79
Turning My Eyes     89
When Dreams Die     101
Letting Go     111
Praying New Prayers     123
Taking Small Steps     133
Coming Home     145
A Hard Road     155
Making New Vows     169
A Work in Progress     179
What Really Matters     187
Roots     195
Precious Memories     205
Drive!     209
Happily Ever After, Even When We're Not     217
Reflection     223
Resources     229
About the Authors     231
Notes     233

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It's All About Him 3.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 42 reviews.
BeccaG1 More than 1 year ago
The biography It's All About Him: Finding the Love of My Life written by Denise Jackson is a book about her good and bad times in the life of fame. Denise shares with us her life-changing story of her life struggles with being a wife of a country music artist Alan Jackson and a mother of three children. Denise talks about her and Alan's separation and that as hard as it was going through that, it was a growing experience and that they came out stronger in the end. Through this Denise found happiness, Denise says, "as I chased after God, I actually found my true self." Most of this book is based on Christian values. When reading this book I didn't not want to put it down wanting to know what happened next and what she learned while going through it. I recommend this book to any woman who needs encouragement and who chooses to seek God and desires to find their true self. As she says, "brokenness moves my story forward in a way that peaceful times do not. It's in difficulties that I became desperate to really know God, to cry out to Him."
Organizedgal More than 1 year ago
Loved this book from the time I opened it. Was a gift in a book exchange this Christmas and it was well worth the read and staying up at night to finish it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Loved this book!!
ruthhill74 More than 1 year ago
I have been an Alan Jackson fan for several years now, but I honestly did not know a lot about him or his family. I had the supreme joy of seeing him in concert this past summer, and I was impressed. I really enjoyed it. I heard about this book a couple years ago when I was listening to a country radio interview with Alan Jackson (it was shortly after the Tiger Woods scandal). I was totally shocked when I heard that he had cheated on his wife, and their marriage had survived it. I saved this book to my list. I happened to win this book (I selected is as my winning book), and I finally had a chance to read it. And I was completely impressed! I knew that they were Christians, but suddenly a few things made sense. There is a portion of Alan Jackson's career that just doesn't really impress me, and his music seems so "worldly" during that time. I now understand why. I was completely impressed with the way Denise told her story. She did not ever put her husband down. She even took responsibility for some of the issues in their marriage. She explained that when her husband became famous, they kind of forgot about God, and that is when the trouble started. Her message in the book was simple but sincere. God can work through any situation. He is always faithful even when we are not. This book will strengthen your faith, and it can truly encourage you in the midst of your trials. It sure did for me!
ArtsyJ More than 1 year ago
Staying on Track RePost- This book I recommend I am a former stay at home Mom and I feel this book can be a great help for couples today. I feel Denise emphasizes the wealth aspect only as to say, it's not about wealth and this healing is available to all who seek it. 'It's All About Him', is thought provoking and inspirational with a simple hearted flair. It is to me delightfully humorous and poignant. It shows the humanity, that regardless of social status, we all share.Separations of any kind are not easy. Denise was given great strength through her faith to sustain her during their personal trials. I admire the strength of this dear young woman.a young woman of deep found faith. I enjoyed the humorous side of their relationship. I thank Denise for sharing a bit of the private life of the Jackson family. It's a great read ! It shows that with love and faith, one's marriage can prevail.I think Alan acknowledges his wrong doing and was willing to seek help and save his marriage. I admire them getting back on track with God and really knowing 'It's All About Him.' I wish Denise much success with this book! It's a great little read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A wonderful book. I'm more blessed having read this account of her road to becoming a true follower of Jesus.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
While having some interesting facts, it was much too religious for me and if I had known would have never purchased this book
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WritermomHB More than 1 year ago
My life as I lived it...Denise Jackson tells the story of her life with Alan Jackson, from high school and through their marriage and birth of their children. She tells of Alan’s adultery and their separation. She tells of finding her relationship with God again. She uses a co-writer to assist her in writing this first-person story. She says she hopes this book will help some couples strengthen their marriage through finding their way back to God. I really don’t like to give a “Christian” book a poor review, but I really didn’t find this helpful to anyone. It is much like a “tell-all” rather than a help for couples in trouble. Yes, God can heal broken marriages, but not everyone can find themselves forgiving after such a betrayal. Marriage is a tough proposition, even in the best. Being in the spotlight with constant separations adds to the difficulties. If you are interested in this couple, by all means, read this book. Don’t look for solutions to your own marriage problems here, though, because each marriage is different. Some good Christian counseling should help. This book does not.
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Wow, this is a woman I'd like to know. She's a trooper, a survivor and quite honest, almost brutally honest in sharing her very personal struggles and triumphs. My heart aches for her and her family at moments and then I find myself smiling at her joys! Good read, very well written. I'd read all of her writings.
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patches-mom More than 1 year ago
This book was and continues to be enriching to my walk with the Lord. I go back to it often to find something that stuck in my mind that I just had to find and read over because I felt it was important! A book written by a beautiful woman- inside and out! When's the next book coming out??????
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This book was so good, I couldn't put it down! It was funny, enlightening and encouraging. It was written simply and easy to read. My mother and I both enjoyed it so much. The cd it came with was great as well, with the songs Alan Jackson sang. I highly recommend reading this book if you like Alan Jackson and want to get to know his wife and family and how their life was before and during his career. It has great pictures as well from when they were little and through the years. Good book to read!
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KayeB More than 1 year ago
I read Denise Jackson's book basically because I enjoy learning how God works in people's lives. I thought Denise's accounting of her life with Alan from the start was a simple story. Yet, I was disappointed to read reviews from others who decided that Alan and Denise should have not made the first step down the aisle. Only this couple and God knows their own hearts and why they chose to be life partners. Denise's commitment to remain faithful to God's direction throughout this chapter of her life that she shares with us speaks volumes of her true love for Christ and her husband. Alan decision to be accountable for his own choices and ask for forgiveness from both God and the wife of his youth demonstrates the conviction and courage one can recieve from God's Holy Spirit. Equally disappointing was several reviewers objection to Denise's mention of wealth and lavished gifts, adding that she might not have stayed with Alan if it weren't for this lifestyle. Again how does one take it upon them to judge another person's heart and motives? The Bible talks about how gold, myrrh and frankincense were presented to the Christ child, so please get past any objections to Denise's descriptions of her rings. I praise God that Denise fell in love with the guy who took a second shift at Kmart and stayed in love with him despite the many challenges, disappointments and yet, rewards of their very public life. I would recommend this book to anyone who values the love and support you can receive from a prayer partners, friends and family during a very difficult time -- and to understand the power of God's healing hand on broken hearts and homes.
Guest More than 1 year ago
When I see the title of the book I thought it was all about Alan and boy after buying the book and starting to read it I realised it wasnt about him and was very upset about that. I give this book a 0 rating as I feel kind of tricked!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I would recommend this book for someone who just enjoys a good story. I was surprised how I could not put it down. I was blessed and felt better about my walk with God after reading this book. Again, no this will not change the world in some profound way but it is a great story to read.