It's Okay Not to Be Okay: Moving Forward One Day at a Time

It's Okay Not to Be Okay: Moving Forward One Day at a Time

by Sheila Walsh

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We've all experienced that moment where we wish we could start all over again. Failed marriages, lost friends, addictions, lost jobs. This is not the life we imagined. Yesterday can sometimes leave us stuck, sad, shamed, scared, and searching. Sheila Walsh encourages readers to face the pain head on and then start again, from right where they are. She shares that when she discovered "I'm not good enough and I'm good with that," everything started to change.

In It's Okay Not to Be Okay, Walsh helps women overcome the same old rut of struggles and pain by changing the way they think about God, themselves, and their everyday lives. She shares practical, doable, daily strategies that will help women move forward one step at a time knowing God will never let them down.

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ISBN-13: 9781493415359
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 10/02/2018
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 25,277
File size: 24 MB
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About the Author

Sheila Walsh is a powerful communicator, Bible teacher, and bestselling author with more than 5 million books sold. She is the author of the award-winning Gigi, God's Little Princess and In the Middle of the Mess. She is cohost of LIFE Today with James and Betty Robison and her Wednesdays in the Word program, with more than 100 million viewers. Walsh is a popular speaker and Bible teacher around the world, including New Zealand, Australia, and Brazil. She lives in Dallas, Texas, with her husband, Barry, their son, Christian, and their three pups, Belle, Tink, and Maggie.
Sheila Walsh is a powerful communicator, Bible teacher, and bestselling author with more than 5 million books sold. She is the author of It's Okay Not to Be Okay and the award-winning Gigi, God's Little Princess. She is cohost of LIFE Today with James and Betty Robison and her Wednesdays in the Word program, with more than 100 million viewers. Walsh is a popular speaker and Bible teacher around the world. She lives in Dallas, Texas, with her husband, Barry, their son, Christian, and their two pups, Tink and Maggie.

Table of Contents

Introduction: It's Okay Not to Be Okay 13

1 Take the First Step 19

2 Admit That You Are Stuck and Struggling 35

3 Change the Way You Think 53

4 Face the What-Ifs Even If You Are Afraid 73

5 Let Go of What You Can't Control 93

6 Rise Above Disappointment 113

7 Celebrate Your Scars as Tattoos of Triumph 135

8 Decide to Start Again … and Again 159

Conclusion: You Were Made for More 183

Acknowledgments 195

Notes 197

About the Author 199

Customer Reviews

It's Okay Not to Be Okay: Moving Forward One Day at a Time 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 22 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great + Easy Read! Practical and slightly comical. Very satisfied with my purchase. I would highly recommend for single moms struggling to manage life and all its mishaps.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great lesson, encouraging.
KMarkovich More than 1 year ago
I really appreciated Sheila’s openness and honesty – she doesn’t have answers for everything, and that life is hard and disappointing and not what we imagined! But she also says that God is good and “we can trust Him even when we don’t understand where we are in life.” That it is ok to not be ok because that’s why we need Jesus. Yet she has struggled with this all her life. I really related to her when in the 1st chapter she talked about wanting to be Wonder Woman – yet fails to have devotions or is not a good wife or mother. Each chapter Sheila tells stories, of her failures or successes. She also adds Biblical stories and take aways. At the end of the chapter she has questions and verses to ponder. It’s not a long book, but one you will go back to receive encouragement. I highly recommend. I received a copy of this book from Bakerbooks. I am freely writing a review - all thoughts and opinions are my own.
iamjoymoy More than 1 year ago
Sheila shares in It's Okay Not to be Okay her journey and the messy things of life that sometimes have us questioning all the things. She shares questions that arise when hard things happen. She shares Scripture that reminds us of God's control, not our own, that will see us through the situations we are in. And through her words, she reminds us, "Our problem is that we view our lives through the window of our culture rather than the rock-solid promises of God's Word. We live in a culture of perception...When we view our faith through that window, we've corrupted it...God is in control and He is for us." I love reading real-life examples of how God is at work in and around us. Sheila ends each chapter with "One Step at a Time" for how to practically live out our faith and be okay with not being okay but also knowing that it is never too late to start again.
DarleneLTurner More than 1 year ago
--Not Self-Help. God Help. This life is full of disappointments and gut-wrenching circumstances. Something bad happens every time we turn around and we’re left to deal with it. How we react can affect not only us but those close to us. However, it’s okay not to be okay. We can still be joyous . . . even in the darkness. Sheila Walsh nails it in It’s Okay Not to be Okay. This book is full of truths and God helps on dealing with the circumstances in life. The author shares stories in each of the chapters, so this book not only encourages the reader but also entertains. I laughed at some of them and was sorrowful at others. She knows what she’s talking about and brings home her points effectively. She encourages the reader to take the first step and tell God everything. He knows but wants us to admit how we’re feeling. It’s okay to go through the emotions. After that, we need to learn to let go and give God the control. This book is beautifully written. It kept me turning the pages to find out more. At the end of each chapter, she concludes with practical steps in the One Step at a Time section. Brilliant! I give It’s Okay Not to be Okay five stars. I guarantee the reader will be encouraged after reading this book. **Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc. in exchange for my honest review.
TheBeccaFiles More than 1 year ago
This book carries a message that desperately needs to be heard by today's women. We feel a constant pressure to showcase our lives to the world as if we have it all together and that our lives run perfectly. Spend five minutes on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest and you'll see exactly what I mean. But when hardship hits, it makes sense that you won't be okay. It makes sense that you will have a time of suffering and need support and encouragement in the Lord to lift you back up. Life is hard and there doesn't need to be shame surrounding a need for help. This was a study that I consider a great read for all women. For women in ministry it can be helpful for a few reasons. There's the typical words of wisdom to help other women going through struggles, but there's also the words from a woman in the spotlight of women's ministry admitting that she, herself has times when she is not okay. It's an encouragement for women that we don't have to pretend life is perfect when it feels like the walls are caving in. God meets us where we are at not where we think we should be. There is nothing hidden from God. Nothing will surprise Him. He WANTS us to come to Him. Everyone has different experiences in life that have caused brokenness. Some have been abused sexually, physically,  and/or mentally. Others have dealt with infidelity, divorce, cancer, death, or any other situation that can leave someone feeling shattered. Some things are easier to process and move on from quicker than others. Some wounds are deep enough that they take years or even decades to heal from. To expect that we can be "okay" at all times simply isn't achievable. On the flip side however, Sheila urges the reader to not allow their wounds to become a part of their identity. It's a choice we need to make to seek healing. This book is a message women need to hear. We shouldn't be judgmental towards others who are going through tough times. We should feel safe to admit when we are struggling. We can choose to be either a part of the problem or part of the solution. I hope you take the time to read it and hope that it blesses you as it has blessed me. *I Received a free copy of this book from Baker Books Publishing. I was not required to give a positive review. Thoughts and opinions expressed are mine alone.
dhiggins4 More than 1 year ago
I loved “It’s Okay Not To Be Okay” by Sheila Walsh. This book was full of wonderful tidbits and life changing information. In the jacket flap of the book, it says “When Sheila Walsh discovered ‘I’m not good enough and I’m good with that,’ everything started to change.” That about sums up this book. Sheila addresses how so many of our lives didn’t turn out the way we thought they would. Life is just hard. But she shows us how we can face our pain head-on and start again. I loved how she stated how it is okay to not be okay because God is ultimately in control. How many of us need to hear this all the time? I know I do! I highly recommend this book to every woman out there. There is so much information in this book that is very helpful. I received this book from Baker Books for my honest opinion.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book stretched me to overcome years of faulty thinking. It was eye opening and challenged me to let go of the unattainable ideas of the past and embrace who I am- right here- right now. It's okay things did not go like I planned. I can still live my best life where I am.
BrendaGalliher More than 1 year ago
Wow! I don't even know where to begin! This book is completely life changing for me! I don't know about you, but I’ve not been okay for a very long time and I’ve always felt so discouraged and embarrassed about it. I know God doesn’t expect perfection, but what about not even being okay? Moreover, how do you make yourself okay with not being okay? This book helps you understand that we ALL face this question and the feelings that go with it most of the days of our life. Some of us are better at hiding it than others, but we still deal with it the same. Sheila's life giving wisdom not only shares how not being okay is the norm, but how to love and accept yourself as well as understanding that God loves you no matter WHAT!! She’s been preaching this message for many years, but this book is more than "preaching". It’s life changing practices that are practical to help us move forward in our Christian walks and see that God is more interested in who we are than whether or not we get it right. Sometimes, even when we are afraid, we need to step out in faith and do what God has called us to do. One of my favorite quotes in this book is "Do it afraid." Despite our fears, God is with us and will take care of us. Then we can share our triumphs with others and be an encouragement to them. Sheila unpacks these truths with wisdom, humor and love, and shows us that not being okay is absolutely okay!!
Sarah754 More than 1 year ago
I've read other books by Sheila Walsh and found them encouraging and enlightening. It's Okay Not To Be Okay doesn't disappoint! Sheila shares her struggles and hurts (much the same experienced by myself and many others, I'm sure), but she doesn't leave us there.Sheila offers questions for us to search our souls and find healing as we grow closer to God. This book is definitely not a one time read -- you will find yourself going back while working your way through struggles, or loss, or weakness. Sheila asks the hard questions at the end of each chapter that, during your search, bring you to God's mercy and grace while resolving your life issues. I definitely recommend this book to everyone -- in one way or another, you will find yourself in its pages with answers that are a blessing! I received a galley copy from the publisher, Baker Books, for an honest review. You won't waste your time reading this!
JGiesbrecht More than 1 year ago
I absolutely love Sheila and hearing about her experiences. She can be real and raw and that is so much of what's needed in today's society. She has shared about her mental health struggles in the past, and she uses this book to kind of take the next step. Sheila goes from saying it's ok to not be ok, it's ok to have these struggles, to starting to guide the reader through steps to move forward from these places. I have both the paper book and the audio book. One of my favourite quotes from the book is: "The church should be the place of greatest grace, but often it's where we're judged and thrown away.". The church is full of people with flaws, but still all too often in modern day churches faces are thrown on and people want to show perfection. People who are open about their struggles can often feel shut out of what should be their greatest hope. Sheila works to remind the reader to keep fighting. Another vulnerable, truth sharing read from an incredible woman!
summer_no9 More than 1 year ago
This book was very powerful, inspiring writing and compelling to read with also giving us to understand more the truth about our live is that we are all broken, not perfect, facing the end of a marriage and you either feel like a failure or that you’ve been betrayed and abandoned or may had lost the love one. This book will giving you an ideals for moving forward, it is possible and nothing wrong to try again and again and because we are make for more to fighting for this is Christ thought that you were worth dying for. All you need to do is open your heart and moving forward, one day at the time. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Baker Books Bloggers for this review”.
KDeLong More than 1 year ago
This was the second book I've read from Sheila's collection and it did not disappoint. I had the privilege of reading it before it released and am so glad I did since it's one I probably wouldn't have picked up right away. One of the things I have noticed that marks Sheila's writing is her incredible openness and willingness to show the hard stuff. I appreciate that about her writing and it makes me feel like I am not just reading another book, but getting to know her and her heart. And in a time where I have been feeling pretty lost and as though I am barely holding it together because of a new baby, a big move across the country, and a new job, Sheila's gentle reminder that it's okay to not have everything together, to not be okay, but to rest in Jesus and let Him be okay and put together was a timely message my heart needed to read.
Kath_E More than 1 year ago
I started reading Sheila’s book as an e-book and decided early on that I really needed a print copy of the book because I wanted to dive even deeper into the paragraphs and pages. I wanted to highlight and write notes in the margins. From the very title…”It’s Okay Not To Be Okay” to quotes such as “Okay doesn’t live here, Jesus does” to “Even if that first step is a baby step you will be further along than where you began” Sheila gives guidance on how to move forward from very negative places in our lives…solid steps after each chapter. She uses her own life as reference, her own journey as an example…and the Word of God….Jesus…as her guide. It makes the notion that healing is not only possible with God….it is probable. "You are a work in process and deserve time invested in who you are becoming. Think of your life as a painting: what are the brush strokes you’re adding each day?" 5 stars all the way...Thank you Sheila!!
TKennington More than 1 year ago
A long-time fan of Sheila Walsh, I think It's Okay Not to Be Okay may be her best book yet. Her candid stories range from heartfelt to entertaining and through it all, Sheila invites into to heart and life as she shares Biblical truth and wisdom. This is the sort of book that causes one to reflect, cry and laugh. It has reassured me of truths I need to remember in the midst of the hard of life and has encouraged my heart. Put this book on your list if you're struggling with feeling not-enough, overlooked, or afraid. You'll be glad you did!
TruthWarrior More than 1 year ago
It’s okay not to be okay, moving forward one day at a time by Sheila Walsh This is a well written incredible book which immediately invites you in to not only her struggles, but see where you fit in as well. This is not a self-help book, it is a God-help book! I love the section “Choose to Walk Past Your Past”. It’s a short book but packed full and easy to read but you will want to digest each word slowly. You will not regret getting this book. I was provided with an Advanced Reader’s Copy of this book. This review is my honest review.
musicmomof2 More than 1 year ago
This book is amazing. I'm not even finished with it yet, because it is a book to read through slowly and soak up every word from Sheila. It reaches right in and grabs your heart. I keep finding myself nodding as I'm reading it because so much of it applies to things in my life and to others. I can't wait to finish reading it and then reading it again to see what I missed!
Sherijd More than 1 year ago
Once again Sheila Walsh puts into words so much of what so many of us feel. She takes what she has learned about Who God is and uses His word to help others find the truths we all so desperately need to walk this thing we call Life. Who we are is exactly who God has created us to be. He sees us thru the blood of His Son Jesus who gave His life to cover a debt none of us could ever repay. This book gives us easy to do steps to come to an understanding that because of what God has done for us gives us peace to know that it is okay not to be okay. I would encourage everyone to read this book - I believe God will use it to change your thinking and build you into someone who learns how to live life afraid because you know who your goliath slayer is.
EmilyBoyMom More than 1 year ago
I truly think that this type of book is going to change how we view mental illness/struggles in the church community. Sheila does such a great job of sharing her story, peppered with biblical stories of those in Scripture that also dealt with depression or other issues. At times I found myself crying, others laughing out loud at some of Sheila's true stories of her family. She is most definitely an encourager and I loved the way she gives both hard truths and the permission for us to seek, ask questions, even grieve in our own ways. Just because mental illness is ignored or hidden by those inside the faith community does not mean that it doesn't exist. Being able to be open and honest with our feelings is paramount for healing and allows hope to break through. Sheila lays out the way in which we are to go: to admit we aren't perfect and have struggles, remember how God sees us, even in our despair, and to keep getting up when we fall. No obstacle is too tough for our God. One day at a time. One step at a time. One moment at a time. He sees and He longs to comfort us in our sorrows. I received an early reader copy and chose to review. I appreciate the opportunity to read this book early, as I think it will be a great help to many. Thank you, Baker Publishing Group, for allowing me to enjoy Sheila's work!
gfox79 More than 1 year ago
I did not know how much I needed this book until I read it! Sheila speaks to very specific situations that anyone can relate to. She also gave a new perspective on things including how we see our own wounds. I loved this book so much. Listening to it was also awesome due to her accent! I recommend this book to men and women who have ever felt as though they needed to be okay all the time. She speaks to both men and women. I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.
MelissaGH More than 1 year ago
Excellent book. We all have days of feeling "not okay". In this encouraging book, author Sheila Walsh shows how we can move forward one day at a time and find joy in life and in God's love and promises. I received a copy of this book and this is my personal, honest opinion. No review was required.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Sheila Walsh has done it again. What I most appreciate about her writing is that she is real; she shares her heart honestly and with vulnerability. That is something I truly admire about her. This book is needed. I can’t imagine there isn’t a person alive who always felt Ok, That life is always perfect without any obstacles, trials,hurt or pain. Afterall, we are all human. Life throws us curveballs that we don’t expect and we are thrown for a loop. The real question is how do we handle it? Do we begin to believe we are a complete mess and/or failure or do we begin to see that its Ok if we aren’t “perfect”? I am in my mid 60’s and there has been PLENTY and I mean PLENTY of times where I have not been OK, and I have realized that being able to say, “I’m not ok” and even possibly, “I need help”, has given me lifelines that I needed. We were never meant to be an island, to do life alone. We NEED others and more importantly we NEED GOD. Sheila Walsh has shown us that whether our problems are enormous or only somewhat hurtful, we need to be assured that its Ok not to be Ok. In today’s world that still deems a mental illness as something that is for “the crazy ones”, Sheila through her books, has shown us that she has suffered hard bouts of depression and continues to be on medication to help her. THERE is absolutely NOTHING wrong with us if we need medication because certain hormone levels in our brain are inadequate. I can’t think of anyone who would not benefit from this book. Whether you are extremely happy and content right now,or you are struggling for any number of reasons, this book gives suggestions on how to be ok with whatever life situation you find yourself in. I have read most of Sheila’s books and became her fan after reading “the Heartache no one sees”. I thought “in the Middle of the Mess” was outstanding, BUT THIS BOOK? Like I said, I don’t think there is anyone who would not benefit from reading it. I will be buying several copies to have on hand to give to others.