Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship

by Debra Fileta


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An Invitation to Love Well Through the Four Seasons
Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons that play a pivotal role in taking your relationship to the next level. But depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either strengthen and grow, or it will slowly begin to fade. 
Maybe your relationship is in the first blooms of spring, when friendship takes root and attraction blossoms.
Maybe you’re in the season of summer, and things are starting to heat up—spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
Maybe you’re deep in fall, and your true colors are starting to shine through.
Or maybe you’re in winter, when the passion cools down and it would be all too easy to let the relationship freeze over.
Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join author, counselor, and relationship expert Debra Fileta, creator of, as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons of every healthy relationship. You’ll learn to…
  • Recognize each season as it comes and navigate it with intention, focus, and practical steps.
  • Avoid the pitfalls of each stage by preparing for the hard moments and seeing them as opportunities to grow and connect. 
  • Celebrate not just the magical moments of each season, but the day-to-day choices that pave the way for a lasting relationship.
No matter what your relationship status, you’re invited on a journey to strengthen and grow your love in every season.  

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780736977593
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
Publication date: 01/14/2020
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 225,957
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)
Age Range: 3 Months to 18 Years

About the Author

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor and the author of True Love Dates. A passionate speaker, she challenges people to have a psychologically and spiritually healthy approach to relationships. Debra and her husband, John, have been happily married for more than a decade and have three beautiful children.

Table of Contents

Introduction 9

Section 1 Spring-New Life and New Love

Chapter 1 Spring Is in the Air-Planting Good Seeds 17

Chapter 2 What's Bloomin'-The Laws of Attraction 35

Chapter 3 The Pattern of Growth Is Give-and-Take 53

Section 2 Summer-Things Get Hot

Chapter 4 Warmth-The Bond of Emotional Connection 73

Chapter 5 Heat-Sexual Connection 91

Chapter 6 Fire-Spiritual Intimacy 109

Section 3 Fall-Your True Colors

Chapter 7 Goodbye, Green-The Colors of Compatibility 125

Chapter 8 Vibrant Colors-Conflict Is Key 137

Chapter 9 Bare Branches-Dropping the Cover 153

Section 4 Winter-Long Days Ahead

Chapter 10 Frost-The Chill of Apathy 171

Chapter 11 Freeze-Stuck in Love 183

Chapter 12 The Thaw-Spring Will Come Again 197

Notes 207

Acknowledgments 211

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Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
LLangley 3 months ago
Comparing the seasons of a relationship to the seasons of a year, counselor and relationship specialist Debra Fileta aims to help couples appreciate each one in her new book Love in Every Season. Fileta says all four seasons are necessary for healthy relationships—each with its own purposes and opportunities for growth. Her goal in Love in Every Season is to help readers recognize or discover those opportunities and use them to their advantage so that their marriages are strengthened. Fileta takes readers on a journey through the four seasons of a marriage—spring, summer, winter, and fall—explaining their characteristics, pointing out the opportunities for growth and discovery, as well as potential obstacles that could hinder growth. Each chapter ends with some reflections questions—a set for couples to work through together, and a set for singles. Just reading the questions, I am certain that those who take the opportunity to be intentional, honest, and transparent, will be amazed at the growth that will take place. Singles will find that as they contemplate the questions, they’ll begin to better prepare themselves for a healthy marriage and be able to more easily navigate the seasons of their future marriages. I absolutely loved how Fileta wove together biblical truth with practical applications and stories from her own practice as a counselor. She helped me to remember that marriage is ultimately about God and reflecting his glory and how it should be my goal to reflect that in each season of marriage. I am certainly challenged by Fileta’s teaching. I am anxious to read this book again with my husband so we can make the most of the growth opportunities in every season of our marriage. I also look forward to the added layer of connection and openness that I’m sure will come as we work through the reflection questions together. I look forward to other books by Fileta in the future, and I’ll definitely be recommending this one to other couples so they can seek God and reflect Love in Every Season. Note: I received a copy of the book from the publisher in exchange for this honest review. The opinions expressions are my own.
DanaBlack 3 months ago
Debra Fileta has delivered another wonderful book about relationships! “Love in Every Season” is a great follow up to both “True Love Dates” and “Choosing Marriage,” but it stands on its own with both biblical and psychological insights and wisdom. She also pulls in real life examples from couples she has worked with, as well as sharing from her own marriage. I love Debra’s candor, and as a 30-something in a relationship that is looking toward marriage, I am hungry for tools to help build a healthy marriage in the future. Her questions at the end of each chapter are written for both couples and singles, and she doesn’t leave anyone out. I would highly recommend this to anyone (single, dating, and married) who want a new perspective on how relationships change, grow, and cycle through different seasons in life.
T23 3 months ago
Pretty much the Google translator for all things “relationships.” Debra’s candid humor, personal authenticity, and biblical perspective is applicable for anyone, regardless of relationship status. Her gift of transforming complex issues and into bite-sized pieces of wisdom is truly remarkable. Using the beautiful metaphor of nature as a backdrop for relationships, Debra shows us what true love looks like in every season. Move this book to the top of your “required” relationship reading list….you won’t regret it!
RebekahR 3 months ago
I have been married for almost 22 years, and Love in Every Season spoke deeply into my heart as a wife. One of the many wonderful things about this book is that Debra Fileta has the ability to impart insight and wisdom to those in all stages of relationship, from before marriage to many years of marriage. I plan to gift a copy to my 23 year old niece. No matter what stage you are in, you will find that Debra's insight and wisdom through Love In Every Language will equip you and help you as you navigate your own motivations and your relationships and/or future relationships.