Lies Men Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free

by Robert Wolgemuth, Patrick Morley (Foreword by)

Overview

“If there ever was such a thing as a ‘shortcut’ to the wisdom of the ages, you’re holding it in your hands. This is the kind of wisdom that can only be earned over a lifetime of trial and error, trial and error, and, finally, trial and success.”
-Patrick Morley
Author, The Man in the Mirror

“In 2001, I wrote a book called Lies Women Believe. Since then this message has reached millions of women and been translated into dozens of languages. But I’ve often been asked about a ‘male counterpart’ to the book. When God brought Robert into my life in 2015, I soon realized he was the ideal choice to pen this message for men. You’ll find that reading Lies Men Believe, with its warm, relatable style, is like having a conversation with a good friend. Be prepared, in the process, to grapple with some tough issues. And be prepared to experience the liberating power of the Truth—in your own life, and in the lives of those you influence.”
-Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth
Revive Our Hearts Teacher & Host;
Lies Books Series Editor

You are being hunted.

Like a seasoned angler, our enemy opens his tackle box and selects the lure most likely to attract his intended prey—usually the one you and I are least likely to consider harmful. Each lie we bite on causes us to feel pain, lose or injure relationships, and miss out on the abundant life that God wants us to have. Lies Men Believe exposes the lies that men most commonly believe, and shows you how to combat those lies with the truth.

Lies like:

• Pleasure and Entertainment Can Truly Satisfy Me
• If I Mean Well, That’s Good Enough
• If I Discipline My Children, They’ll Rebel.
• I’m Measured by How I Compare with Other Men.

Find out how lies are holding you back from freedom, joy, and intimacy with God and others. Discover the power of the truth. Because once you fully embrace the truth, nothing is ever the same.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780802425324
Publisher:	Moody Publishers
Publication date:	04/05/2022
Pages:	304
Sales rank:	397,247
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.61(d)

About the Author

PATRICK MORLEY founded Man in the Mirror in 1991 and has since impacted the lives of more than 10,000,000 men worldwide. Since 1986, he has taught a weekly Friday morning Bible study to 150 businessmen in Orlando, Florida. This study is broadcast on iTunes and webcast around the world. Pat also speaks to men daily through the Man in the Mirror radio program. He has written 16 books, including The Marriage Prayer, A Man's Guide to the Spiritual Disciplines and Pastoring Men. Pat lives in Winter Park, Florida with his wife, Patsy. They have two grown children and two granddaughters.

Table of Contents

Foreword 11

Introduction 15

Section 1 Foundations

Chapter 1 Crossing the Bridge When we get There 23

Section 2 Lies Men Believe

Chapter 2 Lies Men Believe About God 35

1 God is not a whole lot different from me 41

2 God isn't actually involved in or concerned with the details of my life 44

3 I can earn God's favor 48

4 There are many ways to God 51

5 Church? I can take it or leave it 54

Chapter 3 Lies Men Believe About Themselves 59

6 I'm not responsible for my actions 63

7 Pleasure and entertainment can satisfy me 67

8 I'm the master of my own destiny 70

9 Real men don't cry 73

10 I don't need male friends 75

Chapter 4 Lies Men Believe About Sin 81

11 Who others think I am matters more than who I really am 87

12 If I mean well, that's good enough 91

13 My sin isn't really that bad 94

14 God could never forgive me for what I've done 97

15 I can hide my secret sin since it only hurts me 100

16 Holiness is boring 106

Chapter 5 Lies Men Believe About Sexuality 109

17 A little porn is harmless 114

18 What my wife doesn't know won't hurt her 119

19 If I experience same-sex attraction, I should pursue a same-sex relationship 122

20 I have sexual needs my wife can't fulfill 127

Chapter 6 Lies Men Believe About Marriage and Family 133

21 Love doesn't require spoken words 138

22 My wife is supposed to make me happy 142

23 I don't have what it takes to be the CEO of my home. I can leave that role to my wife 145

24 I don't have to grow up 153

25 If I discipline my kids, they'll rebel 157

Chapter 7 Lies Men Believe About Work and Wealth 163

26 Making more money will make me happier 169

27 How I spend my time is my business 172

28 I'm not responsible to be the provider for my wife and family 176

29 My faith and my work are unrelated 182

30 I can't afford to give more money away 188

Chapter 8 Lies Men Believe About Circumstances 193

31 I have the right to be angry when things don't go my way 199

32 Pain and suffering are always bad 201

33 The world is rigged against me 206

34 I can't help how I react to certain people or circumstances 211

35 I can run away from God 216

Chapter 9 Lies Men Believe About the World 221

36 The world is too messed up to bring children into 228

37 I'm measured by how I compare with other men 233

38 With everything going on in my life, it's really not possible to live with integrity 238

39 Being a Christian is supposed to be cool 242

40 My death will be the end of my story 246

Section 3 Walking in Truth

Chapter 10 COuntering the Lies with the Truth 253

Chapter 11 The Truth that Sets Us Free 267

Epilogue 287

Acknowledgments 291

Notes 295

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

Clear, engaging, well crafted. And best of all, anchored in the truth. This book is going to be life changing for a lot of men. I hope you’re one of them!

Bob Lepine

Cohost, FamilyLife Today

It was the Greeks who said great communicators embodied logos (content), ethos (ethics or integrity), and pathos (passion). Well, if that be the case, then Robert Wolgemuth has checked all three boxes in this much-needed volume, Lies Men Believe. I found my heart greatly stirred as I read these inspiring words all from a man who has built a lifetime walking with Jesus and living in authentic manhood. You will be a better man after drinking in these words.

Bryan Loritts

Lead Pastor, Abundant Life

Author of Insider, Outsider

It took a long time and some unexpected circumstances for there to be a companion volume to Lies Women Believe, but in God’s good and mysterious providence it is here at last. I’m thankful for Robert’s efforts in writing a book that so wonderfully complements Nancy’s. This book will prove to be both a challenge and a blessing to you.

Tim Challies

Blogger

When presented with the opportunity, I didn’t immediately read Robert’s manuscript. Not seeing myself as a “lie believer,” I felt no urgency. Now, I stand corrected—and grateful! Those of us who know Robert regard him as accomplished, gifted, and wise. He’s ready for anything and gracious in everything. As you will discover in this volume, he’s also candid in exploring the challenges men face. Learning from him was like a workout for the soul, leaving me convicted and inspired. There were moments when I flushed with emotion, and others that left me galvanized with resolve. Lies Men Believe is personally relevant to every manand will prompt you to do business with God—as I did. I highly recommend it.

Paul Santhouse

Publisher, Moody Publishers

The most dangerous lies are always the most alluring. They come to us in the guise of the good, the delightful, and the wise (Gen. 3:6). Thankfully, in this insightful and practical book, Robert Wolgemuth not only unmasks those lies, he teaches us how to recognize them for what they are. If only I’d had this book forty years ago!

George Grant

Pastor of Parish Presbyterian Church

Even though the most prominent word on the cover of this book is “Lies,” I know from experience that the most important word can be found in the subtitle. It’s “Truth.” This is a book about truth . . . the power of truth. Truth that sets a man free. And this truth can be found in the absolute reliability of God’s Word, the Bible.

Patrick Morley

Bestselling author and founder, Man in the Mirror

For many years, I have had the privilege of preaching the gospel . . . the good news of Jesus Christ who is, Himself, the Truth. This book, Lies Men Believe, identifies some of the awful things Satan whispers in our ears . . . lies that are shattered because of freedom that God’s grace and His truth provide. I’m thankful to Robert Wolgemuth for putting this in writing and I enthusiastically recommend this book to you.

Jack Graham

Host of PowerPoint, author, and pastor, Prestonwood Baptist Church