“Five years into ‘wedded bliss,’ I confessed to Kim that I no longer loved her. We were stuck in a destructive relationship pattern we now refer to as the ‘fierce woman/fearful man’ cycle, and I had lost all hope for a peaceful marriage…” — LeRoy Wagner
What if I’m laid-back and my wife is… not? How can I lead when I feel emasculated? I’m not sure I love my wife anymore. What happened?
If you find yourself asking questions like these, LeRoy can relate. In Men Who Love Fierce Women, he is gut-honest about his failures and frustrations as a husband, the realizations that saved his marriage,* and the requirements God places on every husband, laid-back or not. With their insights combined, Kim and LeRoy equip men to rise up, handle conflict, love their wife, and lead their marriage, regardless of who has the stronger personality.
Includes reflection questions at the end of every chapter, plus an appendix for addressing conflict.
*Kim and LeRoy’s interview on Focus on the Family, in which they discuss their marriage and Kim’s book Fierce Women, aired twice and was voted the #1 segment of 2015, prompting the publication of this book.
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About the Author
LEROY WAGNER has served as a pastor and speaker for more than thirty years. His greatest desire is to see God's glory fill the earth and he believes that begins with training individuals to live out the gospel in their homes and through their daily life experiences. The supreme love of his life is Jesus Christ, then his wife, Kimberly, their children, and grandchildren.
KIMBERLY WAGNER is the author of Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior. Spreading God's glory is Kim's deepest passion. Her desire for women to connect with Christ is woven through everything she writes. You can read her daily blog at www.KimberlyWagner.org where she encourages women to be students of the Word. Kim is a frequent guest on the Revive our Hearts radio program, as well as a regular contributor to the True Woman blog. She is an author, a women's conference speaker, and a blogger. She is married to her favorite pastor, LeRoy Wagner, and they enjoy hanging out with their adult children and growing tribe of grandchildren!
Table of Contents
Why Should You Read This Book? 9
1 The Courageous Leader Within 11
2 The Passive Deserter 31
3 Anything You Can Do, She Can Do Better! 47
4 Trapped in the Hurt Locker 67
5 Run into the Battle 87
6 What Your Wife Needs Most 105
7 God's Got This! 121
8 How She Wants You to Love Her 137
9 Man to Man 157
10 Never Go AWOL 177
11 What's the Big Deal about Marriage, Anyway? 193
12 On the Threshold of a Glorious Beginning 205
Guidelines When Confrontation Is Necessary 221
Guidelines for Restoration 224
Characteristics of the Courageous Leader 227
Characteristics of the Passive Deserter 227
About the Authors 231
What People are Saying About This
He’s quiet, she’s “fierce.” The more she pushes, the more he withdraws. The less he leads, the more she takes over. If this sounds familiar—and if you’re tired of the cycle—LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner have the answer. They’ll show how you can learn to work together as a team, channeling personality differences for constructive rather than destructive purposes.
JIM DALYPresident, Focus on the Family
Being married to a strong person is something we both understand. This kind of marriage partnership presents unique challenges, but it also promises wonderful opportunities. We are deeply grateful to our friends, LeRoy and Kim, for writing such a helpful, biblically grounded book, born out of their personal journey and the transformation God has brought about in their lives. We strongly commend this book to you as God continues to write His story in and through your life and marriage.
ROBERT & NANCY (DEMOSS) WOLGEMUTH
In this book LeRoy and Kim help us understand how marital conflict can either destroy a marriage or be the means God uses to develop qualities of leadership, communication, and intimacy. Here is practical guidance for men to step to the plate and realize that leading a strong wife is not impossible. Instead, it can be a journey that leads to mutual fulfillment, spirited growth, and genuine appreciation for one another. We will personally profit from the wisdom and hard truth found in these pages.
ERWIN & REBECCA LUTZERPastor Emeritus, The Moody Church
I have known LeRoy and Kim as friends since college. They are real, they are transparent, they love God, and they love you. If you are tired of marriage books that present an idyllic, stereotypical, “everyone fits in the exact same box” approach, then you will love this book. Thank you, LeRoy and Kim, for ministering to those of us who come away from most marriage conferences feeling worse than we did before!
J.D. “SONNY” TUCKERExecutive Director, Arkansas Baptist State Convention
Talk about a captivating book! The Wagners’ description of “Courageous Leaders verses Passive Deserters” is worth the price of the book. You will pass this marriage book along to others.
JOHNNY M. HUNTSenior pastor FBC WoodstockFormer SBC President
This book was hard to read for me because I am a fierce woman, but this has helped me see how my fierceness made my husband feel. I have cried several times as I read, and it has given me opportunities to go to Wade and seek forgiveness—which is always a good place for me to be. Thank you for taking the time and effort (I know it can’t be easy) to write this hard, but necessary book.
BECKY ARNOLDWife, mom, and follower of Jesus Christ
With uncommon honesty, LeRoy and Kim provide us a raw account of how a spiral into marital-induced depression can become fuel for great hope! They are walking reminders that the cycle of pain can be broken and a marriage revolution for God’s glory is possible with Christ!
BYRON PAULUSPresident/Executive Director, Life Action Ministries
The words that come to mind when I think of this amazing couple and their story of a redeemed marriage are biblical, transparent, courageous, and compassionate. Gratefully, LeRoy has now transferred this personal story into the principles of this book for these very same words to ring true in the hearts of husbands and homes.
PAUL H. JIMENEZSr. Pastor, Taylors First Baptist Church, Taylors, SC
Kimberly Wagner’s Fierce Women was so impacting for the women of our church but one of the main questions we heard was, “Why can’t there be a book like Fierce Women for our husbands, so they can grow in these areas as well?” Men Who Love Fierce Women is the book that we were waiting for. In it, LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner serve as faithful guides who take us on a journey through both Scripture and their personal struggles in order to equip us with practical help to find our way back to God’s design for marriage.
JUAN & JEANINE SANCHEZHigh Pointe Baptist Church, Austin, TX