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It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose

It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose

by Melanie Dale
It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose

It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose

by Melanie Dale


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Sometimes when life falls apart the only acceptable response is hysterical laughter. It's Not Fair by Melanie Dale uses humor in the face of life's roughest moments, raw honesty with a God who can handle the pain, and encouragement and hope as your companion on a difficult journey.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780310342144
Publisher: Zondervan
Publication date: 08/16/2016
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 789,247
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Melanie Dale is a minivan mama and total weirdo who stinks at small talk. Her laugh is a combination honk-snort, and it’s so bad that people have moved away from her in the movie theater. She adores sci-fi and superheroes and is terrified of Pinterest. Author of Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends, she loves speaking, writing for Coffee+Crumbs, and advocating for Children’s Hope Chest. Living in the Atlanta area with her husband and three kids, she blogs at

Table of Contents

Part 1 The Part of the Book Where I Explain the Book a Lot

1 A Help-Each-Other Book 13

Part 2 All the Feels

2 I Feel Your Pain 27

3 The Heart Cry of the Entire Human Race 41

4 How to Fall Apart Like a Boss 52

5 Digging Out from a Good Wallow 58

6 Complaint as a Spiritual Discipline 61

7 So Totes Righteously Angry on Your Behalf 69

Part 3 Coping Mechanisms for the Horribly Mangled

8 Fighting Emotional Gangrene 81

9 Comfort Foods That Will Help You Eat Your Feelings 90

10 Because Sometimes Suffering Is Funny 95

11 Don't Make Me Come Over There 104

12 Living Like a Cadbury Egg 110

13 Count the Wins (Even While You're Losing) 115

Part 4 Hell is Other People… or is it Heaven?

14 Things You Should Say If You Want a Good Face Punch 127

15 Faking Healthy and the "I'm Fine" Smile 139

16 Awkward Hugging 145

17 The Two Most Powerful Words 147

18 100 Things You Can Do to Help. 152

Part 5 On God, Suffering, and Other Easy Subjects

19 Her Cupcake Is Better Than Mine 161

20 You Went to the Zoo 172

21 Why Do Bad Things Happen? 178

22 Failure, Doubt, and Being Bananaballs 193

23 Everything Will Be Okay If 197

24 A Bunch of Bible Stuff for All Your Various Moods 205

Part 6 What's Next?

25 How to Survive the Death of a Dream 217

26 Steering into the Surprise 226

27 The Excruciating Pain of Joy 235

28 Where Do We Go from Here? 239

Acknowledgments 245

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